Please help with older scorpio man ;(

So me and this man at work are making eye contact flirty shy etc then he suddenly starts being immensely shy I think he's ignoring me. Then he asks me lots about myself and tonight at our Xmas do spends most of his time with me and the end of the night disappears. I see him at the same time near his car as I'm supposed to be getting a cab he offers me a lift home. All the way he's chatting about his mum his life asking me lots about mine etc, tells me about his divorce etc. anyway when were in the car the whole time on his car phone a woman is calling. She calls 4 times in 10 minutes he doesn't answer and snaps that she isn't hanging up. I say oh she wants a chat! He says nothing. I really like this man. I ask him for coffee he says yes immediately and asks me to remind him Monday about something else and I am now at home bloody confused half upset and not knowing what to think?!!! Please help guys I am just so into him I really want to spend time with him get to know him does he actually like me or not? ;( xxx

After the amount of rejection I've had I now can't see when a man is interested. I know people have pasts and he will be seeing someone maybe but when I asked he said no and that he was married then last relationship was two years ago that's it. He didn't ask me if I did. I really don't want to get hurt how do I know he's genuine? I assumed he was as he is 45 but then why not mention who this woman is?

If we do go for coffee should I mention her? I don't want to date a man who is sleeping with another woman ;(

Jesus, okay...maybe I can get this right now....anyway:

Posted by Georgybell
So me and this man at work are making eye contact flirty shy etc then he suddenly starts being immensely shy I think he's ignoring me. Then he asks me lots about myself and tonight at our Xmas do spends most of his time with me and the end of the night disappears. I see him at the same time near his car as I'm supposed to be getting a cab he offers me a lift home. All the way he's chatting about his mum his life asking me lots about mine etc, tells me about his divorce etc. anyway when were in the car the whole time on his car phone a woman is calling. She calls 4 times in 10 minutes he doesn't answer and snaps that she isn't hanging up. I say oh she wants a chat! He says nothing. I really like this man. I ask him for coffee he says yes immediately and asks me to remind him Monday about something else and I am now at home bloody confused half upset and not knowing what to think?!!! Please help guys I am just so into him I really want to spend time with him get to know him does he actually like me or not? ;( xxx

Am I missing something? Didn't the man just offer to drive you home...why is this being discussed as though you've been dating and he's yours or you should be exclusive. Colour me confused.

Anyway, he accepted your invitation, I'd say he likes you enough for now. However calm yourself down. I can't speak for Scorp men, but any sign of emotional drama/possessiveness/over the top jealousy and I'm out. You're getting close to that line. There should be no expectations on your part as far as other women are concerned at this stage (aside from honesty and to be treated with respect). Having a conversation with someone is not the same as as being in a relationship, which is what you asked him and all that has occurred. However if something seems off to you, approach with caution. You were in the car, can you not pick up when a person is having a conversation they may be romantically involved with? You clearly didn't find it too much of an issues/off-putting because you still asked him out despite the phone call, so....? Just don't get too invested yet and see where it goes when you ask him out for coffee. If women keep popping up, or this one pops up again as you guys actually start dating then simply ask him about it directly. You two are no where near that yet.

*having a conversation with someone they may be romantically involved with?

*sigh*

He's just not that into you and yet he still has you.... Let it and him go. No good can come from this. He's toying because he can.

If you're casually dating this man... you cannot expect to be the only woman he's seeing as he doesn't expect to be the only man you're seeing. Until you make your relationship 'exclusive' or at least you become a bit more serious that is when you need to speak directly about what it is you're looking for and find out what he wants...

... With that being said, the more he becomes interested... the more you will be hearing from him, and seeing him.

Give it time.

That's my 2 cents. =p

Posted by PhoenixRising

Am I missing something? Didn't the man just offer to drive you home...why is this being discussed as though you've been dating and he's yours or you should be exclusive. Colour me confused.

You're not missing anything. This is one of those "I want this man, he will be mine, and can make demands on him based off eye contact and a ride home" scenarios.

I'm sure he sees what he's getting into already.

How the heck does me being upset equate to me making demands?! I don't expect him to not have dates etc if you read properly its about how I handle moving forward with it. I would drop the attitude and perhaps quit giving 'advice' in the guise of being a nice person. Clearly you're not!