CAN SCORPIO FORGIVE

Need some advice please. Met a nice person a few months ago and got on really well. We became friends first but with such intensity between us ended up in each others arms. I know this person was starting to open up to me and he stood by me 100% . Problem is I let this person down or should I say we both let each other down by not opening up fully (I'm a capricorn and like to keep things secret too eg how much I feel about someone). Anyway my ex was involved making up stories etc, threatening me etc and I well to cut a long story short - it ended with me shouting down an answerphone for him never to contact me again. He did try and phone me one night but I was so stressed and pissed off at the time I didnt answer thought he might ring again he didnt (looking back I dont blame him). Point: Really want to contact him again (know that I will never let any person destroy my relationship with anyone again). question: What what will I say to him and most importantly will he forgive me! I know I have hurt him but really want to make it up - even if its only friends - we live across water from each other so I cant exactly bump into him - I am going to have to write him a letter. I am going to be honest with him and tell him I miss him and why I did what I did but is there anything I can say, anything to show that I really mean it. Guys please help. Dont know many scorpios so am a bit novice on how yous react etc. I am a good person and usually behave so but I think the intensity of what I felt for his guy really through and frightened me that you could feel so much for someone. Deep down I know that if we met again it would still be there that magnetic pulling towards each other feeling. Any suggestions on the best way to apologise and thing I could say to make him know I really mean what I say. Please help

I would honestly say that you should write him a letter saying (almost) exactly what you have posted here. I can sense your sincerity and honesty, and as a Scorpio he will too, when he reads your words. This is perhaps the most important thing with Scorpios--honesty. Now whether he chooses to forgive you is up to him; I can tell you, though, that at which point he *knows* that you are being truly honest with him, you have a much greater chance of gaining his trust and forgiveness.

Flowery language won't do it, but being very direct and telling him the depth of your feelings without being overly "romantic" about it...just might do it, in fact I think it will. Besides, if you bare your soul to him in this way and he doesn't respond, at least it won't be a long, painful, drawn-out heartbreak. It will be like ripping off a band-aid. You will know immediately if this connection is worth rekindling. If not, it is his loss, because I can tell you mean what you're saying.

Take care of yourself, and I wish you the best of luck!

Heather

yup agreeing wiht u heather. u have the exact sentiments...

I like Heathers analogy of ripping off a bandaid!!!

lol...Thanks you guys! : )

Heather

just be who you are right now, admit to your faults. say it like you mean it. it may not be as bad as it seems. your scorp friend would also probably hate to loose a good friend especially if you meant something to him.

heather is right, its his loss if he does not forgive you. it will haunt him if he does that and he will end up apologizing to you.

the point is you tried your best to rebuild burnt bridges. that is what counts.

he will end up seeing that in the long run

Hi Guys

Thanks to you all for replying to my post - have been writing my letter now for the last 3 days and think I finally have it. Thanks for the insight to kept it straight to the point - (i'm inclined to come across all happy and funny when I'm afraid - kind of false courage thing) so I havent done that. Didnt want to go all heavy either as I dont want to scare him as he did put up with a lot the last time and yet still want to make he see i'm sincere. So guys yous all have helped. Like the stick bandaid bit and you know its probably very true - Now is the make or break scenerio. I hope its make even as friends! Wish me luck going to read it over one last time and then write it on my little card - which simply says sorry! Thanks guys and will keep you informed if anything comes out of it - good or bad!

Hi yes I'm back for more - love this site I can sit here saying what I feel and getting it off my chest! and then theres you guys who try to help and give advice - its just brillant! Any way posted my card on Saturday, July 6th and in a way feel much better as it will finally draw this struggle to an end one way or another. Wont start picking at the bandaid for about 2/3 weeks! Will give him time to receive the card, digest it and make up his mind! Am so nervous, keep dreaming up happy then sad endings - dont know what to think just hope put right things down in the card - nothing heavy but at the same time tried to let him see the door is ajar if he wants to come in. Sorry guys will have you all tortured by the time the 2/3 weeks is up. Will keep yous informed!!!

145: Please do! I am glad you wrote it and sent it off! The ball is now in his court, and I wish for you the right ending (hopefully a happy one, but be it good or bad, it will be either for a reason). Luck to you, and let us know how things come out. : )

Love,
Heather

I now think of this page as my personal diary where I can re-read and write how I feel about this post. It will be 2 weeks tomorrow when I posted my card. I dont think he will have received it yet as it has to be forwarded on but maybe thats my own wishful thinking as he hasn't got in touch. In one way I needed to send the card say I was sorry but in another way its torture. I feel this void from the bottom of my heart to the pit of my stomach. I thought if I wrote the card tried to re-build the bridges as it was put then I would have a clear conscience and move on but I'm now in more of a dilemma than before - find myself waiting, hoping to hear from him - want to wash my hands and say I tried - make up excuses why he hasnt replied - try to convince myself he wasnt the person that I believed him to be - gee it just goes on and on (a bit like me as you can see)! Oh I just wish life was so much more simple or should I say I wish I would stop complicating things - I suppose its how you look at it.

in the mean time, you should keep yourself busy at all times... have fun, or even work harder in school or your job, just to keep that looming thought of reply out of your head. its not good to constantly zoom in and out of that distraught feeling. you should be happy that you tried... and yes don't worry your bridge may be built again, it just takes time. you take baby steps before you can run.

and also keep posting to vent all your frustrations... it helps

I have almost the same dilemma with a Scorpio I've been seeing for over a year. I didn't know that Scorps were so sensitive until I started getting into Astrology and I said somethings which now I know hurt him. It's been on and off for a year and now we're off again. He does call me but very rarely. I've told him of my feelings and he says he doesn't believe me, but he's still around. I feel that he's putting me thru tests and I think that you're Scorp is also putting you thru some test. Hang on to your hopes. I think once he gets over the hurt, he'll call. Mine does, although I know he doesn't forgive, but if your Scorp really likes you, he will make an attempt to patch it up. Don't give up.

