Relationships---Just Venting

I'm amazed by some of the things I've read on dxpnet, regarding men, women, cheating and relationships. It's pretty sad that by reading these posts, I understand why more and more people are remaining single and/or are having "open" relationships. That's just MIND BLOWING to me. I'm not a traditionalist, I'm only 25yrs., and I understand that we are all human and monogamy is an unnatural occurrence...but I am becoming more and more positive that this way of thinking allows us to make excuses for ourselves, and the fact that we (UNFORTUNATELY) are unable to take responsibility for ourselves and our actions...are we really sooo lazy to turn down true relating?

I have cheated, once, and I will continue to beat myself up for it. The fact that I've cheated haunts me in every one of my relationships to this very day. Of course, I tell myself not to be too self critical, for I am only human. But when I'm honest w/ myslef...YES, I'am human which is why my ex forgave me and still talks to me today...but, I also broke the heart of someone EXTREMELY special in my life, and I will always be shameful...he didn't deserve that. It's one thing to play the field, date around and be upfront about it. It's another to say you are committed to someone, but still have "relations," w/ other people, i.e., sexual, flirty, or anything that would be disrespctful to your partner.

To those of you who follow the latter trend in your relationships...GOOD LUCK! That fear of spending your life w/ only one person is what will prevent you from ever truly knowing what it's like to not only love someone, but to have that someone truly love you, back...and I mean the way a Man loves a Woman. It's funny to hear men say that they don't care if their wife hangs out w/ other guys...or women say that their man can flirt, but at least he's coming back home to me...That is UTTER SHIZNAT! As humans, we are also territorial...and there's nothing wrong w/ feeling like your man/wo-man is yours and no one elses! Yes, as Humans, we are free to roam...but you know what, if you've pledged committment to someone...roam w/ tact and respect...don't do to your partner what you wouldn't want done to yourselves...

Those who disagree w/ me, that's fine, and I welcome all responses. But I'am conviced that those who do not agree have a low sense of respect for themselves (no matter how much you want to preach about how happy you are!)--BYE :-)

I totally agree with you Truthseeker.. It absolutely amazes me to hear alot of what people are doing in relationships now, and they honestly don't see anything wrong with it!! Now if both parties know and accept that way of life, fine. But I don't see how one could degrate themselves by allowing such things to "be ok".

I never have cheated and my commitment to my husband is very important to me, if I felt the need to be with someone else then I would end my relationship, but I've never felt the way I do about my husband about someone else.

Hey archer...I wanted to post on all the boards, but my computer was moving extra slow...how are ya! still w/ the leo man?

M Ldy..thanks for your comments, you totally understand where I'm coming from. It is such a cop out to have open relationships or cheat or break up when involved w/ someone. It seems that many people understand the true challenge in actual relating, nor do then understands the real value in actual relating...just doesn't make sense to me. However, in reading other responses, there are many other factors that weigh in...factors that I didn't consider. But I'm glad you get me, either way!

Thanks.