Letting them down gently

A couple of months back me and my sorpio broke up and eventhough I knew it was the right thing to do I was heartbroken. Since then I have healed a bit and started to get back into the dating world. I've been seeing this Aries/Taurus cusp guy off and on. My scorp decided to show back up into the picture again and now wants to reclaim his role as boyfriend. He doesn't know about my dating or anything like that. I did not feel it was his business. Anyway. The reason I mention the guy I am dating is because eventhough I know he is not right for me, he has shown me things I want/need in a relationship that I know my scorp will never be able to give me. As such I need to let my scorp down and make sure he knows there won't be an "us" ever again. I've already told him I don't want to date right now and I just want to be friends. His responce was "I can wait for you your worth it. Lets get re aquainted as friends". He is now calling every day and emailing me while I am at work. I want to be friends with him but I don't want to give him false hope. He is a great guy, just not the guy for me.

I think you need to be honest with him. Just tell him you've met someone else..thats the only way he'll leave you alone, otherwise you are giving him some kind of hope.

OMG your Scorp came back? You must have made some impression. Honesty is always the best policy. So tell him you like him as a friend but that's the extent of the relationship.

Good Luck

Sigh

Yeah the scorp came back. He loves me and I feel guilty for not loving him in the same way, but I know he cannot give me all that I want/need from a relationship.

I know honesty is the best policy and I need to tell him. I just don't want to hurt him. I need to think of it like a bandaid and just do it quickly. I hate having to hurt him.

Its the only way. And he will respect you for it..Don't lead him up the garden path!..

He'll be hurt but he'll get over it as well..We just do.

You guys just don't make it easy do you?

When someone wants to break up with me. I don't fight. You don't want me then there is no reason for me to beg, plead, or make any kind of spectical. I just accept it and go off and cry where no one can see me.

I did it last night. I told my scorp we can only be friends. He begged, he poured his heart out to me, he told me he would do anything to make me happy. My aquarian detatchment kicked in and I stood my ground with no visible emotion, telling him friends was the best I could give him. This went on for 30 or so minutes before he left telling me "I guess I deserve this. I hurt you now it's your turn".

You say he cannot give you what you want. What is this thing you mean? Have you told your scorp that too? Perhaps he could give it to you and you don't realise it.

Also if you're adement about not getting back into a relationship with him then perhaps you should break contact with him altogether for a while cos he might still just agree to your terms and then it'll cause problems if he sees you dating someone else. IT's better if you leave him to get over you and then maybe re-connect with him after he's found someone else.

omg!!! girl,u gotta get a reality check. firstly, u'r scorp came back 2 u, which hardly ever happens. i wish my scorp wud come back 2 me. i'd leave any other guy in this world 4 him . secondly, if he promises u summit, he means it cuz scorps don't play around, they think things thru very carefully and only then do the make a promise, which they keep a lifetime.
so, i were u i'd get back wit him cuz scorps are very special ppl.

ok, emaraldgem i havent cum here 2 pick a fight wit any1 but just 2 make things clear i reli loved my scorpio guy n i'm just sayin wot i'd do if i were in that situation. he was and still is a very special person 4 me n no guy can compare to him and thats why if he ever wanted 2 get back i wud definitly not think twice b4 sayin yes. sorry if u find this appalling but thats just how i feel.

well...i reli don't get wot u'r tryin 2 say but lets just end this conversation right here.