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Is it the moon or something...?

I've had 4 conversations about sex/sexuality/sexual expression and relationships in the last 48 hours.

Two leaving me quite curious, another angry and the last vulnerable.



I have no business engaging in three of the four conversations given the dynamics of my relationship with each person.

I also keep having a reoccurring sexualized dream about a dxp member I've never met. Different scenarios. Same person. Where the hell did that come from?! I thought I got that sh*t out of my system months ago when it happened the first time....

I know sexualized dreams have less to do with the person and more to do with....me. But what the f*ck? I only want to go so far down the rabbit hole to figure it out.



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Posted by MysteriousDreamer
Today is my parents 44th wedding anniversary. Who woulda thought a crab and a leeb would make it all these years. It’s been some rough years where I didn’t think they would last, but they made it through every time. Their relationship is one of the strongest I know and I am so proud of them and admire them so.

My brother and I paid for them to go on vacation to one of their favorite beach resorts. My mom has been texting me tons of pics non stop and telling me what a fabulous time they are having. Warms my heart. ❤️

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A week after buying me sex toys, the Scorp is AWOL.

Uuuuuuuggghhhhhhh.
I don't know, coming from a Scorp this feels like "emo-sexual handcuffs" to me.
Like it's purposeful emotional BDSM type shiz?
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Hmmmm....depends on the Scorp.

Scorp 1: Struggles with insecurities, tries to manage it through possession. The toy therefore serves a symbolic way of keeping said partner emotionally-sexually attached to you.

Scorp 2: Struggles with jealousy, tries to manage it through control. The toy therefore serves a symbolic way to keep said partner emotionally-sexually addicted to you.

Scorp 3: Struggles with "balance" and obsession, does little to manage it and enjoys the idea of occupying said partner's heart, mind and sex----even when they are not present.

Scorp 4: Struggles with commitment. Flaky as f*ck. Wants what he/she can't give, namely commitment, loyalty and devotion. Toy serves to manipulate and keep things unbalanced.
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The two Virgos and a Libra are all settled in Austin. I wasn't even physically with them during the move and I'm exhausted...lol. With the Libra's permission and preferred palette...I furnished them on Wayfair. I hope she likes it. She picked out the big stuff....I picked out the accent pieces. I can't wait to visit on Easter!

My Cap is not a Valentine's person, or any holiday type of person....so, I don't work myself up.

.....before I could even think of my phone on Wednesday morning, I received a text "Are you my Valentine?"

....my response "Always and Forever"

he tries. *adoringly approves*

*like*

I don't know, your Cap may lead me to change my mind about Goats.
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A week after buying me sex toys, the Scorp is AWOL.

Uuuuuuuggghhhhhhh.
I don't know, coming from a Scorp this feels like "emo-sexual handcuffs" to me.
Like it's purposeful emotional BDSM type shiz?

Hmmmm....depends on the Scorp.

Scorp 1: Struggles with insecurities, tries to manage it through possession. It therefore serves a symbolic way of keep your partner emotionally-sexually attached to you.

Scorp 2: Struggles with jealousy, tries to manage it through control. It therefore serves a symbolic way to keep your partner emotionally-sexually addicted to you.

Scorp 3: Struggles with "balance" and obsession, does little to manage it and enjoys the idea of occupying their partner's heart, mind and sex----even when they are not present.

Scorp 4: Struggles with commitment. Flaky as f*ck. Wants what he/she can't give, namely commitment, loyalty and devotion.
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🤔 hmm... I've known him for 7 years and am still not sure which one he is.
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A week after buying me sex toys, the Scorp is AWOL.

Uuuuuuuggghhhhhhh.
I don't know, coming from a Scorp this feels like "emo-sexual handcuffs" to me.
Like it's purposeful emotional BDSM type shiz?

Hmmmm....depends on the Scorp.

Scorp 1: Struggles with insecurities, tries to manage it through possession. It therefore serves a symbolic way of keep your partner emotionally-sexually attached to you.

Scorp 2: Struggles with jealousy, tries to manage it through control. It therefore serves a symbolic way to keep your partner emotionally-sexually addicted to you.

Scorp 3: Struggles with "balance" and obsession, does little to manage it and enjoys the idea of occupying their partner's heart, mind and sex----even when they are not present.

Scorp 4: Struggles with commitment. Flaky as f*ck. Wants what he/she can't give, namely commitment, loyalty and devotion.
🤔 hmm... I've known him for 7 years and am still not sure which one he is.
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Okay, well dealing with....very attached Virgos myself, when you say he went AWOL, what does that actually look like (e.g. absolutely no contact? How long?)
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A week after buying me sex toys, the Scorp is AWOL.

