happykitsune
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I think I offended a scorpio
Sounds like it's over.
Beware of Scorpios, happykitsune. They are very serious people!
Posted by enfant_terrible
Beware of Scorpios, happykitsune. They are very serious people!
He's not that serious of a scorpio tho. He's on the cusp of scorpio and sag, but def a scorpio.
Posted by ellessque
"he's offended I didn't acknowledge him downtown."
yep. that's exactly his problem.
i'd be pissed too. sorry.
Yeah I'd be offended too. Not sure what to do at this point. I don't like things to not be okay with someone I know.
Ideas on how to get him to be okay with me again?
Posted by ellessque
that's a tough one.
i know to others it seems petty but i would totally exile someone if they did that to me.
exile as in...i'd probably not think of you much. if you contact me, i'll be cordial but it would fade for me to the point you would forget what i look like.
meh, I don't think he's that petty. There's been times when I've thought he was never going to talk to me again and he'd send me a random text.
Thanks, I think I know what my plan is now
Posted by DazedScorp
Sexy time?
Haha yeah I do that and he'll just think I'm easy. This is the guy who would use mind games to get girls to expose how sexual they were (via text) and then judge them for it after he did it. He tested me once and I failed, but he kept using the same technique and I passed the last two tests. Must have been trying to condition me or something as I could see myself using the same method he did to get someone to act how I wanted them to. Damn mind games lol
Hahahahah diss!
Posted by happykitsunePosted by ellessque
"he's offended I didn't acknowledge him downtown."
yep. that's exactly his problem.
i'd be pissed too. sorry.
Yeah I'd be offended too. Not sure what to do at this point. I don't like things to not be okay with someone I know.
Ideas on how to get him to be okay with me again?click to expand
you have a scorpio moon. you know what hes feeling when hes feelin it. go with your gut.
Posted by happykitsunePosted by DazedScorp
Sexy time?
Haha yeah I do that and he'll just think I'm easy. This is the guy who would use mind games to get girls to expose how sexual they were (via text) and then judge them for it after he did it. He tested me once and I failed, but he kept using the same technique and I passed the last two tests. Must have been trying to condition me or something as I could see myself using the same method he did to get someone to act how I wanted them to. Damn mind games lolclick to expand
i think you could fail 100000000000 tests and he still wouldnt care. scorpios want what they want.
Oh, no! You're doomed!
I'd be offended too, think you were shamed to know me for some reason. That doesn't set well.
is this your first time ignoring him? or is this a repeat occurence?
i think you would be in trouble if u werent being genuine in your actions. but if you were, then you shouldnt have anything to worry about. id talk to him about it and say why u did what u did. tbh, he already knows why u did what u did. scorpios are smart dudes. they werent born last night. but he needs to hear it from your lips. the more time you spend with each other, the more intune u get.
i only ask if this is your first time because the first time i ignored the old scorp, it was genuine. i was thinking before hand about my feelings and how i was falling and i needed to distance myself. so when i arrived at the party, i didnt say one word to him, he circled me, and i still felt some urge to say nothing. he reached out to me and i was a bitch to him.
but i honestly KNOW that he knew what was going on with me instinctively. i do come across bi-polar. one mintue, i wanna party it up the next, i want nothing to do with him.
the only bad thing, it started a cycle of ignoring. his defualt and baddest card to play is the "ignore card." no matter how many times he plays it, that shyt still hurts. he could sleep with my sister but an ICE OUT, hurts like hell. he mulls over shit just like i do. the ignore card is that card i play when my emotions have been hurt.
i guess what im saying is, in all that you do...be genuine. if your going to love, be genuine. if you going to hate him, be genuine.
if this is a repeat occurence than you two have some deep unresolved issues that will go unresolved. stalemate
i think you would be in trouble if u werent being genuine in your actions. but if you were, then you shouldnt have anything to worry about. id talk to him about it and say why u did what u did. tbh, he already knows why u did what u did. scorpios are smart dudes. they werent born last night. but he needs to hear it from your lips. the more time you spend with each other, the more intune u get.
i only ask if this is your first time because the first time i ignored the old scorp, it was genuine. i was thinking before hand about my feelings and how i was falling and i needed to distance myself. so when i arrived at the party, i didnt say one word to him, he circled me, and i still felt some urge to say nothing. he reached out to me and i was a bitch to him.
but i honestly KNOW that he knew what was going on with me instinctively. i do come across bi-polar. one mintue, i wanna party it up the next, i want nothing to do with him.
the only bad thing, it started a cycle of ignoring. his defualt and baddest card to play is the "ignore card." no matter how many times he plays it, that shyt still hurts. he could sleep with my sister but an ICE OUT, hurts like hell. he mulls over shit just like i do. the ignore card is that card i play when my emotions have been hurt.
i guess what im saying is, in all that you do...be genuine. if your going to love, be genuine. if you going to hate him, be genuine.
if this is a repeat occurence than you two have some deep unresolved issues that will go unresolved. stalemate
Posted by DMV
i guess what im saying is, in all that you do...be genuine. if your going to love, be genuine. if you going to hate him, be genuine.
if this is a repeat occurence than you two have some deep unresolved issues that will go unresolved. stalemate
This was a first time occurrence. I actually go out of my way to say hi to him, which is probably why he took it so hard. I dunno I just froze. I saw him and it was like I just didn't wanna talk or look at him. Then again he had been pretty annoying in previous settings because he wasn't acting like a true friend.
