How much does your Scorp mate annoy you?

So how many of us has a love interest, dating, boyfriend, husband that's a Scorpio and they annoy us at times (or all the time?) -raises hand-

Share what sign you are and how your Scorp annoys you, but also say why you care about them and they have obviously done something good to keep you despite their annoyances!

I'm a Gemini...I've been dating my Scorp almost 3 months. He's a great guy; he's very loving and affectionate, generous, he supports me in many ways, puts up with my crazy (this is a big one...I am crazy) even when I go through my fickle days and try and push him away, he stays. He's respectful, loyal and protective. Not to mention we have many things in common including our career goals.

For some reason though, we can bicker at the drop of the hat over the stupidest crap. It doesn't last long, we don't have blow outs or yell. But I can nag and there is just something about him that annoys me more than anybody else....I have no idea why! I know it's not rational, just a sneeze could set me off lol. Part of it may be my b control, I was on the same one for 3 years and right before him I switched to one with slightly higher hormones...I'm very sensitive. I'm going to give it one more month before I decide to switch back, but I've noticed I've been extra bitchy on it and even more irrational, snappy, short fuse than usual! I've read not good reviews too...!

It may not be the pill, but I have noticed a negative change in my moods since I've been on it so if there is something that can be nicer towards him, awesome! Because I hate being a bitch and snappy, but I can't help it at times :/ I know it's not needed half the time with him!

Long story short though; he's great. He's one of the most loving, attentive bfs I've had, but also I have never bickered more with one either!

Your turn 🙂

Will you guys continue to annoy us for even, even if you love us?

*forever

Neuro, the good outweighs the bad. And I'm not sure why he annoys me, like I said there is no logical reason for it. Maybe it is my hormones....maybe I'm driving myself crazy, because I'm crazy? 0.o

I know I was on a wacky b control in the beginning with my Leo ex and I pulled the same crap, except worse. He stuck it out with me, I switched meds, worked on myself, trusted more, and eventually things got better. Maybe it's a transition period? Idkkk. I hate hormones!

I mean, if my ex didn't keep me in check and assure me I wasn't being rational/didn't mean it, and he wasnt going anywhere....we would have been off and on every month for the 1st 6-8 months!! WTF is my deal :/

I just want to be normal...I don't do this with friends. But I can just be so irrational, moody, and highly unrealistic and demanding in relationships. I really don't want to be this way...he is a good boyfriend.

And no, the point of the thread was really just for other ppl dating scorpios and there are times when they drive them crazy, yet at the same time they love them. Questions; what do they do to get on your nerves, and what are the things they do for you to swoon for them and have you want to keep them around despite their flaws?

Because I'm far from an angel and I ask myself why he likes me so much lol

I have the patience, I used to baby sit an autistic child.

Elle, I'm not still attached to him. My issue is; that was the longest relationship I was in and it's my only relationship template for what went right and wrong. I need to stop comparing and using it for reference because they are totally different people. The comparison on past relationship experiences, I do this with everything. School, friends, jobs, everything!!

I reference other exes too, just him more because he was obviously the longest...idk why I do this. It's a really bad habit and I do it with many things!!

And you are right neuro, he's VERY patient with me. Right now it's more like 20-30% /80-70% , but I feel like that would go down by a lot when I get my hormones under control. It's prob more like 10-15% that really annoys me, that I blow out of porportion

Yeah you are right about this.

And I do references with him sometimes....and he does too sometimes...except I do way more.

I just need to cut the habit entirely.

Glad to hear that...

Does that go for your wife and you too?

My good friends that are getting married: gem and Pisces went through some rough times...very rough. There was a time where they hid their issues from eachother to avoid fighting and keep things smooth and that caused real issues.

They stuck it out with the hard times and are now getting married after 8 years. My gem friend says bickering is normal.

I guess I'm not used to it? I confuse bicker with issues....but then in previous relationships issues werent discussed or fell on deaf ears and that was bad.

Hm I suppose you are right. I hear some people get suspicious of couples that never fight.