Uuuuuuuggghhhhhhh.
I don't know, coming from a Scorp this feels like "emo-sexual handcuffs" to me.
Like it's purposeful emotional BDSM type shiz?

Hmmmm....depends on the Scorp.

Scorp 1: Struggles with insecurities, tries to manage it through possession. It therefore serves a symbolic way of keep your partner emotionally-sexually attached to you.

Scorp 2: Struggles with jealousy, tries to manage it through control. It therefore serves a symbolic way to keep your partner emotionally-sexually addicted to you.

Scorp 3: Struggles with "balance" and obsession, does little to manage it and enjoys the idea of occupying their partner's heart, mind and sex----even when they are not present.

Scorp 4: Struggles with commitment. Flaky as f*ck. Wants what he/she can't give, namely commitment, loyalty and devotion.
🤔 hmm... I've known him for 7 years and am still not sure which one he is.

Okay, well dealing with....very attached Virgos myself, when you say he went AWOL, what does that actually look like (e.g. absolutely no contact? How long?)

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Absolutely no contact for a little over a week. My moon and merc are bugging.
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I realize it's not a long time in the scheme of things but i don't like it. 😭

I'm not sure if that's true. All depends on the type of relationship you two have and your understanding of how that relationship works.

If we are just dating, screwing or testing out sex toys (😛) a week isn't that long for me. If we are in an established relationship, you better be somewhere there is absolutely no cell/phone service because a week of no contact won't fly. Not without a heads up beforehand.

Is this is MO? Drop off a gift of some form and then bounce?
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I realize it's not a long time in the scheme of things but i don't like it. 😭

I'm not sure if that's true. All depends on the type of relationship you two have and your understanding of how that relationship works.

If we are just dating, screwing or testing out sex toys (😛) a week isn't that long for me. If we are in an established relationship, you better be somewhere there is absolutely no cell/phone service because a week of no contact won't fly. Not with a heads up beforehand.

Is this is MO? Drop of a gift of some form and then bounce?
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It's the first time he's given me a gift of any kind the entire time I've known him. He's my ex. We broke up years ago but have have been in touch, communication wise, off and on since.

Reconnected physically & otherwise around Christmas. Neither of us put a label on it or anything but it definitely felt more mature and considerate than what we had before. And this is the longest we've gone without talking since then.
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I realize it's not a long time in the scheme of things but i don't like it. 😭

I'm not sure if that's true. All depends on the type of relationship you two have and your understanding of how that relationship works.

If we are just dating, screwing or testing out sex toys (😛) a week isn't that long for me. If we are in an established relationship, you better be somewhere there is absolutely no cell/phone service because a week of no contact won't fly. Not with a heads up beforehand.

Is this is MO? Drop of a gift of some form and then bounce?
It's the first time he's given me a gift of any kind the entire time I've known him. He's my ex. We broke up years ago but have have been in touch, communication wise, off and on since.

Reconnected physically & otherwise around Christmas. Neither of us put a label on it or anything but it definitely felt more mature and considerate than what we had before. And this is the longest we've gone without talking since then.
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Okay, but has poor communication, in a general sense been his MO (e.g. difficulty opening up, sharing feelings, expressing what he feels as he feels them....)?
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I just realized I still have my damn Christmas tree up. 😮😱😟. Shame shame shame!!!! My mother would kill me if she knew! I need to get on that! I’m such a procrastinator....sigh.











Couldn’t I just throw a sheet over it? Wouldn’t that suffice! 🤔 Gosh I’m so lazy!!

My Christmas tree is still up. Meh. It will come down when I'm ready.



Or not feeling so lazy.

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For the record my Christmas decorations/tree is still up. It's been a rough four weeks. I haven't had it in me to take them down.
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I realize it's not a long time in the scheme of things but i don't like it. 😭

I'm not sure if that's true. All depends on the type of relationship you two have and your understanding of how that relationship works.

If we are just dating, screwing or testing out sex toys (😛) a week isn't that long for me. If we are in an established relationship, you better be somewhere there is absolutely no cell/phone service because a week of no contact won't fly. Not with a heads up beforehand.

Is this is MO? Drop of a gift of some form and then bounce?
It's the first time he's given me a gift of any kind the entire time I've known him. He's my ex. We broke up years ago but have have been in touch, communication wise, off and on since.