We do have unresolved issues. He's the one who tried to get back with me over the summer and I was very distant, but he kept pressing for us to be together. Now we get back into school and he's been a hermit and says he shouldn't have made the promise he did to spend more time with me. That's fine by me, I wasn't looking for a relationship with him, but being on good terms would have been nice. I thought we had settled it that we were friends, but I guess me not saying hi offset everything.
I almost never see him...it's like this weird thing, cus even when he wasn't a hermit I almost never saw him. But on the days I will see him I get this thought of him in my head that I will end up seeing him and then BAM! later I see him. So you can imagine part of the reason why I was shocked...I'm just not used to seeing him...that and I was trying to direct my friend and sister to go another way. So all these emotions and thoughts are going on and he comes walking down the crossway and I freeze and go into shy mode
^^^ ha ha ha ha..^^^ Tis true, I recall the same...
Posted by FireDragonScorpio
happy. i am totally confused. forgive me cos i'm not well but what is this about 'my scorpio'? last week it was 'my leo' and i'm pretty sure there was a 'my sag' in there somewhere not to mention a smattering of religious guilt and bible bashing.
if i've got that wrong, i apologise. if i didn't, i don't care.
Yeah I realized that after I submitted the post and didn't feel like changing it. He is my scorpio friend, but nothing more anymore. We were dating earlier this year, but we are way too different and both of us realized this.
So for further reference if I use MY with any sign it's used like a term of endearment. I'm not seeing anyone right now.
If that were the case I wouldn't have messaged him a while back confirming that there was nothing more between us.
All I can say is he had been a friend previously and that tied in with me trying to direct people in the right direction and not quite sure if he was still on his "not being a friend" kick, I shy-ed away naturally as I do with everyone I'm not sure about. In fact I usually don't say hi to someone unless they make eye contact with me.
I know what I want and I try my hardest to figure out the definite lines of every guy I like or have liked. And if they can't figure out what they want I will say it's done, like I did with the ex sag and like I did with this scorpio back when we were dating. If I was trying to confuse him I would flirt like I used to a few years back.
But yeah, shyness is what usually does me in and people take that as a form of snootiness when really I just have a fear of them rejecting my "hellos".
All I can say is he had been a friend previously and that tied in with me trying to direct people in the right direction and not quite sure if he was still on his "not being a friend" kick, I shy-ed away naturally as I do with everyone I'm not sure about. In fact I usually don't say hi to someone unless they make eye contact with me.
I know what I want and I try my hardest to figure out the definite lines of every guy I like or have liked. And if they can't figure out what they want I will say it's done, like I did with the ex sag and like I did with this scorpio back when we were dating. If I was trying to confuse him I would flirt like I used to a few years back.
But yeah, shyness is what usually does me in and people take that as a form of snootiness when really I just have a fear of them rejecting my "hellos".
Posted by everevolvingepithet
I don't think the scorp would accept friendship if he had the poon before and now it's in God's hand fwiw.
I think you're right. He had a hard time the first time and we tried again, but I don't think he can handle it. I will admit it's hard for me to accept friendship after a break up, but so far I've managed to stay friends with all of my exes except the toxic taurus.
I don't feel anything for him anymore, but I just like things to be okay between me and other people. That and he was a friend to me before we started this whole thing. Hate to see friendships end, but he just can't handle it :/
I would offended too, regardess of what pride and glory said, A.K.A enfant_terrible. Any person would feel the same, its rude full stop.
Posted by everevolvingepithet
Hi HK. I think you'd be surprised what a guy can truly handle and how 'take it or leave it' they can be with the friendship side of things, no offense.
I don't feel anything for him anymore, but I just like things to be okay between me and other people. That and he was a friend to me before we started this whole thing. Hate to see friendships end, but he just can't handle it :/
This is contradictory though, even though I'm guessing you mean well by it. Switch on/off from a person and leave them be if needs must. What gives you the impression he can't handle it ?
