I don't want my friend in a Scorp harem! D:

Am I over-exaggerating?

My friend (Aries, female, we'll call her M) had been wanting to ask out this guy (Scorpio, male, we'll call him J) for a very long time, and she finally did! At first, he was very receptive to the idea of going out with her, and we were all so excited!

It's been a week since M asked J out, and she invited him to hang out this coming Saturday. This is when J took the opportunity to tell M that he was seeing (talking to?) two other girls and that he did not want her to walk into something with him without knowing. However, J said that he would still like to hang out with M and "catch a movie sometime."

I'm upset. It's a sticky situation, and I want M to get out of it. But M doesn't necessarily see it as a negative thing. She's hoping that they will hang out more and their relationship will gradually develop, and that he'll eventually drop those other two girls.

But, I think that he's just adding her to his growing harem. My other friends think he's trying to friendzone her, but I did not get that vibe.

In your opinions, what's going on here?

maybe all three can get a magic act going

Posted by Sagsagsags
@Wallflower422 LOL. Isn't this a lil bit too obvious? It's not friendzone it's an FWB situation. You need to tell your friend this. If it still falls on deaf ear then just let her be. The more you try to tell her not to, the more secretive she'll become, you'll lose her this way.

Just check on her from time to time and let her tell her story to you. If reality suddenly hit her in her face, run to her rescue, comfort her, and help her stand up again... isn't that what good friends are for? 🙂

My group of friends consist of few loving worrier like you and another few rebels. So this case was all too common back in my college days :p

^This^

@Wallflower422

In the case of your friend, if he's been around her awhile, 9 out of 10 he's already been checking her out. If there is interest (FWB or something more), eventually he would have let her know. But she would have to wait. Now, it's kind of a moot point.

It's really never the best idea to pursue a scorpio male. For better results, let him come to you.

What did you say? Hm Scorpio has harem? Well I never.?

It's a good lesson to get into a fwb at 21 years old for further information about ones future. Live and learn.

This is actually a normal thing for young people. But it always gets out of control for the guy. He ends up genuinely liking and developing feelings for all of them. Making them all feel special and like they are in a relationship with him. Eventually with time the women will want to address being exclusive. And even though he may like each enough to be exclusive, he can't. Because he can't choose. Because he likes each of them for different reasons. Then it becomes a game of the last man standing.

She's an Aries. So she is intrigued and not put off by this because she likes competition. She likes the challenge and she will want to win.

Just be her friend because she will need one

That's going to be a lot of juices going around

Prime time to experiment sure. And yeah be a friend just in case.

Volcanic eruptions.

There might be a thing go on about exclusive and a relationship monogamously. Maybe two different things and needs to be able to separate emotions and most people can do this.

Posted by Sagsagsags
@Wallflower422 LOL. Isn't this a lil bit too obvious? It's not friendzone it's an FWB situation. You need to tell your friend this. If it still falls on deaf ear then just let her be. The more you try to tell her not to, the more secretive she'll become, you'll lose her this way.

Just check on her from time to time and let her tell her story to you. If reality suddenly hit her in her face, run to her rescue, comfort her, and help her stand up again... isn't that what good friends are for? 🙂

My group of friends consist of few loving worrier like you and another few rebels. So this case was all too common back in my college days :p

That didn't cross my mind, actually. Then again, I can be fairly naive when it comes to these kinds of matters.

Whatever the case, I just would rather she not be involved with him. It all seems too complicated. But thanks for the advice! I'll definitely be there for her, whatever decision she makes.

Posted by Aries_Luminary
This is actually a normal thing for young people. But it always gets out of control for the guy. He ends up genuinely liking and developing feelings for all of them. Making them all feel special and like they are in a relationship with him. Eventually with time the women will want to address being exclusive. And even though he may like each enough to be exclusive, he can't. Because he can't choose. Because he likes each of them for different reasons. Then it becomes a game of the last man standing.

She's an Aries. So she is intrigued and not put off by this because she likes competition. She likes the challenge and she will want to win.

Just be her friend because she will need one

That's going to be a lot of juices going around

@ the bolded: Yes, that's the part I'm dreading. In my opinion, why go through all the stress and work of trying to "beat out" competition? I don't really think you should have to. I wouldn't want to be stuck in a situation like that, because (to me) it's irritating and I'm lazy (xD). But, if that's what she wants then, I'll be there for her no matter the outcome. Thanks for the advice 🙂