Reconnected physically & otherwise around Christmas. Neither of us put a label on it or anything but it definitely felt more mature and considerate than what we had before. And this is the longest we've gone without talking since then.

Okay, but has poor communication, in a general sense been his MO (e.g. difficulty opening up, sharing feelings, expressing what he feels as he feels them....)?

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Yes.
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I realize it's not a long time in the scheme of things but i don't like it. 😭

I'm not sure if that's true. All depends on the type of relationship you two have and your understanding of how that relationship works.

If we are just dating, screwing or testing out sex toys (😛) a week isn't that long for me. If we are in an established relationship, you better be somewhere there is absolutely no cell/phone service because a week of no contact won't fly. Not with a heads up beforehand.

Is this is MO? Drop of a gift of some form and then bounce?
It's the first time he's given me a gift of any kind the entire time I've known him. He's my ex. We broke up years ago but have have been in touch, communication wise, off and on since.

Reconnected physically & otherwise around Christmas. Neither of us put a label on it or anything but it definitely felt more mature and considerate than what we had before. And this is the longest we've gone without talking since then.

Okay, but has poor communication, in a general sense been his MO (e.g. difficulty opening up, sharing feelings, expressing what he feels as he feels them....)?


Yes.
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Well what you're seeing is a "mature" version of what you saw before love. Scorps grow up, but they still have their comfortable place where things just feel better (or safer). For non communicators that may be silence, taking space or doing things that simply looks disjointed to others (e.g. buys a intimate gift then disappears). In this instance, the only thing that really separates a "baby" Scorp from a "grown" Scorp is he/she has more awareness of the reasons they go silent, take space and do things that look disjointed. They still suck at communicating it to others.
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Melly, this may be my moon/venus talking but I'd play with him a bit. Take and send him abstract pics of the toy and nothing more (no caption. no text):

- toy on the edge of a messy bed

- just peaking out from your sheets/pillow

- a partial view of your thigh next to the toy

- your finger grazing the toy/toy in your hand



I've been known for messing with my lover's heads when I feel off balance, so take the above advice with a grain of salt.
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Melly, this may be my moon/venus talking but I'd play with him a bit. Take abstract pics of the toy and nothing more (no caption. no text):

- toy on the edge of a messy bed

- just peaking out from your sheets/pillow

- a partial view of your thigh next to the toy

- your finger grazing the toy/toy in your hand



I've been known for messing with my lover's heads when I feel off balance, so take the above advice with a grain of salt.
No this is pretty spot on. For Scorp men especially. I’ve done this with probably all my former scorps to some degree and it would always work.

Shit a former fwb Scorp male does it to me sometimes still. He knows I’m a fan of dancing, eight packs and well crafted obliques, and when he’s truly feeling himself I’ll get a surprise Snapchat video out of no where after months of silence. Lol.
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LOL!

Idk. I've already sent a "Are you OKAY? Please let me know you're at least alive" text.. would sending sex toys cameos seem manipulative?
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Melly, this may be my moon/venus talking but I'd play with him a bit. Take abstract pics of the toy and nothing more (no caption. no text):

- toy on the edge of a messy bed

- just peaking out from your sheets/pillow

- a partial view of your thigh next to the toy

- your finger grazing the toy/toy in your hand



I've been known for messing with my lover's heads when I feel off balance, so take the above advice with a grain of salt.
No this is pretty spot on. For Scorp men especially. I’ve done this with probably all my former scorps to some degree and it would always work.

Shit a former fwb Scorp male does it to me sometimes still. He knows I’m a fan of dancing, eight packs and well crafted obliques, and when he’s truly feeling himself I’ll get a surprise Snapchat video out of no where after months of silence. Lol.
LOL!

Idk. I've already sent a "Are you OKAY? Please let me know you're at least alive" text.. would sending sex toys cameos seem manipulative?
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Hmph. I forgot, you're an eager earth sign. I was assuming you hadn't reached out yet. In the future I would advise against sending "are you alive" text.

Elly's right. It depends on him. If this is just about him working through his stuff and "communicating" he needs space and he is doing so poorly, the pics should bring about a curious grin on his face and make him intrigued. It's a gentle nudge communicating in the style he "speaks".
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Melly, this may be my moon/venus talking but I'd play with him a bit. Take abstract pics of the toy and nothing more (no caption. no text):

- toy on the edge of a messy bed

- just peaking out from your sheets/pillow

- a partial view of your thigh next to the toy

- your finger grazing the toy/toy in your hand



I've been known for messing with my lover's heads when I feel off balance, so take the above advice with a grain of salt.
No this is pretty spot on. For Scorp men especially. I’ve done this with probably all my former scorps to some degree and it would always work.

