LilliLou
@LilliLou
12 Years1,000+ PostsScorpio
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Constructive strategies to help me get over him...
I've been over a number of Leos. They are addictive but when you break up and you can handle staying sane they will try to help you to get over them.
For me I go wacko.
If he says do you want me to contact you in a month, that's a well-meant help on their side. Usually I was able to talk things out with the Leo. But when I go whack, he will run fast and you will have to deal yourself with the breakup... Like get some heart liquor.. get some chick flicks..Bridget Johnes Diary, The Holiday, whichever works.. take a mental day.. Lie in be... Come to Exp and read other people's stories... whatever it takes. The following days ease on the liquor.. write a few more posts and then go on with your life
If he says do you want me to contact you in a month, that's a well-meant help on their side. Usually I was able to talk things out with the Leo. But when I go whack, he will run fast and you will have to deal yourself with the breakup... Like get some heart liquor.. get some chick flicks..Bridget Johnes Diary, The Holiday, whichever works.. take a mental day.. Lie in be... Come to Exp and read other people's stories... whatever it takes. The following days ease on the liquor.. write a few more posts and then go on with your life
This tablet keeps changing my spelling
Is there ANY sort of strategy to get over a break-up? Especially over a long-term one? Will always be a painful emotional time trip. 🙂 You just have to wait.
Think about broken marriages, about people getting divorced after 20, 30 or even 40 years of marriage and some kids involved. Maybe this would be a great strategy to sort out your priorities and emotional catastrophies: it can be way worse.
Wish you luck and get into a really happy, fulfilling relationship in the future.
Think about broken marriages, about people getting divorced after 20, 30 or even 40 years of marriage and some kids involved. Maybe this would be a great strategy to sort out your priorities and emotional catastrophies: it can be way worse.
Wish you luck and get into a really happy, fulfilling relationship in the future.
Posted by Grey
i am a leo and i will give you a head start. we hate scorpios and think they are pathetic sign. we don't believe the internet articles written by lame Scorpio women about how "mysterious" or "sexy" you are. we definitely don't believe you are powerful in any way.
Speak for your self. Don't use plural.
Posted by Grey
i am a leo and i will give you a head start. we hate scorpios and think they are pathetic sign. we don't believe the internet articles written by lame Scorpio women about how "mysterious" or "sexy" you are. we definitely don't believe you are powerful in any way.
Bless! I am loving the mental headbutt, thanks Grey... 😛
I have a plan to employ all strategies as mentioned above- mostly looking forward to the ones that can be accompanied by a nice big glass of wine (mulled wine perhaps, its snowing here today!).
And of course the sad songs;
And Grey you might not have the scorp addiction, but there are tonnes of Leo's (and vice versa) out there...
Add in the fact that I have a strong Aqua rising and the Taurus moon (triple fixed) and Leo men seem to find me no matter what!
I am rapidly coming to the opinion that I should just run as soon as I know a Leo birth date, but sometimes it is already too late!
Also in my plan is chocolate and some serious gym time... think they cancel each other out really, but I'm sure they'll both help... I think I am my own worst enemy somedays!
Movies: Steel Magnolias and Beaches- could I possibly be any more melodramatic?! 🙂
Add in the fact that I have a strong Aqua rising and the Taurus moon (triple fixed) and Leo men seem to find me no matter what!
I am rapidly coming to the opinion that I should just run as soon as I know a Leo birth date, but sometimes it is already too late!
Also in my plan is chocolate and some serious gym time... think they cancel each other out really, but I'm sure they'll both help... I think I am my own worst enemy somedays!
Movies: Steel Magnolias and Beaches- could I possibly be any more melodramatic?! 🙂
I broke up with my Virgo a few weeks ago (we are back together) BUT.. When we broke up I started I let go.. I did NOT lay in bed and cry all day - this will make u feel worse, I made sure I look good every day (this will boost ur confidence) I bought new clothes, I exercised and ate really well (this will also boost ur confidence) I spent most or my time with friends who didn't mind listening me blabber on about him and actually joined in on it and reminded me all the negatives about him, I went out and looked my absolute best and got drunk with friends! Because I was so busy I honestly began to start getting over him, do this!!!! It seriously works and let me know how u go
Sorry about the mistakes I literally just woke up and am still half asleep haha
Exercise and a healthy diet helps cure stress!!!!! When we broke up I had it in my head that I just wanted to make my body better then its ever been, this really helped
Posted by Grey
i am a leo and i will give you a head start. we hate scorpios and think they are pathetic sign. we don't believe the internet articles written by lame Scorpio women about how "mysterious" or "sexy" you are. we definitely don't believe you are powerful in any way.
Bullshit
Posted by IntriguedScorp
"All the world's a stage and we are just the players!" --Shakespeare.
A Leo told me that was his theme saying once. LOL So appropriate for Leo man.
Ha! Very funny! They just love being centre of attention! Mine is more of a watcher though- spider in the web, he'll wait quietly until he has your attention and then you're trapped...
