Fine Line

Have you ever felt like "S/He's the one, my soulmate, my everything", and you just knew that you wanted to spend the rest of your life with that person. Your search is over . . this is my place, my beloved?

How many times?

If it's more than once, and the two of you are no longer together, then what does that tell about the feeling? Is wasn't REAL?

What if it's been 5 times, or, 10?

At which point does a person stop to consider that this feeling, that's so overwhelming I can hardly breathe with, or, without him/her . . is lust, and therefore, within yourself the search must be made?

If it is "true love", and there are more than one, then, maybe there isn't just "One" . . maybe there is suppose to be many. In this theory . . there is no such thing as commitment, how can there be "exclusive"?

i feel like that right now. the only ever time i've felt like this.

Actually, Kali, the question was about the concept of committment, based from the theory that there are "many loves" in our lifetime.

The feeling is awesome, in either respect . . have fun feeling it, while it lasts!!

"What if it's more than once, and the two of you are no longer together, then what does that tell about the feeling? Is wasn't REAL? What if it's been 5 times, or, 10?"

in my opinion, the feelings may be real at the time to the person feeling them. looking in from the outside though, they could also be simply in love with the idea of being in love. the ones that are repeatedly, serially 'in love' may be intoxicated by the emotional high, the rollercoaster, drama and intensity associated with the state of being in love that it's like an addiction, rather than genuine love for the other person.

having said that, i do believe that you can love different people at different stages of life. meaning, as you change and move through life, it's possible for people who genuinely started off in love to outgrow each other. there's still love, but not 'true' love.



"If it is "true love", and there are more than one, then, maybe there isn't just "One" . . maybe there is suppose to be many. In this theory . . there is no such thing as commitment, how can there be "exclusive"?"

love is a living, dynamic thing but it cannot survive on its own. communication, respect, trust, loyalty, consideration, care - all these nourish love and allow it to continue and take shape. i believe when both parties commit to sustaining a love that makes it a 'true love' and something you feel 'exclusively' with each other.

if/when one or both don't commit to it, love can die...then we move on and start over again...no less real but different.

now if your definition of true love is the i can't breathe, i can't live without you all the time experience then that would be impossible to sustain over a lifetime...and i'd have to agree with branh that we'd be lucky to have that at least once...

Waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah

Yes to what Archer said...god she's an ol' romantic at heart isn't she..

" the way....there is a concept of 'ISHQ' which is the highest level of LOVE..binding and totally giving. where you dont want anything back and never even demands anything but just wish to see that person HAPPY and CONTENT in whatever he/she is doing."

Better devote to the humanity than a human.Difficult to attain.

My train of thought on this topic was leading more towards human behaviour IF we believed that there are many loves, instead of "soulmate", and how we would view the commitment, the love itself, in this theory.

I too have loved in many forms, just as mentioned, and Archer, your description is very deep, and I'm sure a lot of people can relate . . I can, too.

However, I was thinking in different terms than how we feel about love as we live with the current programming. We are programmed to believe in "one" love and that's how we approach a love relationship.

What if we all knew from the day we were born, that we could only own "one" car in our lifetime . . wouldn't we spend years picking it out? Polishing it everyday? It would be our prize possession. We don't, because we know we can trade it in.

If we believed, because we all were taught and programmed from the very beginning that there are many loves, we will fall in and out of love multiple times within our lifetime, there is no "one" soulmate . . then the meaning of "love" would change.

Wouldn't the subsconsiuos value we put on "love" change, and the regard we hold for the person change if we believed that we are suppose to trade that person in, as soon as the next came along?

Wouldn't a lot of things change? Such jealousy? What would that be for, if around the next corner, another was waiting? Commitment . . there wouldn't be one.

If you were allowed only "one" of anything . . it would be cherished . . and that's the mindset we have as we search for our perfect partner. We move through the world according to our programming, and my only point is, wouldn't how we feel about a partner change if our programming were different?