Just broke up with my gf

We've been together for one year, she was my first everything 😢 we didn't see each other much so i decided to broke it up over boredom,

at first I was like "😄 I'm ok with this"
but then i was like "man I really miss her"

This doesn't mean much to people, but I'm sure everyone can relate. I really miss her right now trying to be as manly as i can, but I guess I'm lame. What bothered me is that she was okay with it, she told me she liked this guy. I know she wouldn't leave me though she was good to me.. we see each other in 2 month interval (recently because she's in college and I'm working)

I'm just sad, I don't have much friends to go to so I was like "TO THE INTERNET!" for comfort.

All I'm asking for Scorpio is closure some "it's okay"

Question: I'll probably get over it right?

Posted by ellessque
wait. you said YOU broke it up over boredom? lol...scorpios 😄

now, are you regretting it or you seriously want to move on?

what sign is she?

She's an Aries, but boy was she a giver. She gave me everything she could, but we didn't see each other much our relationship was mostly in the bedroom ha. We didn't date because we couldn't over complicated problems

Oh yeah thanks for the ice cream.
I'm kind of okay with it. We talked about being parents to kids. I don't know really i just want to hold someone and call them by her name.

We are going to go on a last date for closure, I really just want her to say "we shouldn't, I really love you" or "you really think we should break up? I think we're good the way we are 😢"

but no i got an "okay say what you're going to say" while I was about to break up with her

Just tell yourself that you don't really miss her. You just miss her presence. Thank me later...

Posted by ellessque
yeah, i know what you mean.

that conversation will now haunt you for awhile. scorpio curse.

why can't they ever say what we have them saying in our heads? 😛

sleep on it. think on it. you always know you'll be better on the other side. 🙂

yep until I forgot before her was a girl that haunted me for a year (the break up did)

what do you mean the otherside? dreaming? Ha I used to be addicted to dreaming. I might try to learn how to lucid dream for fun.

This is probably going to be on my head for a while. I want to accidentally get back together. Because I do want to settle with a certain someone and why not let it be your first everything? 😛

oh and she threw the F word at me. friend. frien. frie. fri. fr. f. .

Aries has lots of pride. You tell her you don't want her? Fine, plenty other men will. Is she seeing someone else?

Posted by pathfinder
Aries has lots of pride. You tell her you don't want her? Fine, plenty other men will. Is she seeing someone else?

She's not with anyone, but a lot of guys like her, she can take her pick ha. She was different I swear. In our relationship it was all about me I liked. I wanted to be sex friends with her. She was my first and I was her first everything. I'm almost 100% we probably will get back together after this storm subsides, ha

@ ARIES7733

Yeah I didn't even know if I meant it anymore I miss her deeply. But I keep telling myself "its okay' when actually I know its not okay. I'm not going to say anything to her because she seems like she enjoys being friends with me more. I liked being on the pedestal, it was weird at first she was such a giver... I'm not planning to get her back, I do know we are going to end up together somehow I just know. Lol excuse while I put on my fake smile

Its okay you read my problems so I'll read yours. I won't be surprised if you're her 😛 . Except for we don't work ha

I just wish she'd text me saying
"[myname] I really miss you right about now 😢"
so I can reply with a
"I miss you too 😢 I shouldn't have said what I said last night huh?"

I've been waiting for that all day :/

thankscorpio,

this is how people walk over us. you messed up last night, but you can't let the outcome of everything from now on be in her hands. why not try to take control of the situation again, by calling her telling her that you messed up and you did that hoping for a different reaction. just be completely honest. if she don't want to try it again, then let the "feeling sorry for yourself" turn to anger(lol j/k) but do it so you won't regret anything, and you will really know where the both of you stand.

just because she doesn't appear to care doesn't mean its true. take that risk.

