Controlling the negative side

Lately I have been so bitter towards men, most specifically my ex and a close friend of mine.
I don't like this side of me but it is so consuming. I find myself plotting ways to hurt them (not physically).

How do I get a grip and reign in those negative Scorpio qualifies.

I know that I am hurting myself more than anyone by dwelling on the negative. It is just consuming me. My obsessive, vengeful side is out in full force.

Posted by Stefanie87
Lately I have been so bitter towards men, most specifically my ex and a close friend of mine.
I don't like this side of me but it is so consuming. I find myself plotting ways to hurt them (not physically).

How do I get a grip and reign in those negative Scorpio qualifies.

Meh. If you haven't actually acted on your thoughts, guess what? You're "reining" it in. That's as good as it's gonna get as a human being---Scorp, Bull, Ram---whatever the sign, so embrace it and keep going.

Everyone has negative thoughts. Most do not act on them. You're fine. I don't even know what negative "Scorp qualities" are because frankly I've seen all of the traits often assigned to Scorps in other signs as well. I love how they blame whatever tiny spec of Scorp energy they have in their chart to be the cause though. I digress....

Now if you want to resolve the butt hurt, figure out how it serves you. You're holding onto this anger towards men because it serves some purpose. It's probably not productive, but it still serves a purpose. When you figure that out you can transfer it to something else and move on.

No, I haven't acted on anything. I'm just mean to them verbally. Time is probably the only healer.

Posted by Stefanie87
No, I haven't acted on anything. I'm just mean to them verbally. Time is probably the only healer.

The only time I become verbally cruel is when I myself am hurt. You are probably feeling hurt too, IMO, I could be wrong.. The go to thought process is to lash out as a defense mechanism but it doesn't cure the deeper issue.

Realize you're hurt and find out why for greater understanding? Ask yourself, " what upset you the most" and start there.

I am hurt to the bottom of my soul and I know that's why I'm being like this.
I really don't like this bitter person that I am turning into. I see it, I acknowledge it, now I have to change it. Thats the hard part. I say that I won't be like this but then I start stewing and just go off.

Posted by Stefanie87
I am hurt to the bottom of my soul and I know that's why I'm being like this.
I really don't like this bitter person that I am turning into. I see it, I acknowledge it, now I have to change it. Thats the hard part. I say that I won't be like this but then I start stewing and just go off.

Recognize your thought process when that starts occurring. Do it consciously. At the least you can say this, you notice it : )