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Posted by AndalusiaPosted by PhoenixRisingTurns out he wasn't ignoring me; his phone died and he had to get a new one and then swap it out several times cause it still wasn't working, lol.Posted by AndalusiaCurious, how did you get him to take the test?
Got the Scorp to take an online personality test. He got ESFP. the exact opposite of me, lol.
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Lol. Once I left my phone on my desk under some paperwork and when I realized it I was almost home, which was an hour away. I wasn't going back for it because I'm just not that attached to my phone. It was Friday, so I was without my phone for the entire weekend. When I realized it I just *meh, shrug* and I took that as an opportunity to chill out and relax for the weekend. My partner, went through every possible scenario he could come up with as to why I wasn't returning his call/text.
I don't know, I think because I'm not that attached to technology and because I only consider face to face contact worth my effort, if I go without my cell for a period of time I really don't care or even notice. I will sometimes forget it's the medium by which others like to connect or stay connected. I still leave my phone at work or home sometimes 😄
Leaning into friendships instead of love, to get through confusing and dark moments.
Posted by PhoenixRisingMe too. It's usually not a big deal.Posted by AndalusiaPosted by PhoenixRisingTurns out he wasn't ignoring me; his phone died and he had to get a new one and then swap it out several times cause it still wasn't working, lol.Posted by AndalusiaCurious, how did you get him to take the test?
Got the Scorp to take an online personality test. He got ESFP. the exact opposite of me, lol.
Yikes.
Lol. Once I left my phone on my desk under some paperwork and when I realized it I was almost home, which was an hour away. I wasn't going back for it because I'm just not that attached to my phone. It was Friday, so I was without my phone for the entire weekend. When I realized it I just *meh, shrug* and I took that as an opportunity to chill out and relax for the weekend. My partner, went through every possible scenario he could come up with as to why I wasn't returning his call/text.
I don't know, I think because I'm not that attached to technology and because I only consider face to face contact worth my effort, if I go without my cell for a period of time I really don't care or even notice. I will sometimes forget it's the medium by which others like to connect or stay connected. I still leave my phone at work or home sometimes 😄
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Unless I have someone I want to talk to. Then it's Annie, get your gun! 😆
The pain of heartbreak is nothing compared to the guilt and agony of breaking the heart of someone you have love for but no longer love.
I believe this stranger is vying for my attention.
The Scorpio, the one with the eyes told this stranger---her friend, another Scorpio about me. I don't know why. Our interaction consist of nothing more than listening; I am merely an observer of her journey.
So now she has sought me out. This stranger. With the Scorpio's permission, which she has manipulated.
The words she speaks feel forced. Contrived. Expressions are insincere. Competitive. And she has mentioned the Scorpio's "feelings" for me on three occasions in response to questions directed towards her. She's hiding.
An arachnid triangle I don't care to be a part of.
The Scorpio, the one with the eyes told this stranger---her friend, another Scorpio about me. I don't know why. Our interaction consist of nothing more than listening; I am merely an observer of her journey.
So now she has sought me out. This stranger. With the Scorpio's permission, which she has manipulated.
The words she speaks feel forced. Contrived. Expressions are insincere. Competitive. And she has mentioned the Scorpio's "feelings" for me on three occasions in response to questions directed towards her. She's hiding.
An arachnid triangle I don't care to be a part of.
When you have a long list of things to do, but you'd rather watch reruns.....
Best statement I've heard all day: "I'm hanging up now. Call me back when you get a personality I can deal with" lol.
#LongListofThingstoDoBreak
#LongListofThingstoDoBreak
Posted by MysteriousDreamer
Leo came sniffing around again tonight. Texts me out of the blue.
Him: Heyyy
Me: Hey, what’s up?
Him: Just been thinking of you and what you were up to.
Him: You free?
Me: Just watching tv. You?
Him: Just hanging out. You wanna come over? I don’t have a tournament tonight.
Me: I’m sorry, I’m not looking to just hook up anymore.
Him: I understand.
Him: Just to talk?
Me: I think I’m gonna just stay home tonight.
