Is he still interested?

So in my last post I asked how to keep a Scorpio man interested, but maybe I should have worded that differently.

Basically I am back in contact with a Scorpio who I have history with. Lets say he was very keen on me a few months back, but I pushed him away.. I scared him off I think, we had only been dating a month or so but I came on a little strong... I wasn't myself at the time, my dad was really ill and I wasn't working, I felt like I needed someone and normally I am patient but I became really impatient with how things were progressing with us... and instead of taking it slow I pushed him a bit and I think I scared him off.

After a month or so passed of no contact, I realised I still liked him and realised where I messed up.. and I'm in a better position than I was. My father is better now and I have a great job where I'm happy, I reached out to my Scorpio and surprisingly he was really responsive. We've been texting randomly over the past few weeks, but neither of us has suggested meeting. I want him to suggest it as I believe as the guy he should be pursuing me, and by me texting him I'm showing him my interest.. buut I don't know if he thinks I'm just being friendly. Also, he may just be being friendly back!

So I guess my question is, when a scorpio is responsive, could he just be being friendly or does it mean he could be interested in something more? How can I get him to suggest to meet? I've hinted at possible situations for us to meet, but he hasn't taken the bait. Or maybe he's waiting to see if I'm going to behave how I did last time..

Who stopped contacting who initially?
You want to start something up again, ask him if you could meet for lunch?
He could just be friendly at this point, doesn't mean interest.
Does he know of your situation?
What exactly transpired to end it?

Posted by LunarMaiden
Who stopped contacting who initially?
You want to start something up again, ask him if you could meet for lunch?
He could just be friendly at this point, doesn't mean interest.
Does he know of your situation?
What exactly transpired to end it?

It was kind of both of us initially. After we began to become intimate, I came on a little strong too strong and think I scared him, so he pulled back. But then he came back, and when he came back I pulled away more than he had pulled away before, as I was upset. He chased, but I ignored. But then went back he didn't respond. Stupid little games, I know.

I don't want to ask him to meet for lunch, because I have already hinted at it.. I've told him I'm working very close to him now. So he knows this, and knows we could potentially bump into eachother... I want him to suggest it, but then I don't know if he is just being friendly...

Posted by cancerrose
It was kind of both of us initially. After we began to become intimate, I came on a little strong too strong and think I scared him, so he pulled back. But then he came back, and when he came back I pulled away more than he had pulled away before, as I was upset. He chased, but I ignored. But then went back he didn't respond. Stupid little games, I know.

I don't want to ask him to meet for lunch, because I have already hinted at it.. I've told him I'm working very close to him now. So he knows this, and knows we could potentially bump into eachother... I want him to suggest it, but then I don't know if he is just being friendly...

Damn...he's not going to suggest anything after the shit you pulled. You need to look him in they eye without a flinch and tell him: "I fucked up big time..I apologize, I was an insecure twit, did a 180 and I want to try again"...that's it. Brutal honesty, he'll respecting you for having the balls to suggest this. Anything short of that forget it. Too many games were played.

*respect not respecting..

He's not going to ask you out because you are the one pursuing him remember. He moved on, you want back in. But you want him to take the reigns and pursue you again like the first time you started seeing each other. Stage one has passed, because you both fucked up; you are now in Stage 2: forgiveness and reconnection. The rules are a bit different now. This isn't a new budding romance. It's a attempt at reconnection. And the person pursuing a reconnection has the burden of stating their reasons for the reconnect. So yes the ball is in your court. If he were a Leo he would know what to do immediately and take over, you are dealing with an over-analytical Scorpio.

You are running in circles, over-thinking, doing things sideways and backwards. He probably doesn't know what to think of you. Like many Crabs, you have an issue with being direct and think hinting and setting up a scenario where the other person does the work for. Been here done that with a guy and believe me, he is not going to take you serious. What you see as your own shyness and fear; he translates to game playing. Regardless of sign, men don't know our hearts and minds. They only know their side and how they feel and what they perceive until you TELL them what you want.

