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Aries Wounded by Scorpio Man (Twice)
Sounds like his past wounds are extremely complex and deep-seeded.
He probably hurt himself a lot worse than he hurt you, lol.
He probably hurt himself a lot worse than he hurt you, lol.
i was with an aries for a very long time. one of the biggest issues between us was my lack of affection. it just doesn't come naturally for me to be affectionate but he was a real holdy hands tactile person and it made him sad when i didn't indulge that.
the problem was that the relationship was so volatile, it seemed we were always in a state of recovering from some fight or another. he was the kind of person who could behave like nothing happened minutes after losing it but i just internalised and let the resentment build over the years.
net result? emotional pressure cooker and inevitable boiling over.
aries/scorp is a very difficult combination which either works brilliantly or fails miserably.
the problem was that the relationship was so volatile, it seemed we were always in a state of recovering from some fight or another. he was the kind of person who could behave like nothing happened minutes after losing it but i just internalised and let the resentment build over the years.
net result? emotional pressure cooker and inevitable boiling over.
aries/scorp is a very difficult combination which either works brilliantly or fails miserably.
Posted by R1g0rM0rT1s
i was with an aries for a very long time. one of the biggest issues between us was my lack of affection. it just doesn't come naturally for me to be affectionate but he was a real holdy hands tactile person and it made him sad when i didn't indulge that.
the problem was that the relationship was so volatile, it seemed we were always in a state of recovering from some fight or another. he was the kind of person who could behave like nothing happened minutes after losing it but i just internalised and let the resentment build over the years.
net result? emotional pressure cooker and inevitable boiling over.
aries/scorp is a very difficult combination which either works brilliantly or fails miserably.
Thanks for that insight. I think I can see how the pressure cooker analogy would apply. We never got to that point where we actually fought, since each time we dated it was only for a few months, but there were times when I could tell something was up but he wouldn't communicate what it was with me and that eventually led to some tension which was the start of the end of things. That's so frustrating to an aries because I want to get to the bottom of the issue and dissolve it and I was met with a wall. It's so frustrating because when we were getting along, it was intense and amazing - more so than anything I'd experienced. And then, he'd just cut it off suddenly without an explanation. I just don't know how to approach him about that. When we got back together, he told me he'd been thinking of me and if he were ever to settle down, it'd be with me. Player talk? Maybe. But it felt real so I can't help but wonder if he's waiting for Round Three.
I can see how scorpios are not the most affectionate, but like I said, that didn't get to me so much. It made all of the times when he did express emotion feel really special. An aries would rather pursue the challenge of affection than be smothered in it, I think. Or maybe that's just my virgo ascendant influence. My brother dated scorpio women almost exclusively (he's a capricorn) when he was younger and I saw a lot of playful wrestling and teasing but not a lot of hand-holding or cuddling, so maybe that just comes with the territory.
Posted by SkiesAfire
Sounds like his past wounds are extremely complex and deep-seeded.
He probably hurt himself a lot worse than he hurt you, lol.
He does have an emotionally difficult past that he's opened up to me about. Seems strange to share that and just cut me off.
Posted by R24
Women crave emotional connections and scorp males know how to supply the emotional crack. You have to go by their actions, not what they say. Their actions will let you know whether they are sincere.
Interesting ...
i have a virgo ascendant too. it's a weird dichotomy. one half virginal the other half vixenal, lol. nice wordplay rox...yeah, innit 😄
anyhow...what was i gonna say?
oh YEAH!!! i was gonna say i would rather stay home and stick pins in my eyes than ever go out with a scorpio man. omg, i thought we ladies were hard work but really!!!
anyhow...what was i gonna say?
oh YEAH!!! i was gonna say i would rather stay home and stick pins in my eyes than ever go out with a scorpio man. omg, i thought we ladies were hard work but really!!!
Posted by AriessPosted by R24
Women crave emotional connections and scorp males know how to supply the emotional crack. You have to go by their actions, not what they say. Their actions will let you know whether they are sincere.
Interesting ...click to expand
As much as I don't want to hear it, that sounds like really accurate advice. There were times when it *did* feel as though he was psychic - like he just knew when I'd be most receptive to his charms. I also have a leo moon so it's hard to let go, but yes, I'm counting on my virgo ascendant to keep me grounded here. Thanks for the insight!
Posted by R1g0rM0rT1s
i have a virgo ascendant too. it's a weird dichotomy. one half virginal the other half vixenal, lol. nice wordplay rox...yeah, innit 😄
anyhow...what was i gonna say?
oh YEAH!!! i was gonna say i would rather stay home and stick pins in my eyes than ever go out with a scorpio man. omg, i thought we ladies were hard work but really!!!
Hahaha...I guess that says something! That's funny because I feel the same way about aries men, being an aries myself. It's the only match I've experienced where the unpredictability becomes predictable. But I have to say, I think that scorpio women and men might be worlds apart. My late best friend was a scorpio and she was an amazing woman - she manifested her emotional strength in ways that I couldn't even comprehend to beat cancer several times and deal with some pretty heavy emotional stuff in a positive way. Maybe scorp men are capable of the same, but I've just never been on the friendship side of things with a scorp man so I didn't get to see him in his most natural state.
