Just friends or more?

Hola! So it's this thing with this Scorpi born 2nd November. We are college mates and have been friends for over a year.However, we have gotten close only from last year September. Frequent non-stop textings started and he would come sit with me in one of the three common classes we shared.When I went abroad for a competition in December last year,he stalked my flight too lol and was constantly in touch with me. He was proud of my achievement and told about it to his best friends(they are my classmates).He even told me about this one girl he was crazy about for 2 yrs from 2013-15 and said he never felt for anyone else after her. When we get on the bus and my best friend is absent,he'll leave his best friend and sit with me throughout the journey. We have talked about each others future plans,ambitions and dream,family. We both are big time foodies and whenever he has a great dish he'll take a pic for me and text it to me. This continues even now although the intensity has reduced a lot now.



We texted a good couple of times over the summer.Our college reopened a week ago. However,it's kinda weird at times now. Whenever he's with his best friends(who are in my class),he'll behave as if we both are strangers. At the most he'll just say a hi with some expression with his eyes and that's it. It's not that he ignores me but pretends as if I'm not there. When I get mad and purposely ask something to one of his friends and not to him,he'll answer it. Also,at the same time,when we have our common classes,it just feels very different when he looks at me. As if he wants me to sit nearby him. 3 days ago when we were somewhat alone and he was waiting for his friends ,he told me I have lost weight. I confronted him why he behaves as if we are strangers and he said it's not that and that I'm taking it the wrong way.

Then today we came across each other outside the library.His friends weren't around.He came to me and said "I saw you today morning in the bus and I wanted to tell you then but I couldn't because your best friend was sitting with you.I wanted to say that you're looking very pretty". I am a shy person so I blushed and thanked him. He asked if I was free for a walk and since we were free for 45mins we walked and talked about interesting things.He constantly looked at me while talking.At one point he was even about to bang his head on a classroom door since we were walking while talking. Many minutes later,one of his classmates came and abruptly dragged him away saying it was time for lecture and they both walked off and I started walking back too.He came back and called me out to say bye.

Idk what's this. I feel lost. Clueless. Sometimes I feel there's something and sometimes I feel he probably just sees me as a good friend and that I am just misinterpreting. I really need some Scorpio opinions here. @_@

PS-Also,apologies for the long post X_X

Posted by Infinite8
Why are you feeling lost and clueless?

What do you feel for him? Friendship or more?

I definitely feel some sort of attraction for him. I wouldn't say too intense because I am unsure of he feels for me but I definitely feel something.

Posted by Infinite8
Something must have happened when you were gone. Maybe you didn't reciprocate the same need to keep in touch and he backed off as a result.

So, when you came back, he was doing his thing and allowing you to do your thing. In his mind, he probably felt he showed too much interest in comparison to how much you showed and by backing off... he puts you in a situation where if you really want to reach out to him, you will have to do just that.

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The intensity of whatever it was,lessened after we had this fight when he teased me with a guy who always sits with me in one of our common classes. I stopped talking to him for days,completely. He tried getting me talk to him again by texting me and giving me 'those' sharp stares in classes but I was way too mad at him that once when he texted me I told him not to text me again. He later told me that scared him for life as it seemed like a big warning. I decided to speak to him a month later and he apologized and I accepted and we were cool. However,I realized his frequency of texting had reduced after that even though things were resolved. I am more than sure that episode is no where in his mind now.

Posted by Infinite8
What is his Venus?

He is a Scorpio but his Moon,Mars and Venus are all Saggitarius.

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Posted by Infinite8
Why are you feeling lost and clueless?

What do you feel for him? Friendship or more?

I definitely feel some sort of attraction for him. I wouldn't say too intense because I am unsure of he feels for me but I definitely feel something.

Posted by Infinite8
Something must have happened when you were gone. Maybe you didn't reciprocate the same need to keep in touch and he backed off as a result.

So, when you came back, he was doing his thing and allowing you to do your thing. In his mind, he probably felt he showed too much interest in comparison to how much you showed and by backing off... he puts you in a situation where if you really want to reach out to him, you will have to do just that.