I haven't met a scorp that could forgive. As of yet.....

To Sloane: You mean that although Scorp keeps coming back he's still not forgiving of real of imagined slights?

he will, but he will not forget what you did! there is a difference with that. his guard is up thats all

i-sun

How long does it take to 'forget' though? Even if he comes back and says he forgives you, does that mean he has truelly? Can you damage a scorpio forever by saying the wrong thing? And once you lose their respect, can you get it back (or 'earn' it back?).

If you try to 'earn' it back will they perceive you as being 'spineless'?

We all make mistakes, the question is "how do you apologise without coming across as a hypocrit?" How do you make it sincere?

If you have offended a scorp, is the best thing you can do stay away from them and give them their space and hope for the best or should you be "proactive" and issue a verbal apology?

I am in a dilemma with a scorpio that was important to me and i have done the wrong thing (and believe me, i am eating myself up inside over it). The bed i have made for myself is not a very comfortable one but i am willing to lie in it if i have to or should i do something about it?

Now guys I really do need advice - the card has been received and how do I know! To help you understand! The scorpio I wrote to was involved with a girl whose friend works for my company (I only found out after I had called it a day). When scorpio and I got together the girl and her friend then befriended my ex (hence the stories etc though I still didnt know where they were coming from) they made my life hell as the more they told my ex the more he was abusive and tortured me (reason why I called it a day). When scorpio and I said goodbye these girls really kicked in with the torture. In my card I mentioned these girls (scorpio had never said he was involved and he didnt know where the stories were from either) wanted him to know I knew but didnt blame him over the stories - said something like these girls had come out of the woodwork and had given me a hard time but they didnt worry me any more. But guess what scorpio done over the weekend - he phoned the friend at my work - know this because oh yes she sent a message to my ex - who in turn asked me to explain what it meant - all I can say is that he obviously tried to justify our relationship so that she'd leave me be - I cant believe he done that (he must think she's a good person underneath but well she was just of the phone to scorpio when she sent the message to my ex and I know he will in time ask what the message meant and why she sent it) oh yes the sh*t is just about the hit the fan again! I cant understand why he phoned her as I told him in the card I had moved on from that crap that they no longer hurt me with their stories etc and probably that was the reason for the card - I'd moved on and wanted to correct any mistakes etc i'd made, put right any wrongs. Why did he phone her - if he didnt want to be friends well he could of just ignored the card! Help guys I think my heart has just broken into tiny little pieces, i've been trying not to cry this last 2 weeks but hey I've just failed! If I could only understand why well it might help - would be grateful for any insight to help me better understand.

Okay my dear, at this point from everything you've said, this guy no longer seems worth this trouble. You come across as intelligent, with a lot of common sense, while he is coming off very immature, with no common sense or even basic decency. I want you to really think about this: is he worth this much drama? Is he really? What do you stand to gain in the long run? You did the right thing with sending the card--don't think you made a mistake there. You had feelings which needed to be expressed, if for nothing else than your own well-being. He now knows where YOU are coming from, or SHOULD. Yet here's a bunch of weird drama. He is acting like he's in high school. Watch your back here. Something seems off about this guy and his methods. Please get back to us with your feelings, new developments...that sort of thing. Keep your eyes (and options) wide open in the meantime, until he actually makes something clear for once.

Thinking about ya...
Heather (phoenix_rising)

Hi Heather
Thanks for your response I must admit I'm feeling a lot better now than I was a week ago. I know it all seems quite a strange setup but having had a few days to think about it all I have came to this conclusion. Firstly I think he feels guilty about me getting hassle from these girls - I heard a day or so later that he had said the relationship we formed was down to him chasing me and that I had been an innocent bystander. Said that I hadnt known that he had previously been going out with the other girl. I think he knows that there is no-way (and especially with the hassle from my ex) that I could contend with these girls - I dont like to be hateful but the only word that springs to mind when I think of them is "bitch". He doesnt know I know he phoned I think he thought he was doing good. Secondly I think he knows how I feel about him and well he obviously doesnt want to go there again - and hey thats his choice. I think he feels it best to say nothing as there is no point in raising my hopes by saying hey we can be friends but knowing deep down I want more than that and he doesnt. So all in all its time to move on and to that I just wish it was easier.

Every time I read my horoscopes etc they always say things like dont give up on your dreams, listen and follow your heart - I only wish I could but well theres no point following my heart because to reach devine love it takes two hearts wanting the same. You can never be fulfilled when theres only one giving love. Thanks Heather for your views it really helps knowing there is someone there that cares and is interested. Bye H

I think I have finally pulled the bandaid off but well it doesnt really work! Wow you say didnt think it would but hopefully time will. Just wish thinks had worked out different but now I just have to face it and get on with life. Thanks for the posts guys your support helped! H