He says he never fights with his best female friend who is a cancer because she is just a friend. He says she's like one of the guys and can give him a female perspective; great qualities for a friend, but not what he would want in a relationship.

I have thought before with my Taurus room mate; wow he's a great guy...we get along so well, he understands me, he makes me laugh a lot, he's successful...he would make a good bf! Except for the fact I'm NOT attracted to him physically or mentally, he's like my brother and life coach...he gives the best advice on men.

Is that how it is sometimes? Op sex friends you can hardly ever argue, but you argue more with partners romantically involved? Why does everyone associate fighting/bickering with unstable/bad relationships?

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Posted by Agentgem24
I have the patience, I used to baby sit an autistic child.

Elle, I'm not still attached to him. My issue is; that was the longest relationship I was in and it's my only relationship template for what went right and wrong. I need to stop comparing and using it for reference because they are totally different people. The comparison on past relationship experiences, I do this with everything. School, friends, jobs, everything!!

I reference other exes too, just him more because he was obviously the longest...idk why I do this. It's a really bad habit and I do it with many things!!

every relationship is different. you can't use a past relationship as a template to guide you through a new one. there are way too many dynamics. Nothing is static, not even you. You are not the same person as you were then.

you can appreciate the past, just don't try living in it.

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Very good advice...thank you. I am very stuck on the past and what ifs and hypothetical situations for the future. The thing I focus the least on, is the NOW. I really need to work on this.

What I wish I would of done more with mine was IGNORE and take a break, walk in the other room, not hang out that weekend.

I use to feel like I couldn't take space, so I never did.


AG you sound really burnt out. I understand cause I was constantly too. I think you should have more space from him and see how you feel. If you still feel

like shit than just leave.


Honestly, it sounds like intimacy is hard for you. It's like as you get closer with him you seem to be more annoyed by him at start to pick at everything he

does and start pushing him away.


I doesn't make you a bad person I do that too thats why I'm single. Maybe you need to work thru some of that. Like I could be totally off that is just what

I'm picking up from your posts.

You sound like you're struggling more than enjoying. Like I said just what it sounds like could be totally wrong.

Posted by Agentgem24
I mean, if my ex didn't keep me in check and assure me I wasn't being rational/didn't mean it, and he wasnt going anywhere....we would have been off and on every month for the 1st 6-8 months!! WTF is my deal :/

I just want to be normal...I don't do this with friends. But I can just be so irrational, moody, and highly unrealistic and demanding in relationships. I really don't want to be this way...he is a good boyfriend.

Romantic relationships with always be more intense than friendships. There is a lot of reasons for that.

Well I am enjoying it of course, but I do feel like I'm at wits end with myself and I'm at a constant battle. The space thing could be important. I had lots of space in my last relationship with it being semi long distance and every other relationship since has been hard.

There were a lot of guys. Sure there were some that were total ass holes but others that were good and I gave up on them or got bored way too quick. It comes to a point, where it really is you. And that's what is happening here...

I am referencing to my ex because I tried to do it with him and he wouldn't let me, didn't push over so that was the reassurance I guess I needed? When I would push past guys away, they put up very little fight. Except for my bf, he knows what I'm doing and he knows my emotions and he STILL sticks it out with me.

If I didn't care...I wouldn't bicker, it's like neuro said...I wouldn't waste mg breath. I wouldn't get as jealous and possessive as I can get, I wouldn't get such strong emotions for him...and I wouldn't think I'm falling in love with him one minute, and then wondering if he's right for me the very next.

Dafuq?? Bi polar much. Whether its good or bad though, he's ALWAYS on my mind. When I was falling out of love with my ex, I would literally forget about him! He wasn't on my mind, I would forget to call him, it felt like a chore.

You bring up a good point though sag, I think we need more space. Maybe 3-4x a week vs 5-6x.