Another old Leo flame was very much the social butterfly though. He is definitely the light hearted Leo, but would obsess in private later...
Posted by scorpio24
Exercise and a healthy diet helps cure stress!!!!! When we broke up I had it in my head that I just wanted to make my body better then its ever been, this really helped
I'm a bit of a fitness freak anyway so this is my usual MO... I absolutely need to hit the gym when I get stressed- typically work related- and have a pretty healthy diet. I'm not usually a sweet tooth but have recently discovered Lindt strawberry and orange filled chocolate- delicious, I'm transferring my obsessions!!!
I starting to look forward to 'getting over this' so far all tips/ techniques are pretty good 🙂
Posted by kalin
Change your number and cry your eyes out for as long as you need.
I was very sad when I broke up w my 2nd Leo bf. I cried every single night for 6 months. One day when I woke up I just didn't feel anything anymore.
You sound so sweet Kalin! I am NOT crying my eyes out for this man- I refuse to! That being said there have been a couple of woe-is-me moments.
I have the whole rollercoaster effect going on- mostly (70% ) am good... sometimes (20% ) I'm not sure what I am thinking/ feeling and the last 10% I am feeling glum.
I think I am moving past the true emotion of it into the hurt pride aspect.
I really want to get mad at him, but he is such a mess it is impossible for me! I have a strong will so am just going to try the no-contact rule and keep my head held high.
Posted by starlover
LOL i have just remembered a Leo guy i met for a couple of dates a few years ago......woooohooo he was so self obsessed i hardly got a word in edgeways. Lovely guy but totally over the top daaaaaaarrrling!!! He was an actor. He was very funny ~ in small doses. Bless him
He took me to a castle and started to recite Shakespeare to me whilst running around the gardens lol. When he dropped me off to my car, he danced the whole length of the car park to the song Ashes to Ashes by David Bowie which was playing in my car. totally hilarious he was
😄
Too cute! Don't they love to quote poetry- my Leo's was Robert Browning (sex, lies and videotapes the Victorian way)
My other Leo was a self described "fashion executive" and most people thought he was more than a little metro and or gay. Totally straight of course, and didn't have the slightest concern with how people perceived him. He once ordered 6 pairs of canvas sneakers from ASOS- basically identical except the colours and then proceeded to tell me which outfits each pair went with!
Such a fun, lovely man though 🙂
Kalin, it's been a pretty drawn out process- he won't give me what I want/ need (largely as he is in a bad place himself at the moment) but he won't completely let me go either.
I have a lot of libra in my chart and I think the balance is tipping my way (finally) and that I'll be able to make the break and stick to it this time... I am so sick of wondering what he is thinking/ if he is going to get himself sorted.
Got to take control and live my life rather than waiting in the wings for him!
p.s. next post is likely to be from the 10% sad place!
I have a lot of libra in my chart and I think the balance is tipping my way (finally) and that I'll be able to make the break and stick to it this time... I am so sick of wondering what he is thinking/ if he is going to get himself sorted.
Got to take control and live my life rather than waiting in the wings for him!
p.s. next post is likely to be from the 10% sad place!
Posted by kalin
lol I have lots of Libra in my chart too, but I guess my scorpio sun overpowered the rest lol
My most recently Leo ex is not letting me go either. He may get married the end of the year, but he's trying to string me along for as long as he can... I still love him so I'm in a dilemma now. I'm not sure if I should enjoy all the good times between now and the day he's married, or I should just cut him off like, NOW.
PS. We are not having sex. We just talk online like 4-5 days a week and hang out about once a week. He takes me out for dinner, movie, etc. I know it's unhealthy, even if we don't have sex. I'm just afraid that I will never see him again after he's married so I let him see me as much as he wants/can, just for now...
I guess I will have to come back to your post in 6 months, when he's married, and follow all the tips people sharing with you here lol
It is so blooming hard! And in another way you are doing better than I was by not sleeping with him. But there is still the fact that while we are attached to these guys that there is no room for anyone else. Who knows what wonderful opportunities we are blind to while waiting for these men?
I've been told good intentions are only good as long as they are backed up by good behaviour... I'm working on it! But it's hard at times.
Perhaps try spacing out the contact with your ex... Wean yourself off slowly but determinedly. Then if he doesn't have your constant attention he might decide on this marriage (one way or another) and maybe realise how much you mean to him/ he needs you. From my experience with Leo's they want you more when they can't have you and only know what they want AFTER it's gone.
Posted by LilliLou
Kalin, it's been a pretty drawn out process- he won't give me what I want/ need (largely as he is in a bad place himself at the moment) but he won't completely let me go either.
I have a lot of libra in my chart and I think the balance is tipping my way (finally) and that I'll be able to make the break and stick to it this time... I am so sick of wondering what he is thinking/ if he is going to get himself sorted.
Got to take control and live my life rather than waiting in the wings for him!
p.s. next post is likely to be from the 10% sad place!
