Get excited?

How do you know when it's real? This Scorp guy is telling me all the things I want to hear, along with some things I don't. I want to get excited about this but I've never been with a Scorp before & I don't know if this is real or just a game of catch & release. Maybe I'm so hesitant because my last relationship was with a Libra & that's ALL that relationship was about. I just don't want to be hurt again so I've been really aloof with him but then I read that Scorps are really insecure about other peoples motivations with them & I don't want to chase this guy away by appearing as if I don't care because I do ALOT.

So he texts me every morning as soon as he gets up, calls & texts all through-out the day, makes time to see me a few times a week, is constantly talking about "US" & the future & his hopes that "we" develop into something serious. He's constantly got his hands on me when we're together. It's all so fast & intense, I like it but do they do this until they get you & then disappear?

I also read that you know it's serious when they feel comfortable enough with you to talk about their feelings.....last night he was insistent on coming over just to say Hi, we ended up having a more serious conversation which involved him telling me about his desire to be in a relationship but his fear of that as well & he continually told me how hard it was for him to talk about these things. So are all these things pointing in a good direction......can I get excited now? LOL Thanks for taking the time to answer a question that I'm sure has been asked before 🙂

Yes...jump up and down on the couch and scream "I'M IN LOOOOOOOOOOOOVE WITH THAT MAN"

Dont analyse it. Just enjoy it. You'll have plenty of time in the future to stress when he starts throwing tantrums.

Awww YAY! 🙂 Thanks Ferdy. I kinda know he's into me but just scared I guess. I've read that Taurus & Scorp can be like oil & water but we don't seem to be that way at all. I guess I'm just being overly cautious

My advice would be to slow it down just a bit. That early phase is when everyone is on their best behavior, ya know?

"we ended up having a more serious conversation which involved him telling me about his desire to be in a relationship but his fear of that as well & he continually told me how hard it was for him to talk about these things."

Fear of relationships, that's a pretty big red flag. lol That would scare me off a bit as far as getting too attached too quickly. Still, the fact that he is opening up to you is a good sign, but that can be an iffy area. I've found that if I open up to a Scorpio (friend, lover..whatever) they then open up to me. Sometimes, though, they may just be telling you what they know you want to hear in pursuit of their own needs and desires. You have to learn to tell the difference. You'll feel it...just trust your intuition.

Thanks Newbie, I was hoping I'd hear from you, I've read alot of your posts & payed alot of attention to what you've said cuz I know your a Taurus with a Scorp hubby & I wanted to get your take on how things work with this combo & how your hubby was with you when you two 1st met 🙂

Thanks SS, yeah your right, "Sometimes, though, they may just be telling you what they know you want to hear in pursuit of their own needs and desires. " This stuck out to me, last night when we were talking he said that he was trying to put his best foot forward with me cuz he REALLY wants this to work, to which I replied that though I know we all do things to impress a new person, at some point the "real" you comes out & I'd rather him just be really honest with me

"I know we all do things to impress a new person, at some point the "real" you comes out & I'd rather him just be really honest with me"

That was a really good response. He'll respect that you appreciate honesty, because he does too.

Thanks ladies......SS I'm glad that was a good response, I kinda worried after I said it that I gave him the impression that I thought he was being fake with me, I don't think that & it seems that I have to keep reassuring him that I understand what he's saying & that I do still like him. He told me he's being a bit paranoid that he's going to say the wrong thing & chase me away....what's up with this mind frame? lol

"Thanks Newbie, I was hoping I'd hear from you, I've read alot of your posts & payed alot of attention to what you've said cuz I know your a Taurus with a Scorp hubby & I wanted to get your take on how things work with this combo & how your hubby was with you when you two 1st met"

Weeeell...glad to be of service.

Ok...first of all astrologically speaking - and I'm talking scorp male and taurus female here - when taurus and scorp get together...there's nothing like taking it slow. It simply doesn't exist with these two signs. They are two very powerful signs and they are opposites. The energy between them is intensely magnetic.

You'll find yourselves powerfully attracted to each other and at the same time repulsed by each other in the beginning. The repulsion occurs through fighting cuz of the attraction which makes the energy unstable.

You've already mentioned how fast and intense it is. But yes, there will have to be a repulsion point or pull away point...it's needed to stabilise the energy between you.

When my hubby and I met we were kids...lol. I dont think it works very well when you're young because it's just so volatile and you're not mature enough to understand what's going on.

However, this intensity makes it fabulous darling in the bedroom. He'll pretty much lose control around you...probably fling you left, right and centre. Can you do the splits? Better start practicing.

