Question?

i am dating this scorp guy..as everyone knows...well he told me he has a girlfriend out of the blue. For some reason I dont believe him...and let me tell you why. He calls me all the time even from home. He goes to sleep with me on the phone. We see each other practically everyday. Then last night he was sick so he called me and ask me what medicine he should get for his cold. told me he ws at the store shopping for medicine. When he calls me he tells me he's cooking and ironing for himself. He calls me and ask me what should he wear. I figured if he had a live in girlfriend shouldnt she be doing these things for him? I think he told me this to put up a barrier because he dont want to go to far with me right now...am I right?

What conversation were you having at the time? How long have you been together? He seems quite attached to you. Maybe he did that to put a distance between you two like you said...very bizarre for him to suddenly declare that he has a girlfriend...I doubt she would be live in if he's calling you all hours of the day!..How has he been behaving ever since he told you? What have you been doing since his declaration?

well we only been dating for like a month...i am so crazy about him because he is very intellectual and has everything going for him. Our conversation are always about work and play. He likes to party and so do I. We have dinner 2 or 3 times a week. But I dont know. Im very confused. I think he may have a girlfriend but maybe hes not happy with her because normally Scorpio men are faithful. If they love you they are only going to be with you. Maybe they have financial thing together? I dont know but I want to persue this relationship. I am not hounding him or anything..i still do my own thing but I like him very much. Should I just take it slow and let just nature take its course? I want to ask him about her but I didnt want to pry...I know people have lives before they meet other people.

i just want to know why he told me there is no one....like for instance he did tell me he had a roommate..then all of a sudden he tells me its his girlfriend. To be honest it did make me feel bad.

ermm....to be perfectly honest and rudely blunt,I think your out of it and tipping towards stupid if you still want to be with him.Cheating dogs come in all starsigns,scorpios have nothing to do with it and probably works on you when she's working(since he cooks and cleans himself,VERY possible she works and they decided to take care of thier own).Plus aside from successfully cheating on his girlfriend,he's also lied to you for a month now also,looking for excuses for him isn't going to change anything for a more positive image of things.People have lives before they meet new people sure but not through cheating when you want success in a relationship.

I would ask him straight out what his game is. Why did he suddenly need to declare he had a girlfriend..Be all calm about it..make him feel stupid.

thanks for your advice..whether its harsh...i am a firm believer of the truth. Yes he has been playing me and Im glad I found out before its too late. Now I have to grasp this situation and moved on.

Gosh some of these men are total jerks!

i wonder why it hurt so much when ive only been dating him for a month?

you are so right missmorals I wonder why it hurt so much when ive only been dating him for a month?

Because they come on sooooooooooooooooo strong and then they back off and your left wondering whether there was anything there..

I am just baffled he told you straight out..he could've carried on cheating if he wanted..you probably wouldn't have ever known..Hmmm..whatever the case, you move on..there are nicer scorps out there..

believe it or not he wanted to keep seeing me...but i decided to call it quits. I did enjoy his friendship but when feelings are so intense its better not to even be that. Just hearing about another girl in our conversation is sickening. I wondered the same thing as to how he came flat out and told me. But today he told me he was in prison for about 3 years and she was there for him the entire time. Told me he had money and a home and she held it down for him until he return home. State she couldve ran off with everything but she didnt. I mean I couldnt blame him for not wanting to leave her. Knowing him you wouldnt think he ever been to prison. But I guess he has a certain obligation.He was trying to create a safe way of cheating..you know by not getting too close to anyone else. He told me he wasnt leaving so I guess I can appreciate the honesty. But Im mad as hell at myself for even getting involved and not knowing from the beginning.

Dward: Sorry your having to go through this 😢

"I did enjoy his friendship but when feelings are so intense its better not to even be that"

Very true..because the only person hurting will be you..

"today he told me he was in prison for about 3 years and she was there for him the entire time. Told me he had money and a home and she held it down for him until he return home. State she couldve ran off with everything but she didnt"

Maybe he thinks he owes it to her to stay with her. I will give you an example..My brother and his girlfriend never had a solid relationship. He cheated on her so many times but she has always been there for him..through thick and thin..Recently he went through a really bad patch and again she was there for him..He feels now that he owes it to her to stay with her..but I know once this bad patch is over..he'll go astray again..So in this situation I think the reason he wanted to still continue seeing you was because he may owe his girlfriend a lot, but he certainly doesn't have many feelings for her..I don't want to raise your hopes or anything..just giving an example..

"But Im mad as hell at myself for even getting involved and not knowing from the beginning"

I wouldn't beat yourself up about this..You weren't to know..how can we ever know..We only have our own judgements to go by and obviously what the other person tells us..And believe me Scorps can be pretty damn convincing when they want to be..At least he told you..I know that doesn't help much at this moment in time..

I have a feeling this isn't the end..

so miss morals...being a scorp and all...how would you handle the situation from this day forward?.. I meanI want to totally end it but as side of me still wants him. Man I hate that! Thanks for being such a good listener as well as advisor. Its really making me feel better

In situations like this, we tend to latch onto anyone that offers us some kind of light at the end of the tunnel/hope..and I sincerely hope I am not giving you false hope..but the way I am seeing it is..that for a month, he may have been testing your loyality, friendship, building a trust etc..at the end of it, when he realised you were a good person, he felt the need to tell you all this. I mean, come on the dude has been to prison, hardly something you shout from the rooftops is it..and he told you about this girl..if he was a grade A cheater, he would've carried on..there wasn't any point telling you..he knows what your reaction would be..same as any other woman in this situation..I am hoping the prison story is a legit one..

His actions (i.e calling you all hours of the day, asking you such intimate questions, sharing part of his life with you etc) say that he thought a lot of you..He offered you an explanation too...

I would be royally pissed off to tell you the truth and cut off all communication from this day forward..When I said I have a feeling this isn't the end..I meant, he may come back given the space and time to think about his current situation with the other chick..In the meantime, I think you should try and release yourself from your emotional involvement with him. Let yourself be free and try and forget him for a while..Trust me if he likes you and he thinks it may go somewhere..he will be back on his own accord.

Whatever happens, look after number 1...YOU!..ok..now chin up 🙂

thanks missmorals...and like they say..back to the drawing board.

Your very welcome 🙂