Sag girls rebound.. need to know. Please help!

There is a really good guy friend of mine whose engagement broke a few months ago. It was because the girl called it off last year and he was all heartbroken. Since then he had been single. He has a female colleague who is a Sagittarius woman. She was madly in love with an older guy. She had been asking her boy friend to get married to her, but he didnt want a marriage at all. They both loved each other, but her boy friend does not seem to believe in marriage it seems. So she decided to part ways with her boyfriend. In less than a month my friend told me that the two of them started dating. I know for a fact that this is a rebound relationship for this woman, since she is still very much in love with her boyfriend. In fact they had been talking to each other even now.

I want to know if Sagi women can fall out of love so easily, just because she wants to get married? Can she fall in love with a rebound? Or is she just messing my friend up? Dont want my friend to get hurt again.. please advice.

How old is your guy friend? He should know better than that. Unless he wants a fling to take his mind off of his ex, this is the wrong way to go. This woman still loves her boyfriend. She's just trying to take her mind off of him with someone else in the mean time. I personally wouldn't do what she did on both fronts. I wouldn't have left, and I wouldn't have run into the arms of another man so quickly. I went 3 1/2 years after my last BF berfore I had sex again. And i have a moon in Aqua lol. Just to take the time to get him out of my system, and get myself back together again.

He can date her just to bang, but I would hope he's not foolish enough to get hurt by her antics.

rebound relationships should not be taken lightly. i know of couples who started off as a rebound relationship and who are now married. sometimes the work we do in the past relationship sets us up for the next one; which turns out to be the right one. its like a dress rehearsal.

ever heard of women who get dumped by their boyfriends only for their ex boyfriend to marry the next girl within months?

instead of looking at it as if he may get hurt, i would look at it as they probably have timing on their side.

Thanks Mebs, thats my fear too actually. They are both in early 30s and the guy seems really serious already. He really cares about this girl. Btw.. are you a saggi?

@DMV hope you are right, but the thing is I have seen guys get married to the next girl but not really seen girls do that often. Also I want to know specifically in case of Saggi women, since I am told Saggi women are in fact reluctant to commit..Its good time with a loved one that they care most about. So I dont get it that this girl would leave her love just coz she wants to get married?

i know quite a few sag women who are in committed long term relationships. marriage, not so much. but life partners yes.

Posted by fullconfus
Thanks Mebs, thats my fear too actually. They are both in early 30s and the guy seems really serious already. He really cares about this girl. Btw.. are you a saggi?

@DMV hope you are right, but the thing is I have seen guys get married to the next girl but not really seen girls do that often. Also I want to know specifically in case of Saggi women, since I am told Saggi women are in fact reluctant to commit..Its good time with a loved one that they care most about. So I dont get it that this girl would leave her love just coz she wants to get married?

Yup I'm a Saggi

Of course she was in love with an older man

Thanks guys... but im confused now.. should i say something to my friend or let it be? I know time will tell, but im a very intuitive person, and my sixth sense isnt giving me any good news..

let it ride..why throw salt into her game?

I can only speak from my own experiences...i met my current DH in a very similar fashion. I believe a lot of relationships are based on timing. I know when i've given 100% in a relationship and when i haven't. I leave when i know i've given it my all.

There is a good chance that is not just a rebound- people and circumstances change all the time- so yeah even though superfically it seems that its a rebound it could be the "real thing" . Your friend is just making the most of it. Also there is always two sides to every story.

Seems like this Sagg woman is more in love with the concept of having the title than she is with the concept of actually getting to know/like/love the person she's with

If that's the case, then yes it's completely common for women like this to jump from 1 relationship to the next

Duh, her feelings for the last guy weren't completely gone yet, BUT she's atleast hoping that another guy replacing her last guy will somehow erase all feelings she had for the last guy. It's completely unrealistic, shallow & irrational, but hey some people really fool themselves into believing this

Just b/c your guy friend has been single for awhile doesn't mean he's over his ex fiance either. For all you know, this Sagg woman could be HIS rebound! And in that case, they're both probably right for eachother b/c neither 1 of them would be dating eachother had they been single by choice vs. being single b/c someone left them high & dry. If that's the case, I wouldn't feel bad for either of them =)

Posted by krysrenee7

Duh, her feelings for the last guy weren't completely gone yet, BUT she's atleast hoping that another guy replacing her last guy will somehow erase all feelings she had for the last guy. It's completely unrealistic, shallow & irrational, but hey some people really fool themselves into believing this

i gotta disagree with this. im a firm believer in that you can meet someone who can make you forget all about your ex.