I figure he’s either been dumped by the latest girl he’s been dating, he’s been drinking again, or he’s bored. Perhaps it’s all three. Whatever the case, I’m no longer interested in what he has to offer. I can never go back...only forward.
*like*
Posted by EllygantPosted by PhoenixRisingPR be like:
I believe this stranger is vying for my attention.
The Scorpio, the one with the eyes told this stranger---her friend, another Scorpio about me. I don't know why. Our interaction consist of nothing more than listening; I am merely an observer of her journey.
So now she has sought me out. This stranger. With the Scorpio's permission, which she has manipulated.
The words she speaks feel forced. Contrived. Expressions are insincere. Competitive. And she has mentioned the Scorpio's "feelings" for me on three occasions in response to questions directed towards her. She's hiding.
An arachnid triangle I don't care to be a part of.
‘I’ll see your Scorpio. And raise you a Gemini Moon. Bye.’click to expand
Posted by MysteriousDreamer
As I’m getting ready for bed I have a flashback of the Gem I dated several years ago. Our thing was to play scrabble. (He was super competitive). Anyway, the rule was the winner had to come up with a punishment for the loser. (His idea). He’d always come up with the most obsurd punishments for me. Like one time he made me sing “I’m A Little Teapot” while dancing and doing hand gestures. I swear he got some kind of sick pleasure out of it. Not sure why this popped into my mind, but now I got that damn song stuck in my head.
Do thoughts, when they come unexpectedly ever haunt you for a short period of time (e.g. a few days after)?
Posted by EllygantPosted by ex0DUDE.
mornings during pisces season is like inception x 3. i'm having a shit ton of dreams and i actually remember all of them. -_-
(-: ??
The full moon had my sleep all fucked up this week.
Watched a video that says Scorpios are most likely to astral travel in dreams and not realize it lol. *wonders about my own dreams*
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I've been telling myself I need to start a dream journal. I tend to get premonitions---not often, but enough that they stand out. Warnings. I often regret when I don't heed to the warning.
Don't Ask
Scorp: *cleaning out office, shredding old files*
Him: *walks by stops*...You've been shredding documents all day.
Scorp: Un huh....*shredding paper*....
Him: Anything I need to know 😄? Can I help?
Scorp: Yeah, keep an eye out for a black unmarked van.
Him:
Scorp: 😆
Scorp: *cleaning out office, shredding old files*
Him: *walks by stops*...You've been shredding documents all day.
Scorp: Un huh....*shredding paper*....
Him: Anything I need to know 😄? Can I help?
Scorp: Yeah, keep an eye out for a black unmarked van.
Him:
Scorp: 😆
Posted by MysteriousDreamerPosted by PhoenixRisingYes they do. And it’s as if I’m transported back in time to that very moment. I notice all the details to what the person was wearing, the scent of their cologne fill my nose, the sly smile on their face, twinkle in their eye, sound of their laughter, how we were seated, their posture etc. It’s eerie really and normally takes me a few days to recover.Posted by MysteriousDreamer
As I’m getting ready for bed I have a flashback of the Gem I dated several years ago. Our thing was to play scrabble. (He was super competitive). Anyway, the rule was the winner had to come up with a punishment for the loser. (His idea). He’d always come up with the most obsurd punishments for me. Like one time he made me sing “I’m A Little Teapot” while dancing and doing hand gestures. I swear he got some kind of sick pleasure out of it. Not sure why this popped into my mind, but now I got that damn song stuck in my head.
Do thoughts, when they come unexpectedly ever haunt you for a short period of time (e.g. a few days after)?
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This is my experience as well.
It's 4:09am and I can't sleep because I avoid things. When I'm worried or anxious I avoid. People, things, tasks....
Guys.. I really like him.
What if he doesn't like me??! 😱
What if he doesn't like me??! 😱
Dis Scorpio doh....
Posted by PhoenixRisingProblem Solved. 😆Posted by Andalusia
Guys.. I really like him.
What if he doesn't like me??! 😱click to expand
God dammit, I need to sleep.
Posted by ellesbelles
LOL.....she went to the libra and told him I was "too bossy and demanding".