Inana04,

That's too hard for me I just can't.. we're gonna go on last date(in a month) would it be better to tell her then? If not I can't do that its just out of-- its completely unorthadox

@Pesca

I call it boredom, we just didn't see eachother much. It felt like a long distance relationship. We met up. When we she would visit her family, but for both of us, that didn't hit the spot. We wanted more eachother. She wanted to break up with me before, but couldn't do it because she didn't want to hurt me. I know how she feels sometimes(obviously not at this exact moment 😢 ) I felt she wanted to be over so I broke up with. Me. She's been talking to her friends about this anyways, about how she didn't want to hurt my heart. So basically it was boredom its get boring when we can't date. All we did was have sex the second half of our relationship. Before we would just be near eachother and go for walks (she used to live in the same town as me, but now in college)

Posted by thankscorpio
Inana04,

That's too hard for me I just can't.. we're gonna go on last date(in a month) would it be better to tell her then? If not I can't do that its just out of-- its completely unorthadox

thats why i said take a risk lol. i know it would be hard for you. besides, she's an aries. in a month, she will have another boyfriend.

i mean, technically, you are the one who caused the break-up. if you want a different outcome to the situation, it's only right for you to atleast try and fix it..

well yeah she did a lot for me. Its crazy she humilated and degraded herself for me. She risked getting disowned by her parents because they don't want her dating she's 20 I'm 19 she goes to college with their money, makes sense

Okay we're on the same page.
It's for closure, she doesn't need it. I feel like I do because obviously I'm a wreck right now (waiting for a text/call/email that's never gonna come, but oh well I'll pretend it did)
So meet up
Talk about everything
Be on our merry way

Posted by thankscorpio
Okay we're on the same page.
It's for closure, she doesn't need it. I feel like I do because obviously I'm a wreck right now (waiting for a text/call/email that's never gonna come, but oh well I'll pretend it did)
So meet up
Talk about everything
Be on our merry way

It is so strange, this timing, me and my scorpio broke up 2 days ago, because it was beginning to feel like long distance (more on my story here http://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/messages.asp?id=2386030).

I just want you to know that it is impossible to know a scorpio man and not know that you are hurting him. You are lucky that you could do this *fairly* amicably. And it is really very sweet of you to want the best for her, and know that she wants the best for you, even if it isn't together.

And yeah, I think I'm still in the "ill be fine" phase too...feel ya pain, mate. good luck, cheers.

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You'll make it. We are phoenix remember? Rising from the ashes..

Posted by lnana04
thankscorpio,

this is how people walk over us. you messed up last night, but you can't let the outcome of everything from now on be in her hands. why not try to take control of the situation again, by calling her telling her that you messed up and you did that hoping for a different reaction. just be completely honest. if she don't want to try it again, then let the "feeling sorry for yourself" turn to anger(lol j/k) but do it so you won't regret anything, and you will really know where the both of you stand.

just because she doesn't appear to care doesn't mean its true. take that risk.

This is an interesting perspective, because its exactly how your woman is feeling. If you wait for her to initiate the "make up" and she waits for you, you're in a perennial stalemate.

Think about that. She wants to know you will fight for her, just as she did (in her head for months) for you.

And know that even though she wants to text you she won't (pride). Same applies to replying to your text saying "i miss you". Best off may be your idea of a face to face *friends* talk.

And HEY, you just gave me an idea...maybe I should text my "recent ex" and tell him I miss him? I'm scared he won't respond 😢 and I'm also scared he will and I'll end up going back and I don't want that right now...CONFUSED! Do you see where the stalemate begins haha!

So we non-Scorpios aren't allowed to connect with you, we aren't allowed to love you, cuz you throw us away and push us away, we aren't allowed the truth.

How do you Aries and other signs get your Scorpio for good/keeps?

Why did I move heaven and earth and get dumped without a reason!

Do you have to meet a Scorpio when they are 40+ to expect them to stick with a COMMITTED relationship?

Posted by heroic_guy
So we non-Scorpios aren't allowed to connect with you, we aren't allowed to love you, cuz you throw us away and push us away, we aren't allowed the truth.

How do you Aries and other signs get your Scorpio for good/keeps?

Why did I move heaven and earth and get dumped without a reason!

Do you have to meet a Scorpio when they are 40+ to expect them to stick with a COMMITTED relationship?

@heroicguy, my scorps 39 and he is self admitted scared of starting a family. interesting thing though, he wants it more than me. much much more. he just wont take the steps to let a girl in.

the only consolation is that they know its them...unfortunately you have to let them figure their own stuff out. it has nothing to do with you not being good enough...what's the story with your scorp girl, if i may ask?