I know the thought of rejection is enormously frightening, but you already have history with this man. You should be at a comfort level that you can come to him and tell him how you feel. No games! Have an honest, direct, sincere conversation with him; from the heart. Get real, no hopping around dodging feelings and fear of rejection. Rejection is a possibility, you know this already. But so is acceptance. The possibility of acceptance is worth the risk I think. Even if the outcome isn't want you want it to be; at least you made an effort. It's going to take some courage. You clearly have it in you or you wouldn't have contacted him. You just need to follow through. Remember both of you are water signs, he is going to understand and appreciate your depth of feelings and emotions. Don't be afraid to go there.

Posted by LunarMaiden
He's not going to ask you out because you are the one pursuing him remember. He moved on, you want back in. But you want him to take the reigns and pursue you again like the first time you started seeing each other. Stage one has passed, because you both fucked up; you are now in Stage 2: forgiveness and reconnection. The rules are a bit different now. This isn't a new budding romance. It's a attempt at reconnection. And the person pursuing a reconnection has the burden of stating their reasons for the reconnect. So yes the ball is in your court. If he were a Leo he would know what to do immediately and take over, you are dealing with an over-analytical Scorpio.

You are running in circles, over-thinking, doing things sideways and backwards. He probably doesn't know what to think of you. Like many Crabs, you have an issue with being direct and think hinting and setting up a scenario where the other person does the work for. Been here done that with a guy and believe me, he is not going to take you serious. What you see as your own shyness and fear; he translates to game playing. Regardless of sign, men don't know our hearts and minds. They only know their side and how they feel and what they perceive until you TELL them what you want.

I know the thought of rejection is enormously frightening, but you already have history with this man. You should be at a comfort level that you can come to him and tell him how you feel. No games! Have an honest, direct, sincere conversation with him; from the heart. Get real, no hopping around dodging feelings and fear of rejection. Rejection is a possibility, you know this already. But so is acceptance. The possibility of acceptance is worth the risk I think. Even if the outcome isn't want you want it to be; at least you made an effort. It's going to take some courage. You clearly have it in you or you wouldn't have contacted him. You just need to follow through. Remember both of you are water signs, he is going to understand and appreciate your depth of feelings and emotions. Don't be afraid to go there.

Thank you for the insightful response, I suppose I do tend to do things sideways without being direct, and I have definitely been overthinking... way too much!

The thing is, I feel like I've put myself out there many times with him, and I'm not sure whether I look like a fool. When I said we had the

I don't know why its cutting off my reply!!

Thank you for the insightful response, I suppose I do tend to do things sideways without being direct, and I have definitely been overthinking... way too much!

The thing is, I feel like I've put myself out there many times with him, and I'm not sure whether I look like a fool. When I said we had the period of playing games at the end last time, I asked him if he wanted to continue and he didn't respond, he told me he had recently come out of a relationship and din't want another. Now I don't know if that was an excuse, or if it were true. But a lot of time has passed now, so he may not have the same feelings.
Also he may even be seeing someone else!

Anyway, since our 'reconnection' of exchange of messages, I haven't heard from him since the weekend, he asked me how mine was and I responded, and told him about my night but he didn't reply.

If I reach out again, to ask to meet, I feel like I keep putting myself out there. A part of me feels like the ball is in his court now. I have initiated the past couple of text conversations... If he initiates one now, then maybe I will be more brave about asking him to meet. But at the moment, I feel like I look a little bit crazy.. almost as if I can't take a hint.

Posted by cancerrose
Also he may even be seeing someone else!

Anyway, since our 'reconnection' of exchange of messages, I haven't heard from him since the weekend, he asked me how mine was and I responded, and told him about my night but he didn't reply.

If I reach out again, to ask to meet, I feel like I keep putting myself out there. A part of me feels like the ball is in his court now. I have initiated the past couple of text conversations... If he initiates one now, then maybe I will be more brave about asking him to meet. But at the moment, I feel like I look a little bit crazy.. almost as if I can't take a hint.

Don't assume he's seeing someone. The ball is NOT in his court. You are the one sending mixed singles with the push and pull issues. You are correct that you might look a bit crazy, hence why I say you need to grow balls and tell him you screwed up and why with an apology. Don't just sit there and do nothing. I don't get how you think the ball is in his court?

