yamilette7410
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Reuiniting with Sag ex, opinions?
Here is a question for you that may answer your question...
If you guys have been on and off what would be the reason to even acknowledge him now?
If you guys have been on and off what would be the reason to even acknowledge him now?
Don't repeat the cycle because that's all it is.
dontgetmewrong, good point. It's been about a year since we last dated, and I think I've changed considerably since then. We both spoke a few months back and apologized for our respective issues last time we dated. I think it would be good to try it and see if maybe this time around is better. I never really have stopped having feelings for him, but I blame Scorp Sun/Ven and PIsces moon for that 😛
Weeds! I didn't recognize you with that new picture! Well, we met in high school, but my mother barred us from dating, going so far as to block his number, if I remember correctly. With how strict my mom was, we realized no way would this work until college. Then we got to college, and things were just generally rocky. I remember pushing him into a commitment he didn't want (and the only reason I got away with that was because I was his first relationship), and I made out with an ex the day after I pushed him into said commitment (I was a freshman in college, young and stupid), but what it boiled down to was he couldn't stand my curfew and the fact that he had to come all the way to where I live (about an hour) to go out each time, and sometimes his sarcasm was a little much for me/would hurt my feelings (which is weird for me, but also chalking that up to my age and where I was in my life). Also, my dumbass accidentally said the L-word on accident (by the time we did date it had been three years of feelings, I guess) and he was fine with it, just acknowledged he couldn't return it, which was fine with me.
Things are different now, my curfew is more lax, I'm very much against serious commitment so quickly, and I think I've matured and grown up. I also drive now as well. And there's no telling how he's changed, if he has. I blame a lot of the first round's failure on immaturity on both our parts (mine by age and his by experience) and also on circumstantial things. I'm hoping maybe a second round would be different.
Weeds! I didn't recognize you with that new picture! Well, we met in high school, but my mother barred us from dating, going so far as to block his number, if I remember correctly. With how strict my mom was, we realized no way would this work until college. Then we got to college, and things were just generally rocky. I remember pushing him into a commitment he didn't want (and the only reason I got away with that was because I was his first relationship), and I made out with an ex the day after I pushed him into said commitment (I was a freshman in college, young and stupid), but what it boiled down to was he couldn't stand my curfew and the fact that he had to come all the way to where I live (about an hour) to go out each time, and sometimes his sarcasm was a little much for me/would hurt my feelings (which is weird for me, but also chalking that up to my age and where I was in my life). Also, my dumbass accidentally said the L-word on accident (by the time we did date it had been three years of feelings, I guess) and he was fine with it, just acknowledged he couldn't return it, which was fine with me.
Things are different now, my curfew is more lax, I'm very much against serious commitment so quickly, and I think I've matured and grown up. I also drive now as well. And there's no telling how he's changed, if he has. I blame a lot of the first round's failure on immaturity on both our parts (mine by age and his by experience) and also on circumstantial things. I'm hoping maybe a second round would be different.
Never go back
Posted by yamilette7410Smh. Too late. You're already planning the "second time around":
So I guess what I want to know is, what would make you want to reunite with your ex? Does this mean he never stopped having feelings for me? ...I don't want to get all caught up and carried away if this isn't anything special
Posted by yamilette7410It was a bit I "chit chat" over text and an invitation to hang out. Why don't you wait until you actually "hang out" before you get your nose all wide open. In one breathe you've stated you have no idea if he's changed, yet here you go again:
... I think it would be good to try it and see if maybe this time around is better.
...there's no telling how he's changed, if he has.
Posted by yamilette7410I will point out that I think you're wrong about one thing. You've stated there is no way of telling if he has changed. There is....Slow. Down.
... I'm hoping maybe a second round would be different.click to expand
AriesGirl74, why?
PhoenixRising, good points, you're right, you're right. You can tell by the way I phrased that that I'm paranoid about his intentions, but like you said, I won't know until I spend time with him.
PhoenixRising, good points, you're right, you're right. You can tell by the way I phrased that that I'm paranoid about his intentions, but like you said, I won't know until I spend time with him.
