CINDERELLA!!

This thread is for you: Why Romantic Relationships Fail

1) Great Expectations Dashed

I don't know your whole story other than what you posted here, but, for what it's worth, remember this:
IF you look for problems and the negatives, you'll surely find them. - Everyone has flaws. What makes any and
all of us better is when we can overlook those flaws we see in our loved ones. IF we cannot do that, then we
cannot rise above our own limitations.

The one thing, I think, that causes break-ups, is that of disappointment caused by our own standards -
When you romantically love someone, you are setting that person up to a higher standard than you would a
friend or member of the family, than they can meet. You "raise the bar" and when they cannot meet your
expectations, they fail. Is that truly fair to your man? Is truly fair to you?

I think what I just described occurs on the subconscious level, and manifests itself when you go from
looking for those things that were good and positive, the things that caused you fall for your man, in the
first place, to searching for the bad and negative in that man and finding them and feeding the appetite
of disappointment, sorrow, and hate. In that day, you run from the same man you once ran to.
I think if you look inwardly and reflect all that went down and look at yourself, when it was you began to
"judge" him, you may find those flaws you see in him, may reflect flaws you loathe, deep down, within yourself.
Killing happiness and joy and replacing them with sorrow and anger.

Within every girl and every woman, there hides Cinderella, yearning for her Prince Charming.
My advice for Cinderella is not to chase off Prince Charming with obscenely unrealistically high standards
that no man can achieve, let alone maintain, forever, without the art of compromise.

Listen to this song several times, and reflect on what I said. You may find the missing page or two, somehow.

Real love = loving the flaws and all. It is accepting the negatives and admiring the strengths. We love the whole package, not just the parts of the package. So many fall for the fantasies of what could be, they don't get to "know" the real person.

Listening...