His response? "Good, that's what we are paying her to be."
🤣🤣🤣🤣
*like*
Posted by Ellygant
My reaction when the Capricorn Sun/Gemini Moon lays into someone on my behalf, without me asking.
Now I know why she says my crab ex better never run into her. God bless him if he ever does in their small town. 😮
🙂
Haaalp me, I have absolutely no sense of personal responsibility and a Scorpio is playing hot and cold with my heart. He offers the peen and takes it away refusing to talk to me. Then offers the peen, and pushes me away!!!!!!!!! Then he offers the peen wrapped in a pink bow. I hate pink! He knows this and did that sh*t on purpose to play with me. Offer me something I like paired with something I hate. Is he testing me to see how much I love the peen? He also offered it while drunk. He's never done that with anyone else before. Was it a genuine offer? Why would he offer the peen in a pink bow while drunk otherwise?
Scorpio bastard.
Scorpio bastard.
I need to apply more discernment when choosing to reply to some of these threads....
Mmmm Scorpio peen... 🙂
Posted by MysteriousDreamer
Anyone on anti-depressants? I’m taking a low dose of one to prevent my migraines....not sure if it really helps. My doctor wants to increase my dosage, but I’m a little nervous about it. Guess I’ve done too much research and read about all the possible side effects. I wasn’t too thrilled about starting the medication in the first place, but was at the point where I’d do anything to help with these god awful migraine headaches.
Just curious about others experiences with them if anyone cares to share?
Do you consume artificial sweeteners?
Posted by MysteriousDreamerPosted by PhoenixRisingPosted by MysteriousDreamer
Anyone on anti-depressants? I’m taking a low dose of one to prevent my migraines....not sure if it really helps. My doctor wants to increase my dosage, but I’m a little nervous about it. Guess I’ve done too much research and read about all the possible side effects. I wasn’t too thrilled about starting the medication in the first place, but was at the point where I’d do anything to help with these god awful migraine headaches.
Just curious about others experiences with them if anyone cares to share?
Do you consume artificial sweeteners?
No, I try to avoid those as I’ve found they are a trigger for my headaches.
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Yeah, that was what I was going to say. Any food/drinks that contain it has been said to increase the frequency of migraine. Same with dyes, food colourings---pretty much most packaged food lol. Anyway, a few things:
1) Given your doctor (or a doctor) has a better sense of your full medical history, I think it's best to discuss your concerns about the side effects with him and/or get a second opinion with another health professional.
2) If you decide to increase the dosage, monitor and note significant changes. If they are unpleasant or leads you to be concerns, talk to the doctor that initially prescribe the increase in your meds.
3) Look up alternative ways to manage migraines. I suffer from really painful cramps that require me to be off work at least 2-3 days/cycle. I don't like the idea of taking pain medication for myself personally and truthfully they don't help me, so I looked up ways to deal with the pain naturally. I drink tart/dark cherry juice on the first day of my cycle and onward to help with inflammation and muscle spasms. I also monitor what I eat 7-10 days prior to my expected cycle and I have found that has made my cramps much more tolerable. They still hurt, but not as much as they use to. Each cycle they seem to get better. A colleague of mine says hers were eliminated completely when I told her to try it. Natural remedies work, they just take longer to see results so you need to be consistent.
Posted by MysteriousDreamer
Thanks! I will definitely start researching some natural remedies for migraines. One of the side effects my doctor told me about with this current medication I’m on is that it can leave you feeling groggy in the mornings and hung over. I have a hard enough time getting up in the mornings now for work.....I definitely don’t need anything added to it. I told him my concerns, but he said if I take the medicine early enough in the evenings that it shouldn’t be a problem. Although I’m still skeptical.
🙂 Such a Scorpio. Well depends on the type meds you've been prescribed. Some SSRIs are slow release. Generally, taking it at an earlier time would help with that.