I think the ball is in his court because he is the one who pulled back initially after becoming intimate.. But then I think I came on strong... after the push pull games, he then basically said he didn't want to continue seeing me.. So I feel like I was rejected.
And as I'm the one reaching out to him now, I feel like I'm already putting myself out there after being rejected, and if I ask to meet I feel like I will look a bit mad!
To be honest, I have no idea who's court the ball is in, its a confusing situation to me. All I know, is that he's the man and I always expect a man to do the pursuing/chasing, which is what he did when we first met and first started dating... My friends say I should let him come to me, but I don't know, he may never will!

Posted by cancerrose
I think the ball is in his court because he is the one who pulled back initially after becoming intimate.. But then I think I came on strong... after the push pull games, he then basically said he didn't want to continue seeing me.. So I feel like I was rejected.
And as I'm the one reaching out to him now, I feel like I'm already putting myself out there after being rejected, and if I ask to meet I feel like I will look a bit mad!
To be honest, I have no idea who's court the ball is in, its a confusing situation to me. All I know, is that he's the man and I always expect a man to do the pursuing/chasing, which is what he did when we first met and first started dating... My friends say I should let him come to me, but I don't know, he may never will!

I believe Lunar already covered this.....You're no longer in the same position.

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Posted by cancerrose
I think the ball is in his court because he is the one who pulled back initially after becoming intimate.. But then I think I came on strong... after the push pull games, he then basically said he didn't want to continue seeing me.. So I feel like I was rejected.
And as I'm the one reaching out to him now, I feel like I'm already putting myself out there after being rejected, and if I ask to meet I feel like I will look a bit mad!
To be honest, I have no idea who's court the ball is in, its a confusing situation to me. All I know, is that he's the man and I always expect a man to do the pursuing/chasing, which is what he did when we first met and first started dating... My friends say I should let him come to me, but I don't know, he may never will!

Let him pursue you.

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Given the details she presented (in the whole thread), would you pursue her?

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Posted by cancerrose
I think the ball is in his court because he is the one who pulled back initially after becoming intimate.. But then I think I came on strong... after the push pull games, he then basically said he didn't want to continue seeing me.. So I feel like I was rejected.
And as I'm the one reaching out to him now, I feel like I'm already putting myself out there after being rejected, and if I ask to meet I feel like I will look a bit mad!
To be honest, I have no idea who's court the ball is in, its a confusing situation to me. All I know, is that he's the man and I always expect a man to do the pursuing/chasing, which is what he did when we first met and first started dating... My friends say I should let him come to me, but I don't know, he may never will!

I believe Lunar already covered this.....You're no longer in the same position.

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Yep, true...

Posted by cancerrose

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Posted by cancerrose
I think the ball is in his court because he is the one who pulled back initially after becoming intimate.. But then I think I came on strong... after the push pull games, he then basically said he didn't want to continue seeing me.. So I feel like I was rejected.
And as I'm the one reaching out to him now, I feel like I'm already putting myself out there after being rejected, and if I ask to meet I feel like I will look a bit mad!
To be honest, I have no idea who's court the ball is in, its a confusing situation to me. All I know, is that he's the man and I always expect a man to do the pursuing/chasing, which is what he did when we first met and first started dating... My friends say I should let him come to me, but I don't know, he may never will!

I believe Lunar already covered this.....You're no longer in the same position.

Yep, true...

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I asked Reincarnation the question above because I know what I would be thinking, however I also know my answer is filtered through female eyes. A Scorp male may have a different take. I think you may need to adjust some of your expectations about being pursued a little bit. I do not think you necessarily need to "chase" the man, but be upfront about your intentions because you are the one hoping to reconnect again. All of your intentions. The man did say he did not want a relationship (before), so at some point that needs to be discussed directly as well.

Asking him out for drinks, lunch or a social gathering is not chasing imo. It's simply an invitation to talk and see where things may go.

But the fact that I've reached out to him and been in contact with him again, doesn't that show that I want to reconnect??

The thing is, I havent heard from him since the weekend now, and although he was responsive initially and being really friendly and asking questions, he didn't reply to my final text... even though there was no response needed ( no questions asked), I thought if he was interested he would have continued on the conversation more

Posted by cancerrose
But the fact that I've reached out to him and been in contact with him again, doesn't that show that I want to reconnect??