Posted by yamilette7410Why? Because life is about moving forward. I have rekindled old relationships and it never works. You have a weird mixture of thinking you know eachother based on the past, when u actually don't actually know each other at all, coz u have both moved on and become completely different people.
AriesGirl74, why?
Posted by dontgetmewrongThis is exactly what I was thinking. It's actually the only thing I think when a Sag reaches out to an ex lol. In general, Scorps don't tend to do, or fully understand the whole "friends with an ex" thing. If we're done, we're done. No grey in this black and white world. The problem with this way of thinking is it leads one to assume that a person's desire to reach out in a kind way means the person still holds feelings when it's really just an appreciation for who you are and a desire to be genuine friends.
Yamilette7410 - don't go in with any expectations, he may actually just want to be friends, and only friends.
AriesGirl74, definitely a valid point, although I admittedly give people multiple chances because I am always worried about "what ifs." Like, what if I didn't give an ex another chance and that would have been the time something really solid would have come out of it? IDK, it's definitely hurt me more than it's benefited me, but I'm keeping an open mind and my guard up. If the opportunity arises, I will go into this as if this is a new person I've never met before (not entirely but you know what I mean).
dontgetmewrong, you could most definitely be right. I think maybe I'm reading too much into him mentioning if I was seeing anybody. I thought since he said that, that it meant he was implying a romantic reunion.
PhoenixRising, so right. I've only been friends with a handful of exes, and it usually takes a year or more to be able to get to that point, AND at this time they are (or I am) seeing someone else. I didn't even really get the concept until I got to college and matured some compared to high school, where I was busy burning bridges down in terms of exes. I love listening to your advice, PhoenixRising. It means a lot to me. Like I said to dontgetmewrong, I think I'm reading too much into that "If you're not seeing anyone" phrase. Overthinking and picking apart simple texts.
dontgetmewrong, you could most definitely be right. I think maybe I'm reading too much into him mentioning if I was seeing anybody. I thought since he said that, that it meant he was implying a romantic reunion.
PhoenixRising, so right. I've only been friends with a handful of exes, and it usually takes a year or more to be able to get to that point, AND at this time they are (or I am) seeing someone else. I didn't even really get the concept until I got to college and matured some compared to high school, where I was busy burning bridges down in terms of exes. I love listening to your advice, PhoenixRising. It means a lot to me. Like I said to dontgetmewrong, I think I'm reading too much into that "If you're not seeing anyone" phrase. Overthinking and picking apart simple texts.
Hi tiziani! I agree! I know I've been through hell and back will all the growing up I've had to do, and really getting to the bottom of some mental issues I struggle with which really highlighted my destructive behaviors. As others and myself have agreed, I won't know how/if he has changed until we meet up, but even looking for changes, I guess, is jumping the gun on things.
In regards to PhoenixRising's comment on wanting to be genuine friends. Its more of an exception then the rule.
Sagittarius have a void that needs filled and if no one around is worthy, they will backtrack to an ex to fill that void.
I would probly question how long he has been single that would give a general idea of his intention.
Sagittarius have a void that needs filled and if no one around is worthy, they will backtrack to an ex to fill that void.
I would probly question how long he has been single that would give a general idea of his intention.
Weeds, as far as I know, he hasn't been in a relationship since we were together. Dating and hooking up is potentially a different story, but I'd say it's been....a year and a half since we last were more than friends. This is Facebook guessing though.
Posted by WeedsI wasn't referring to Sags or her ex in particular. I meant in general regarding a Scorp questioning the other's intentions and assuming too much.
In regards to PhoenixRising's comment on wanting to be genuine friends. Its more of an exception then the rule.
Sagittarius have a void that needs filled and if no one around is worthy, they will backtrack to an ex to fill that void.
I would probly question how long he has been single that would give a general idea of his intention.
well you can take the scorp assumptions as general as anyone else's.. I think we can all be too hopeful especially with passed feelings involved. That being said
yamilette keep it light hearted and dont expect anything.
I dont see anything good coming out of this BUT I can be wrong.
yamilette keep it light hearted and dont expect anything.
