Sag and Sag?

I am a female Sag, and I've recently started talking with a Sag guy.. We exchanged kids for a playdate and we just started talking from there. This is day 4 and we've talked every day, all day.

Last night, I went and hung out at his place for a while. I told him nothing physical would happen and though we joked about stuff happening, eluded to it, and laughed a lot (he like truly laughs at my jokes, it is great!) nothing did happen.

We watched a movie last night and it got pretty late, I was saying that I was going to leave around 12:30 and then when 12:30 rolled around he asked if I'd just stay for an episode of a show we like so I did and then gave him a hug and left.

WHEN I am into a guy, I tend to find that once we fool around, they kind of disappear after they get what they've wanted and I am trying to distance myself from that and work on it. Some how, I usually end up the FWB but rarely the girlfriend. I spent a long time in a really destructive relationship, so I am still working on my self esteem, so this is super new for me. And he just ended a relationship a couple months ago.

So, I am trying to do things differently and though it has only been a short time, I am really enjoying this guy!

Any advice?

@rindaroo

Sag sag is like bf fb... unfortunately... not really a love connection. Especially after honeymoon phases is over. Unless you already gone through your traveling stage(and having kids you might have)... hard to tie each other down.

But in terms of friendship we are amazing together. My ex sag and I aren't great friends, I ended it and she still loves me 10 years later, but the dynamic is there.

I feel bad picking the phone up though bc when we talk she starts talking about how she's always loved our conversations. I try to be indifferent to her, but she's not moving on.

So my word of advice is ... if you aren't expecting love or relationship that is permanent go for it.

But all sags aren't the same but every sag sag relationship I know had issues but I'm under 35. More mature minded and older sags probably have better luck.

Posted by Rindaroo
Boy this sounds familiar!! Except I don't do FWB, always relationships. But, I have had the same experience with guys, and a long relationship that led to low self esteem.. I've worked really hard on building my self esteem in the last few years though.

Anyway, I also started dating a Sag recently. Yes, I am a Sag. Omg with the joking around & all. I've gone on 4 dates with him all within a week!! So it started just how you are describing & then he started getting a little too attracted to me.. making more & more comments how sexy I was, irresistible blah blah blah!! The next time I saw him yep he made the move & I shut him down twice. He's still texting, but not as much & now trying to be more respectful. But ya know I was having so much fun too until he went in for the kill!! Not sure what I want now.. still not sure what his intentions are. But at least getting him to back up helps me figure out what I want.

Sometimes with Sags, it all goes so fast. Well keep enjoying yourself and just watch if that joking around has a serious part to it, and try to determine his intentions. My idea at this point is if you want something serious & want to see if they are into you this way, you must hold off on the sex. It's the best way to see why they are sticking around. It's not always true but if you don't want the experience of sex, then walking away, it's best. Someone who cares will stay.

Solid point! I have to say, the situation is eerily similar. I spent almost 10 years on/off with my ex who was a Gemini--it was amazing when it was amazing, but more time than not it was hell. Any time I would move on, he would make it out to be that I was a floozy-- or would imply guys were only interested because they could get some action... and I am talking like MAYBE two or three guys other than him over the last 10 years! I wound up gaining a lot of weight between the stress, having a baby, and then medical issues, so being overweight and trying to lose weight and regain some self esteem is tricky and I struggled with that.

In addition to the above, the only other mentionable man in my life is my best friend of 12 years who is an Aquarius. We've flirted with the idea of a relationship several times through the years and then after he mentions it *poof✨ he retreats. We see each other a couple of times a year and he is very inconsistent with plans and returning texts.

So, I am used to men disappearing. And I am not used to a guy WANTING to talk to me regularly. And Saggy keeps telling me how nice and funny I am and thanking me for our chats the last few days-- and can I just say how NICE it was to just kinda of snuggle on the couch and relax. He would call me out about overthinking being nervous and I would do the same to him.

It was just so refreshing. I am trying not to get my hopes up and just truly appreciating the moment.

And honestly, I have no clue what I want. What I thought I wanted was the Aquarius and I reserved myself to a life of potential disappearing acts. But then I think I like the idea of that because I think deep down, I am a little afraid to commit again because of everything that happened in my last serious relationship with the Gemini and because Sagittarius! But I do have a Taurus moon that reigns me in.

Sorry to Dear Diary you here, lol.

I have been with a sag man for over 10 years.

Without seeing some birth charts idk what to tell you

Just an update, it was short lived.

We had a 'Netflix and chill' date this past weekend at his house and it was definitely not like our first date.

He seems very simple and it was a total snoozefest.

Nice guy, just really looking for a little more in the way of conversation/personality.

Thanks for the input.

Posted by herlimbicmind
Just an update, it was short lived.

We had a 'Netflix and chill' date this past weekend at his house and it was definitely not like our first date.

He seems very simple and it was a total snoozefest.

Nice guy, just really looking for a little more in the way of conversation/personality.

Thanks for the input.

I typically don't like them either. They are good for friends but just too similar to me. Not enough action. I need a little bit of motivation or I will be lazy lol

Sags doing to Sags what Sags do! 😆 At least we know what the hell is going on and don't mind it! lol

A sag with no personality? I can send him some of mine... but its pricey. I don't just give this shit away.

I'll make time fly when you are around me 🙂

Posted by hellosaggy
A sag with no personality? I can send him some of mine... but its pricey. I don't just give this shit away.

I'll make time fly when you are around me 🙂

LOL! I am always up for an adventure!

The first time we hung out held such promise! He was just totally unmotivated and it isn't my deal-- I have wayyy too much energy to sit quietly and watch a movie.

But all in all, it helped me learn a little about myself, and what I am looking for.

Was it an captivating movie?

What were you wearing?

I wouldn't netflix and chill on my second date.... too early for that, especially if we just met, if we were friends before than that's something else... got to do something and get out the house... 2 out, 1 in lol

Now if you come over and we never make it out... that's a whole different story.