The intensity of whatever it was,lessened after we had this fight when he teased me with a guy who always sits with me in one of our common classes. I stopped talking to him for days,completely. He tried getting me talk to him again by texting me and giving me 'those' sharp stares in classes but I was way too mad at him that once when he texted me I told him not to text me again. He later told me that scared him for life as it seemed like a big warning. I decided to speak to him a month later and he apologized and I accepted and we were cool. However,I realized his frequency of texting had reduced after that even though things were resolved. I am more than sure that episode is no where in his mind now.

Ooh... yeah, he backed off because of your dramatic reaction. He has A LOT of Sag energy in him.... should be compatible with your Aqua Venus... but it seems like your Aqua Venus makes your already sensitive Pisces sun more reactive instead of more chill.

He is a chill Scorpio - he is more prone to making sure the union is fun and friendly. If you become a good friend to him, he will appreciate that.

I'm sure he let that episode go as well. It wasn't something he couldn't handle, but it definitely gave him a red flag about you and your character.

Just go with the flow. He's interested in the flow of the friendship. If you two flow, it will go further. If he gets more red flags, he will keep it at same/ friendship level.

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I really appreciate your responses so far so thanks Infinite 😄

You're absolutely spot on about my ultra-sensitive nature. Things get me too bad. Moreover it was about him teasing me with someone else,having me think that obviously he doesn't feel anything for me so he was cool pairing me up with some other guy. He was absent in college today so I texted him asing if everything is okay at his end and why didn't he turn up today so he just texted back saying he went on a family outing and asked how was my day. He said he's planning to prepare one of my favourite dishes for dinner and co-incidentally I am preparing it today as well so he asked me for tips and we planned on sending pictures after it's done.

Is there anything I can do that could give me some concrete idea if he sees me as a friend or more?

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Posted by gia
Hola! So it's this thing with this Scorpi born 2nd November. We are college mates and have been friends for over a year.However, we have gotten close only from last year September. Frequent non-stop textings started and he would come sit with me in one of the three common classes we shared.When I went abroad for a competition in December last year,he stalked my flight too lol and was constantly in touch with me. He was proud of my achievement and told about it to his best friends(they are my classmates).He even told me about this one girl he was crazy about for 2 yrs from 2013-15 and said he never felt for anyone else after her. When we get on the bus and my best friend is absent,he'll leave his best friend and sit with me throughout the journey. We have talked about each others future plans,ambitions and dream,family. We both are big time foodies and whenever he has a great dish he'll take a pic for me and text it to me. This continues even now although the intensity has reduced a lot now.



We texted a good couple of times over the summer.Our college reopened a week ago. However,it's kinda weird at times now. Whenever he's with his best friends(who are in my class),he'll behave as if we both are strangers. At the most he'll just say a hi with some expression with his eyes and that's it. It's not that he ignores me but pretends as if I'm not there. When I get mad and purposely ask something to one of his friends and not to him,he'll answer it. Also,at the same time,when we have our common classes,it just feels very different when he looks at me. As if he wants me to sit nearby him. 3 days ago when we were somewhat alone and he was waiting for his friends ,he told me I have lost weight. I confronted him why he behaves as if we are strangers and he said it's not that and that I'm taking it the wrong way.

Then today we came across each other outside the library.His friends weren't around.He came to me and said "I saw you today morning in the bus and I wanted to tell you then but I couldn't because your best friend was sitting with you.I wanted to say that you're looking very pretty". I am a shy person so I blushed and thanked him. He asked if I was free for a walk and since we were free for 45mins we walked and talked about interesting things.He constantly looked at me while talking.At one point he was even about to bang his head on a classroom door since we were walking while talking. Many minutes later,one of his classmates came and abruptly dragged him away saying it was time for lecture and they both walked off and I started walking back too.He came back and called me out to say bye.