Posted by MysteriousDreamer
I’m sorry you have to deal with such horrid cramps. When I was younger (teenager on into early twenties) I had severe cramping during my periods. Like you, they were so bad I had to miss school/work. I’d break out into this cold sweat and felt like I was gonna pass out. I was later diagnosed with endometriosis which runs in my family....so I’m guessing that’s why my cramps were so bad. Anyway, when I hit my mid twenties the cramps completely stopped and I started getting migraines. Every time around my cycle I’d get these awful headaches that would put me out, make me throw up and cause me to miss work. I was then diagnosed with menstrual migraines. But now I get them more often than just around my cycle. I’m not really sure which I’d rather have....the cramps or the migraines because they are both horrible! I still get cramps sometimes around my period, but nowhere near as bad as I once did. Thank God! So I feel for you. Glad you’ve found something that helps you manage them though!
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Yeah, I've noticed I get headaches now during my cycle and I never use to get them before, at all. The only "side effects" I had with my cycle were bigger boobs a week before my period lol. They would swell up half cup size, which my boyfriends liked, but they were very tender.
Anyway, best of luck hon 🙂
Posted by EllygantYou want to date a Scorpio woman then, not a cancer man 😛
I really am a cancer man magnet right now. 😐
Also, every time a cancer man tells his birthday and someone else says ‘oh. Y’all moody. Idk.’ And every time the cancer tries to not scrunch up their face, trying to hide how offended they feel. 😆
Every new crab I’ve met this past month or so, each new one convinces me, I really do favor them. I’d really like whoever I’m with next, the real one, to be a crab.
But you know, the mature one. Who when someone calls them moody, they don’t give a fuck. They smile, admit it and charm that into a compliment. That real and mature water sign suave magic, that’ll be what sets them apart. 😄
So I came across this new channel, Investigation Discovery and it's 24 hour crime/mystery documentaries. I'm in love!
So far my favorites are "Fear Thy Neighbour", "Unusual Suspects", "Evil Stepmothers", and a "Crime to Remember"
To say the people highlighted on these shows are unstable is an understatement.
So far my favorites are "Fear Thy Neighbour", "Unusual Suspects", "Evil Stepmothers", and a "Crime to Remember"
To say the people highlighted on these shows are unstable is an understatement.
Posted by PhoenixRising😍
So I came across this new channel, Investigation Discovery and it's 24 hour crime/mystery documentaries. I'm in love!
So far my favorites are "Fear Thy Neighbour", "Unusual Suspects", "Evil Stepmothers", and a "Crime to Remember"
To say the people highlighted on these shows are unstable is an understatement.
I want to stab Le Scorp.
A None Thread Worthy Question for you Scorps:
Have you ever used the idea of honesty within your relationships as a means of controlling the outcome of the relationship?
I'll attempt to explain what is rattling around in my head based on a conversation I had recently with a Scorpio---well more she was talking and I was doing my listening thing 😄. When I say, using honesty as a means of control, I am not suggesting that honesty is not an important value to have. More specifically, do you think the need for complete honesty within a relationship could be something that is used to control your position within a relationship (e.g. determines if you'll stay or leave).
This comes from the recent conversation I had, observations and comments I've heard Scorps say or written on the dxp boards:
"I can accept almost anything as long as I know what is going on."
"I can handle almost anything about my partner as long as she/he is honest about what is going on."
"I am fine with an open relationship as long as my partner is honest about it, what he/she is doing."
"I need honesty to feel safe/comfortable."
So, in these examples (and they are not limited to just these 4, I just can't think of all of them now) honesty is more about being able to have choice (or personal control of your future) within the relationship, and not the virtue of honesty in itself. If you need complete honesty have you ever asked yourself why that is?
What say you?
Have you ever used the idea of honesty within your relationships as a means of controlling the outcome of the relationship?
I'll attempt to explain what is rattling around in my head based on a conversation I had recently with a Scorpio---well more she was talking and I was doing my listening thing 😄. When I say, using honesty as a means of control, I am not suggesting that honesty is not an important value to have. More specifically, do you think the need for complete honesty within a relationship could be something that is used to control your position within a relationship (e.g. determines if you'll stay or leave).
This comes from the recent conversation I had, observations and comments I've heard Scorps say or written on the dxp boards:
"I can accept almost anything as long as I know what is going on."
"I can handle almost anything about my partner as long as she/he is honest about what is going on."
