Beware of Scorpio Men they will Break Ur Heart

Yes my scorpio just broke up with me because he says he's put me through enough and dont want to put me through anymore. He lost his job and his Ex-Virgo is threatening him about child support and its a constant fight between the two of them. Well, I know my scorpio is down and out right now but i tell him I am Here for him. He just got a job in Texas working on a oil rig, he says he dont know what to expect and dont know when he will be comming back to me or if he will come back to this state. I tell him if it takes 3 years for him to get himself together i will wait because love does that. He say he will be on the job worrying about me, and me as a girlfriend right now is hindering him right now with the choices he must make about his life. We cried alday together, But I Dont Understand This. Why did he give up on us after 2 1/2 years? Everything we went through together and now this. If you have a Good Scorpio man consider yourself Very Lucky. I wasn't.

I agree with Scorpio Heart. He needs some space to get his stuff fixed and then I think he will come back.

"He say he will be on the job worrying about me, and me as a girlfriend right now is hindering him right now with the choices he must make about his life."

He is telling you the truth and you should respect his honesty right know. He also don't want to get you involved in all his baby moma drama either. I know it must hurt but if you think about it if you know your scorp...you would know that a long distant relationship will probably make him feel insecure and bring out his jealousy...if he left you as bad as it hurt him the least of his worries well be if you are cheating on him or not. And please dont' say that you will wait you probably will for a bit but then you will start tripping cuz he has not called and then your insecurity will proably pop up.

Just enjoy the time with him and just be his friend.

You know the old saying "If you love someone let them go if it's meant to you will meet again"

Itz always disgusting to see scorps defending a fellow scorp.

Yeah, what if that Scorp is a little black kid who happened to walk into a KKK rally?

Long distance relationship almost always end in failure, it seems, so it's probably the best decision for both of them.

I had a similar experience to this once 20 years ago with a boy who I was totally in love with. His weakness totally disgusted and dissappointed me. He just up and left me one day and left me a dear john letter because he couldn't face telling me goodbye. He used all those excuses of how he was doing it for me and he had so many problems. Then he kept trying to call me and I wouldn't take his calls. He finally sent me a videotaped explanation which I also never acknowledged. Well guess what?? I think he totally regrets it because guess who did a search for me online and contacted me 20 years later?? We have been occasionally sending e-mails back and forth over the last month and he still has not brought up what he did to me yet. I know he wants to talk about it and know that I have forgiven him. I purposely am not bringing it up though because he needs to be the one to do it. He needs a lesson in courage. The funny thing is that he remembers every little detail about me and I barely remember anything about him at all. LOL!!

Ash

I actually believe that he is telling the truth. Most men would have not said anything and left the shit wide open...

I think he is sincere in his words and blueaqua you should really listen to what he is saying.

So are yall saying that if a man comes to you and tell you he hurt you long enough and he does not want to hurt you anymore and that he has all this drama going on in his life you would think that what he is saying is a bunch of crap.

Sure it hurts but come on people dont give him a bad rap because of his choice of words. Cuz for real he did not have to say anything and just left and then blueaqua would be on these boards crying about how he left and never said anything, to her and just left know that is a COP OUT! PUNK ASS WAY OF LEAVING SOMEBODY.

Weeks ago, somebody was mentioning that Scorpios are most likely to feel like starting their lives all over again - and the thought gained good support here.

"So are yall saying that if a man comes to you and tell you he hurt you long enough and he does not want to hurt you anymore and that he has all this drama going on in his life you would think that what he is saying is a bunch of crap."

He is saying that he has hurt her long enough like it is something that he couldn't control. He had complete control over how he treated her in the relationship. He is a coward. He is lying to her. He is doing this for his own selfish reasons and he is only concerned about himself. If it was her that was trying to end the relationship then I would understand him walking away because he doesn't want to hurt her anymore. She however was not being hurt until now as he is walking out the door. He is a weak coward who keeps on sabatoging himself by all of his mistakes. He created all of his own drama. He get's something good in his life now and he can't handle it. You need to walk away hon, and he needs therapy.

