To call or not to call —?

I'm so confused by the scorpio male, he does the disappearing act where he doesn't call, doesn't e-mail for 5+ days, but when I call he acts like nothing is wrong and says stuff like ohhh you have to come over and see what I did to the house etc...

I don't get what he's trying to do, to see if I'm going to keep calling? Is this normal scorpio behavior? Is this his way of trying to see if I'm interested or if I'm going to "chase" him? Quite frankly I'm a taurus female, and I hate the game of chase. So do I stop calling and see what happens?

So what is it that you scorp's want, keep calling or not to call? I want him to know that I'm interested but I don't want to play chase either. So how do you show to a scorpio that you're interested?

Well whether he wants you to chase or not is not the issue, do you want to chase him if he's not returning your calls or does the disappearance act?

I would just give him a taste of his own medicine..see how he likes it..he's probably testing, like they all do..Him just saying "oh you should come over and see what I have done to the house" is probably indirectly implying that I have been busy with the house..without him actually saying it...

i dont think the scorps know what they want...i am a aries dating a scorp now. I just cant figure him out. One minute he says and does the sweetest things. And then the next thing hes telling me he has a girlfriend...but even so he calls me everyday all day. I think they are so afraid of commitment because they are afraid of getting hurt.
So they put these barriers up to keep us locked out. But the way I handle my friend is I pretty much go with his flow. He works all the time so I can never plan anything with him. Hes very spontaneous which I like. I see him 2 to 3 times a week. Thats enough for me. Just be very very patient with him. If its meant to be it will happen...Most of the advice I get from this scorpsforum is to end the relationship....which goes to show they never work hard to keep a relationship going. Kinda makes you wonder.

yeah im like "huh" too....I just think hes playing games...as usual

dward, maybe he's trying to make ya feel jealous because he has his own jealousies (being a scorp in all I've heard it's common)

you know you are so right...because I tested him the other day....told him I had a date with a friend from out of town. He started questioning me about who he is..it was amazing how I got his attention. Im thinking to myself he got some nerve just telling me he had a girl.... he immediately suggest that we go out. So I pretended that I cancelled my date just for him...We had a great time that night. Act like you do have a life and that it definitely aint revolving around him.

I say if he doesn't call you. Don't call him. Unless you want too. I am a female Scorpio and I have a big problem with calling people. I may want to talk to them but I am far to stubborn to call. I hate to seem to "pressed" this could also be a problem of his.

I see that LivelyNurse didn't heed my advice. oh well.

Why should he call you when you're calling him everytime? YOu're not giving him time to miss you.

Plus, isn't this the same guy who was excited about showing you naked pictures of his ex girlfriends?

Good grief!..

Karima - I am like you as well..I just cannot be bothered to call..Never really get the urge..

So maybe if I stop calling, than he'll realize I'm done playing chase. I have far too busy of a career to be playing chase but maybe that's what assures him that I'm realy devoted. I can find other ways of showing this.

He's been acting weird since my ex-husband and I went to dinner together last week with our children, but I tried to explain to him that we are still friends for our children's sake, he helped me through a BSN degree financially I have been trying to atleast re-pay him for that. We are friends that's it, I know all of the scorp's past relationships have ended in blood but it is possible to still be friends.

Anyways, guess I'll quit calling and see what happens (I can only figure that will make his imagination run wild)

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My ex-husband is a cancer male, I don't know what's better...

emerald, I'm assuming you're so wise because of experience? Maybe that's my problem, young, dumb and inexperienced.... something about going into something with somebody so "naughty" is intriguing. Afterall, my ex was my first boyfriend/relationship, intimate partner so maybe naughty scorpio is a "conquest" (ok don't listen to me I'm tired, just worked a 24 hour shift)

houston whats your point

dward, Yeah the guy might need some polishing, I've analyized maybe it's because he's confused, doesn't fit the "scorpio" profile of being "drop dead gorgeous" he's got very little sex appeal, bald, kinda large, I'm sure the women don't flock to him. He is VERY mysterious, but I think he's got good intentions, he is just so socially retarded that he doesn't know how exactly to treat women because he's been alone for so long, I'm sure the pictures he showed me were from when he was in his 20's and REALLY HANDSOME and could get all the ladies he wanted. Not now, he's aged, 40's, bald, large, but very intriquing. Maybe that's it, he's socially retarded.

Sometimes an attraction doesn't have to be only a physical attraction. I was a little surprised when I met him the first time, I was expecting a drop dead gorgeous 40 year old (because I refused to see pictures before we met, didn't want to be judgemental) but I saw past the lack of sex appeal. It's not that important to me.

I'm a nurse with a 4 year degree, yes I wouldn't do anything without condoms. BELIEVE ME on that one. He claims to have had 80+ partners in the past, that may be inaccurate, but I'd perfer to continue to play it safe shall that time ever come.

and he'd like to have kids one day, I'd LOVE to have more now that I have my degree and can focus again on children.

emerald, LMAO... maybe. Right after I graduated I developed Hydrocephalus, had to have a VP shunt put in my head, so I have short hair (they shaved me bald in the OR)... lol.. maybe not the hottest but he hasn't complained to me anyways.

"He claims to have had 80+ partners in the past,"
"and he'd like to have kids one day"

This guy is good. He is playing her very well. So, 80+ partners, and numerous naked photos of ex's...who knows how many videotapes he has.

Dward, you ask what is my point?

A week ago, she posted a thread because she's confused about this guy. SEVERAL people told her that he sounded like trouble and she was only going to get hurt. She is very unsure of herself. If she didn't want advice from people who sees the signs more clearly than her, then don't post. It sounds like she is only heeding advice from people who are telling her the positives, when in reality, she needs a reality check and realize this guy is a player.

oh okay...i mean 80+ partners?...that would be all I need to hear

I don't mean to sound harsh, but several of us see the warning signs....

my scorp calls me twice a day...faithfully...but I still feel like Im lacking

maybe he just wants sex....i mean after all....it was good for the both of us. And also when we do go out we have a ball together...we have very intellectual conversations...we both are in the same line of work. I just dont know...but Ive stop taking his calls....so he is calling me and texting me non-stop. If he is in such a committed relationship why doesnt he leave me alone? And if you ask am I a woman who doesnt care about the girlfriend, I do...thats why I decided to leave it along. I just hate giving up so easily because I really really really like him.

i will...let you know the response shortly

oh no he didnt

He is such a irresistable devil. (sigh).I dont know...Ive only been dating him a little over a month...do you think I should just be patient?...because If I keep trying to figure him out I will drive myself crazy. There is a huge age difference between us...Im 35 and he's 27...maybe he still has some growing up to do and like playing games. Tell me something? How would you handle it being a scorp yourself?...scorp in law?

in the meantime i think i'll just have fun...no harm in that. thanks for you advice and honesty....that is a plus for you scorps!