How Dare You

Roxi, you can help on this. I have to start from the begining.

Aries and I decided to exchange gifts, so I go out and buy him a $ 70.00 Robe, I go over on Chiristmas after spending time with my family and I take him his present, well I get there and find out he did not get me anything, but he said that he was going out the next day. Fine cool no problem, well the next few days go by and I am on Vacation know so I go over on Friday morning and we spend the day together then it dawned on me why this man is spending like 2-3 hundred dollars on crap I still did not get my present yet so we get back to his house and I tell him that I am dissappointed and he says why and I tell him because I did not get my present. So he says I have not went out yet, so I guess I need to go out tommorrow I just look at him.

So I tell him I wanted a wool coat, well he goes out and comes back and no coat he tells me he did not see anything he liked, ok so I said "well how much were you gonna spend on a coat" and he said "I am not going to tell you" then I said "how do you expect me to find a coat if I don't know what my price range is and I hope you don't think I am gonna go find a coat call you and ride to your house to get money and go back" he just look at me. Well I go the money and brought a 100.00 wool coat that he saw and said I should have brought him one.
Like hell.

Well it's New Year's Eve and I am at his house and he is moody as hell, am look sexy and feeling good. He on the other hand is cranky so I liven things up had a few drinks, and tried to liven things up and he was still moody so I just kept talking so he says to me do you ever be quite and I said yea and no and then I told him that I have to have communication, because I have a lot going on in my head and I need someone that can communicate. He just looked at me. That night was the boreing I just sat and looked at him and then went to bed, thinking he got me twisted. I will walk out of this in a heartbeat.

Well my car went out on me and I am on the train for a few days or weeks and he calls me at work yesterday and says so how does it feel to be walking like the rest of the people so I said what? you act like I have never caught the train before no big deal. Then he says that road you brought me I said what about it he said I should have gotten terryclothe so I said why are you telling me this a week later why did'nt you tell me this when I gave it to you I could have taken it back.

Then he said well it is nice, I was on the phone like no he did not.

I have nothing to say to him right know. I will not be going to see him unless he is footing the transportation he will know work for this. How dare him.

And you know when I do see him or talk to him I will let him know about that.

Fucking Men

SL, Don't know your entire story, but from what you've typed, this guy doesn't respect you at all. How dare him ask you if you ever are quiet. That's basically telling you to shut up and that's just plain rude. If he's dropping $ 200- $ 300 on crap and still coming up with excuses for not having bought anything for you (and since you two decided together to exchange gifts), then he needs to be dropped to the curb because something's up.

And then for him to have the balls to tell you that he wanted terrycloth instead??!??!!? It's a present - he should shut up and be grateful you cared to even get him something rather than not get something like he did to you.

My point HP but I don't look at it as lack of respect,I know he respects me. I am just blown by his attitude all of a sudden. I look at it more so as wanting to control me. He is not the only person that has told me to shut up my ex virgo has told me to shut up.

My thing is How dare you complain. Well lets see how much begging he his gonna do when I don't call him.

i'll take that guy.

but we're talking about robes...ok, focus, peach.

SL, he stills sounds disrespectful. Like I said, however, I don't know the story or your history with this guy.

Blingy, where's the dancing bear? I miss the dancing bear from your video.

I want to find someone/something dancing to the "Peanut Butter Jelly" song.

don't know....saw it on some cartoon a while back.

hmm, figured it was a typo. I prefer heffer....but nice "joke". 🙂

I like cow fight!

Well it was a Fleece Robe by Nautica no hood dark blue with white trim, and my son helped me pick it out. This just happen in the last 2 weeks before this the brother was there, undivided attention and all.

I am not to concerned about the robe or getting the coat late. What's tripping me out is the fact that he called a week later to tell me that I should have gotten a terry clothes one and when I asked him why he did not tell me the same day I had the receipt I could have taken it back. He said nothing to justify it. Why?

I think what I am starting to learn about him is that I need to tell him what I don't like for him to change but why don't he tell me what he don't like.

When I was over there on New Years eve I went to the bathroom and the toilet seat was up so I said to him "I know I have no right to say this, but can you put the seat down when you finish" he just looked at me and I said again I said I have no right to say this I know this is your place and he said yea it is, but I just had to say it but when I was done and went in the bathroom about 30 min later the whole toilet seat was down, and I thought that was easy, I mean there are other things that I have mentioned and he done but never said a word. Why?

So my point is why does he do these things? I am trying to understand this man a little more.

AB this is not just cause to walk away just yet this is just a minor issue that I need clarity on before I confront him on it again and also I am not finish with him yet., LOL

Bling you are funny as hell.

Where is Roxi she has expertise in this 20 years with an Aries I am sure she can enlighten me.