My advice: "be" with this Sag man and move on. What is it you hope to accomplish with this Scorp man other than another romp in the hay? Your Sag is giving you the affection you crave so what's the problem? Perhaps you moved onto this Sag before resoving your feelings for the Scorp, which isn't fair to him. Leave the Scorp alone and do yourself a favour, live a happy life. Also, I'm not sure where all this "testing" BS came from. Based on what you shared the only thing he seems to be "testing" is how far he can take his BS with you. Will she let me shag her while shagging other women *check*. Will she let me get away with staying closed off and not really build anything with her? *check* Will she let me get away with getting mine without giving her what she wants *check*. What other test do you believe he is giving you?
seraph: stop making me out to be secretly 'nice'. i wanna be HARDCORE!!!!
Posted by AriesFemmePosted by R1g0rM0rT1s
I can see how scorpios are not the most affectionate...click to expand
What—— Where is this coming from?
Posted by PhoenixRising
My advice: "be" with this Sag man and move on. What is it you hope to accomplish with this Scorp man other than another romp in the hay? Your Sag is giving you the affection you crave so what's the problem? Perhaps you moved onto this Sag before resoving your feelings for the Scorp, which isn't fair to him. Leave the Scorp alone and do yourself a favour, live a happy life. Also, I'm not sure where all this "testing" BS came from. Based on what you shared the only thing he seems to be "testing" is how far he can take his BS with you. Will she let me shag her while shagging other women *check*. Will she let me get away with staying closed off and not really build anything with her? *check* Will she let me get away with getting mine without giving her what she wants *check*. What other test do you believe he is giving you?
+1 me likey
love your trademark vidclips seraph 🙂
Posted by SkiesAfire
Sounds like his past wounds are extremely complex and deep-seeded.
He probably hurt himself a lot worse than he hurt you, lol.
Your avatar is screwing with my head..
Posted by PhoenixRisingPosted by AriesFemmePosted by R1g0rM0rT1s
I can see how scorpios are not the most affectionate...
What—— Where is this coming from?click to expand
oh gawd no... one of the most! or THE most.
AF, I'd almost put money on it that there's some gal closer in proximity that his feelings are stuck on. These two times that you and the scorp dated... how long did each round last?
Dont let him become a bad habit... drop him now and dont look back. If he tries to communicate with you down the road... just dont. Srsly. It sounds like you have a great guy now. Put this scorp in perspective... he doesnt sound like all that even with his sudden bursts of affection. He sounds like an emotional desert and you need a proper 64 ounces of agua a day.
this is exactly why i always trust actions and not words. love is an effin verb. goshdarnit
and ... I better go before I preach anymore lol
I only read the opening post ....
I'd say that it's not the Scorpio at all that has your panties twisted .. it's the fact that he ruled, and you were his minion. Aries thinks they are strong, and so therefore acts mighty. Most people are soft and so cower when Aries does this. In this case, he never gave you anything except crumbles, and you obviously ate them up.
What you are mad about is that you were never the boss, and that goes against your very nature.
This post is all about ego, because there isn't anything in any of your sentences that represent care for him.
I'd say that it's not the Scorpio at all that has your panties twisted .. it's the fact that he ruled, and you were his minion. Aries thinks they are strong, and so therefore acts mighty. Most people are soft and so cower when Aries does this. In this case, he never gave you anything except crumbles, and you obviously ate them up.
What you are mad about is that you were never the boss, and that goes against your very nature.
This post is all about ego, because there isn't anything in any of your sentences that represent care for him.
Posted by R24
^^^^ ^^^^^ LOL, I have ADD, but that avatar kept me mesmerized for quite a while!
LOL me too! ADHD, rather.
We hyper-focus on the most *interesting* things, eh? 😉
Posted by HuntressPosted by R24
^^^^ ^^^^^ LOL, I have ADD, but that avatar kept me mesmerized for quite a while!
LOL me too! ADHD, rather.
We hyper-focus on the most *interesting* things, eh? 😉click to expand
Great, now you two have me watching it..@.@
Posted by R24Posted by SkiesAfirePosted by HuntressPosted by R24
^^^^ ^^^^^ LOL, I have ADD, but that avatar kept me mesmerized for quite a while!
LOL me too! ADHD, rather.
We hyper-focus on the most *interesting* things, eh? 😉
Great, now you two have me watching it..@.@
SkiesAfire, I confess that I jacked your avatar so I can look at it whenever I want. Never know when you'll change it though your Newt Gingrich avi was kinda amusing too,lolclick to expand
It's quite mesmerizing, isn't it?😛
Posted by SkiesAfire
It's quite mesmerizing, isn't it?😛
Which is why I jacked you too.
......Wait a minute... 😉
Posted by HuntressPosted by SkiesAfire
It's quite mesmerizing, isn't it?😛
Which is why I jacked you too.
......Wait a minute... 😉click to expand
Jacked me? LOLwtf
Was it really that funny or am I just really deprived of sleep?
The world may never know. @,@
The world may never know. @,@
LOL, GIRL YOU CRAY.
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