A Profoundly Simple Realization

Love is a Lie.

Yep. I said it. Its just bullshit. I'm not talking about love for a child or a parent or a sibling. Romantic love. I came to this conclusion by reading that book this random lady gave me when I apparently looked bored having no customers at my flu shot clinic. Its a steamy romance. And I realized, why are these books written? Because its something women WANT but never ever have. Because it doesn't really exist. Thats why they're in the FICTION section. Now, I have loved another. But I realize, it is not and has never been mutual. Men appear to be incapable of this. They LUST. And then they're done.

I feel a great weight has been lifted off my shoulders. No wonder I can't find love, since it doesn't exist. It is fruitless to seek out the impossible. I shall diminish.

Posted by scorchedearth
if men can't love but women can... if you want love... the obvious answer is to become a lesbian.

obviously.

Ah if only boobies and twats turned me on. 😛

Yea I have dated within my element also. Pisces was.. the most tactless and sex driven guy I've ever known. I tried really hard to ignore the constant sex talk to see if behind it was a decent guy. Went out with him several times, even hung out with him just as friends once when I was seeing someone. Same old shit. Constantly talking about sex, and even when he wasn't damn the guy had no tact. I do like Piscean women for the most part. My one exception is hatred so deep I could probably kill her with hate alone.. P-Angel.

My cancer ex.. couldn't have possibly been a worse human being. I surely hope he dies any moment, so that no other women have to go through what I did. Beat up his ex girlfriend before me when she was 4 months pregnant. Threatened to kill me. Choked me, hit me.. you name it. My stepdad is also a cancer, and he is the most selfish SOB I've ever known. My brother is also a cancer. He is an absolute sweetheart. And emotionally psychotic. And insecure. And guilt trips himself. No, I won't date cancers.

And I know you were kidding. I was at that point. But the whole gist of this thread, I'm not kidding. I have NEVER seen actual "love". My parents (ie my current stepdad) fight constantly, my mom has been married 5 times and none of them were love. My sister is getting married in two weeks, and they seem like they get along well. And that's it.

At any rate, I have no reason to believe it exists OTHER than dime romances. And I realized, reading the one I have, that it is written *for women* because its what they WANT but don't have. IOW, bullshit. So my one reason to believe in its existence is utter bullshit.

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Posted by scorchedearth
if men can't love but women can... if you want love... the obvious answer is to become a lesbian.

obviously.

Ah if only boobies and twats turned me on. 😛

i was teasing. 😛

my non-trolling answer is... men are capable of love. well, some of them. depending on their emotional maturity and where they're at in their lives. i doubt that most men would be as emotional at first, or as attached at first. they're just designed a bit differently than we are.

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yup! i agree so much i can't be bothered to add anything else

If guys had a check-list for potential partners they'd be waaaaay more practical than the "I'll only date a guy who's taller than me" crap you find in most ladies' long term partner must-haves.

And when even the potential guy that fits your criteria has experienced not measuring up in the eyes of another, it's kinda unrealistic to believe that love will conquer all.

Juuuust sayin...

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Posted by 1two3go
If guys had a check-list for potential partners they'd be waaaaay more practical than the "I'll only date a guy who's taller than me" crap you find in most ladies' long term partner must-haves.

And when even the potential guy that fits your criteria has experienced not measuring up in the eyes of another, it's kinda unrealistic to believe that love will conquer all.

Juuuust sayin...

Why is that?

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Satori.

Hi.

Let's not do this.

Please?

@ the OP: The Time Traveller's Wife is a romance novel.

Pretty realistic in its portrayal of men (i.e. far from perfect, and at the same time unrefinable. His disorder is the metaphor I'm using here. there's no way in HELL the female protagonist could change THAT)

Good read. I recommend.

Posted by Skykomish
Men appear to be incapable of this. They LUST. And then they're done.

Ouch.

you are absolutely right, skykomish. romantic love as portrayed in romance novels doesn't exist.

imperfect, human love does.
for both men and women.

You wanna hear something *REALLY* freaking ironic? Guess who decided to drop me a line after... 5 MONTHS of no word, having split ways on very bad terms? (those of you who were here will totally get it). The infamous Libra/Scorpio.

*bitch slapped by fate*

He was... kind of both. But I guess he was a douche by accident?

Anyway we started seeing each other, things moved fast. Then he tells me hes in love with his best friend. WTF? I was LIVID. I walked. He didn't see it as being unfaithful, since it was a "fantasy", but I did.

Couple weeks later, he sleeps with his best friend. Next day she dumps him (it was a 1 night stand) and gets engaged. Yeah. Skank.

Contacts me in March? April? Tells me what she did. Tells me "If you'd only been more patient things may have worked out differently" My response "Shoulda realized what you had when you had it".
'Course inside, I wanted to go back.. but I wasn't about to let him disrespect me like that. I told him "I won't be anyones second choice" and he said "As you shouldn't".

He was really one of the nicest guys I've ever known. Like as in, he raced me to the car so he could open MY door for me. Even when we weren't speaking he'd come over to my place, out of his way, to walk my dog. Just don't find 'em like that these days. And we have a ton in common. Really, I've thought all these months how tragic it was, the way things ended up. But I had a RIGHT to be pissed. And to rub his nose in it. 😛

Well apparently he's been missing me. 😛 Now.. how to get back to Colorado?