I finally got a full nights sleep over the weekend and it was great, I usually don't get as much sleep because he wants to wake to early when that's my only time to catch up on sleep because I wake up at 6 during the week and get no more than 4-6 hours a night...if I'm waking up before noon on a weekend, it's an issue. I slept until 3 and had the night to myself and it was awesome!

It's not that I care for him any less, I just think less time could make us long for eachother more and appreciate the time we have. He's going on a 8 day cruise next week, this could be a big realization point to figure out how I feel.

We are still trying to figure eachother out cancer....and I started acting weird on the new hormones right before I met him :/

I think I really need to switch back after I get the next pack. Depo made me a crazy bitch and distanced a lot of my friends and almost tore my last relationship apart at the 5 month point. I was totally unreasonable up until then and then he put me on a break at 5 months and I freaked out. I got off depo and had withdrawals. Got on a pill that I had been fine with ever since but because of the withdrawals, had to be put in Lexapro for a year to counter act the side effects. I had panic attacks on occasion so I needed Xanax but then Lexapro was needed for a daily mood stabilizer. I took myself off it after a year though and felt totally normal like I was before depo.

I do have anxiety, but I haven't had panic attacks since back then. My stress is at a high though, with everything. My Pisces best friend says I need to chill the hell out. She wants to strangle me at times, yet pat me on the head and hug me at others. Financial stress is one of my worst.

I really think I need to switch pills and MAYBE get back on anxiety meds for a little bit but idk...switching back to b control I used to take symptom free is one thing but turning to pills to fix my mood is another and that's more $ down the drain and something I'm dependent on.

Posted by CluelessCancer
Scorps don't bicker like this tho all the time, they rather find their ZEN..or they'll just get fed up and leave...

It's his Leo moon and sag mercury. I'm the one that doesn't want conflict and wants smooth and equality. He admitted to playing on my pet peeves to bring out my hidden warrior so he could have a good debate. Why I said I never bickered in past relations, he said he always did in his...but only the ones that were close to him.

Since I called him out on it though, it has been substantially less. Pretty much just me being highly emotional and fickle.

Yea exactly, sometimes getting back to you're center will make you feel less helpless to you're emotions that you experience around him. So when you're

together you have had the space of recollecting so you can just focus on the happiness off being together.


And hopefully you're scorp understands that. Mine wouldn't give me enough space and appreciate the space I gave him much of the time.


He'd say I'm going boarding this weekend, I'd say great have fun. He' say I'd like you to come with and hang out with my friends. No thanks I have stuff I

wanna do here. *blows up *


I can't tell you how many times we had that fight. And than a bunch of other stuff.



But you're scorp sounds like he doesn't mind if you wanna be selfish at times so yay haha

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3 months only and all these complaints.

LOL 6 moths is when i hit my annoyed limit

Posted by Agentgem24
So how many of us has a love interest, dating, boyfriend, husband that's a Scorpio and they annoy us at times (or all the time?) -raises hand-

Share what sign you are and how your Scorp annoys you, but also say why you care about them and they have obviously done something good to keep you despite their annoyances!

I'm a Gemini...I've been dating my Scorp almost 3 months. He's a great guy; he's very loving and affectionate, generous, he supports me in many ways, puts up with my crazy (this is a big one...I am crazy) even when I go through my fickle days and try and push him away, he stays. He's respectful, loyal and protective. Not to mention we have many things in common including our career goals.

For some reason though, we can bicker at the drop of the hat over the stupidest crap. It doesn't last long, we don't have blow outs or yell. But I can nag and there is just something about him that annoys me more than anybody else....I have no idea why! I know it's not rational, just a sneeze could set me off lol. Part of it may be my b control, I was on the same one for 3 years and right before him I switched to one with slightly higher hormones...I'm very sensitive. I'm going to give it one more month before I decide to switch back, but I've noticed I've been extra bitchy on it and even more irrational, snappy, short fuse than usual! I've read not good reviews too...!

It may not be the pill, but I have noticed a negative change in my moods since I've been on it so if there is something that can be nicer towards him, awesome! Because I hate being a bitch and snappy, but I can't help it at times :/ I know it's not needed half the time with him!