And I am not taking up for what he did, because he is a scorpio and I am to. I feel what he did and I respect is honesty and blueaque should to.

He was man enough to tell you face to face, not a dear john letter, not an email, not a text msg, not a voice mail

You have to respect a brotha for being upfront,

She is hurting I mean check out the title of the thread, She is hurting so she is going to blame him for her hurt until she can see clearly. And when he is home alone and he is thinking about her he will call her and tell her more of what he is feeling.

FA, I agree - and it surprises me to no end.

"mine did cuz the other alternative was to lose me to someone else."

Thatz interesting - and irrespective of the sign, itz selfish to desert any person in such a manner.

Yeah, I'm not defending his dumb scorpio ass and I'm a scorpio!! He is putting us Scorpio's to shame. LOL!!

"then he came running back and decided he'll just have to do the long distance thing...for a few years"

LOL...I would still put that as a "men" thing.

Thank you Everyone, for your responses. Yes, I am hurting and the tears wont stop. SL, he let me down. When i extended my hand to him and told him believe in us,we can make it through this,we've jumped many hurdles before we can jump this one too, he didnt reach back. I only want to give my body to him and he knows this i wouldn't cheat on. I tell him we can make arrangements to see each other, When two people love each other they will find a way to be together.

When I drove him home he sat in my car and cried again. It was difficult for him to open the car door and I was praying that he didnt, hoping he would have a change of heart. He says i'm the best thing that ever happen to him, and he wants no one else but he didnt trust in our love, didnt trust in me after 2 1/2 years of showing him how much i love him. He gave up on us before trying. Love and light to everyone.

sometimes people have to end relationships to focus on bettering themslves. If he's not in a good "place" emotionally,financially,etc....he'll suck in a relationship anyway.

"didnt trust in me after 2 1/2 years of showing him how much i love him. He gave up on us before trying."

He gave up on himself not you!! He is once again punishing himself.

I am not agreeing with him because he is a scorpio. I feel his pain, and I am not saying he is wrong on right all I am saying is give the brotha the respect for telling her face to face. A coward would have run like what sglove man did to here know that is a piss poor as way to leave someone.

Sglove are you sure you are over what your man did to you 20 years ago, because as scropios we may forgive but we don't forget and your comment about talking to this man sometimes and saying you are not going to say anything about what happen because he needs to do it and from the anger in your words about what the scrop did to blueaqua tells me that you still have animosity towards this man and until he says something and the only reason you continue to talk to him is because you are waiting for him to come clean. Just remember he may never come clean and talk about. Been there done that.

someonespecial

"sometimes people have to end relationships to focus on bettering themslves. If he's not is a good "place" emotionally,financially,etc....he'll suck in a relationship anyway."

You could not have said it better.

"Sglove are you sure you are over what your man did to you 20 years ago, because as scropios we may forgive but we don't forget and your comment about talking to this man sometimes and saying you are not going to say anything about what happen because he needs to do it and from the anger in your words about what the scrop did to blueaqua tells me that you still have animosity towards this man and until he says something and the only reason you continue to talk to him is because you are waiting for him to come clean. Just remember he may never come clean and talk about. Been there done that."

I'm over it which is the only reason I am even talking to him. He needs to forgive himself for what he did and I don't think it would do him any good for me to make that process easy for him. I'm already talking to him so I think that is making it pretty easy for him. He wants me to tell him that I forgive him which I do, but how is he going to learn any courage if he doesn't force himself to man up?? Is he just going to continue to run away from everything in his life? He may never get the courage to say anything at all and if he doesn't I won't care in the least. 20 years ago, I thought what he did was all about me and that I wasn't enough for him just like the OP is doing. Now I know it was all him and it had nothing to do with me. What I am mad at is us women who continue to let themselves feel like it is our fault instead of seeing these men's problems as their own problems. That goes for any men too that are putting up with some self sabotaging woman's shit, but men don't usually have this issue as much as women do.

