Why is it that...

Well one, it is not anybody's fault that YOU are the cheater. Sure, it's understandble that some women can't keep up with your sex drive and/or with your desires, but YOU are the one who makes the decision to step out on her & cheat. She doesn't make you do anything that you didn't already want to do. If you have a strong desire for variety or to cheat b/c you always fall for the "grass is greener on the other side" thing, then that shows/tells more about YOUR character, not hers. That is the one thing that really bothers me about men sometimes. They automatically blaim everyone but themselves for why they make the choices they make.

You having a lack of respect for the women you date is why you cheat. You not being able to control your desire for variety or for temptation is why you cheat. And this is why so many women get confused. They hear men say that if they only found the right girl, they'd automatically find it in themselves to suddenly become faithful, & that's a load of bull. A man has to want to be a better man, regardless of what kind of woman he gets. And if you're attracting women that end up boring the hell out of you, that's fine, BUT leave them. Don't cheat on them & to further slap them in the face, blaim them. If you're not being fulfilled, then say so & if you want, try to communicate those things. But if the 1st thing you do is cheat the min. things get a little boring or dull, then YOU are the problem moreso than her.

What are you going to do once you get married? I mean, the goal here is kind of to stay with that person forever. And yes, even the best of relationships have their boring/dull times. Sometimes a man can have the woman of his dreams but yet during certain peeks of the relationship, things get boring. What a man does to fix those problems from the INSIDE of his relationship (NOT THE OUTSIDE) determines the fate of the relationship on his part. If she's not even worth it enough to respect her or keep the trust, then why cheat? Hell, if she's that boring or that bad, then leave the relationship. After all, why cheat on and/or risk losing a something for a nothing? That makes no sense.

If you have a constant struggle with infidelity you have underlying issues.....

J if you're feeling that way, she's no right for you.
Regardless of how much you love the chase, and how easy you get bored, there is someone out that for you that you will be able to spend almost all of your time with and still feel excited to see them.



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Posted by brianafay
J if you're feeling that way, she's no right for you.
Regardless of how much you love the chase, and how easy you get bored, there is someone out that for you that you will be able to spend almost all of your time with and still feel excited to see them.



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ya ... and really I've known it from the begining. I just didn't want to be alone. I've been very selfish with her. I think she's been w/ me for a lot of the same reasons though. Uhggg. I hate the thought of breaking up again and making someone so sad. She never even does anything bad to pick a big fight over. Well, I did start looking for someplace to move today.

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aw I know what you mean...you care about her, she's great, nothing to really complain about. When you say "it's not you, it's me," it's totally true. Sometimes getting along just isn't enough. :/

Better to end it now, rather than drag it out to a violent end. Haha 😉

Lol and why are you girlies hiding your posts on me?! ♥

I heard of fish they start fast but slow down... then slower doooooowwwn... then even slooooooooower... then stop Sex.


Perhaps she is punishing you? (okay... i don't believe in this sentence...)



Do you have Aquarius in your Venus, Jr? I read about and actually dated a guy with Aqua in venus who wanted a harem. 😉



You are the first SAG man I met (yeah I know... it's online, but...), who likes relationships and has a hard time running away from them ... lol 😉 but then somehow manages to run... then hops back into fire

you seem to pick all the slowpokes: Libra...(romantic and dreamy) Pisces... (whiny) (Aries never surrendered)...


SCORPIO is the answer for you!


I sympathize with how you feel, because I don't seem to be lucky enough to have a guy eternally... I mean ... eternally carry on hardship in Sex. Once he has me, he relaxes and becomes domestic and we start playing house. Twice I've been blamed for being sex addict. And now even this last guy, the Capricorn thought I use him for sex only.

So with a Scorpio, you will get the desired SEX and she will keep you on your toes, so you never feel bored ... 😉 look out for the one with ARIES rising 😛

😢 leave the fish alone. Now I feel bad for her

I've said this a millionnnn times. Pisces and Sag do not belong together. Pisces always gets hurt & Sag is always the dirtbag.

Stop being a chicken shit and tell your girl you don't want to be with her anymore. You come on here pretending that you don't want to hurt her and then start laughing that she knows something is wrong. Your lack of concern for the feelings of someone you claim to care for is disturbing. Blaming her for your pathetic behavior is even more of a joke.

While this is all a game to you, you are hurting other people. Go play with yourself and leave these other people out of your game.

She bores you in bed? Maybe you bore her so she lost interest in you.

No matter what the reason, cheating is wrong.

BTW, I see nothing inherently wrong with seeing and/or sleeping with more than one person at a time. It becomes wrong when you enter a monogamous relationship. The "going steady", "dating", "married" whatever situation. There are rules to relationships. If you don't like the rules, don't play the game (that's why it's called cheating). If you want to be in an open relationship, fine. Just let the other person know it from the start.

Jru2 i hate sluts and cheaters......

but the world needs them cos this is reality were dealing with and the fact of the matter is there are people out there who wanna fuck with your emotions and i guess people are gonna learn lessons.

lol Jru2... dude just play the field a little until you get in a frame of mind for a committed relationship... move on when it's time man. Honestly...

Why can't people be more open minded about seeing more than one person at a time? Seriously, if a girl doesn't want to bang very often, why would she care if a guy gets another gf or two to fill in the gaps?

I heard this BS recently and made me laugh... funny it was from a Gemini sun with Saggie moon...

