Crushing On An Aquarius Real Bad

Does anyone know about the relationship between a Scorpio and Aquarius? I know it's supposed to be steamy and intenmse but how about the long term? I've developed a serious crush on a male co-worker. I jsut found out he was born February 9th. He would always flirt with me but I would be very dismissive of me- until yesterday when he gave me a back rub. His big strong hands made me crush on him real bad. I actually think Scorpios and Aquarians get along VERY well. Aquarians are one of the few signs who don't hate on Scorpios all the time. But according to astrologists this match doesn't work well. However, I've always thought highly of Aquarians. They're so friendly and open and warm hearted. I've never had problems with Aquarians. So, any insight on Aquarians and Scorpios as couples?

My first love was an aquarius we got along for the most part but when we would argue it would get heated and neither of us would back down, I guess this is cause we are both fixed signs. We actually dated for about 7years and he got me my first car and taught me how to drive and he would do whateva he could to take care of me. We were young though I meet him when I was 15 so we also move together and got a house when I was 19 so we grow up together and learned a lot together. We only broke up because he was hanging with the wrong crowd and went to bootcamp, and I found out he was talking to another girl so I move on and when he got out he we tried to make it work it lasted for like two weeks but the trust was gone by then.

I'm currently with an aqua and what Caribbeangold said is true. As friends, aqua and scorp get along great but I think in terms of a romantic relationship...your patience will be tested and it becomes a lot different. The only advice I can give is to make sure your life doesn't become about him and that you got your own stuff going on. The reason I say this is because there may be times he will act distant, cancel plans, or disappear on you for a bit. As long as you don't take these things as him not being interested and get all emotionally worked up you should be fine...hence why you need your own life away from him.

I know for my aqua, he likes that I adore him and want him...but that I also don't need him either. Another thing, they don't like talking about their feelings but love to hear how you feel about them. I've been dating mine for about 5 months now and he's only told me he liked me once...but his actions are what reassure me the most.

This is the kind of thing that makes me want to spit on astrology. I am obviously aqua and was 'seeing' a scorp. I was oozing emotions, i was as open as a 24 hour convenience store, i wrote poetry, proved my devotion and loyalty even according to him. It was him tjat was distant and aloof. It was him that had a hard time talking about feelings.

Yeah, Im still hurting. My only point is dont expect the worst. Instead, bring your best and see what happens.

Posted by caribbeangold
meh

i think the initial attraction is both are fixed signs and they square
emotional-in tune with feelings scorpio feels attracted by the aloofness of the aqua
then, scorp gets tired and annoyed of aqua because he is too distant and aloof, his feelings are very airy
scorp wonders why aqua cant understand her feelings, why does he act as if nothing is a big deal? so carefree?
and everything does downhill from there
mentally, yes...both can be very intellectual

but i think aqua woman does better with scorp man than the other way around

THIS. Can't stand 'em.

I've been seeing my 28yr old Aquarius for about 4 months now, while he's not the type to always say "I like you, you were on my mind,etc." He is the type to call daily, make dating plans, fix things around my house. We laugh about how alike we are, but yet how different our personalities can be. (He says he's the ying to my yang. Lol.) I think that since his b-day is Feb 16 closer to March, he has some Pisces influence. He is far from aloof. He very affectionate. He does not like talking about his feelings alot though, but I chalked that up to him being "manly". Lol.
There's only one problem I have with him so far- We spend every weekend together (we live an hour apart so weekdays are difficult because of work), hangout with each other's friends, we leave clothes at each other's house, he said he wants us to have a baby in the next couple of years, where we should live in the future, etc. (All things people do/say if they are in a committed relationship or looking for one, in my opinion). So, things seem to be going very well EXCEPT he's being slow to make it "exclusive". I am a very decisive person- so I've made up my mind that I only want to date/sleep with him, he says that he isn't seeing/sleeping with anyone else, but he thinks it's too early to be a couple. He says that he wants more time to get to know me. This sounds like a crock of sh*t to me. I feel like as much time as we spend together, he should be ready to decide. I'm debating whether to give him another month or so because after 5 months how can one not know if you want to be exclusive?? I definitely don't want to waste my time if he's not looking for a relationship, and he's just saying the things he thinks I want to here until he finds someone else. Right now I feel he's having his cake (getting the perks of a relationship without the commitment) or am I being irrational and it takes more time to decide for some? Any thoughts?

Posted by Shadows
This is the kind of thing that makes me want to spit on astrology. I am obviously aqua and was 'seeing' a scorp. I was oozing emotions, i was as open as a 24 hour convenience store, i wrote poetry, proved my devotion and loyalty even according to him. It was him tjat was distant and aloof. It was him that had a hard time talking about feelings.

