Sagittarius and Cancer story - On again off again

Hi,

I'm the cancer he is the sag. We met 2 years ago. He comes from a broken family and there are not many families like his in my country. People are expected to stick it out with their bad marriages. He has been raised by a single mother who remarried twice after his dad and both those marriages were unsuccessful too. He has a lot of pressure from his mom to earn a lot to maintain her high standards as she comes from a rich family. He hasn't exactly seen a good loving relationship growing up.

Anyway, he pursued me. We worked for the same company in different cities. We used to meet after every 2 months and talk a lot via all the other mediums. I fell for him before he did. Before me he was in a 5 year old relationship with a girl he couldn't marry because 1) She was from a different religion and her parents would have never agreed. 2) He wasn't settled in his life financially. 3) The girl was not up to his mother's standards 4) She got married to someone else. He regretted not marrying her a lot afterwards.

The first rock in our relationship fell on me when he went ahead to have a relationship with my best friend behind my back but they didn't work out (i am guilty and will admit that i played some role in it too by telling my best friend that we had slept together which she apparently was not told by him). She broke up with him saying he was only in it for sex and he came back to me apologizing. He said he started seeing her because she reminded him of his ex. (They both had same kind of personalities and facial features). I took him back and forgave him. Little did I know that he was in talks with his ex (the one who got married) again who had not started living with her spouse who lived in a different country at the time as she waited for her visa to come. They would chat on phone and talk online. She also lived in the same city as me so they couldn't meet. He told me about it one day. He said he cannot hide it from me that he doesn't love me and is still in love with his ex but he also said that we should continue being friends and it might go that way too for us and we could fall in love as we get to know each other better.

I stayed friends with him and we would sleep together too. I obviously loved him and he didn't. He cut ties with his ex once she started living with her spouse and then he started pursuing other women. He dated at least 3 different women after that. I still couldn't stop loving him and we are still in touch. He cares about me as a friend. I have been a good friend to him too. He says he knows and trusts me. Although he now lives in a different country. He went there for better employment but isn't happy with his job yet. His last ex sent me a mean message because I made a meme of him and sent it to him on messenger. I became mad and sent him the a mean message in return and left. He messaged me after a little while to not give up on him. I told him him being with other girls hurt me to which he said he will be breaking up with his ex soon as she has not been a good addition to her life. I asked him if that means he loves me and he said he will not love anyone until someone is enforced upon him via arranged marriage by his mother and asked me to drop the subject.

I know you can't make anyone fall in love with you and I know he doesn't love me but I can't stop loving him and want him to love me back. I have a career and i'm a general high achiever in my circle but him not loving me and learning to live with it has been hard on me too. What do you guys think is there a chance for the two of us if i keep loving him the way I do?

No, just no please

“arranged marriage by his mother and asked me to drop the subject.“



He is not even a man



What kind of men talk like this 😳

I really don't like water signs for relationships...

Sag89 why what aspects of their personality do you not like and what is your take on this situation particularly?

Why in the hell would you continue to want to be with someone who did all of this, and made you second fiddle? Why do you not value yourself more then to have a partner that puts you above all others.

You deserve more than this.

There are things about him I have not found in anyone yet. His beliefs and dreams and the person he wants to become. Plus I made a commitment that I won't stop loving him and I tend to follow through on my commitments unless there is more value that I can add to the world then that commitment.

Posted by Zara87
There are things about him I have not found in anyone yet. His beliefs and dreams and the person he wants to become. Plus I made a commitment that I won't stop loving him and I tend to follow through on my commitments unless there is more value that I can add to the world then that commitment.

I learned in life, something very important... no man in this earth deserve love when he can’t give me his love, it’s simple

Wake up, he will never ever love you the same way you love him



You just give him an ego boost

Posted by Zara87
Sag89 why what aspects of their personality do you not like and what is your take on this situation particularly?

They are over emotional and don't think super rationally in (my opinion). They are great friends just not partners for fire signs.

I am a water sign, however I have a lot of fire in my chart. I would disagree with this. I think Sags plus Cancers could very well be a soul-mate pairing. I've read that quite a few times anyways.

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Posted by Luxhc
I am a water sig, however I have a lot of fire in my chart. I would disagree with this. I think Sags plus Cancers could very well be a soul-mate pairing. I've read that quite a few times anyways.

They often are, but this one has her brain in a chokehold

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I guess. I think sometimes there are just a lot of young girls on here wanting relationship advice. I can't say I didn't do it too, when I was younger. However, I would never feel good about hurting someones feelings online either. I think words are something to be careful with, you never know how what you say can come back to haunt you.

Posted by Haruuka

“arranged marriage by his mother and asked me to drop the subject.“


He is not even a man


What kind of men talk like this 😳

Men who were born and raised in other counties, that have cultures different than yours. I'm sure in his culture it would make him less of a man if he didn't go though with the arranged marriage. Why do people feel the need to be mean on here? I'll never understand it.

Perhaps try to not be so closed minded - not everyone thinks the same way you do.

To the original poster, I think it would be a good idea for you to move on. Be with someone who wants to be with you. You are worth it. You are better than this. You deserve more love.

It sounds like he’s not going to love you the way you want him to. Doesn’t matter what his sign is. He’s given you more than enough information about him that should answer your questions.

I hope you find the one who will love you the way you want to be loved, this is not the one though.

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Posted by Zara87
Sag89 why what aspects of their personality do you not like and what is your take on this situation particularly?

They are over emotional and don't think super rationally in (my opinion). They are great friends just not partners for fire signs.

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This is meant as no disrespect to you, I'm curious how one would not peg a fire sign as emotional. Words that often describe a fire sire: "aggression, ambition, belligerence, callousness, fearlessness, energy, enthusiasm, selfishness, strength, and vigor."

Words that would describe a water sign: "intuitive, deeply creative, empathetic, spiritual, moody and psychic."

I guess without using the word emotional to describe emotions - one could say all elements are "emotional" technically speaking. They just express it with different emotions. The Sag's I've met throughout my life seem to be hugely philosophical - when they are passionate or opinionated they are emotional. It's something I've really come to like about them. I am just not entirely sure I agree with you there. When I think of fire signs, I think of fiesty, but that is what I love about them.

..and technically speaking I am probably including traits as well, but traits that are often associated with emotions. Or at-least traits that are interchangeable with emotions, if that makes sense.

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Posted by Zara87
Sag89 why what aspects of their personality do you not like and what is your take on this situation particularly?

They are over emotional and don't think super rationally in (my opinion). They are great friends just not partners for fire signs.

This is meant as no disrespect to you, I'm curious how one would not peg a fire sign as emotional. Words that often describe a fire sire: "aggression, ambition, belligerence, callousness, fearlessness, energy, enthusiasm, selfishness, strength, and vigor."

Words that would describe a water sign: "intuitive, deeply creative, empathetic, spiritual, moody and psychic."

I guess without using the word emotional to describe emotions - one could say all elements are "emotional" technically speaking. They just express it with different emotions. The Sag's I've met throughout my life seem to be hugely philosophical - when they are passionate or opinionated they are emotional. It's something I've really come to like about them. I am just not entirely sure I agree with you there. When I think of fire signs, I think of fiesty, but that is what I love about them.

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Congratulations lol

Just read this break my heart. It must be difficult for you. I just want to give you support.