Long story short though; he's great. He's one of the most loving, attentive bfs I've had, but also I have never bickered more with one either!

Your turn 🙂

IMO, your OP doesn't say what about him annoys as much as what could be (possible) side effects of the BC you are taking. Or are you bi-polar?

Explain your symptoms to your doctor. HE/she could probably offer you more insight and change your prescription. Then see if that corrects the problems.

Posted by Neurotoxin
If you aren't annoying the living shit out of your partner occasionally, something's wrong...

Oh, hell.

No I'm no I'm not bipolar, highly emotional yes but I was always able to keel it under control for the most part.

I've never let my crazy step outside my head to public until last week...I had a moody moment and made a coworker feel uncomfortable. I corrected it quickly, but I have NEVER done it.

It's like I have to pat myself on the back if I can get along with everyone that day!! I never had issues before.

I was always emotional, but never like this.

When I fight with him, it's like I'm on the outside thinking, "what are you doing? Stop! Why are you giving him so much crap? Omg you KNOW he didn't mean it that way...why are you making such a big deal and picking fights over air? Why are you being such a bitch....he's a good man, leave him alone" I recognize this....but I keep going!

Ok, I should have read you entire post, AG. I see on this page, you comment about the BC and being bi-polar.

Why are there comments boxes at the end of each thread page instead of at the end of the thread! It throws me off! lol

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If you aren't annoying the living shit out of your partner occasionally, something's wrong...

Oh, hell.

What?

It's true though.

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Done on purpose?

Posted by Agentgem24
I'm a Gemini...I've been dating my Scorp almost 3 months. He's a great guy; he's very loving and affectionate, generous, he supports me in many ways, puts up with my crazy (this is a big one...I am crazy) even when I go through my fickle days and try and push him away, he stays. He's respectful, loyal and protective. Not to mention we have many things in common including our career goals.

For some reason though, we can bicker at the drop of the hat over the stupidest crap. It doesn't last long, we don't have blow outs or yell. But I can nag and there is just something about him that annoys me more than anybody else....I have no idea why! I know it's not rational, just a sneeze could set me off lol. Part of it may be my b control, I was on the same one for 3 years and right before him I switched to one with slightly higher hormones...I'm very sensitive. I'm going to give it one more month before I decide to switch back, but I've noticed I've been extra bitchy on it and even more irrational, snappy, short fuse than usual! I've read not good reviews too...!

One of your twins loves that he sticks around even during your mood swings. Your inherently opposite twin (because twins just gotta be opposite) hates that he sticks around even during your mood swings. Then you went and put them both on emo-overdrive.

Drop the pill. Nao?

This is the generic version of my original b control...with a slightly higher hormone. I am VERY sensitive to meds and hormonal side effects.

I was reading reviews on this one...the physical ones are like mine then; extreme moody, almost ruined my marriage, bf would beg me to stop taking pills, in switching back etc.

My body insecurities are at an all time high too despite everyone telling me I look good

Posted by Agentgem24
No I'm no I'm not bipolar, highly emotional yes but I was always able to keel it under control for the most part.

I've never let my crazy step outside my head to public until last week...I had a moody moment and made a coworker feel uncomfortable. I corrected it quickly, but I have NEVER done it.

It's like I have to pat myself on the back if I can get along with everyone that day!! I never had issues before.

I was always emotional, but never like this.

When I fight with him, it's like I'm on the outside thinking, "what are you doing? Stop! Why are you giving him so much crap? Omg you KNOW he didn't mean it that way...why are you making such a big deal and picking fights over air? Why are you being such a bitch....he's a good man, leave him alone" I recognize this....but I keep going!

Lots of air in your chart (from your signature I see). You need breathing room. Physically a lack of oxygen makes us dizzy, erratic due to the heart beating faster to push more oxygen to the vital organs. But you could be experiencing this in a psychological as well physiological sense so your first instinct to protect your vitals (need for space, freedom) is to get aggressive/defensive to protect yourself. I don't know. Just saying...