Sure...as long as you owned up to and ADMITTED openly your mistakes. Anything short of that, not so much.

Posted by cancerrose
But the fact that I've reached out to him and been in contact with him again, doesn't that show that I want to reconnect??

Not in the ways you are defining "reconnect" (e.g. pursue a relationship). For him, reconnect could simply mean keeping things cordial or friendly. It could mean more, he has no way of knowing for sure. Since you backed away and went cold when he was pursuing you, I personally wouldn't assume you were being more than friendly. I may sense otherwise, but I am not going to make any moves based on my intuition. The last time he pursued you, you went cold remember?

Posted by cancerrose

The thing is, I havent heard from him since the weekend now, and although he was responsive initially and being really friendly and asking questions, he didn't reply to my final text... even though there was no response needed ( no questions asked), I thought if he was interested he would have continued on the conversation more

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For me, responding in a friendly way to your text is my way of giving you an opening to say what you need to say. That's all you get. If you don't, you're choice, but I'm not going to give you any more than the opening. I prefer when people are direct with me. If you want to dance around an issue, I will let you dance in circles until they make yourself dizzy. You may be working with a similar type of Scorp.

Now you said you both messed up and he may (or may not) recognize that he hurt you when he pulled away initially, but again you are the one hoping to reconnect . He was minding his own business before you initiated contact again--so finish what you started. The various ways this went wrong can be addressed when you talk about it, but you need to meet first. So how do you get to the meeting? Alternatively, you can have the conversation prior to meeting up as LIB suggested and see where that goes. That may be enough to get the ball moving.

As an aside question, are you planning to address what went wrong the first time around at any point? I will say if you don't plan to, that will be a big mistake.

Posted by cancerrose
............he then basically said he didn't want to continue seeing me.. So I feel like I was rejected.

Why are you pursuing a man who rejected you? Do you think the 2nd time around will be different?
This should have been in your first post.

I think you already know in your heart and mind what is going on here. You just need to come to terms with it. Best of luck.

Well reject is a bit harsh, he didn't exactly reject me.. but after I came on strong it scared him off!

I'm not really sure whats going on here, if he had ignored my contact I would have forgotten about it all... but now I wonder if theres a possibility of something being there...

Why are you so confusing? You are saying one thing and taking it back to say you meant another. I'm exhausted.

And you have yet to define, "I came on strong..."? What is that? Did you put his arm up his back and make him eat his green peas? I don't get it. How about you date other guys until he comes around?

Yes, I have been dating other guys but this guy is still on my mind and the others just don't compare...

I guess I came on strong by not letting things develop organically, by contacting too much, expecting more from him, when I didn't hear from him for a couple of days I had a go at him... Not my normal behaviour, I just wasn't myself at the time.

Sorry to be so confusing, I'm confused by the situation myself and trying to work out what happened, and whether I should pursue something, let him come to me, or just forget about the whole thing!

Rose, Rose, Rose!!! Take a DEEEEEP breath and let it slowly out.

You're over confusing the matter. If you want him this badly then YES you need to put yourself out there and do what was stated earlier: bluntly and honestly tell him what you want, how you screwed up, and leave it at that. IF he wants to continue with you THEN it will be in his court to throw the ball back. Yes, he's a scorpio and more insightful than most men, but he's still a MAN and no, they aren't psychic enough to know exactly what you want when you yourself are sort of running willy nilly. How much Gemini is in your chart? lol

Anyway, that's the best you can do. If he rejects that then you have your answer. Stop worrying about looking like a fool or getting hurt if he doesn't want to continue a relationship with you. You're hurting yourself more right now with all the hand wringing and worrying.

hahaha you are so right moonartist!

Also I have a Gemini moon, that must be it!! Funnily enough, he has a Gemini moon too!

I guess the only thing holding me back from suggesting to meet is the fact that even if he has some interest, it may turn him off as I'm pursuing him

oy! I can't imagine having a Gem moon while being a water sign!

Any fellow waters with an air moon? Help the gal out!

The good news is you two could be a great match with both having Gem moons. The hardest hurdle will be getting both of you to focus. FOCUS! I love you Gem peeps but it's like dealing with a hummingbird sometimes. lol

Both of you with a Gem moon?
No wonder you both are so back and forth with the pulling away.
I say slow down and relax.

