Sag sun, scorpio venus, disappearing!!!

ITs one of his fav behaviour that i feel he loves, now that his phone is disconnected, he's only online when he has WIFI...and bam disappear or can not be contacted for hours and hours... it takes a dearing heart taurus like myself to be worried, anxious and wanna make sure if he's ok..but it takes a scorpio venus happy that someone cares and loves him and worries while he's keeping his mysterious life quiet...

I AM ANGRY now !! nothing ever gets me angry,


BUT the question is, do i tell him it worries me when he chats again, act like it doesn't worry me ( so he stops?) or do i go ice cold...


HELP! i need this stupid little games to stop, but yes subconsciously i probably love it...what do i do,sucks for people who's in love with such personality.

T_T

Posted by beautifuldiaster
I'd play it cool 8)

I will try my vert best to 😉 thank you

Disregard everyone. He was in the hospital .

Posted by busyeyes88
@OP. I am also taurus and I was in an LDR with a sag with the same placements as yours and if I knew then what I knew now I would not have touched him with a six foot barge pole... My advice... Get out while you can... He will drive you insane or drive you to kill him... This hot and cold shite he is pulling with you is gonna carry on for months or years... Don't waste your breath. He does not value what you value. Your heart may be torn but it does not affect him... When he disappears he's probably 'touing' with others.. My ex had same placements as yours.. Trust me.. It will end badly. Find other guys who can give you the stability that you nee. This one is going to leave you heartbroken and disappointed
..

I think you know most of my stories. Trust me I tried, we both tried actually , but something always pull us back together, give it a day or two days or maximum 2 weeks. Even he says he doesn't normallt go back once it's done it's done but it never happened that way with us. We will see where It leads.. You are right but I love him to bits n pieces and what do you do when you love someone that way? You don't just give up do you? .. When we are together it's pure blessing, when we are not yes it can get a bit rocky with the communication.. to be honest, I seem to be enjoying being stuck on this spider web of ours as sadly and as addictive and convicting as this may sound.... Blessing and a curse .

Posted by beautifuldiaster
I am a sag with ViS. I was/am infatuated with a Taurus with a Taurus stellium in the 7th house (sun, moon, mars, merc and venus - scorpio ascendant 😱)


There is an unsaid connection between the match. I am sorry to hear he was in the hospital, that is why I said, "play it cool" Things are not what they seem. That placement loves deeply and it will show eventually, we need a lot of security first so be patient and be there if he needs you consistently 😄


@busyeyeballs... If you treat a ViS right without playing games we are the most loyal and kind lovers you will find. We can make you feel like you are the only person in the planet... not sure what you are talking about lol.

I feel the deep connection U r talking about. Sometimes I wonder if it's my sun Taurus n his venus in Scorpio or my moon Aqua magnetic connection with his cap moon. Either way, they havnt faded after 1 year. Strong after all the drama and other imperfectio that comes with it. Thank you, yeah I will always always always b there. Proved that heaps of time, it's slowy revealing its hidden layers of walls of insecurities and others but his softest side are shining through underneath that cool calm collected cap moon exterior. I am addicted to his deep and intense nature. I can feel deep Desiree and passion running from one simple touch let alone kiss. It's overwhelming to be honest.....and I often need a bit of time to breath to recharge coz the love and the intensity between us is so overwhelming. I cry just hearing the song he sang ..... n I don't cry or get attached so deeply. Normally with my venus in Gemini, I forget after a day or 2 lolzzzz this one it's been a year....

Posted by YellowSubmarine
Be patient. I dated a guy with those placements, and my only regret is not being patient. We did not end badly.

All this talk about "value" and "this is not good enough" is only going to be a detriment to you - you will be your own worst enemy if you always think in such terms. All you need to do is ask yourself if you're happy.

People are not always going to be who you want them to be - expecting that is insane. But only you know what you can and can't handle. Busyeyes88 obv couldn't handle a man like that, but that doesn't mean you can't.

If you can trust him to reach out to you when he can and is ready, then stick to it. If you can't handle that you are with someone who needs space once in a while, the get out, because it will be a loooooong time before it changes. Esp with that Cap moon, he's going to take time.. Patience, if it's worth it.

Thank you ! What were his placements? He did reach out when he was ready and it didn't take very long. massive changes after months and months. Our communication did improve a lot. Elaborate on yours please

Posted by busyeyes88
@beautifuldisaster. I Take my relationships very very seriously without games.. I gave everything and stood by him and he fucked me over... Sag and taurus are Conjunct. A taurus will waste many years tooing and froing from the hot and cold games of a sag... Maybe it is not the VIS in question here but the sag element... Oil and (dirty) water...

i know a sag girl, tauri male couple thats been together for over 7 years. still loving on each other.

I used to date a tauri...he only cared about 2 things; sex and money.

Posted by busyeyes88
@Yellowsubmarine. He had more than enough space in an LDR. He couldn't handle ME!!! You don't know my full story so there is no "obv" about it!!!!!! _—

not all saggis want and need space. some of us cling hard!

So like what happened between u 2?

Posted by beautifuldiaster
If something haunts you to this very day It's probably because he struck a chord of truth. Suck on that.

Agreed .

the hot and cold "games" as you call them aren't games at all but a vetting process. As soon as you understand that the better off youll be

Posted by TURNDOWNFORWHAT
the hot and cold "games" as you call them aren't games at all but a vetting process. As soon as you understand that the better off youll be

I feel you and understand that completely hence I stuck it out as long as I have.. a year now... he thinks I play game n I think he play game ... but it's not as bad now actually. The communication is much better than when it used to be... Phewwwwww not easy vetting process... Do you see yourself doing the same to the potential mate as well? Have you don't it before?, how long? And how would they havnt passed? Do you then cut them off completely? During this proces, do you fish around of u only focus on the one person u r having this vetting process with?

