Ex Cap Shows Up Unannounced to Confess His Love

I am laying on my couch chillin when there is a knock at my door, who is it no on says anything so I say again and I heard his name. I got up open the door and to my surprise there he was. And the Convo when like this:

Me: Well hello
Him: Hi
Me: You are here because?
Him: I was on my way home and I saw your car so I decided to stop by
Me: Anddddddd you could not call?
Him: I forgot your number I only remember the last 4 Lie)
Me: Again you are here because?
Him: Are you home alone? Is your bf here?, Are married?
Me: Yes I am home alone, I don't have a bf, and no I am not married? Are you marreid?
Him: I am getting married(Lie)
Me: You getting married, well damn she must be the bomb, it has only been a year since we stop seeing each other and 1 yr later you are getting married, I find that hard to believe, one, you are to cautious and 2 you don't trust easy, I don't believe it...let me see the ring, I looked that ring and said "I seen that ring before" he said nothing.

Him: You know what we had was special, sitting at the table, talking laughing, eating, playing cards, and making love until late in the night, really meant a lot to me, dispite what our mutual friends might think, the feeling that you given me I have never had no one make me feel the way you did, I have never had no one make love to me the way you do
Me: I started laughing (having a backflash moment)
Him: Why you laughing?
Me: oh no I am laughing because I was thinking about it felt good I had to laugh
Me: And you love me
Him: Yes I love you
Me: wellI thank you that makes me feel good
Me: well I never stop loving you even thought you never believe me, that is why I find it hard that you are getting married. And when is the big day
Him: This weekend (lie)
Him: Come here Hug me
Him: You been thinking about me
Me: yea I think about you alot, hell I wrote you 4 letter (he starts to look around for them) I don't have them? where are they? I shredded them, why? because I could not give them to you. He then began to look funny.

So I say, So you are over here to bring some closure?
Him: Yes (lie)
Me: ok, well you know I thought I was going to be upset or mad at seeing you or hearing that you are going to get married but I am not I feel good and I am very happy for you. " I walk to him and put both my hands on the sides of his face and tell him I wish him well.

Him: Can I touch you
Me: why? you can't do that you are getting married that would not be right and I am not going to let you bring up old wounds and then walk out my door and I never hear from you again.

I told him that when I decided to walk away you agreed with me and if you did not want that then you should not have let me walk away he then starts to talk about how him and I had to much going on that is why he let me walk. Then I said well if you want this then you need to get it back but then again you are getting married so that won't happen. I tell you what if things don't work out in your marriage and I am still available then call me.


He begin to sigh like I am frustrating him and then we stood toe to toe looking into each others eyes and I'm not moving he's not moving we are staring each other in the eye I tell him here is your stuff, I wish you well and take care of yourself.

Then he did one more sigh and I opened the door and he was walking down the stairs and looking up at me and he said again I love you.

Have I called him yet? NO
Am I gonna call him? NO

He wants me he needs to come and get me. I can't do all the work no more.

I also posted this on the Cap board. LOL

Good Grief...

Love is so damn confusing. Why would he lie and say he was getting married though? How long were you guys together prior to breaking up?

Man...you know. Life is rough. Love hurts and people play to many games. He should have just "man" up and said "Boo, I miss you and I love you" Can we work this thing out.

Nah that's too much like right and confessing those feelings.

Men make me sick sometimes.

Karima

We dated for a year and a half and just when he was to go MIA, I walked away...and that was 10 months ago.

I just needed him tell me how he feels about me because he never did I would ask if you still like me and he would shyly say yes my feeings has not changed.

I already knew, He loved me, but he needed to say it.

Hell I don't even want to start on the Virgo that confess his love...I am seriously thinking about ditching him for good.

SL,

Do you think this was a subtle way of him telling you he wants to marry you? I know that sounds strange, but since you know he's lying about getting married, i.e.: you've seen the ring before, he was all humble, coming begging, etc. I'm just wondering if he was testing the waters to see if you would take him back by his telling you he was getting married (meaning to you...if you have him) and would give you a clue as how much he wants you back.