We share same planets: Sun Scorp, Moon Taurus, Venus Libra.
I've been through similar yesterday. Finally made the break.
Posted by kalin
lol I have lots of Libra in my chart too, but I guess my scorpio sun overpowered the rest lol
My most recently Leo ex is not letting me go either. He may get married the end of the year, but he's trying to string me along for as long as he can... I still love him so I'm in a dilemma now. I'm not sure if I should enjoy all the good times between now and the day he's married, or I should just cut him off like, NOW.
PS. We are not having sex. We just talk online like 4-5 days a week and hang out about once a week. He takes me out for dinner, movie, etc. I know it's unhealthy, even if we don't have sex. I'm just afraid that I will never see him again after he's married so I let him see me as much as he wants/can, just for now...
I guess I will have to come back to your post in 6 months, when he's married, and follow all the tips people sharing with you here lol
OMG... I know how you feel.
Will recommend watching "The Holiday" by Nancy Meyers. I told the Leo to watch it and said, 'YOU are Jasper. The guy who would not let go of Iris (Kate Winslet). ...
it's therapeutic.
Put all of his shit in his car, set it on fire, while smoking a cigarette and listening to the Waiting To Exhale Soundtrack—?
Posted by FUMPosted by LilliLou
Kalin, it's been a pretty drawn out process- he won't give me what I want/ need (largely as he is in a bad place himself at the moment) but he won't completely let me go either.
I have a lot of libra in my chart and I think the balance is tipping my way (finally) and that I'll be able to make the break and stick to it this time... I am so sick of wondering what he is thinking/ if he is going to get himself sorted.
Got to take control and live my life rather than waiting in the wings for him!
p.s. next post is likely to be from the 10% sad place!
We share same planets: Sun Scorp, Moon Taurus, Venus Libra.
I've been through similar yesterday. Finally made the break.click to expand
Good luck FUM!
I didn't do so well last night after a few too many wines with the girls... Broke my no contact rule, but only a little one and was only a message so that might be a partial victory!
The good news is that I have a hangover as punishment!
Such a slow learner...
So Kalin, you have to do better and keep yours wondering!!!
Posted by heliumfiasco
Put all of his shit in his car, set it on fire, while smoking a cigarette and listening to the Waiting To Exhale Soundtrack—?
This ^
Do it legal, but yeah--
Set it all alight, have a ciggy, and watch it burn-- though I would recommend something quick and dirty by the Misfits (covers ok). 😉
Whatever works-- lol.
🙂
Posted by MontgomeryPosted by heliumfiasco
Put all of his shit in his car, set it on fire, while smoking a cigarette and listening to the Waiting To Exhale Soundtrack—?
This ^
Do it legal, but yeah--
Set it all alight, have a ciggy, and watch it burn-- though I would recommend something quick and dirty by the Misfits (covers ok). 😉
Whatever works-- lol.
🙂
click to expand
He would actually cry if I torched his car- its more his baby than I ever was!!!
(Hmm... actually getting quite tempted!)
Leo usually responds. It's OK to break the silence and reach out. I've done it too. The breakup was lingering over a 2-week period. And then 2 days ago I dropped the bomb.
Will give you another way for getting over him. I've done it last night and it worked like charm. I've been in a dating chatroom. Amazing feeling to get hit by several guys and then they start competing for you. Feels like I had mind sex. Of course, careful not to go into sex talk. Just collect the compliments and their attentive interest.
Will give you another way for getting over him. I've done it last night and it worked like charm. I've been in a dating chatroom. Amazing feeling to get hit by several guys and then they start competing for you. Feels like I had mind sex. Of course, careful not to go into sex talk. Just collect the compliments and their attentive interest.
Posted by FUM
Leo usually responds. It's OK to break the silence and reach out. I've done it too. The breakup was lingering over a 2-week period. And then 2 days ago I dropped the bomb.
Will give you another way for getting over him. I've done it last night and it worked like charm. I've been in a dating chatroom. Amazing feeling to get hit by several guys and then they start competing for you. Feels like I had mind sex. Of course, careful not to go into sex talk. Just collect the compliments and their attentive interest.
I know I am going to slip up from time to time- its just being human I suppose- and I just like you FUM there is a whole lot of fixed and libra in my chart... don't let go easily, and can always see the other side of the story therefore cannot get super angry.
I've tried internet dating before and that was just awful! To begin with I loved the attention and compliments but then it got a bit grim and shallow. Perhaps there is a lack of decent guys where I am, and a dating chatroom might be more interesting... But in a little bit perhaps?
Its a bit terrible to admit it but there is a Cap who has carried a torch for 10 years. He lives in another country so there is nothing beyond emails. But he has been a balm for the wounded pride and keeps in touch, asking how I am. I know its perhaps a bit self serving to let him prop me up in this way, but I really do value his friendship and what girl is immune to lots of lovely and harmless flattery—
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