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Posted by krysrenee7

Duh, her feelings for the last guy weren't completely gone yet, BUT she's atleast hoping that another guy replacing her last guy will somehow erase all feelings she had for the last guy. It's completely unrealistic, shallow & irrational, but hey some people really fool themselves into believing this

i gotta disagree with this. im a firm believer in that you can meet someone who can make you forget all about your ex.

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Yea it is kinda true. I mean I was single for a month had a really shitty break-up with libra. Than I met someone else and totally forgot about him.

I was with him for like 3 years too on and off.

I don't know, I feel like if you let go of the negative of the last relationship and open yourself up to the possibility of new love sometimes yes you can get swept away in that and forgot about the last. one

I'm sure there are other times though were you don't. It's harder to move on, depending what.

But it could go either way.

Posted by krysrenee7

Just b/c your guy friend has been single for awhile doesn't mean he's over his ex fiance either. For all you know, this Sagg woman could be HIS rebound! And in that case, they're both probably right for eachother b/c neither 1 of them would be dating eachother had they been single by choice vs. being single b/c someone left them high & dry. If that's the case, I wouldn't feel bad for either of them =)

Umm no actually I know that this is not a rebound for him. I have been there for him as a friend all this while. And so I know how difficult it was for him to get over his ex.. but I know that he is. Else, I would not be so worried to be honest...

Ok.. so then simple question is this.. Do Saggi girls fall in love easily? assuming that she forgot about her ex after these guys met and that she means well? Whats the basic trait of saggi's? Like Pisces are known to fall in love easily, and taurus are rather cautious and slow... How is it with Saggi's?

the simple question is, why cant you let your friend decide for himself? hes a big boy.

No they don't.


They like to have fun. Love is fun.


Deep love for a sag can take forever.


There a lot of stages for love

Posted by DMV
the simple question is, why cant you let your friend decide for himself? hes a big boy.

lmao!

I've also seen sags love more than one person at a time

Posted by DMV
the simple question is, why cant you let your friend decide for himself? hes a big boy.

Lmao! Love ya DMV.
Yes he is a big boy and obviously he is the one to decide his life.. its just that he falls back on me as a friend and im a Pisces, compelled to stand by and help...so cant let him be if he is in a mess. But to be honest im kinda hoping that this wont end up messy again! (for my own good) 😉

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Posted by DMV
the simple question is, why cant you let your friend decide for himself? hes a big boy.

Lmao! Love ya DMV.
Yes he is a big boy and obviously he is the one to decide his life.. its just that he falls back on me as a friend and im a Pisces, compelled to stand by and help...so cant let him be if he is in a mess. But to be honest im kinda hoping that this wont end up messy again! (for my own good) 😉

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or at least i would have given him the right advice/fore warning...

i hear ya. just be careful to not come off as a troublemaker. some people just have to learn lessons for themselves; that is if theres a lesson to be learned.

i have been in your spot 2. give your 2 cents and then let them be.

have u already given your 2 cents?

Posted by DMV
i hear ya. just be careful to not come off as a troublemaker. some people just have to learn lessons for themselves; that is if theres a lesson to be learned.

i have been in your spot 2. give your 2 cents and then let them be.

have u already given your 2 cents?

Nope, not a word on this yet. Just wanted to be sure of what I say (if at all, I should say anything) I would really want this to work, but have been hearing him go on and on about how much he likes her and how "perfect" she is for him, but he cant understand why she comes across as emotionally unavailable at times and whether he should just give her time.. I haven't even told him as yet that she still talks to her ex.

Posted by luckystar
"I want to know if Sagi women can fall out of love so easily, just because she wants to get married? Can she fall in love with a rebound?"

without trying to make this a complicated answer, i will try my best to answer. my ex-boyfriends brother was married to an aries girl who had a sagittarius moon. Tommy (her now ex-husband) had a gemini moon. they were married for five years but she was kind of controlling so he started to wander off and talk to other girls. they started fighting and long story short they ended up divorcing very quickly. he is already in a relationship with another young girl who has a child, and she is ALREADY MARRIED TO ANOTHER GUY. i really think they both rebounded. especially her....she still posts things on facebook about how "he will have regrets one day" or song lyrics that make those kinds of suggestions. she is NOT over him she just found someone to comfort her and sadly chose to get married again right away (this was all in less than one year)...

i know you asked about sags meaning sag suns, but she does have a sag moon and that represents the sign that dictates our emotional states.

Thanks! thats really helpful. As long as the two of them are happy in their marriage. Im assuming thats that case, else why wud they get married.

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Posted by DMV
i hear ya. just be careful to not come off as a troublemaker. some people just have to learn lessons for themselves; that is if theres a lesson to be learned.

i have been in your spot 2. give your 2 cents and then let them be.

have u already given your 2 cents?