Just my thoughts...

I don't know PF I have not thought about it, and if that is the case then he needs to find a better way to ask me LOL....This happened on Friday and I have not intentions on calling him so I will never know. LOL

Don't you think that is a fucked up way to ask someone.

I agree with Pathfinder..you know how these guys always talk indirectly. So his lie about marriage maybe implying he wants to marry you without having to say it directly..god what a wimp!..

When I was reading your post, I thought at the end of it, he would've proposed.

Yeah, it is a 'ed way to ask' you, but you came on so strong at the door, and he was all sheepish b/c he knows he didn't do you right, you probably scared the hell out of him (LOL) after all, caps HATE to be embarrassed, and the little pride he had just wilted ::smile:: and I thought just like MM, I was reading your post so fast b/c I thought at the end he would have proposed to you, (or you reconciled and got back together). It was leading up to this big finale! You'll probably hear from him again when his pride heals.

it's like they take one step forward and two steps backward.

It just sounds to me like he came by for one last booty call before he gets married. He is gonna miss it, but he doesnt love it. If he really loved you, you would have heard from him by now and he wouldnt be telling you he is marrying someone else. what makes you think all of that was a lie? YOu told him he could have you if he wanted you and he left.

Destinyschild

I don't beleive that he got married, a capricorn is not going to just jump up and married, they don't trust easy and it takes a long time for them trust someone especially a women, they need to know they are making the right decision. This man is 46 years old I don't see it. He is to stuck in is ways he would not do it in 10 months unless he got caught up in something. I even had a gf tell me told a lie like that.

I also don't believe that he just came by for a booty call. He came over because he finally got the courage to tell me and I just happened to be home from work the day he got that courage.

I did not mention this but he was drunk and hell...so that tells me he was trying to get some confidence and like Pathfinder said, "you probably scared the hell out of him (LOL) after all, caps HATE to be embarrassed, and the little pride he had just wilted" and "It was leading up to this big finale! You'll probably hear from him again when his pride heals". is what I believe.

He also told me that he takes shortcuts home via where I live..which tells me he is checking for my car each time he rides by.

In a nutshell, he would have to come across a little better then this to get into my pants...because I am not like most the women on these boards..I am not going to go for their games. Had I slept with him I would not have heard from him again. Marriage was just a decoy to get my emotions stirred up but that did not work.



Peace.

scorpionlady: I am glad that you are being true to your principles and wont sleep with him. He needs to "man up" and be good to you first. Dont settle for these games. I wish you much luck with this relationship.

p.s. I am scorp sun as well with scorp rising and mercury. stay strong.

I liked that username: Destinyschild..how apt for a scorpio..

emeraldgem-

Don't take that comment the wrong way. LOL

Not to put anyone down but damn I have watch some women on these boards damn near ready to fall apart behind these types of men, and I would rather walk away to maintain my dignity is all that I am saying, Somethings are not worth the headache,pain or mental strain, not even a man.
That's my story and I am sticking to it. LOL


destiny-

This has been over for almost a year....he just showed up one day.

Lord only knows what makes a guy act like this. It seems to be the number one problem that folks on DXP complain about. But if a girl/woman waits until her heart tells her it's "right" to be intimate, then she cant go wrong. when you feel that moment of hesitation, that's your heart/intuition telling you it's wrong.

p.s. I had this guy friend who was just off the hook gorgeous but much younger than myself. He came over to my house to hang out and the chemistry was too much to handle and he made the move on me. I knew that no relationship would come of it, so I told him flat out, that if he wanted to have sex, I would be happy to make him my boy toy. guess what he did........nothing. when I put it to him like that, he didnt want to go thru with what one minute before he was practically begging for.....so go figure. Seems as though they like having sex with us without a relationship/commitment, but if we try to do it to them...forget it.