Posted by MoonArtist
oy! I can't imagine having a Gem moon while being a water sign!

Any fellow waters with an air moon? Help the gal out!

The good news is you two could be a great match with both having Gem moons. The hardest hurdle will be getting both of you to focus. FOCUS! I love you Gem peeps but it's like dealing with a hummingbird sometimes. lol

Hummingbirds are my favourite bird!
I only found out recently that I'm a gemini moon, I'm not sure what it means exactly.. but probably explains why I tend to feel torn and find it difficult making decisions

I think this is why I'm so drawn to him.. the fact that he's scorpio and I'm cancer, already a good match.. but that we are also both gemini moons!

Posted by LunarMaiden

I say slow down and relax.

Yes that's where I messed up last time, by not relaxing and by trying to rush things.

Posted by MoonArtist
http://xstrologyscopes.com/articles/gemini/gemini-moon

awesome, thanks!

You're welcome 🙂

Posted by LunarMaiden
He's not going to ask you out because you are the one pursuing him remember. He moved on, you want back in. But you want him to take the reigns and pursue you again like the first time you started seeing each other. Stage one has passed, because you both fucked up; you are now in Stage 2: forgiveness and reconnection. The rules are a bit different now. This isn't a new budding romance. It's a attempt at reconnection. And the person pursuing a reconnection has the burden of stating their reasons for the reconnect. So yes the ball is in your court. If he were a Leo he would know what to do immediately and take over, you are dealing with an over-analytical Scorpio.

You are running in circles, over-thinking, doing things sideways and backwards. He probably doesn't know what to think of you. Like many Crabs, you have an issue with being direct and think hinting and setting up a scenario where the other person does the work for. Been here done that with a guy and believe me, he is not going to take you serious. What you see as your own shyness and fear; he translates to game playing. Regardless of sign, men don't know our hearts and minds. They only know their side and how they feel and what they perceive until you TELL them what you want.

I know the thought of rejection is enormously frightening, but you already have history with this man. You should be at a comfort level that you can come to him and tell him how you feel. No games! Have an honest, direct, sincere conversation with him; from the heart. Get real, no hopping around dodging feelings and fear of rejection. Rejection is a possibility, you know this already. But so is acceptance. The possibility of acceptance is worth the risk I think. Even if the outcome isn't want you want it to be; at least you made an effort. It's going to take some courage. You clearly have it in you or you wouldn't have contacted him. You just need to follow through. Remember both of you are water signs, he is going to understand and appreciate your depth of feelings and emotions. Don't be afraid to go there.

Best advice. Very candid. Very well stated.

Posted by notyourtype
Are you going to look desperate? Maybe. Crazy? Probably. And even then, there is no guarantee that he will reciprocate interest. Unfortunately, there's no way around this.

Urgh, well this is definitely not making me want to ask him.. I don't want to look crazy or desperate, that is what I am most afraid of.

He didn't respond to my last message so if I contact him again, I will look mad 😢

Funny thing is, another guy I dated briefly who I probably haven't spoken to in about a month has just messaged me saying 'long time no speak, hope everything is well'. I'm not going to reply because I have no interest to, but I don't think he's crazy for randomly contacting me, my first thought is he might have not met anyone else so coming back round to me out of desperation.

Scorpio guy responded to my reconnecting message so he obviously had some kind of interest in talking to me, but he may think what I think of this other guy, that I haven't met anyone else and kind of desperate... sigh.... oh what to do...

I think if anything I will message him after the easter holidays to see how his were, and see how responsive he is, and then perhaps i will suggest meeting. But it bothers me a lot that I can see our previous chats, and the last messages in our conversation are all from me. He's going to know I'm chasing after him now, which no guy is attracted to. I'm afraid I will just put him off 😢