Idk what's this. I feel lost. Clueless. Sometimes I feel there's something and sometimes I feel he probably just sees me as a good friend and that I am just misinterpreting. I really need some Scorpio opinions here. @_@

PS-Also,apologies for the long post X_X

Just ask him: "do you like me?"

It's not that hard.

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Whoaaa—It's not that hard— :\

Isn't there any way out to know this without having to risk rejection?

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Posted by gia
Hola! So it's this thing with this Scorpi born 2nd November. We are college mates and have been friends for over a year.However, we have gotten close only from last year September. Frequent non-stop textings started and he would come sit with me in one of the three common classes we shared.When I went abroad for a competition in December last year,he stalked my flight too lol and was constantly in touch with me. He was proud of my achievement and told about it to his best friends(they are my classmates).He even told me about this one girl he was crazy about for 2 yrs from 2013-15 and said he never felt for anyone else after her. When we get on the bus and my best friend is absent,he'll leave his best friend and sit with me throughout the journey. We have talked about each others future plans,ambitions and dream,family. We both are big time foodies and whenever he has a great dish he'll take a pic for me and text it to me. This continues even now although the intensity has reduced a lot now.



We texted a good couple of times over the summer.Our college reopened a week ago. However,it's kinda weird at times now. Whenever he's with his best friends(who are in my class),he'll behave as if we both are strangers. At the most he'll just say a hi with some expression with his eyes and that's it. It's not that he ignores me but pretends as if I'm not there. When I get mad and purposely ask something to one of his friends and not to him,he'll answer it. Also,at the same time,when we have our common classes,it just feels very different when he looks at me. As if he wants me to sit nearby him. 3 days ago when we were somewhat alone and he was waiting for his friends ,he told me I have lost weight. I confronted him why he behaves as if we are strangers and he said it's not that and that I'm taking it the wrong way.

Then today we came across each other outside the library.His friends weren't around.He came to me and said "I saw you today morning in the bus and I wanted to tell you then but I couldn't because your best friend was sitting with you.I wanted to say that you're looking very pretty". I am a shy person so I blushed and thanked him. He asked if I was free for a walk and since we were free for 45mins we walked and talked about interesting things.He constantly looked at me while talking.At one point he was even about to bang his head on a classroom door since we were walking while talking. Many minutes later,one of his classmates came and abruptly dragged him away saying it was time for lecture and they both walked off and I started walking back too.He came back and called me out to say bye.

Idk what's this. I feel lost. Clueless. Sometimes I feel there's something and sometimes I feel he probably just sees me as a good friend and that I am just misinterpreting. I really need some Scorpio opinions here. @_@

PS-Also,apologies for the long post X_X

Just ask him: "do you like me?"

It's not that hard.

Whoaaa—It's not that hard— :\

Isn't there any way out to know this without having to risk rejection?

How is that risking rejection?

You are not saying you like him. It's just a question.

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I get what you mean but isn't that like coming on too strong and blunt? I know I'm not saying that I like him but isn't that still something which could come on too strong creating awkwardness?

Why I am saying this is because:

1) He will more than definitely tell this to his best friends who are my classmates so people would know and might even possibly tease me.I know he wouldn't like that to happen but that's how they are.Especially the girls in his group. They are wayy too bitchy.

2) One of his best friends from his group and I had a thing last year. We liked each other and confessed it until I found out he had only emotionally manipulated me. This Scorpi fought with him for doing this to me and we grew closer because of this.

3) 4yrs ago I once straightaway asked this Libra guy if he liked me(everyone on campus talked about how much he's always into me) but my question freaked him out and he just disappeared,even ending our friendship.

Hence I am hesitant to be so straightforward about this to him. Isn't there any other way out?

Posted by tiziani
Good to see you're in good form, gia.

But you did this with the last romance, no? It was about the friends for you then too. You probably just have to be up front about how much public acknowledgement means to you with guys.

Tizianii!! Reading from you after so long!! 😄

Yeah ,the public somehow gets in my picture always X_X

It's just how it is in college life where everyone just talks

I am not concerned much about what people think about my relationship but it's just that I hate being a part of college gossips :\

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Posted by Infinite8
Why are you feeling lost and clueless?