Why can't people put in effort and work on ONE relationship is more my question. If it does not work out, know when to move on... or just discuss the open relationship clause from day one if that's more your speed

It just seems like a higher percentage of women are only interested in committed relationships, and so its rough for y'all to find a guy interested in one. Likewise, it's rough for a guy to find girls interested in casual affairs. Maybe I'm just hanging out w/ the wrong crowds or something.

Even the new girl seems like the 'committed relationship' type.

Posted by jru2
It just seems like a higher percentage of women are only interested in committed relationships, and so its rough for y'all to find a guy interested in one. Likewise, it's rough for a guy to find girls interested in casual affairs. Maybe I'm just hanging out w/ the wrong crowds or something.

Even the new girl seems like the 'committed relationship' type.

I actually don't think it is just women but people in general would want a more committed relationship. At least the friends I know. I am guessing you just haven't found the girl for you and once you do you will know it. Most people I know would want to build something with that special someone, gosh I can't imagine living alone when I get older. I think you just need to find your best "girl" friend either that or find an open relationship type of girl and those are very hard to come by. I mean not everyone can really set emotions aside.

Posted by jru2
It just seems like a higher percentage of women are only interested in committed relationships, and so its rough for y'all to find a guy interested in one. Likewise, it's rough for a guy to find girls interested in casual affairs. Maybe I'm just hanging out w/ the wrong crowds or something.

Even the new girl seems like the 'committed relationship' type.

^ seems like you are assuming a lot here instead of being real.

Nah, women are programmed into thinking they are to follow committed relationships. However, I have found a high percentage of women bend over backwards to please men but men do not utilise this quality. Like lunamistress says, emotions will always be in the way, male or female.

It's rough for anyone to find out they are not enough for someone, no matter the sex. However, if it is outlined from the beginning, you will not get to this stage.

Disclaimer: The below is not a direct rant at you Jru2
My issue with people that chase after more than one person is the lack of honesty, integrity, hardwork, etc, that is not put into making one relationship work.
Have you told the fish about how you feel about this? It is really that simple as she may think you are happy.
Doesn't even seem like you interested in more than one woman, seems like you are interested in only the NEW woman... so you in fact my dear are still gravitating towards the ONE committed relationship but like a high majority of guys are cowardly when it comes to relationships...you do not want to have the emotional TALK.

Like I would say to my brothers and male friends, think of this like a business partnership, terms are laid down from the beginning, followed through, come to an end, shut the door...
Would you work in 2 different office, 9-5 monday to friday for 2 different bosses?
Cannot be done!

That's why relationships that are successful work best with time, effort, care, respect, etc...

Finally, people that say people are not open-minded are just trying to get others to do things their own way.

PS: if you met your ideal woman and she does what you are doing, how would you feel?

You are a sag that was in a long marriage, explore what is out there man, that is actually your nature, and by trying to go against it and overcommitting yourself so early, you will find yourself repeatedly in a very confused stage.

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Hi Zeny 🙂 WB

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Jru, I have been reading your posts for several years now. Please don't take this the wrong way, but if there is one thing that stands out from your words, it's that you seem to be chronically dissatisfied.


Instead of stringing people along, cheating on them, and then hurting them, why don't you spend some time alone? It will probably do you a lot of good, and you can have as many casual affairs as you want.

I agree. Maybe you need some time alone to figure out what you want.

JRUUUU, whats this new girls sign? Gemini? 😉

I met a sagi a month ago thru his brother whose a new friend of mine, my gfs and his group started to hang out together, and me and this sagi clicked third time we met, hes a 42 yr old. Very laid back and free spirited, has a loud laugh like a happy baby, love it! But sometimes i feel he laughs bcoz he wants to, not bcoz he heard something too funny, wch is ok ofcourse, coz its a adorable

ANyways he showed interest, offered his phone number, told me to contact him, i did but he never replies, later we found out its bcoz my phone doesnt receive msges from his operator, so apparantly he DID text me and thought i was ignoring him, and was really sad about it. Anyways, later he calls me invites me to go watch the game with friends and family, i go sit next to him during the break b4 the 2nd half of the game, and theres this girl siting next to him, i asked who r u with (as in wch game ur cheering with), and goes im with X (the sagi), who are YOU with!!

The sagi said nothing, just smiled at me, this shy smile, confirming it.

I saw him accidantly twice after that, the gf with him, he wud only say hello and goodbye altho were in the same group, saw him yest, and now that the gf is not with him, he was all over me trying to flirt with me again. I never confronted him about the gf, never made him feel bad about it or anything, coz this is soooooo typical of a sagi!

I still like him tho, haha! Gemini and sagi are so the same!

This is exactly what I'm talking about.

Girls are all gentle with this douchebag, like "aww don't hurt the poor fish girl," "you should be alone till you find the one"


Let this have been a chick proudly discussing her dirtbag ways...the claws would come out and she would be a dirty good for nothing whore. But for some reason, the shit is damn near adorable when its a man.

In general though, this is the attitude of society and it is rather annoying.


This just reminded me of the debate Tubbs and I were having over in the Dynamic Nuthouse thread.

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Hi Zeny 🙂 WB

Hey brianafay... how's it going?

You're a sick individual. Lol.

lol... and he keeps us coming back

Don't feel too bad for jru2... He's a man and can take care of himself. Plus, I'm pretty sure he likes the attention he gets everytime he post or else he would never post, and it's not like the ladies here are crucifying him everytime he posts, obviously there are women here who accept him. Like Zen says "and he keeps us coming back."

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lol... and he keeps us coming back

Basically the same reason women say they hate horror movies yet they cant help but watch them when they're on TV 😛

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Personally, I find horror movies amusing I like to watch so I can laugh at how stupid they are 🙂