Or even worse lose all respect for me

Ok I've read this whole forum and many others...Scorps no offense but I've been seeing a pattern here...I'm not the only one whom has problems understanding you guys...I mean you state you are all not that complicated but thing is if every other zodiac has a problem understanding you and is often more confused than secured about a Scorpion than maybe just maybe is because you are complicated and the entire rest of the world is not the one with the problem...I mean in one matter you state that we have to tell you what we expect and be completely honest but in another aspect you all can not or will not be honest with us..we have to be Psychics and pray we are not wrong but when we are wrong you won't tell us we are you just freeze us out than you wonder why we are confused and we are suppose to be the blame for it because we weren't honest or send the wrong signals or said the wrong things...so you all are beyond reproach? mmmmm...want to control but not be controlled..want honesty but are not willing to give it themselves...see us as weak or needy for expressing out emotions but we are not trust worthy if we hide our emotions...am I the only one whom is starting to see a double standard here? I'm sorry I swear I am not trying to offend anyone...I love my Scorps but dam...you are all about honesty so why do the same rules and standards you judge us with do not apply to you??

Posted by Rabbit
@confused

I'm sorry, but you're thinking way too much into this.

I challenge you to go into basically any thread about a man on any other sign board here, and substitute Scorpio for whatever sign the thread was originally about.

There's a good chance that the thread will still make perfect sense.

Scorpios men are still men. Maybe a bit more emotional, maybe a bit more intense. But still just men.

You need the let go of what you think you know, and simply follow what you feel. If it doesn't feel right, then it's not right.

YOu are right they are still men...but the thing is weather the forum is about a man or woman and I've in them all..leo..scorp..pices..libra..ect...ect... because i've been trying to study and find out how different people with suns and placements deal with different situations it seems that Scorpio's are the most misunderstood...and i am letting go of what i think i know...i am trying to learn new things, understand more things, be open to different things and thoughts and ways...I'm wide open hence the questions i have a hunger to learn and how to learn if not by asking questions...

Posted by IrresistableScorp
May I suggest you slow your thinking down a little and here's why: You said you thought you came on too fast the first time and he retreated--if I'm reading you right. Now you are at a point where you initiated recontact (good for you) however it's only been around a week of no contact here.

1) He doesn't owe you a response to your last text. If he wanted to respond, he would have.
2) When reconnecting, sometimes it takes awhile to get back on a steady gig before communication kick starts into more frequency. That's OKAY. It really is. It could take a few weeks, it could take a few months. There are no hard and fast rules here. Keep the natural flow??_
3) Steady, consistent, non dramatic vibes go a lot further when trying to re-establish trust than that whole "I don't want to be a doormat" type of thinking. No MAN wants little Ms Impatient or you suck crazy vibes. (This was not directed at the LEO on this board honestly.) CHILL. Believe it or not, chill is a water sign's favorite fall back. 🙂

I guess what I'm trying to say is that reconnection at this point should not be coupled with expectation. Feel around a bit. Does it feel good? Are things feeling natural? What is the difference of a few days in the larger scheme of things? Go about life safe in the knowledge that you are working toward something good and natural.

two cents

That is very good advice and really true for so many reasons.

Posted by notyourtype

Posted by cancerrose
Urgh, well this is definitely not making me want to ask him.. I don't want to look crazy or desperate, that is what I am most afraid of.
He didn't respond to my last message so if I contact him again, I will look mad 😢

To some, appearing desperate/foolish and knowing they at least tried is less difficult to overcome than constantly wondering "what if...". But everyone is different.

If your fear of appearing a certain way supersedes your desire to get him back, then you need to try your best to move on because with the way things are going, it's likely that a relationship will not ensue.

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Ok, I think I will do it. I will ask him first how his spring break was, and if he is responsive I will ask if he wants to meet.
The thing is, if he's not interested in meeting it will put him in an awkward position. Either he will ignore my message, or make up an excuse saying he's busy.
Whats the best way to suggest it: 'We should meet up for lunch one day' (he won't have to give me a direct answer if he doesn't want to meet) or 'Do you want to do lunch sometime' or 'Lets do lunch one day this week' ?

Posted by IrresistableScorp
How about the random cute, funny text that gas nothing to do with going out again. Maybe add a I saw this and thought of you.

9 times out of 10 a man will choose the woman who he feels good being around. 9 times out of 10 he may guilt date once with the woman who makes him feel pressure to date. Hell guilt date, maybe try to hit and run. Don't be that girl Cancer.