What do you feel for him? Friendship or more?

I definitely feel some sort of attraction for him. I wouldn't say too intense because I am unsure of he feels for me but I definitely feel something.

Posted by Infinite8
Something must have happened when you were gone. Maybe you didn't reciprocate the same need to keep in touch and he backed off as a result.

So, when you came back, he was doing his thing and allowing you to do your thing. In his mind, he probably felt he showed too much interest in comparison to how much you showed and by backing off... he puts you in a situation where if you really want to reach out to him, you will have to do just that.

The intensity of whatever it was,lessened after we had this fight when he teased me with a guy who always sits with me in one of our common classes. I stopped talking to him for days,completely. He tried getting me talk to him again by texting me and giving me 'those' sharp stares in classes but I was way too mad at him that once when he texted me I told him not to text me again. He later told me that scared him for life as it seemed like a big warning. I decided to speak to him a month later and he apologized and I accepted and we were cool. However,I realized his frequency of texting had reduced after that even though things were resolved. I am more than sure that episode is no where in his mind now.

Ooh... yeah, he backed off because of your dramatic reaction. He has A LOT of Sag energy in him.... should be compatible with your Aqua Venus... but it seems like your Aqua Venus makes your already sensitive Pisces sun more reactive instead of more chill.

He is a chill Scorpio - he is more prone to making sure the union is fun and friendly. If you become a good friend to him, he will appreciate that.

I'm sure he let that episode go as well. It wasn't something he couldn't handle, but it definitely gave him a red flag about you and your character.

Just go with the flow. He's interested in the flow of the friendship. If you two flow, it will go further. If he gets more red flags, he will keep it at same/ friendship level.

I really appreciate your responses so far so thanks Infinite 😄

You're absolutely spot on about my ultra-sensitive nature. Things get me too bad. Moreover it was about him teasing me with someone else,having me think that obviously he doesn't feel anything for me so he was cool pairing me up with some other guy. He was absent in college today so I texted him asing if everything is okay at his end and why didn't he turn up today so he just texted back saying he went on a family outing and asked how was my day. He said he's planning to prepare one of my favourite dishes for dinner and co-incidentally I am preparing it today as well so he asked me for tips and we planned on sending pictures after it's done.

Is there anything I can do that could give me some concrete idea if he sees me as a friend or more?

Of course! You are very welcome ☺️

Yes, there are a lot of things you can do to be more concrete. What concerns me though, is that you are ultra sensitive. So, by being ultra sensitive, it seems like you will close the door on many behaviors OR if you do them, they will not come off authentically - because you will feel insecure doing it or uncomfortable.

It sounds like he is much more extroverted than you, am I correct?

I think he might be very understanding and protective of you (Scorpio sun) but all that Sag fire makes him very chill and not as determined to pursue romantic relationships. He might be happy just having a deep friendship with you for a while. Or into girls that are a little more lively and/or flirtatious? Correct me if I'm wrong...

Do you know much about his past? It would help to know if he is a relationship type of guy or a guy that just prefers flings.

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He is not an extrovert at all. However,he's cunning so in addition to his friends he only mingles with people who might be beneficial to him but other than that,he's not an extrovert. Rather I get along with almost anyone I find decent.

He's not the casual fling type at all and I do know about his past. He told me about this girl he was very much attracted to in 2013 and it went on for 2 yrs.She was attracted to him too.He said they both haven't talked much in person in these 2 yrs but the attraction was very strong.He didn't ask her out though as he's the shy type.He said they both would intensely stare at each other a lot and he would find her seducing and his body would get hot at the sight of her or even at the thought of her. It went on for 2yrs and then ended because he said he behaved very aggressively with her(he said he himself doesn't know why he behaved that way) and then she found another guy.He even texted her a few times but it seemed she had blocked him as she wasn't replying

And then they moved out to separate schools and it had to end anyway. He didn't feel so strongly about anyone after her.