I'm not going to say you've been around a fair bit given how many guys you've gone through recently but guys usually can't again 'take it or leave it' in those college years. I think you'd stress and worry yourself moreso than they would if you spend too much time making sure 'everything's okay' between people you ultimately don't need to care for, presence-wise etc.click to expand
Eh I'm not stressing about it. I'm saying he can't handle it because of the way he's acting. I don't think he still likes me. But he's done this before where he will say "hey lets be friends." then he doesn't and tells me later he just can't handle it. So going by the way he acts and his own words I have deduced this
Posted by hiplove79Posted by happykitsune
Look, just leave the man alone. You're too all over the place. Hell, it's making my head hurt. I can't imagine what it's like for the men in your life. Are there not any friends in your life that you haven't fucked? Just chill with them and leave the exes, fuck buddies and past one night stands alone. Let go and let God. Woosah...
I have never been able to understand how people remain friends with their exes. With me, it's all or nothing. Too much history, memories and pain, to go on being friends as nothing ever happened. Eh, but that's just me.click to expand
I haven't talked to him since. What makes you think my plan wasn't to leave him alone?
I'm reading what you're saying and this is how you do things. Not saying either of our ways is right or wrong, but whether it is is subjective.
I know it's hard for some people to remain friends with their exes. I also know those people aren't me. I tend to have been friends with my exes prior and friends through the relationship to the point where it was best friends. I don't like burning bridges and any I've burned in the past are usually built up, not by me, but the other person because they choose to remain apart of my life. So I guess in a sense this was me, for once, trying to make an effort and rebuild a bridge. But I'm letting it go.
Yes I have thought about the idea that me talking to him could spark another romance so I had kept my distance, otherwise you would have seen a lot more posts about me texting him all the time. But I still wanted to be able to be courteous towards each other. I'm not the type of person to let one slip up of not saying hello deter me from a person, I give second chances. But for some people it does deter them, and that's who they are and that's who he is.
What can you do about it? The people that are meant to stick in your life will stick and those who aren't will get offended and turn away.
This post was really just a last attempt to keep a friend or at least keep it at a friendly level because I've never known someone to become so offended they never spoke to me again.
I thank you all who helped with your posts. This has been quite interesting to say the least
im shy at times too around men i like.
scorp suns dont get shy around people they like?
Posted by FireDragonScorpio
yeah well it's more coy than shy i would say...i'm the same. i fiddle with my hair like a school girl, get tongue-tied and shift from foot to foot which believe me, at my age, looks pretty freakin' ridiculous, lol.
but if you've had a relationship or sex with them already? would you still feel shy then?
with me, yes....even more so. but only with someone i really like, was vulnearable for, and who i felt was going to reject me somehow. someone i havent deemed safe. u know, the ones u eventually fall for because they make u feel out of control.
Posted by everevolvingepithet
Isn't that a self fulfilling prophecy though ?
no. because i dont feel that way towards everyone. only a select few.
Posted by FireDragonScorpio
yeah, DMV, you will attract the kind of people you don't want to attract with that behaviour. expect rejection and that's what will happen.
no, that is not my intention in writing that.
its not that i expect rejection, but when something smells fishy....well lol, it smells. i think what im trying to say is similar to ellesque's blog about why your scorpio has stopped contacting you. other people act in a way that makes me nervous and apprehensive.
its confusing for me that scorpio suns dont feel this way as well. do scorpio suns meet people and think the world of all of them? are scorpio suns trusting people? that sounds more like a sag. saggis usually befriend any and every one. imo, scorps dont do that.
Posted by FireDragonScorpio
hiplove: lol @ it's making my head hurt....it's making my fucking brain ache too!!
happy: why do you mention shyness when you're talking about a guy/guys you fucked already?
hmmm. you fuck the leo and suddenly become a reborn christian....you fuck the scorpio and now you are shy with him?
do you live in a reverse parallel universe or something?
shyness and christianity should come before the fucking part surely.
Lemme clear something up here. I did not have sex with this guy.
Posted by everevolvingepithet
With that in mind though, the sooner you can untrust then FireDragonScorpio ?🙂
It's not about untrusting. She means you just have to have good judgement and be suspicious to those who exhibit weird behavior or those who are giving you clear signs they are out to do you wrong.
Can't trust words, and sometimes not even actions. Best to wait till you've known the person for a while to make a clear assumption that they are being truthful or not...hard being patient
Posted by FireDragonScorpio
yeah but sometimes people just plain bullshit you and are very believable in the process. i always attract that type. the type that are particularly accomplished in presenting themselves one way when in fact, it bears no resemblance to who they really are. it's not a behaviour thing just plain old bullshit!
+1
Posted by FireDragonScorpio
or do they? and if they do present parts of themselves, which parts are real and which aren't? that's the problem. i like hard core brutal honesty. makes me a mouthy bitch but i don't care. being full of shit or being with a bs master is too high maintenance for my liking.
+1
All I know is just be careful, but you shouldn't be so untrusting you have trust issues cus then you lose the other person
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