Posted by Agentgem24
Yeah you are right about this.

And I do references with him sometimes....and he does too sometimes...except I do way more.

I just need to cut the habit entirely.

Posted by Neurotoxin
If you aren't annoying the living shit out of your partner occasionally, something's wrong...

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No sense trying to hide an impulse around 'your' Scorp. If he truly considers himself yours and you, his (it's possible!), he'll want to know. But you could flavor it with the reasonings behind the comparisons. Even though he's probably figured them out himself, it's enjoyable to hear honest reasonings coming from another person. Could be my Virgo Moon added on, but hearing that (when it's honest) usually up's my patience and trust factors several big notches.

Plus getting it out there, with analysis, can often make the impulse go away naturally. Sorta like getting something off your chest. It's no longer relevant because it's already been thought out.

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If you aren't annoying the living shit out of your partner occasionally, something's wrong...

Oh, hell.

What?

It's true though.

Done on purpose?

Oh no, not on purpose.

I'm just saying if there's not SOME friction in a relationship, something's wrong. Somebody is covering up something.

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I see. Yes, peace is so over-rated.

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If you really like this guy, I think you should just do your best to not take things out on him. Think instead of react. He isn't a punching bag for bad moods. He should be your best friend. It would be a shame to lose someone you really like just because your hormones are trying to level themselves out. He probably really likes you too. Hence, the patience.

Didn't see this one, but yes, good points. But I wonder if he has Venus in Scorpio ... they seem to thrive on drama/emotional stuff.

I'm sorry Scorp!!

And he actually has a venus in Capricorn, his mars is in Scorpio.

I have Cancer in both my venus/mars. Both of us are Aquarius rising too.

I talked to my pharmacy, they are switching me back to my original...turns out, there never was a generic. I'm taking the special low hormone version the doctor prescribed to me, she says given my nature it would be unwise to change it. There is no generic for it. However, they offer a generic version for the original so I thought at a slightly higher hormone, it would be worth it to at least try because I'm so hard on money and it was free...well I realized sometimes free is NOT worth risking my sanity.

My bf has agreed to pay $ 25 a month for it, while I pay the remaining $ 7-10.

Posted by Agentgem24
I'm sorry Scorp!!

And he actually has a venus in Capricorn, his mars is in Scorpio.

I have Cancer in both my venus/mars. Both of us are Aquarius rising too.

I talked to my pharmacy, they are switching me back to my original...turns out, there never was a generic. I'm taking the special low hormone version the doctor prescribed to me, she says given my nature it would be unwise to change it. There is no generic for it. However, they offer a generic version for the original so I thought at a slightly higher hormone, it would be worth it to at least try because I'm so hard on money and it was free...well I realized sometimes free is NOT worth risking my sanity.

My bf has agreed to pay $ 25 a month for it, while I pay the remaining $ 7-10.

Mars in scorpio/ Venus in Cancer. That explains some things. 🙂

Glad you changed the prescription and he's a good guy for paying for it.

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I'm sorry Scorp!!

And he actually has a venus in Capricorn, his mars is in Scorpio.

I have Cancer in both my venus/mars. Both of us are Aquarius rising too.

I talked to my pharmacy, they are switching me back to my original...turns out, there never was a generic. I'm taking the special low hormone version the doctor prescribed to me, she says given my nature it would be unwise to change it. There is no generic for it. However, they offer a generic version for the original so I thought at a slightly higher hormone, it would be worth it to at least try because I'm so hard on money and it was free...well I realized sometimes free is NOT worth risking my sanity.

My bf has agreed to pay $ 25 a month for it, while I pay the remaining $ 7-10.

Mars in scorpio/ Venus in Cancer. That explains some things. 🙂

Glad you changed the prescription and he's a good guy for paying for it.

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Yeah his mars is Scorpio, my venus is cancer. His venus is Capricorn, and my mars is cancer.