Shit a former fwb Scorp male does it to me sometimes still. He knows I’m a fan of dancing, eight packs and well crafted obliques, and when he’s truly feeling himself I’ll get a surprise Snapchat video out of no where after months of silence. Lol.
LOL!

Idk. I've already sent a "Are you OKAY? Please let me know you're at least alive" text.. would sending sex toys cameos seem manipulative?

Hmph. I forgot, you're an eager earth sign. I was assuming you hadn't reached out yet. In the future I would advise against sending "are you alive" text.

Elly's right. It depends on him. If this is just about him working through his stuff and "communicating" he needs space and he is doing so poorly, the pics should bring about a curious grin on his face and make him intrigued. It's a gentle nudge communicating in the style he "speaks".

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WELL damn. Lol.
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Been kinda blah so I figured a day getting my hair done would make me feel better. Well now I’m even more depressed because the lady cut way too much off. Even after going over it with her three times. No one seems to know how to cut my curly hair so I always get nervous when I get haircuts. It had been awhile though....my split ends were showing bad, it was way too long and it needed to be cut. I know it’s just hair and will grow back, but damn. 😟
I’m sorry Leo moon. Your mane will be preened and perfect soon!! Just a few days to grown it out.
And yes, I know I’m being overly dramatic. It’s what Leo moons do best. Sigh...

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Not really so much. I recall skipping school for two weeks because this chick cut waaaaay too much off. I planned to go to school, I even went up to the front door, but one girl laugh hysterically when I showed her my hair under a cap. I knew I would just get kicked out of class anyway for cursing out the teacher if she forced me to take it off, so I just skipped the drama and spent my days hanging out eating fried chicken and cookies with my Aqua bestie. She was off "sick" for the week.

#GoodTimes
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Sometimes. Being human really sucks. 😐

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Hiiii.

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P.S. My latest work crush has a Gemini Moon. Reminds me of the cap, my sis and you, and what curiously delightful creatures y’all are. I almost ask for advice, then I remember, I’m not dating. LOL. Though I’ve yet to share space with one of your kind I don’t adore. 😄
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🙂 It's a good thing you have experience with our kind. Platonic relationship are a little different because with romantic interest... I am sure at some point you're gonna want to do this:

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at some point 😄.
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I'm trying to be optimistic, but I suck at that. I am very much a "prepare for the worse...hope for the---wait hope?" kind of person. I've always had to be. It has kept me one step a head, so I am rarely caught off guard. But I was caught off guard. I'm just so....emotionally exhausted. I don't know if I have anything left to get me over this unpredictable hump. I'll do it because, I'm allergic to not trying. I'm just tired.

Anyway...what I have learned over the last 6 months:

Watch my back. Always.

Talk (even) less, listen (much) more.

Did I say watch my back?

On the plus side I have a Gem Moon, otherwise I'd totally be:

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Been kinda blah so I figured a day getting my hair done would make me feel better. Well now I’m even more depressed because the lady cut way too much off. Even after going over it with her three times. No one seems to know how to cut my curly hair so I always get nervous when I get haircuts. It had been awhile though....my split ends were showing bad, it was way too long and it needed to be cut. I know it’s just hair and will grow back, but damn. 😟
I’m sorry Leo moon. Your mane will be preened and perfect soon!! Just a few days to grown it out.
And yes, I know I’m being overly dramatic. It’s what Leo moons do best. Sigh...



Not really so much. I recall skipping school for two weeks because this chick cut waaaaay too much off. I planned to go to school, I even went up to the front door, but one girl laugh hysterically when I showed her my hair under a cap. I knew I would just get kicked out of class anyway for cursing out the teacher if she forced me to take it off, so I just skipped the drama and spent my days hanging out eating fried chicken and cookies with my Aqua bestie. She was off "sick" for the week.

#GoodTimes
So many times I wanted to skip school for so many reasons....and yes a bad haircut being one of those times, but I didn’t dare because my mom put the fear of God in me. I knew she’d find out if I did. She had her ways. I could never get anything past her and forget lying to her because she has a damn Pisces Moon. I swear she’s psychic. Either that or I’m a horrible liar. Probably both actually.

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Yeah, my mom is a Caribbean Ram. All fire. No chill. I wouldn't dare lie to her, so I just lied to everyone else lol.

Learned how to forge her signature before I hit middle school.