"sometimes people have to end relationships to focus on bettering themslves"

And what stops them from improving while being in a relationship ? This is not sign specific - but I think one of the most facetious claim is that itz good and in the only right solution.

I just think that relationships are a lot of work and a lot of energy and some people would rather put that energy towards other aspects of their lives. People can and should improve/grow while they're in a relationship but if a person is going through an exceptionally tough time they may not have the emotional energy that it takes to sustain a fufilling relationship.

not every relationship is meant to last forever :-)

"not every relationship is meant to last forever "

Post-factum, it makes sense - but not as a pretext.

There are always going to be tough times. If you love someone, why go through it alone when you have someone reaching out to you that genuinely wants to help you. Don't you think that Blue Aqua is going through a tough time trying to put up with his ass?? But she made a committment that she wants to see through just like the wedding vows say... For better or worse. He doesn't want your help though Blueaqua and that's not your fault. To me his actions are an indication that not only can he not handle his own problems and has to run away, but that he probably wouldn't be able to handle any of your crisis either. Ask yourself if he would be there for you for better or for worse if you lost your job or got sick. If the answer is no than run like hell and don't look back and see that he is doing you a favor by leaving.

Oh yes! I definitely think Blueaqua is going through a tough time and I do feel for her (and don't think it's her fault either). I'm a female scorp and have never really dealt with the males, I know that I'm VERY giving/supportive in relationships and will try to make things "work" till I'm blue in the face. However, some things just need to be worked out alone or people risk becoming codependent.

"Post-factum, it makes sense - but not as a pretext."
Actually it does make sense. Why not just enjoy the relationship for what it is instead of demanding neverending love and devotion.

My original point to the OP is that I think he's going through something that he would rather deal with alone and if he's not "whole" himself, then he can't give his all to a relationship.

Whatever!!! It's still the Coward's way out and if he knew he had all of these issues then why did he get into a 2 year relationship with her in the first place? I will tell you why. He got into the relationship for the same reason that he is now getting out. He was running away from something. He probably ran away from his ex wife and his kids too because he was "going through something that he would rather deal with alone and if he's not "whole" himself, then he can't give his all to a relationship." Stop coddling him(men in general) and being so understanding. Tell him to MAN UP!!!!

Prince_Pisces,
I agree.
just use us for sex.
lol

You are an idiot.

The insult is for gs.

Hit a nerve huh Yum?? If you read back on my posts you will see that I said the same thing about self sabataging women, and that men shouldn't put up with it either, but this thread is about a man.

"Hit a nerve huh Yum??"

Out of curiousity, do you think most people know that they will be fired and have to move to another state(I presume) to get a job two years before it happens? Or do you think that that whole "moving to another state" business was a negligible part of his reasons to break up with her?

Why does he have to break up with her— Why doesn't he ask her to go with him? Why doesn't he just try to maintain a long distance relationship with her and see if it can work out? Why is at the first little thing that goes wrong makes him want to run away instead of dealing with things head on? People lose their jobs every day. They don't always leave the people they love because of it though. If he wants to leave the relationship because he doesn't love her anymore than O.K. but if that's the reason than he is lying to her.

gslove,
check this out,
I'm saying let him deal with his mess on his own if that's what he wants to do. I think coddling would be more like making excuses for why you're STILL with someone who isn't satisfying your relationship needs, treats you badly, or just isn't putting forth the effort that you are.

ummmm....not every relationship can work! People change, circumstances change, feelings change...It's okay....really. I'd rather "understand" that than be bitter.

Again, whatever his flaws are it all comes back around to the same thing-HE IS NOT CAPABLE OF/WILLING TO MAINTAIN THE RELATIONSHIP.

What if he had kids with this woman?? Do you still think it would be o.k. for him to just leave and deal with this mess on his own?? Is that what happened in his last relationship? I don't know, I'm only guessing.