I dont see anything good coming out of this BUT I can be wrong.
thats funny. A scorpio trying to keep it light hearted.
Her past threads are anything but 😉
Her past threads are anything but 😉
Posted by WeedsAgreed and noted.
... I think we can all be too hopeful especially with passed feelings involved.
DMV, so true. Ya girl is trying to mature but it ain't coming easily. 😛
Weeds, LMAO at that video.
Weeds, LMAO at that video.
Well, ladies and gents, I finally found a day when we were both free. I texted him and asked him if he was free, and he said he was off, so I texted him back and asked him if he wanted to do lunch. He said no, because he wanted to play Elder Scrolls and had already met up with his guildmates. I got turned down because he wanted to play video games with his friends.
I give him his moment and leave it be.
I find out he's free on Saturday night, I asked him if he wanted to hang out, and he said sure and asked what I had in mind I texted him and when he wouldn't answer my texts, I called him (benefit of the doubt he was asleep) and no answer. He texts me he's in a movie at 9PM but will be out soon. I get a text at 10:30 of him telling me he'd eaten a large burrito.
This is a 21 year old man. Who is about to graduate with a degree in finance from my university.
Sigh. I'm seriously considering uninviting him from the quince, since I never gave him the address or times, just the day it will be held on. This is ridiculous.
I give him his moment and leave it be.
I find out he's free on Saturday night, I asked him if he wanted to hang out, and he said sure and asked what I had in mind I texted him and when he wouldn't answer my texts, I called him (benefit of the doubt he was asleep) and no answer. He texts me he's in a movie at 9PM but will be out soon. I get a text at 10:30 of him telling me he'd eaten a large burrito.
This is a 21 year old man. Who is about to graduate with a degree in finance from my university.
Sigh. I'm seriously considering uninviting him from the quince, since I never gave him the address or times, just the day it will be held on. This is ridiculous.
Hmm... It's tricky really @OP... As a Sag woman, with ALL of my exes but one, and really just one, have I returned to, (which I mean just returned to contact) and have formed what I wanted out of them... Friendship. There's only one exception to that, at least for me. And that pertains to the Cappy that I've known for a decade, who has come back into my life after we dated for a solid 4-5 years, doing the on and off thing for somewhere between 6-8 years... Only reason we ever even "broke up" was due to us being in school and working full time jobs.. So the "timing" was not quite right.
He has now come back in my life as of April, and is planning to propose sometime before the year ends... So can things change? Absolutely! How likely is it? Eh... Slim. Honestly, it's a rare thing with Sags. Sag men are quite similar in that sense to us women.
I hope this is helpful, but I believe you know deep down, what you really want to do about him and the situation. 🙂 good luck lady!
He has now come back in my life as of April, and is planning to propose sometime before the year ends... So can things change? Absolutely! How likely is it? Eh... Slim. Honestly, it's a rare thing with Sags. Sag men are quite similar in that sense to us women.
I hope this is helpful, but I believe you know deep down, what you really want to do about him and the situation. 🙂 good luck lady!
Yamilette; describe your ex bf behavior when you did date years ago... What was he like in general? I.e. Communication wise (when you could communicate) maturity level, (so we can see if there has been any increase in that)... Etc. I hate saying this (so men, please don't be too mad at me) but in my own personal experiences with men, of all signs... They were typically a few years or more, behind me in the maturity level... I'm told I'm an old soul, have been since I was a kid... But still, I had a ton of men mostly friends, that hair weren't in the same page with me on that, until I've gotten to be past the age of 26/27ish... Now that I'm almost 30, I see things in a much different perspective, and so do many of those said make friends of mine...
A sag who isnt yearning for an ex is not in a hurry to hang out. Especially if they know whats going to happen.
no more initiating
no more initiating
Posted by yamilette7410Sounds a lot like me. I just keep giving ex flings the ring around till they get the point.
Well, ladies and gents, I finally found a day when we were both free. I texted him and asked him if he was free, and he said he was off, so I texted him back and asked him if he wanted to do lunch. He said no, because he wanted to play Elder Scrolls and had already met up with his guildmates. I got turned down because he wanted to play video games with his friends.