Nope, not a word on this yet. Just wanted to be sure of what I say (if at all, I should say anything) I would really want this to work, but have been hearing him go on and on about how much he likes her and how "perfect" she is for him, but he cant understand why she comes across as emotionally unavailable at times and whether he should just give her time.. I haven't even told him as yet that she still talks to her ex.

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No offense but you come off as you have very little boundaries.

Posted by Sagittarius89
Lol a pisces trying to tell a sag about falling in love too fast.

Please..

Lol! Umm... more like a Pisces hoping the Saggi girl would fall in love or move away rather than messing up another person.... 🙂 Id be happy if she is anything like a Pisces who fall in love so quickly and easily 😛

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Posted by fullconfus

Posted by DMV
i hear ya. just be careful to not come off as a troublemaker. some people just have to learn lessons for themselves; that is if theres a lesson to be learned.

i have been in your spot 2. give your 2 cents and then let them be.

have u already given your 2 cents?

Nope, not a word on this yet. Just wanted to be sure of what I say (if at all, I should say anything) I would really want this to work, but have been hearing him go on and on about how much he likes her and how "perfect" she is for him, but he cant understand why she comes across as emotionally unavailable at times and whether he should just give her time.. I haven't even told him as yet that she still talks to her ex.

No offense but you come off as you have very little boundaries.

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None taken Saggi89. 🙂 Although, not sure if I understood you right.. But if you mean im intruding too much.. well yes on this forum I can be honest and have an open discussion. But that's just coz I wanted to tread with caution. My friend and I have known each other since childhood and he really talks very openly with me, also depends and falls back on me..He expects me to be there for him.. I obviously neither talk as much nor so intrusively when advising him though. But i do feel the need to give my two cents.. as he is seeks it too. I wanted to understand what it cud mean for the Saggi girl, so that I dont become the troublemaker.

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Posted by Sagittarius89
Lol a pisces trying to tell a sag about falling in love too fast.

Please..

Lol! Umm... more like a Pisces hoping the Saggi girl would fall in love or move away rather than messing up another person.... 🙂 Id be happy if she is anything like a Pisces who fall in love so quickly and easily 😛

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Haha 🙂 you fish...

Posted by ellybd
Sag's can be nesters in an odd sort of way from what I'm starting to learn. Like they enjoy running away and running out for fun and freedom but then they want a place to come home to and rest, their not endless roamers who feed off of the unsettled energy roaming brings like others. But it might just be the ones I know so who knows.

^^^^^Yup. This would describe me perfectly. I love having a man. I don't like dating or sex with more than one man but...don't tell me what to wear or with whom to be friends. Nope. Not having that. If I ask a guy to go somewhere with me and he says no, that's fine. But I'm going regardless, and don't blow up my phone while I'm away. I'm loyal, but I'll run if a man does that. And fall in love quickly? No. I'll like you a whole lot. I'll give you my all, but giving a man the power to break my heart takes a long time. I don't play with that.

i am definitely a nester as well...

though, i find i fall really hard really fast and hold on very long (this could be due to my pisces moon and scorpio rising).

i like my independence but, at the end of the day, i want someone secure i can come home to.

when i was younger, i went from relationship to relationship and sometimes loved more than one person at a time. but, i found it all to be incredibly emotionally draining and hurtful so as i've grown older, i take a lot more time between relationships (have been single almost 5 years now).

and now that i am more focused, i am incredibly loyal and dedicated, while in my past i was pretty flighty.

For myself, being a Sag, I tend to have a brief period of mourning over an ended relationship with I guy I was really in "like" with. And when I say brief, I mean brief 😉 I suppose it is the eternal optimist in me that thinks the next great thing is around the corner to entertain me (which it usually is)...and if it's not, so be it...I can handle solitude...Lol.
But as far as love goes, I'm a 40 year old female that was with/married to a Virgo male from the time I was 18 until I was 37...quite honestly I can say I was never in "love" with the Virgo. We were good friends to begin with and I thought it would grow in to something more...it never did. There was a type of love, but not "LOVE" if you can understand that.... So here I sit at 40 and never been in "LOVE"...it's not a term I throw around lightly obviously and who knows if I will ever experience the real form of it.
I would not discount the Saggi girls intentions. Surely everyone has their own type/length of mourning period over ended relationships, but most Saggies I've met have the uncanny ability to pick themselves up, dust off and keep on truckin' to the next best thing. Also, most I've known will give themselves wholeheartedly in a relationship when they've found someone they really click with and I've known plenty of Sag's besides myself.