Why do aries and scorp play mind games? It never fails...that was mean for him not to get you anything..I dont think men take christmas gifts and birthdays as serious as we do.

I've learned that I don't give gifts to men until they give one first. I will play this "Oh gee thanks, I forget your gift at home" speech. I will buy a gift, but I won't be the first to give a gift. I usually get a nice gift certificate. This way, if he doesn't get me something, then screw it, I'm using his gift certificate on ME.

lol@peach...

its all about doing things from the heart

oh well, notso...i'm not as perfect as you. 🙂

or as spiteful. 🙂

*sigh* dare to dream...

SL, are the two of you considered serious? Or is he just in the awkward friend/more than friends stage?

He sounds a bit standoffish. Can you tolerate this in the long run? If so, you're a stronger woman than me.

I also think that if you start to tell him things you don't like about him and want him to change, he'll take that as nagging and find someone who's happy with him the way he is.

I say lay low and let him come to you. If he sees the errors of his ways, he'll come back and apologize. If he doesn't apologize, then why put up with this attitude of his - it will only make you unhappy.

HP

"I've learned that I don't give gifts to men until they give one first."

I so agree, I brought a virgo some tennes shoes and he said he did not like them I took them back and never brought him anything again. So I see that is what I have to do to this Aries.

dward417
"Why do aries and scorp play mind games? It never fails...that was mean for him not to get you anything..I dont think men take christmas gifts and birthdays as serious as we do."

I am not playing mind games with him I am really trying to keep this honest and real but he is really making it hard for me. He did get me something a coat although it was late I got what I wanted, and I am happy with that.

His lack of communication is whats blowing me right know, and to finally realize how boring he is I don't know if I want to continue this even though it supposed to be just about sex and satisfying one another needs.

I find that this is starting to get a little complicated and if he is having feelings that are a little stronger for him to handle that is his fault not mines, I told him that eventually feelings would get involved.

if it's just about sex, why are gifts involved? ok, now I know more of the story.

if it's just about sex, then just forget this incident happened and learn from it. spend the money you would spend on him for gifts on you to buy sexy lingerie. 😉

AB
It is all cool your opinion is so welcome, but as a women who have been out there, I am not to quick to judge or make decision. I find information first and then make a decision. I would hate to have to regret my decisions at this point in my life.

HP

I am not I don't want to be with him like that. I just want my needs met and a place to chill where he can cook and and give me good sex, and laughter which is something we used to do before know. But you are right I am going to back off for a bit, and after this I really don't have a desire to call him.

I know he is gonna call and just say "Yesssssssss" when I say hello.
I hate to be like this to men especially with a grown ass 53 year old man.

Do men ever really grow up and understand the big picture when it comes to women?

no

HP
LOL
It supposed to be just about sex

He made the decision to exchange gifts not me. He was gonna buy me something else but I said I wanted a coat. I got the money for the coat.

The whole issue is about his lack of communication. A week later? Sex relationship or not he still should have told me, that he wanted something else when I gave him the gift not a week later is my point.

Hell sex is not the issue her right know.

I would never were anything sexy for him he don't deserve it.

and he doesn't deserve a gift either!

scorp i can tell you have strong feelings for this guy.

as much as we try, we can't have sex with a guy without having/developing feelings for the guy...we can deny it much as we want, but it just can't be done. i thought i could do it with mr. libra, but i couldn't, so i've backed off. and of course, THAT'S when they start calling lol

that is soooo backwards....trying to love someone is too confusing.

"as much as we try, we can't have sex with a guy without having/developing feelings for the guy...we can deny it much as we want, but it just can't be done. i thought i could do it with mr. libra, but i couldn't, so i've backed off. and of course, THAT'S when they start calling lol"

Oh no I am not denying feelings I do have feelings but he will never know about them because I know the situation we are in. I can't go on my word of keeping this the way it is until he says different. No I don't love him at all.

dward417-
"scorp i can tell you have strong feelings for this guy."

No I don't have strong feeings but I do care.

I can't allow my feelings to get any further because when and if this ends or he finds someone else I need to walk away and be ok with it, because I know the friendship will always be there.

I know some of you might find that hard to do but over the years I have mastered the art of controlling your feelings. LOL

Holy Crap...didn't know it would post that big.....

ummm...this guy is obviously not relationship material.....WHY are you puzzled?

you might turn out to be better friends then lovers.

it was photocopied, yes. a friend sent that to me - originally as a greeting card.

Message posted by: dward417 on 1/4/2007 1:46:51 PM ip: xxx.xxx.xxx.162
"you might turn out to be better friends then lovers. "

Good possibility" I will just chill for a while if he wants me he will come and get me.

HP LMAO

I love the doll. Damn if I had one of them can you imagine all the people I will be sticking in there ass. LOL

I guess people who look gift horses in the mouth get what they deserve.