The good news is...the energy DOES stabilise but some people dont stick it out long enough to allow it to do so. If you do, the relationship becomes one that lasts for life.

Newbie, Thanks for the info. Yes there is a unmistakable magnetism between the two of us, I know he feels it too but he shows it more than I do, I'm reserving myself 🙂

"You'll find yourselves powerfully attracted to each other and at the same time repulsed by each other in the beginning. The repulsion occurs through fighting" We've had no fights yet but it's still early lol I think we may have come close to a conflict the other day when I went to his page & saw a woman leave a comment saying that she couldn't wait for their date......I controlled my jealousy very well I must say & reminded myself that we aren't committed...yet. Anyway he promptly removed that comment but I let him know that I had seen it & I laughed about it. He kinda freaked out & began texting me & calling me, swearing that it wasn't like that & he was only interested in me yadda yadda yadda. I just told him, your free to do what you want, just be considerate & be honest with me about these things because I'd extend the same courtesy to you. BTW he didn't go on the date, he came over to my house instead. At any rate hearing of this date with the other lady didn't help with, considering I'm already cautious.

" some people don't stick it out long enough to allow it to do so." Being a fellow Bull I'm sure you understand that I tend to plant my feet & stick around 🙂 I'm not planning on going anywhere just yet

Sagi......"you should tell him nicely that it would perhaps cause more misunderstandings and problems if he can't tell you what REALLY bothers him." Thats pretty much exactly what I told him 🙂 Honesty is always the best policy in my book, I understand the whole making a good 1st impression but I want the "REAL" person to come across more than the...this is the best of me person, if that makes sense? 🙂

"I'm reserving myself"

Yeah...I know what you mean. I'm a pretty reserved bull myself. Or maybe it's just that we bullgals are laid back. I dunno. I let him do all the chasing...I was just too lazy to be calling...texting...etc. He used to get pissed off though...haha

Like "why the hell dont you ever call me?"

Well...cuz YOU'RE gonna call me? Duh....lol

"I kinda worried after I said it that I gave him the impression that I thought he was being fake with me"

Well, you don't really know yet, do you? And it was a good idea to put it out there from the get-go. They value honesty in others, but struggle with it themselves, especially when it comes to emotional security and needs. They KNOW what they want/need, but have a big problem expressing it from fear of being vulnerable (which everyone has to an extent, but they have in SPADES). That's why I always take the lead with my guy in that area. I know he struggles with those things, but once I put myself out there, he always responds with his own feelings on the matter.

That's been really hard for me, though. lol Scorpio is my rising sign, so I tend to be just as guarded with my feelings as he is. Ah well, you only live once. 🙂

"How do you know when it's real? This Scorp guy is telling me all the things I want to hear, along with some things I don't."



I didn't really make it past these first two sentences, so if someone else addressed this ... then I reiterate it.


When a person (either gender) is a player .. they will ONLY tell you the things you want to hear. Their aim is to make a false impression of themselves to you, with intentions of painting a light that suggests to you that they are your dream come true .. so they can wrap you around thier little finger ... to use you.

If a person tells you both positive and negative about themselves, about what they see in the relationship, about how they view you .. then this is a sure indication that they are being real, since real life entails both good and bad viewpoints.

I would have to say, basing it soley on those first two sentences .. this man is talking to you for real .. talking ... for I haven't read any further to see what kind of actions he is displaying.

LOL Thanks P, I understand what you mean. That thought crossed my mind too. Why would he tell me things that some would find un-becoming if he were trying to run a game? He wouldn't.

SS.....I kinda picked up on this from him already, This fear of being vulnerable but I like to be really honest, I'm like a open book, even though I'm being reserved with him I still feel like I'm more honest with him about my experinces, fears & feelings than most would be, especially at this point & I think thats what has made him able to talk to me about his own emotional issues. Many times when I'm talking about something he'll say, that's exactly what I was thinking. Maybe he relates to me & he doesn't have to actually say it, he can just say Yes thats how I feel.

Newbie, I'm the same way I don't call him really ever, I let him do it. I'm pretty sure it annoys him though as he's gave me grief about the length of time it sometimes takes me to get back to him after a text....what can I say? I'm a busy girl 🙂

::sings::

i'm so excited (woo wee)
and i just can't hide it (no, no, no, no,no!)
i'm about to lose control and i think i like it! (oh yayee!)

cantaur: i think you can officially let rip and get excited.

"SOLD!! LOT NUMBER 23. SCORPIO MALE." ::sound of slamming gavel::

only 3,456,459,204,490,203,490,204,208,592,203 remain 🙂