@busyeyes,

I had a run in with a bad sag male. He still calls me to this day but i have him under my phone as "Dont Answer."

He did a number of things to me and to this day, i wont ever believe a word that comes outta his mouth. Dont want to spend any time with him. he calls, i never answer.

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Posted by YellowSubmarine

Thank you ! What were his placements? He did reach out when he was ready and it didn't take very long. massive changes after months and months. Our communication did improve a lot. Elaborate on yours please

My ex had the following placements:

Sun- Sag
Moon — Pisces
Merc — Cap
Venus — Scorp
Mars — Libra
Rising — Undetermined (my guess was Virgo or Cancer or maybe Taurus)

Honestly, I would love to give you advice regarding how to improve your communication, but I'm the wrong person to do it. Expressing my feelings has never been my strong suit, so when my ex shut down on me, I tried but eventually just gave up — I didn't fight.

Around the 7 month mark, he got very closed off emotionally, and by the time we got close to the 9 month mark, I couldn't take it anymore — I need someone that communicates because I'm not very good at it. It drove me crazy — a kind of crazy I??ve never been. It actually made me really appreciate all my exes that took the time to draw me out emotionally.

My ex is a great guy — salt of the earth, but I just didn't have it in me to break his walls down. Not enough patience on my part.. I wish you the best of luck though! Keep us posted ??_

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Wow thank you for sharing your past. I do a lot of initiating and reading between the lines. It gets easier but harder at the same time. Trust me I try to walk, then fight for it then walk then fight... If I was to compare our communication from the first few months till now I must say a regular every day contact is more than what I could have asked for lol. In person we have no problem. Just more when we r not together ." Trust me I'm hurt" when he doesn't reply for hours and doesn't communicate properly.... it takes a lot of patient which I don't have much to begin with me he teaches me to be... I lesrnt to change from writing an essay to a one sentence... Not Easy lol...but only but when we r together I don't even need to speak and he can read my mind! U noe what in saying lol.!!! what's your chart—

Posted by YellowSubmarine
Yeah, I know exactly what you're saying... it was the same with my Sag ex. In person, it was fantastic, and he was great at keeping in touch.. but like I said, he emotionally shut down around the 7 month mark, right when we were getting close, and I tried to break through.. Lord knows how hard I tried. I compromised who I am, and who I've been, to get through to him but I got to a point where enough was enough.

I don't have a lot of patience for the every day things (lots of Aries in my chart, including Venus) - I like to cut the bullshit and get to the core of a situation, whereas he was more evasive which I eventually lost patience over.

I was crazy about him.. but the lengths of crazy required on my part to break through to him was too much - I felt like he wanted me to crumble into complete surrender to him (Venus in Scorp, of course), and I couldn't compromise my self-respect.

It's been 4 months since we broke up, and I still miss him like you wouldn't believe, but I keep reminding myself that I chose this. I'd rather be without him and think of him fondly, than be be frustrated with him all the time. It's bittersweet.

Wow yes yes yes I totally agree... I am stuck myself. Reminding my self of the great time and just holding on, but when the communication sucks, it really does and I just wanna walk n walk. but everytime I try, we miss each other and we go bak to being amazing and the cycle repeates it self. Venus in Scorpio, bitter sweet.....

It shows me how much you still adore and love him and I understand that competely. That's whaf im scared of, it will take me a long while to get over this one once I make a decision to move on and walk forward and to be honest I don't know if I'm ready for that....

Posted by YellowSubmarine
You'll leave (or not) when you're good and ready, so try not to over-think it (easier said than done, I know lol)

I agree. This have been my motto. I don't regret to stay. And fight for it. I don't regret to leave and wish him to find the right person.

What keeps me by a man is: I checked and saw my mistakes and tried to be better after that.
What makes me go forever: All our tries did not help to achieve a well functioning TEAM with well set GOALS.

And friendship is very important to me. My ex-scorpio failed to be a friend to my sould. For 15 (16?) years. You cannot live from passion alone.

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Posted by YellowSubmarine
You'll leave (or not) when you're good and ready, so try not to over-think it (easier said than done, I know lol)

I agree. This have been my motto. I don't regret to stay. And fight for it. I don't regret to leave and wish him to find the right person.

What keeps me by a man is: I checked and saw my mistakes and tried to be better after that.
What makes me go forever: All our tries did not help to achieve a well functioning TEAM with well set GOALS.

And friendship is very important to me. My ex-scorpio failed to be a friend to my sould. For 15 (16?) years. You cannot live from passion alone.

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I agree. The thing is, he's like my best friend to me and like a real family. It's just... I know even if I walk, n move on to another relationship, that bond n that craving for one another. I will just end up cheating..... I'm staying for now lol

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Posted by saweetz1988
It shows me how much you still adore and love him and I understand that competely. That's whaf im scared of, it will take me a long while to get over this one once I make a decision to move on and walk forward and to be honest I don't know if I'm ready for that....

The longer you wait the harder it will be to walk away. But if you feel this guy is worth it, then have some patience and stick it out. It's your call at the end of the day.

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I realised that too... I learnt so much from him and this relationship. One thing, I never learnt how to be so patience....I try to use it to help myself grow in a way.... It's made me so much stronger than the person I used to be... I fell and rise above anything else... Blessing and a curse