"Again, whatever his flaws are it all comes back around to the same thing-HE IS NOT CAPABLE OF/WILLING TO MAINTAIN THE RELATIONSHIP."

Exactly, so we all agree that he is running away from things and what he is doing is selfish and that he is not doing it because he wants to spare her like he says that he is doing. That's all I'm saying. He should not be told that his behavior is right or justified and be treated like he is a child and she should not think it is in anyway her fault that he is leaving her.

"Why does he have to break up with her—"

Lots of issues with LDR that people don't want to deal with.

"Why doesn't he ask her to go with him?"

Because asking her to leave her job, her friends, and possibly her family is incredibly selfish and would put a lot of strain on their relationship, I guess.

"Why doesn't he just try to maintain a long distance relationship with her and see if it can work out?"

Maybe he feels the need to be in phyisical contact with his SO? I dunno what are his reasons, I know that personally I wouldn't go for a LDR.

"Why is at the first little thing that goes wrong makes him want to run away instead of dealing with things head on?"

I don't think moving to another state and meeting with one's so, say, every month, is a little thing. YMMV.

"People lose their jobs every day. They don't always leave the people they love because of it though. If he wants to leave the relationship because he doesn't love her anymore than O.K. but if that's the reason than he is lying to her."

How would you know what his job prospects are? Maybe it will be exponentially more difficult for him to find a job near her? I really don't see how you managed to deduce that he is lying to her.

"What if he had kids with this woman?? Do you still think it would be o.k. for him to just leave and deal with this mess on his own?? Is that what happened in his last relationship? I don't know, I'm only guessing."

If he has kids with BA, then that would be a whole 'nother ball-game, as the dynamics of the relationship would be totally different.

I had a friend that had a boyfriend who was like this. He lost a job in Texas and left his wife and kids and moved to California and hooked up with my friend. Then a year later he lost his Cali job and broke up with her and went back to Texas because he felt guilty about leaving the kids. Then he lost that job in texas and left his kids again and came back to my friend and they are now married. If I was her I would be on pins and needles wondering when he was going to do it again. This running away thing is a pattern. He is not a bad guy, but he can't handle for better or for worse and I personally would not want to be with a guy like this. If I was a man I also would not want to be with a woman like this.

All that said though. I think if she wants him that he will probably actually come back to her after he stops freaking out and sees that running away doesn't take away his problems.

They always come back but she pobably won't want him.

"What if he had kids with this woman?? Do you still think it would be o.k. for him to just leave and deal with this mess on his own??"

That's a totally different thread. No he probably wouldn't run- if he had kids with her they'd be a part of the "mess" that he has to clean up.

"Exactly, so we all agree that he is running away from things and what he is doing is selfish and that he is not doing it because he wants to spare her like he says that he is doing. That's all I'm saying. He should not be told that his behavior is right or justified and be treated like he is a child and she should not think it is in anyway her fault that he is leaving her."

I agree it's not her fault but I would rather a person be selfish alone then selfish with me. I also don't think that he should be demonized for ending the relationship so that he can take care of himself. A more immature person would probably expect her to hold his hand through all his bullshit.

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Beware of Scorpio Men they will Break Ur Heart
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So you have one negative experience with a Scorpio man and you're going to accuse us all of being heartbreakers?

Fuck You.

Aqua, in my experience this is a scorp man who really loves you. We scorps will make the best decisions we feel at the moment for ourselves and the ones we love even when it hurts, but we know it is the best choice.

Btw, I think you should have changed the title of this thread. He was trying to save your heart in the long run not break it.

"Btw, I think you should have changed the title of this thread. He was trying to save your heart in the long run not break it."


Save my heart?? He showed me how selfish he really is,.and as much as he says he loves me he really knows how to show it.NOT! This is how he loves me by breaking up with me because he has to take care of himself first! You know what this is really about him leaving for his new job and he "screws up" he won't have to "feel guilty about it". You know what he can have Whoever he wants and I hope they have fun together because when he decides he wants to be with me it will b too late.