Posted by ARIES7733
I have to totally agree if you show her you will fight for her "she is yours" let the making up begin. I hate when my Scorpio acts as if we wont fight for me, major turn off, but when he does, 4th of July is minor to how my feelings explode on the inside for him.

@ARIES7733: Amen! Fireworks galore, its a beautiful night, and a beautiful sight 😉

@ARIES7733

Wow you are so, you're what I need right now. You have a lot of knowledge about this. You hit everything right on, we broke up for a weekend once. She went from loving me deeply to not wanting to be any part of me 😐. It's true our relationship was intense, I've never felt so passionate towards a person. She sounds like she wants to move on I really don't know what to do. My intuition right now is telling me she's sad over this, but I know she doesn't want to get back with me. I think she wants to forget me :/ . She sounded so happy and okay with everything..

Question: do you think she's hiding that she's sad? or trying to get me jealous? (if arians do that).

Maybe I should tell her I get jealous because I hide my jealousy. always.

oooh I hate when my ex brought up the "friend" talk it annoyed me, because everything was perfect. We were perfect, separated only by distance 😢 such a damn shame how we ended really

Another Question: when should I tell her I truly regret what I said? the date that's coming in a month -or- right now via text maybe e-mail.

@ARIES7733

I don't want her to seek anyone else 😢, but if she must.
I had a thought though

say I were to tell her I miss her and still love her. Lets say she said "yeah lets get back together"

after that happens we're just gonna be like we were last week, texting each other all day telling one another how we both miss each other.
THEN
repeat and I'll end up here complaining about us not being together again.

After this thought I still miss her. We had plans to marry and have kids, guess it didn't work out. That's what hit me hardest. I want her to like me until we have things settled then we can do things we want to do ha. I'm almost over her

Should i stay in contact now? We haven't text all day...

Posted by beccy
sorry em..

do you ignore my posts?^^

I said. GO AND TELL HER.

fight for her.

just do it.

I know what I'm saying. 🙂

Oh god, how rude of me. I'm sorry. But don't you think it's gonna happen again that we're just gonna break up..?

If i read that before i realized what i thougth about then I would've done it ha

Again sorry for ignoring I browse on my phone and It's easy to not to see things

It's not the rejection I'm worried about really. It's what happens after. Are we going to go through the same thing? get back together miss each other break up repeat. I'm going to let it stop after a good talk with her though.

Man I just really hope she doesn't go to anyone, I also hope I can tell the future.
What I can do is control it. I have a feeling in the way future or near future we're going to be together. Maybe over-confidence

Maybe Scorpios are big voids, that Aries can dump their excess energy into?

If it isn't a mutual relationship isn't all just counterproductive?

I am just worried about all the Aries in the world. I don't think we deserve anymore disappointment or heartbreak when we need a way to reel in what we deserve, like love and compassion and honesty and companionship and to sacrifice ourselves for anyone that will drop it all on a whim, it is so tragic.

I just want all Aries to go the distance, be it with a relationship and SURVIVE to have bigger and better and more fruitful things they deserve.

By all means love who you want and enjoy the time you spend with anyone you care for.

Posted by beccy
I tell you one thing. Its never going to be easy.
She lives in another world, and it takes alot strength an patience to bring your worlds together.

but the sex is to good isn't it? the energy.... the explosion in your heart

whhoooo

if you would make her jelous she'd probably flip out oohmyy 😄

I did it after have a nice long talk we decided on something. Friends with benefits now, serious relationship later 🙂 so we can hold eachother and love each other, and its gonna be all passive not a serious thing. We both love each other immensley

Thank you guys for the help
She wants to marry still
Happy ending?
'Til next time
See you soon

Posted by thankscorpio

Posted by beccy
I tell you one thing. Its never going to be easy.
She lives in another world, and it takes alot strength an patience to bring your worlds together.

but the sex is to good isn't it? the energy.... the explosion in your heart

whhoooo

if you would make her jelous she'd probably flip out oohmyy 😄

I did it after have a nice long talk we decided on something. Friends with benefits now, serious relationship later 🙂 so we can hold eachother and love each other, and its gonna be all passive not a serious thing. We both love each other

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Good luck with that.