Yeah he's helping me out with at least half every month,

Posted by MilkySoft
No fighting yet, but everything's always bitchin' in the beginning, isn't it?

It's only a matter of time before one of us gets jealous, yes, only a matter of time...

Not looking forward to it.

What sign are you? I've known people to do opposite too! My gem and Pisces couple friends had a really hard time in the beginning then smooth sailing after the first few months.

Yeah Taurus and Scorp, pretty good there.

My main positions are: gem sun, mercury and jupiter. Aquarius rising. Libra moon. Cancer venus/mars. Scorpio Midheaven.

His are: Scorpio sun, mars, Midheaven, Aquarius rising, Leo moon, sag mercury, Capricorn venus.

All of our houses minus 2 are the same.

I think we add fairly compatible. I checked like 7 negatives, 18 positives.

What is composite chart? Think that's what I looked at.

He and I can snap and I'll be bitchy but if blows over fast and I'll be like "sowwy😢" and he will be like, "why are you sorry?"

I'll nag, he will pout, he will invite me to cuddle; then we have awesome sex. We've never had big blow outs...it's usually just me throwing a tantrum and me needing to calm down a bit. Never been pissy more than an hour. I don't go a day without talking or silent pouting matches. none of it. We talk about the issue and move on.

Oh no, I'm going to be in b control! I just am switching my pill back to the lo estrogen one I had taken for 4 years with no effects. No back up methods needed because I never stopped b control. When one pack ended and it was time to start the new pack, I tried the different pack with higher hormone. Fail. Now when this one is due this week, I will switch back to my old one. I will prob have an adjusting period. But back up in the beginning is only if you stop for awhile.

Would it be too much to ask if you did the mld point thingy for my bf and I? I don't know how to do it :/

He helps pay for you're BC? that is the cutest thing I have ever heard. Awe.

But ya I'm with tw 1 I'm trying to find a natural alter it's so bad for you're body.

I just reallly don't want kids anytime soon and condoms hurt and none of us like them

And thank you twinkle!

Generally mine does not annoy me but there is one thing he does that drives me nuts:

When I get upset about something he tells me I'm making him feel bad.

It's like, "Hello, how do you think I feel right now? Didn't you make me feel bad first?"

Lol.

Well I'm glad my chart is good over all, but the bad part worries me =/

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Posted by capgirl69
Generally mine does not annoy me but there is one thing he does that drives me nuts:

When I get upset about something he tells me I'm making him feel bad.

It's like, "Hello, how do you think I feel right now? Didn't you make me feel bad first?"

Lol.

Sorry we do that. We are emotional leeches. We often unwittingly try to drain your bad emotions and shoulder them ourselves.

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Lol. I feel like its an attempt to switch it, though I know that's not the intent, it just really annoys me. I know it is like you say, that its an expression of remorse but at the time it doesn't come off that way. Sometimes I want to say, "good, you should feel bad." But I never say that because that would be mean. And I love him too much to be mean.

Posted by Agentgem24
I'm sorry Scorp!!

And he actually has a venus in Capricorn, his mars is in Scorpio.

I have Cancer in both my venus/mars. Both of us are Aquarius rising too.

I talked to my pharmacy, they are switching me back to my original...turns out, there never was a generic. I'm taking the special low hormone version the doctor prescribed to me, she says given my nature it would be unwise to change it. There is no generic for it. However, they offer a generic version for the original so I thought at a slightly higher hormone, it would be worth it to at least try because I'm so hard on money and it was free...well I realized sometimes free is NOT worth risking my sanity.

My bf has agreed to pay $ 25 a month for it, while I pay the remaining $ 7-10.

He *wants* you... ^_^

He must see something loveable in you. Whether you do or not, he does, and it looks like he wants you to, too. He'll make sure you do if you don't already. He's investing in you. Good signs! And you're on your way to feeling more your natural self. Congrats!

Posted by tw1nk1e
Haha I have just done too much research into birth control. It's poison to me. But do whatever you want. Just saying, it really messes up people emotionally and physically.