Yeah, Im still hurting. My only point is dont expect the worst. Instead, bring your best and see what happens.

i did the same thing! it was him that was aloof and too afraid to speak up

It can work very well. It just depends on whether or not both people want the relationship.

Posted by caribbeangold
meh

i think the initial attraction is both are fixed signs and they square
emotional-in tune with feelings scorpio feels attracted by the aloofness of the aqua
then, scorp gets tired and annoyed of aqua because he is too distant and aloof, his feelings are very airy
scorp wonders why aqua cant understand her feelings, why does he act as if nothing is a big deal? so carefree?
and everything does downhill from there
mentally, yes...both can be very intellectual

but i think aqua woman does better with scorp man than the other way around

Oh my gosh. You're hitting the nail right on the head! Mr. Aquarius is acting just as you described. One day he's still flirting with me, asking me for hugs, kissing me on the cheek and the next day he's barely speaking to me, very distant and unresponsive and weird.

Thankd for all of the comments, folks! Most of what you guys are sying is spot on. I left Mr. Aquarius a note with my phone number on it at his desk. He hasn't called yet. If he doesn't call me over the weekend I'll be crushed and will get back at him on Monday. Oh, goodness, I'm already plotting revenge on this poor man! LOL!

Flashforward to the present...My Aquarius and I (the Scorpio) are now exclusive. I just said to him one day- "We've been seeing each other for over 6 months, do you want us to be exclusive or do you want us to date and have sex with other people?" He stared at me for a minute or so then said "No, I definitely don't want us to see or have sex with other people." Then I said, "Are you sure? If you're not ready for exclusivity then we can be friends so you can date whomever you want." He looked at me like I was crazy and gave me a big kiss.
It's nice dating someone that calls regularly, shows interest in seeing me, and talks about the future and includes me in his plans. Our relationship is full of laughter, fun times, affection, and great sex. I've definitely fallen for him. I told him I love him, but he said that he isn't ready to say "it" yet, but he can see himself in love with me. Lol. This is no big deal to me because, as I told him, I don't want him to say it until he feels ready. (SN: His last girlfriend cheated on him so he says he wants to be sure about the next woman he loves.) It'll be interesting to see where this relationship goes. Regardless of what the future holds, I'm going to enjoy this one to the fullest. :-)

I am a sexy scorp in love with an aqua man and his aloofness gets me very jealous and if he doesn't give me compliments then I get very angry. If he goes out with his friends than I want to get revenge and go party harder. It's difficult to be in this relationship but I love him. We have a long distance relationship and I get phyco because I always need his security

Posted by scorpemoon7
I am a sexy scorp in love with an aqua man and his aloofness gets me very jealous and if he doesn't give me compliments then I get very angry. If he goes out with his friends than I want to get revenge and go party harder. It's difficult to be in this relationship but I love him. We have a long distance relationship and I get phyco because I always need his security

Alot of Scorpios feel like this while dating an Aquarius I imagine. We love to know what our significant other is doing. The key is to have your own life because they are very independent. I do my own thing, and don't sit around waiting on him to call, and call he does. When I want to spend time with him I let him know and vice versa. He tells me that Aquarius' are aloof, but you'll know their into you from their actions...They will want to spend time with you (and not just in the bedroom), call, etc. Even if they don't tell you they love you a million times a day. They move at a pace they are comfortable with, but we just have to make sure that we don't let them get away with neglecting us. If you ever have a problem with his actions, tell him straight up. They respect that more than playing games. Then, if he's not doing what you need him to do after you have expressed your needs/wants then he needs to go.

Thanks @rejuvenatedgoddess I'm horrible I love to get him jealous when I go out then he always blows up my phone and freaks out. I love to look extra sexy when I go out so he can know he's lucky to even have me. It's my vengeful scorp ways lol

Scorpemoon7, yes I definitely dress up extra sexy when I'm going out with my friends or when we're going out together...He won't admit it, but he gets jealous. (I just laugh on the inside at his facial expressions...He tries to play it so cool. Lol.) You have to remind them of what they have at home. I think we Scorpios shouldn't let our emotions rule our behavior so much, we have to be logical and pay attention to their actions not just what they say.