Oh! I'm confused I thought everyone was telling me to either make a move or to forget him

Ok, I won't do it then. But I don't see him asking to meet

Posted by IrresistableScorp
Don't do this. Well unless of course you want to be that girl he comes to when he needs emotional support and an ego boost. 🙂

You made contact. Go have a life. Keep it moving. Let him lead. What you view as being strong enough to ask him out he may view as pressure to go out. This will cause him to pull back out of control.

Well. Do what you want. But you came here looking for advice and all the men and scorps gave similar advice: let him lead. Look who's giving you the advice to pursue: non scorps. Shrug

Why would he lead though when I'm the one who has reinitiated contact? He probably only responded either out of politeness, or to see what I wanted...

Well we did only date for about a month, but for about 2 months he waited for me when I had to go abroad for work. He seemed pretty obsessed with me then, he would constantly message me, more than any guy has before. I know he visits my website quite a lot, but I don't know about facebook/instagram as we aren't friends on there.

But you are right... he didn't respond to my last text, so I guess I will wait and see if he will initiate any sort of contact this week. And if he doesn't, then he obviously isn't interested and I guess I will just have to forget about him.

I didn't want to force anything, but I thought I should be the one to initiate meeting because he doesn't know why I re-initiated contact.

IS I don't think you are full of shit your direct responses made sense to me but that's what it is with some of us we kind of need direct responses to understand I can't give advice on this issue because I'm tainted myself but I like to read the different responses of every one else

Well its been 2 weeks and I havent heard from him. I was the last one to send a message and i was the one to initiate the convo, so I dont really want to message him again.
I guess I am just going to have to forget about him now 😢
I dont get why he was so responsive and friendly in his messages but is now not initiating conversation!

Posted by confusedInsane
IS I don't think you are full of shit your direct responses made sense to me but that's what it is with some of us we kind of need direct responses to understand I can't give advice on this issue because I'm tainted myself but I like to read the different responses of every one else

The OP has been advised more than once to be totally direct with this guy-- good advice, imo.

But it doesn't seem that she's in favor of doing that-- she hasn't really acknowledged the idea.

So it's no wonder she hasn't received a direct response.

@OP-- cancerose

Do the scary thing, and just be honest-- "I know I f'ed up, and I'm sorry for that.. I'd appreciate the chance to try again."

Or however it was worded.

That takes guts-- and I can't speak for the scorps, but that kind of honesty commands respect in my book.

js

Posted by Montgomery

Posted by confusedInsane
IS I don't think you are full of shit your direct responses made sense to me but that's what it is with some of us we kind of need direct responses to understand I can't give advice on this issue because I'm tainted myself but I like to read the different responses of every one else

The OP has been advised more than once to be totally direct with this guy-- good advice, imo.

But it doesn't seem that she's in favor of doing that-- she hasn't really acknowledged the idea.

So it's no wonder she hasn't received a direct response.

@OP-- cancerose

Do the scary thing, and just be honest-- "I know I f'ed up, and I'm sorry for that.. I'd appreciate the chance to try again."

Or however it was worded.

That takes guts-- and I can't speak for the scorps, but that kind of honesty commands respect in my book.

js

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I have acknowledged where I was told to be direct with him, but I am unsure whether it is the right thing to do as I haven't heard from him now for 2 weeks. I haven't seen him for so long now that I don't know if its a bit mad that I am still holding on, trying to make things work... when he may be seeing someone else, and if he was still interested he would have pursued me surely.

I know he was responsive to my initial messages, but the fact that he hasn't continued convo is holding me back in asking to meet.

I know if I'm going to do it, I have to do it now otherwise it will be too late, but I don't want him to think I am mad or don't value myself. I don't want him to think low of me because I'm chasing after him

You're too caught up in yourself and your own emotions to listen to anything else but your own fear. Zero confidence is extremely unattractive.

Your whole post is about you and your image. I don't want to look like so, and I don't know what he'll think if that. Of course you don't know.... because you're too scared to find out.

You'll never know either, but will sit cowering in your own self, worrying about hypothetical negatives. Your choosing fear of unknown variables, all based on how you'll be perceived, over direct honesty and going for what you want? Why are some Cancers so weak.... it's really starting to annoy me.

