Lost & Confused 🤷🏻‍♀️

Guys, I am totally lost in understanding this Scorpio Man🤦🏻‍♀️ We have been working together for the last 1 year. He moved from another country to join our management team. At the beginning we didn't know each other and I rather ignored him for his loud attitude. But then he helped me during one important meeting, and things flipped into another direction. I realized how sincere, thoughtful, carrying he was, yet didn't want to show it to everyone (he even acknowledged it himself). We started having regular lunches (as I asked him to be my mentor🙂. Shortly after, he asked for my number, started texting from time to time. Once going in the same taxi from the corporate event, he asked if I wanted to stop by his place, but I rejected. He smiled and said that we should then take a dinner one day, so we can talk and get to know each other. When I would need his help or support, he would always do so. Once I asked for his advice - he finally asked me out for for a dinner to "discuss it". I thought it would be rather a "professional" thing but it turned out in a very sweet and galant moment. He was a true gentleman, took a good care of me and always kissed my hand🙂 I sincerely enjoyed every second that evening. He walked me home afterwards and texted "thank you for a lovely evening".

Inspired, I think I got a bit more "involved" into things, so started texting myself and quite often he would leave it unanswered. Yet, in the office he would tell me that I ignore him🤷🏻‍♀️. Though when I would stop by his office, our conversation would easily go for 30-40 min non-stop. We would discuss everything that came to our minds - no limits!

Over the summer, we disconnected; although he asked me if I well arrived to the destination. I though he found someone, but the day I thought about it - he sent me a photo of him having a breakfast alone.

Then he somehow forgot about my birthday, but to compensate - took me out for drinks. When I thought that our drinks had nothing in common with a first dinner (felt more like a friend zone), he asked me if I need a ride to work next morning. He again walked me home and then came to pick me up next day.

When we talk, our conversations are very deep and personal. I know whatever I ask - he will always answer. Last time I brought a question about his daughter whom he doesn't see much, his eyes became teary, but he opened up and told me everything. I really love the connection we established and told him that I appreciate that he lets me in to know him better. He replied just with a smile.

Now, I know his son came to visit him, and he always wanted to introduce him to my friend (who is younger than me and same age with his son), so he asked her out without saying anything to me. He just asked my friend if they should invite me too 🤦🏻‍♀️, but luckily or not - I was out of town. There is no communication from his side anymore and I feel kind of betrayed (or maybe simply jealous), that I don't even want to talk to him first.

I haven't seen him for a week now, but when I sent him a business mail yesterday, he again helped me enormously and replied "always at your service".

I don't know if I really overthought things and he always saw us as friends (hence he can go out with whoever he wants)? Or I pushed too much (so he lost a sense of control)? Or he manipulates me and gets back to me only when he feels lonely? Or he doesn't need any relationship at all (as he just got divorced last year), although he says that he needs a women in his life... or he is scared for his / mine carrier (as he is really much more senior than me and 10+ years older)?

Too many questions in my head😅...anyways... any thoughts?

Love 💙

Posted by Ellygant

Sounds like he definitely is attracted to you but the situation is too messy.

@Ellygant, thank you for sharing your opinion and apologies for a late reply. Somehow I missed your post. Indeed, things are super messy and you captured the whole situation perfectly. Since I posted this enormously long post (I gave it all 😅), we went for a dinner again and so he ended up introducing me to his son. They have an amazing connection between two of them. When I complemented him on that he felt touched, but then turned jealous when I asked if his son will be visiting him soon again 😅😂

At one moment I just accepted that we were "friends" and casually texted him to have drinks. He replied that he is just leaving the office and invited to his place for champagne 🥂. I thought "Wow, finally, things are moving", but he was so caring and respectful that didn't even hint on anything and suggested I sit in front of him, in the opposite side of the room (so we couldn't even reach each other 🤦🏻‍♀️😅). He even had candles on, but pretended it's a casual thing. When I told him that I adore our connection, he said he doesn't connect with people anymore, as he was hurt too much. I insisted that it is not true and that we have a special link; he tried to reject but then he said: Well, you are sitting in my living room, right, what else do you want me to say...". We again went for all night sharing stories from our lives, full of sincerity and emotions. I realized that with him, I am who I am, without any masks and filters - and I liked it a lot.

He then ordered me an uber, walked down to the car and hugged tightly. I can tell he enjoyed that evening as much as I did, but he pretended it was a casual thing😣

I feel like he doesn't know himself what he wants / needs right now. I don't know if I can ask him this question directly or if I should just sit and wait. What confuses me is why he pulls me closer to him, but doesn't let me get to him...