PM me your guys birth data and I can make one for you.

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Did you know birth control messes with your sense of smell, pheromone-wise? We're geared biologically to find a good genetic match based on smell. Not that you're looking to have kids right now. Just an interesting tidbit, that if a guy smells good (sans any scent cover-ups), supposedly you'd have healthy kids, and if he smells bad to you, you're either too similar or too different to have healthy kids. Theoretically.

BUT that when you're pregnant, people who are too genetically similar (i.e. your family) begin to smell better, and potential mates begin to smell worse; theoretically because families are the safe place to be when you're vulnerable like that.

Birth control makes your body think it's pregnant. It makes guys with GOOD genetics (if mixed with yours) smell bad, and guys who'd be incompatible (in that way) smell good.

So, since you've been on it since you met, does he smell good, or bad? If he smells bad... that's, well, good! Irony. 😉

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Posted by capgirl69
Generally mine does not annoy me but there is one thing he does that drives me nuts:

When I get upset about something he tells me I'm making him feel bad.

It's like, "Hello, how do you think I feel right now? Didn't you make me feel bad first?"

Lol.

Sorry we do that. We are emotional leeches. We often unwittingly try to drain your bad emotions and shoulder them ourselves.

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Awwww cuteness!

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Generally mine does not annoy me but there is one thing he does that drives me nuts:

When I get upset about something he tells me I'm making him feel bad.

It's like, "Hello, how do you think I feel right now? Didn't you make me feel bad first?"

Lol.

Sorry we do that. We are emotional leeches. We often unwittingly try to drain your bad emotions and shoulder them ourselves.

Lol. I feel like its an attempt to switch it, though I know that's not the intent, it just really annoys me. I know it is like you say, that its an expression of remorse but at the time it doesn't come off that way. Sometimes I want to say, "good, you should feel bad." But I never say that because that would be mean. And I love him too much to be mean.

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Aww you're too nice! I'd have said it to mine's face one way or another... I dont believe I'm mean, I'm just factual lol. And oh, I call mine Mr.Selfish... since he turns everything into making it ALL about him. I just dont call him selfish then.. I taunt him to make him understand(cuz i feel it flies by his pretty lil head even when faced with the truth). He takes the ribbing good naturedly. Oh, I understand he can reciprocate it to me anyday, I'd rather have it in my face than him using it as a weapon to sting some fine day 😛

AgentGem,

Girl, you sound like me when I was in my teens!! even my early 20s too!! Always wanting to know why a precise thing had gone wrong when I've been doing everything by the book. Why oh why all the lil annoyances wish they'd all just go away and he falls into place like you've always dreamed of. Trust me, you're trying to fix whats not broken.

I used to be a crazy teen, as in, always fighting with family like crazy. Used to have arguments left, right and center just to see if they would put up with shit thrown by me. And when in love I constantly questioned why scorp loved me. Just why? what is love? it drove me to the edge of the world trying to find answers for all my whys. I've asked him too on occassion, all my questions. And he would happily give his answers but none of that satiated me. I wanted to learn more, and more did I learn lol. None of it necessary. All that matters is how you live in the NOW ONLY!

Being snappy comes with the air territory. I snap at hubby once in a while but only because he doesnt fit the right definition that I framed in my head. Little things irritate me, like why does he have no discipline when he folds and unfolds the blanket in the morning after we wake up. I've not only grown up very well disciplined, I've my own chart of disciplines. A list if you will, as to how I live my everyday life.. how each thing is handled in the most optimal way. I'm anal about how I wash my dishes and dont like it if he does it for me (appreciate it if he helps out after an especially long day but still dont like it!) All these little annoyances wont disappear. We need to grow out of our kiddish selves and see the person for who he is.

You both dont seem like you've got a lot to quarrel about. Just minor bickering like you've stated. Dont go anal about trying to fix it. Learn to live with minor adjustments. Be the bigger person. I see that you're switching your meds too which is a nice thing!