Just do it already... or stfu

Posted by cancerrose

Posted by Montgomery

Posted by confusedInsane
IS I don't think you are full of shit your direct responses made sense to me but that's what it is with some of us we kind of need direct responses to understand I can't give advice on this issue because I'm tainted myself but I like to read the different responses of every one else

The OP has been advised more than once to be totally direct with this guy-- good advice, imo.

But it doesn't seem that she's in favor of doing that-- she hasn't really acknowledged the idea.

So it's no wonder she hasn't received a direct response.

@OP-- cancerose

Do the scary thing, and just be honest-- "I know I f'ed up, and I'm sorry for that.. I'd appreciate the chance to try again."

Or however it was worded.

That takes guts-- and I can't speak for the scorps, but that kind of honesty commands respect in my book.

js

I have acknowledged where I was told to be direct with him, but I am unsure whether it is the right thing to do ....

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It is the only thing to do.

It is not conditional.

Posted by confusedInsane
Ok I've read this whole forum and many others...Scorps no offense but I've been seeing a pattern here...I'm not the only one whom has problems understanding you guys...I mean you state you are all not that complicated but thing is if every other zodiac has a problem understanding you and is often more confused than secured about a Scorpion than maybe just maybe is because you are complicated and the entire rest of the world is not the one with the problem...I mean in one matter you state that we have to tell you what we expect and be completely honest but in another aspect you all can not or will not be honest with us..we have to be Psychics and pray we are not wrong but when we are wrong you won't tell us we are you just freeze us out than you wonder why we are confused and we are suppose to be the blame for it because we weren't honest or send the wrong signals or said the wrong things...so you all are beyond reproach? mmmmm...want to control but not be controlled..want honesty but are not willing to give it themselves...see us as weak or needy for expressing out emotions but we are not trust worthy if we hide our emotions...am I the only one whom is starting to see a double standard here? I'm sorry I swear I am not trying to offend anyone...I love my Scorps but dam...you are all about honesty so why do the same rules and standards you judge us with do not apply to you??

Generalize much? Who is the "you" you keep referring to, because unless you've seen every single Scorp on the forum do this^^^^ none of this applies to Scorpios, but perhaps a specific one you are frustrated with.

Not "offended" at all, just sayin'.

As for the OP, your additional questions were answered pages ago.

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Posted by confusedInsane
Ok I've read this whole forum and many others...Scorps no offense but I've been seeing a pattern here...I'm not the only one whom has problems understanding you guys...I mean you state you are all not that complicated but thing is if every other zodiac has a problem understanding you and is often more confused than secured about a Scorpion than maybe just maybe is because you are complicated and the entire rest of the world is not the one with the problem...I mean in one matter you state that we have to tell you what we expect and be completely honest but in another aspect you all can not or will not be honest with us..we have to be Psychics and pray we are not wrong but when we are wrong you won't tell us we are you just freeze us out than you wonder why we are confused and we are suppose to be the blame for it because we weren't honest or send the wrong signals or said the wrong things...so you all are beyond reproach? mmmmm...want to control but not be controlled..want honesty but are not willing to give it themselves...see us as weak or needy for expressing out emotions but we are not trust worthy if we hide our emotions...am I the only one whom is starting to see a double standard here? I'm sorry I swear I am not trying to offend anyone...I love my Scorps but dam...you are all about honesty so why do the same rules and standards you judge us with do not apply to you??

Generalize much? Who is the "you" you keep referring to, because unless you've seen every single Scorp on the forum do this^^^^

none of this applies to Scorpios, but perhaps a specific one you are frustrated with.

Not "offended" at all, just sayin'.

As for the OP, your additional questions were answered pages ago.

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The hell you say... lol 😆



"... I've been seeing a pattern here..."


I think that ^ is a sufficent disclaimer, and should absolve CI of over-generalization for the most part (though, it won't).

And since I alienated this forum long ago, I'll go ahead and say that she does have a point.

It just sounds soo icky, when it's in black and white.

It may be a tad dramatic, but really-- "none" is a very strong word.




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Posted by Montgomery

"... I've been seeing a pattern here..."

What's wrong with seeing patterns? I do it all the time and all the Pisces Moons I know do it also 😛