How do you break up with a Scorpion Woman? (Page 2)

Posted by FUMRedFairy_tales
truthseeker --

you don't sound very mature to me by leaving the Scorpio woman's 3 messages hanging.

What's with guys and ignoring a person?

Can't you live up to your responsibility of communication yourself?? Is that how you resolve your relationship problems by just not responding?


Can you define immaturity please? What do you think she is doing that irritates you?

I know exactly what he is talking about and I totally agree.

Young Scorpios live in a bubble and say they want to be treated like a princess, when you really need to stand up to them and only give in, when the time is right.

The immaturities lay in how they deal with problems and not getting their way. The tantrums and needless arguments over pointless things. The raw insecurity and accusations of unfaithfulness are usually completely unwarranted or generated by pure paranoia.

He is saying the same thing you said earlier, Older/More mature Scorpios are better suited to a Virgo.

Posted by FUMRedFairy_tales
truthseeker --

you don't sound very mature to me by leaving the Scorpio woman's 3 messages hanging.

What's with guys and ignoring a person?

Can't you live up to your responsibility of communication yourself?? Is that how you resolve your relationship problems by just not responding?


Can you define immaturity please? What do you think she is doing that irritates you?

FumRedFairy,

I left 3 text messages hanging, so not voice or extended messages, two of them being casual hellos when she was still not realizing the way she was acting...and she just trying realized things by the 3rd she sent...

Why am I ignoring here?

I am not ignoring her, I am letting her know that my words were true. I had sent her a long email explained where I was and why...and she still (on her 3rd message) denied it. Would she have apologized or at least accepted some of the things I said that she knows were true...we would still have a chance to talk, but insteas she keeps on being oblivious or perhaps prideful...to recognize the ways in which she brought this up for us little by little...

Before that, I had written a letter...in which I explained again (before the last message) what was going on to ask ehr to speak to me clearly...to know how I could help make things better...and nothing came out of it.

So after you send a letter that brings no response to it, send a long message that gets ignored for a while, try daily to make things better...have been extremely patient to wait for the other person to be more clear and honest...and to communicate better...and nothing comes up...it gets to a point where you just can't do it anymore you know?

This wasn't a random decision...it tooks many days, about 3 weeks or so...of her lack of clear communication, honesty (by hiding things from me for whatever reason), and her inmature way which I will explain in abit into more detail...

I can't speak for Cajun's situation, because it might be different than mine or perhaps similar...who knows, but some of the reasons why my scorpio seems clearly inmature for a relationship with me right now are the following:

- The first time we broke up she dissappeared after we took a "break" for over a week with no contact at all and no response to my last email...to give any last closure or defenition, so in this case she left me hanging there for several days...*I* had to bring the closure for us at that point after she randomly texted one day back and talked to me and yet didn't set a time to meet....

- Not only was she unclear on her ways and times to meet when things would get tough (which I consider very inmature) and have her dissappearing and running away acts (which she admitted to do to every relationships she has had this far) but this second time around, even when everything was going great she would hide things from me....that added baggage to the relationship...for example, she would stop texting in the middle of our conversation at 2 am and then say nothing the next day...and one time blamed it on some 'granda' story that she never cared to explain further (once again inmature on her part). She avoided to answer for days...I got over it and moved on because I chose to trust her, but my gut feeling and logic didn't feel well about it. If really there isn't anything bad to hide, then why do it? Why play with someone's thougths and emotions?

- When even events were happening in her life I was there in everyway possible and she knows that, I could have even been there some more, but I did just as much as I could within the space and frame she would give me, on the other hand, when big events were happening in mine all she could say is "that's cool"....again, in my opinion, not the best encouraging words ever or clearest communication. She wasn't always like that, but her busyness and her current choices...weren't handled in a way, in my opinion, that made me feel understood and encouraged back and I told her all this in that last message I sent to which she responded "I wasn't trying to be selfish..." and that was the last message I got and that I left hanging.

Finally...

- The last time I saw her at a bar where we go to sometimes...she was acting really weird around her friends that night. I think she wanted them to believe I was 'one' of her interests, but not the only, or she wanted to be this super cool girl who isn't attached or too crazy about anyone...when in reality she came home to see me after and when she and I were alone...the girl clearly acted as if I was very special to her...her lack of consistent behavior with me vs. when she is in front of her friends showed me another sign of inmaturity and unnecessary drama that I kept in mind, I did not reacted then either, maybe I should have. She told me that night that she had met a lot of new people...perhaps that was part of the reason, who knows, there was also this friend she kept on hanging out with the whole night, the point is...she shouldn't act that way at this point, especially if she liked me a much as she says she does. If she wanted to play the field, then by all means...go for it, but just please be clear you know?

- Lastly, besides the random unclear appearing and dissappearing acts over text messages for these past 3 weeks....last weeks of school (only reason why i waited and was extra patient) and the weird ways in which she acted that one night around her friends...and the strange message about that guy she left hanging really last that one night, etc...I still have not being able to freely call her when I would like, because she doesn't like that, and I still haven't seen her new place, even she lives out of campus now and she has seen my house plenty of times. Maybe I am reading to much into it, but how easy would it be for her to easy my mind if she really thought maturily and would care to wonder how I might feel sometimes?

For all those reasons above and more...I had to let it go. It hasn't been easy and I do miss her, but I also have respect for myself and I am aware of what I am willing to give. I can't stay committed to cause that doesn't seem to be handled properly over and over again...maybe time will help her to understand more things and maybe time will help me to get completely over her and this crazy connection we had inspite of everything we went throughg. I want her to be happy inspite of her inmature ways...and I want to feel like I can communicate and I can rely upon someone I like if I happen to date again.

Truthseeker.