Just dont take on too many things onto yourself. Also stop blaming yourself for everything under the sun (that is if you do, I do that to myself a lot and need to consciously put a stop to it). Give your self-confidence a daily pep talk and take each day as it comes.

No, I used to be on depo. I stopped that a loooooong time ago, and it made me crazy. I only took Lexapro to counter act the affects of it...I haven't been on anything since.

And it's not constant pill changes; I was on the same pill for the past 4 years problem free; ortho tricyclen lo...no issues. To save money, a few months ago I tried the generic of the original ortho tricyclen and that didn't work apparently. This is the only pill change I have done, and I will not do anymore.

These issues with the depo and Lexapro were years ago.

Posted by ZipZapZo0m
AgentGem,

Girl, you sound like me when I was in my teens!! even my early 20s too!! Always wanting to know why a precise thing had gone wrong when I've been doing everything by the book. Why oh why all the lil annoyances wish they'd all just go away and he falls into place like you've always dreamed of. Trust me, you're trying to fix whats not broken.

I used to be a crazy teen, as in, always fighting with family like crazy. Used to have arguments left, right and center just to see if they would put up with shit thrown by me. And when in love I constantly questioned why scorp loved me. Just why? what is love? it drove me to the edge of the world trying to find answers for all my whys. I've asked him too on occassion, all my questions. And he would happily give his answers but none of that satiated me. I wanted to learn more, and more did I learn lol. None of it necessary. All that matters is how you live in the NOW ONLY!

Being snappy comes with the air territory. I snap at hubby once in a while but only because he doesnt fit the right definition that I framed in my head. Little things irritate me, like why does he have no discipline when he folds and unfolds the blanket in the morning after we wake up. I've not only grown up very well disciplined, I've my own chart of disciplines. A list if you will, as to how I live my everyday life.. how each thing is handled in the most optimal way. I'm anal about how I wash my dishes and dont like it if he does it for me (appreciate it if he helps out after an especially long day but still dont like it!) All these little annoyances wont disappear. We need to grow out of our kiddish selves and see the person for who he is.

You both dont seem like you've got a lot to quarrel about. Just minor bickering like you've stated. Dont go anal about trying to fix it. Learn to live with minor adjustments. Be the bigger person. I see that you're switching your meds too which is a nice thing!

Just dont take on too many things onto yourself. Also stop blaming yourself for everything under the sun (that is if you do, I do that to myself a lot and need to consciously put a stop to it). Give your self-confidence a daily pep talk and take each day as it comes.

Thanks 🙂 omg is he bad at chores! But I'm also lazy, so I'm not going to be doing them all lol.

He's all for me changing b controls and willing to help but he also said I didn't need to. He says even if I kept having my crazy mood swings he wouldn't go anywhere and he really cares for me. He says he will never leave me. He also doesn't blow up at me when I have these or call me crazy.

He says I may be irrational and moody at times but that's fine because he's not perfect and has things to work on to. He used to be a huge cocky ass hole before me, he says I saved him. Well I don't blame him when you date girls that say they are only looking for fun, they don't want serious, they like mean guys and jerks and not to be nice so he played into it. He says they had sex right away, but didn't even kiss for 2 weeks 0.o he says the cuddling stuff, the sweet things he does with me, he never did for girls like that. He also never spent his money on them. He had NO respect.

He's known as a cocky ass hole at his waiting table job(his office job he's an angel) but one of the nice female servers told me that he's changed in a good way since me and everyone's noticed and she thanked me.

I'm not a fan of the skanky hostesses who still try to flirt with him though and have a pretend game to see who can sway him away from me the 1st. He says they are young and stupid 18 year olds and I'm his queen and he needs nobody else.

On the smell thing; he thinks my natural smell is fantastic. Although he did say get new deodorant one day and has since said nothing negative. Other than bad breath etc, I don't think his natural smell is bad but it's not amazing either. I'm not a fan of his stuffy Italian cologne lol but it's grown unique to him.