He says he going to continue to wear his commitment ring(we're not married we were just wearing rings that he bought because he wanted to show me how serious he was about me) and he still wants to call me. So he wants his cake and eat it too?? I dont think so. He left me and there's no need to call me.

Queenscorpio if i come off little angry it's because of my situation right now and the the hurt he caused me, my apologizies in advance

"Queenscorpio if i come off little angry it's because of my situation right now and the the hurt he caused me, my apologizies in advance"

No offense taken, but I just think he is coming from a different point of view. Look at it like this. He might not have any intensions on being with someone else etc., but you can never know what the future holds. He is going to be living in a different state... Those are the hardest relationships IMO. So he sort of seem to not want to go through or put you through the worry or pain of wondering what you/he is doing or not being able to physically be there in a relationship as you guys have been especially if his job is demanding and time consuming. Maybe it would have been better if he said "lets try and see how this works" instead of breaking up. But we scorps want and need to be near our partner and seeing them and being with them physically really matters so this will be especially hard for him. No doubt he will wreck his brain trying to figure out what you are doing and who you are with etc. They are very jealous (the men more than the women).

You guys were right,he called me today and i answered (don't know if i should have though). He asked me what am i doing tomorrow,.I said to him i have things to do but should get done by 2.He asked me if we can go to dinner. I ask him why,.He says to talk about us. I didn't reply so he says i can think about it and let him know. What would you do?

"You're already vulnerable BlueAqua...dont let him fuck around with your head"

Elena ,ur right a part of me wants to except the talk over dinner but my heart is still broken from all of this and wants to say forget him i deserve better.Mayb he made the decision to break up because of fear,maybe i should stop reasoning this and stick to my decision. But, i miss him and don't want to loose him, i really just want for him to feel the same pain that he caused me.

"Kick his ass and tell him to go fuck around with someone else's head."

Now that i have had some time away from him to reflect, he did play alot of head games.
I should just go on with my life without him because that alone is enough,and no man is going to make me koodos.

Sounds like he wants to take you out to dinner because he just wants to get you to agree with him that he is doing the right thing and trying to make sure that you are not mad at him. He doesn't want to leave you mad at him. I think if you want him he will be begging you to marry him in I would say about 2 months if you play your cards right. The minute he thinks he is really losing you. Don't give into him on this. Stay firm with your stance.

BlueAqua,

You sound like an amazing woman. I am sure this decision will haunt him till the day he passes on. Sounds like he is in a grey lizard phase and is down on himself and it is hard to love someone whne you have so little for yourself. Unfortunately, when they enter this phase, they do cause harm to others and themselves.

Not being bias at all, as the one scorp I had been involved with was a nut case at times.

I think he doesn't want to leave things sour. I think you love him and want to hear him out. However, It is important to tell him how you feel, make it clear and like everyone has said be firm. Scorps only respect when a person is firm and serious about what they are saying. Even if it hurts him. Tell him how hurt you are that he would end it instead of atleast seeing how it went as we know long distance is difficult. Also, explain that you understand he wasn't being callus or hurtful when he ended it and that you understand in his mind he didn't want to hurt you in the long run if it didn't work out.

Remind him that none of us are promised tomorrow and that we have to live our best in the present and you want to presently spend that time with him even if it is just weekends in his state or yours. You should express your love is worth the try unless he has an alternate reason for breaking up with you.

"If you have a Good Scorpio man consider yourself Very Lucky. I wasn't."


Sounds to me like you had a good man .. damn good man.


"and me as a girlfriend right now is hindering him right now with the choices he must make about his life."

Because he cannot exist without sexual release ... so, he'd rather let you go, then cheat on you ... because cheating would hurt worse.


Consider yourself very fortunate ... he could have just strung you along, while nutting in another woman, unbeknownst to you.