I give him his moment and leave it be.
I find out he's free on Saturday night, I asked him if he wanted to hang out, and he said sure and asked what I had in mind I texted him and when he wouldn't answer my texts, I called him (benefit of the doubt he was asleep) and no answer. He texts me he's in a movie at 9PM but will be out soon. I get a text at 10:30 of him telling me he'd eaten a large burrito.
This is a 21 year old man. Who is about to graduate with a degree in finance from my university.
Sigh. I'm seriously considering uninviting him from the quince, since I never gave him the address or times, just the day it will be held on. This is ridiculous.
I'm not anymore DMV, and I'm really considering uninviting him to the quince, or cutting him off completely.
How dare he have the audacity to tell me "When are you free? If you're not seeing anyone maybe we can go out and catch up"
And then do NOTHING about it.
What the fuck? Why say anything?
How dare he have the audacity to tell me "When are you free? If you're not seeing anyone maybe we can go out and catch up"
And then do NOTHING about it.
What the fuck? Why say anything?
Posted by yamilette7410ivd done the same thing. It sucks. I guess I just want to hurry up and get off the phone or text because im just super awkward about telling men thanks but no thanks.
I'm not anymore DMV, and I'm really considering uninviting him to the quince, or cutting him off completely.
How dare he have the audacity to tell me "When are you free? If you're not seeing anyone maybe we can go out and catch up"
And then do NOTHING about it.
What the fuck? Why say anything?
He just doesn't want to be the bad guy
That's fine, but then he shouldn't have accepted my invite to the quince. Telling me no is okay, really. What is so bad about being honest?
I initiated because we both did not have free time last week and I thought based on what he said he maybe wanted to actually hang out with me. This is incredibly frustrating.
I initiated because we both did not have free time last week and I thought based on what he said he maybe wanted to actually hang out with me. This is incredibly frustrating.
Were you honest with him about dating around? you're not just dating around, your having serious flings with guys and you have the same exaggerated expectation of all of them.
just date, no expectations
just date, no expectations
0-2 on your sag track record
tine to find a sign less... complicated?
tine to find a sign less... complicated?
DMV, no, I didn't tell him that I'm dating other people. I'm not seeing any one particular person. Maybe he found me on Tinder, cause I came across his profile. I'm not sure. But technically my answer is correct, I'm not in a committed relationship, I'm not "seeing" anyone. Maybe he meant it differently.
Weeds, I agree, but if it's true that women are attracted to men who match their Mars sign, I'm going to continue being attracted to Sags.
busyeyes88, I have a couple of threads spread out over the different signs here on dxpnet. I am dating/hooking up with several people right now, but I want to make sure I'm playing my cards right in each situation. I'm just generally a cautious person and like to get second opinions about what I do or say in each situation. I prefer objective perspectives so that I can try to make the best decisions in each situation. I don't think he owes me anything, I guess I just need to learn that actions > words.
Weeds, I agree, but if it's true that women are attracted to men who match their Mars sign, I'm going to continue being attracted to Sags.
busyeyes88, I have a couple of threads spread out over the different signs here on dxpnet. I am dating/hooking up with several people right now, but I want to make sure I'm playing my cards right in each situation. I'm just generally a cautious person and like to get second opinions about what I do or say in each situation. I prefer objective perspectives so that I can try to make the best decisions in each situation. I don't think he owes me anything, I guess I just need to learn that actions > words.
Like ive said before I have no issue with you dating around, but you have to keep it fun and lower those expectations.
busyeyes88, no, no Taurus! I have actually only been romantically involved with a Taurus male once, but it didn't work out. One of my best female friends from high school is a Taurus though! I am hooking up and dating several people because honestly I settled. The college boys in my generation don't see a point in commitment anymore, so I figured I should stop fighting/forcing things and just go with the flow. My father tells me most men don't commit until their late 20s/early 30s anyways, so might as well enjoy the single life prior to the decades I'll spend married.
DMV, understood, definitely.
DMV, understood, definitely.
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