SassyVirgo, I have to admit I'm expressive with my feelings as long as they have shown they deserve it, but male Scorpios may be less in touch with their emotions. Men! Go figure. Lol. Anyone can "say" they love you, but it's the way they treat you that really shows if their feelings are genuine.
I think my Aquarius and I are going at a steady pace these past 8 months. I'm very happy. My one concern is that he feels that he needs to be friends with alot of his Ex's. That doesn't bother me too much, because I keep in touch with my Ex's, but the ones that act like they still have feelings for him, I told him have got to go! Lol. My Scorpio ass won't tolerate that foolishness. Overall, this is my first Aquarius relationship so we shall see. I go by the motto: "Live" in the now and enjoy the moment, "love" like you've never been hurt, "laugh" every chance you get.

My parents had a long commited relationship of this combo.

My Aqua is not very aloof or cold. He's hot-blooded for sure. He's very affectionate, even in public. He won't verbally express his feelings easily, but when I ask him how do you feel about me, etc., he tells me straight up- I care about you, you're my girl and I don't want us to see other people, etc. He use to clam up when we had a disagreement and want to be alone, but now he tries to communicate which he said is hard for him. The effort alone is admirable to me because I know communication is difficult for a lot of people. In this relationship I feel loved and appreciated, and I try to give that back to him. I've never done our charts, but it would be interesting to see.

Posted by starlover
Re the former poster's comment about committed relationship....my mother and father
were of the same generation....i since found out that lots of people who stayed and
saw it out, werent necessarily happy...more a case of having to i was told

Sad. but true 😢

I take it that I'm the former poster.

My parents relationship cannot be valued by you, and what you have found out by other people has only to do with those people.

Your comments about the relationship of my parents, based off of other people's relationships are null and void.


Get your own life.

My only problem with my scorp is not the arguing or wanting me to be all his but that he needs a lot emotionally but wants to play the big guy role too. I don't mind as much because I like to be dominated lol just as long as he knows im still boss of my own life no matter how far this love of ours grows. As an aqua we are aloof and detached but it doesn't mean we don't care or love you any different. We just show it differently. Were very loyal and trusting which I think is perfect for scorpios. The one thing about aquas is we do get bored easily... In other words if you don't appreciate us or our love we do wander. Not meaning we cheat but well let you know its not working. Atleast that's what I do. But they say once a Scorpio loves he never stops so I think that's a good match too.

The arguing... Well with my ex scorp I thought he was dumb and self centered. He was so black and white about everything and I like my gray areas. If I didn't agree with him it was an argument. N yea I didn't give in to him either. My scorp now is really smart and I trust what he says and does. He also listens to me and what I have to say. Even if he doesnt agree he doesn't make me feel stupid about it. We have had our arguments but not that much.

So in the end... It will work if you both want it too and you let eachother b who you are.

ScorpeMoo7


Lol you sound just like me. But then again I think it has to do with the maturity of the Male Aqua. The Aqua I was seeing was awful. Dealing with that person has altered my personality. Im alot less tolerant to any type of BS because the Aqua male put me through so much hurt and pain.

But Why do thy lie so much for no reason?

Posted by scorpemoon7
Thanks @rejuvenatedgoddess I'm horrible I love to get him jealous when I go out then he always blows up my phone and freaks out. I love to look extra sexy when I go out so he can know he's lucky to even have me. It's my vengeful scorp ways lol

OMG SHE SOUNDS JUST LIKE ME... LOL EXACTLY

Posted by rejuvenatedgoddess
Scorpemoon7, yes I definitely dress up extra sexy when I'm going out with my friends or when we're going out together...He won't admit it, but he gets jealous. (I just laugh on the inside at his facial expressions...He tries to play it so cool. Lol.) You have to remind them of what they have at home. I think we Scorpios shouldn't let our emotions rule our behavior so much, we have to be logical and pay attention to their actions not just what they say.

SassyVirgo, I have to admit I'm expressive with my feelings as long as they have shown they deserve it, but male Scorpios may be less in touch with their emotions. Men! Go figure. Lol. Anyone can "say" they love you, but it's the way they treat you that really shows if their feelings are genuine.
I think my Aquarius and I are going at a steady pace these past 8 months. I'm very happy. My one concern is that he feels that he needs to be friends with alot of his Ex's. That doesn't bother me too much, because I keep in touch with my Ex's, but the ones that act like they still have feelings for him, I told him have got to go! Lol. My Scorpio ass won't tolerate that foolishness. Overall, this is my first Aquarius relationship so we shall see. I go by the motto: "Live" in the now and enjoy the moment, "love" like you've never been hurt, "laugh" every chance you get.

Giiiiirrrrrl!
Make sure you follow up and really find out if him and those exes who seem a lil too friendly still have really cut off ties. Im telling you I had a sitution happen and that zodiac will try and get way with alot if you dont put ur foot down OFF TOP! So investigate and make sure with out him knowing... but find out for real if he cut ties with them cause they can be sneaky but sloppy LOL