"I am fine with an open relationship as long as my partner is honest about it, what he/she is doing."
"I need honesty to feel safe/comfortable."
So, in these examples (and they are not limited to just these 4, I just can't think of all of them now) honesty is more about being able to have choice (or personal control of your future) within the relationship, and not the virtue of honesty in itself. If you need complete honesty have you ever asked yourself why that is?
What say you?
Posted by PhoenixRisingI've planned it all out. In weird disturbing, detailed yet abstract detail.Posted by Andalusia
I want to stab Le Scorp.
Not too deep and avoid vital organs/legs
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I never remember the details, only the aftermath and the emotions attached to it.
One of the reasons I love 💙💟💜🖤 Scorps. They unintentionally make me feel. And by proxy, make me feel alive and remind me that I'm alive.
Posted by PhoenixRisingI've planned it all out. In weird disturbing, detailed yet abstract detail.Posted by Andalusia
I want to stab Le Scorp.
Not too deep and avoid vital organs/legs
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I never remember the details, only the aftermath and the emotions attached to it.
One of the reasons I love 💙💟💜🖤 Scorps. They unintentionally make me feel. And by proxy, make me feel alive and remind me that I'm alive.
Posted by AndalusiaPosted by PhoenixRisingI've planned it all out. In weird disturbing, detailed yet abstract detail.Posted by Andalusia
I want to stab Le Scorp.
Not too deep and avoid vital organs/legs
I never remember the details, only the aftermath and the emotions attached to it.
One of the reasons I love 💙💟💜🖤 Scorps. They unintentionally make me feel. And by proxy, make me feel alive and remind me that I'm alive.click to expand
Well I won't ask you for the details.
Scorp 201: Secrets and Skeletons
Article 2, section 1 Never put in writing (or speak of) something that can be used against you
Article 2, section 2 If you fail to adhere to the instruction outlined in article 2, section 1 have a plan to cover your ass
🙂
Posted by Andalusia
One of the reasons I love 💙💟💜🖤 Scorps. They unintentionally make me feel. And by proxy, make me feel alive and remind me that I'm alive.
*ponders*
Lol. I recall a partner telling me that sometimes he wanted to strangle me, he was really pissed off. My response:
"That's never been a personal fetish of mine, but I will let you tie my wrist together with your tie."
He didn't find that very funny.
"That's never been a personal fetish of mine, but I will let you tie my wrist together with your tie."
He didn't find that very funny.
Posted by PhoenixRisingOh please don't. These are just the diatribes of an automaton, not anything to take seriously.Posted by Andalusia
One of the reasons I love 💙💟💜🖤 Scorps. They unintentionally make me feel. And by proxy, make me feel alive and remind me that I'm alive.
*ponders*click to expand
Scorp's, unlike their water brethren, act in accordance with their internal nature as opposed to some elaborate, thought out, "tit for tat-they've got this coming to them" weird type of subterranean Shakespearean plot. Which I immensely respect.
That's not to say le Scorps don't have an alternative agenda... merely that I do not see it.. Or choose not to 😛
Posted by MysteriousDreamerPosted by PhoenixRisingI’d like to answer, but this went way over my head. I think I’m just sleepy and not comprehending everything. I am going to get some sleep and perhaps come back to it with a fresh mind and see what happens. Then again I could just be plain dumb. I’ve been told that one before. 😆
A None Thread Worthy Question for you Scorps:
Have you ever used the idea of honesty within your relationships as a means of controlling the outcome of the relationship?
I'll attempt to explain what is rattling around in my head based on a conversation I had recently with a Scorpio---well more she was talking and I was doing my listening thing 😄. When I say, using honesty as a means of control, I am not suggesting that honesty is not an important value to have. More specifically, do you think the need for complete honesty within a relationship could be something that is used to control your position within a relationship (e.g. determines if one stays or leaves).
This comes from the recent conversation I had, observations and comments I've heard Scorps say or written on the dxp boards:
"I can accept almost anything as long as I know what is going on."
"I can handle almost anything about my partner as long as she/he is honest about what is going on."
"I am fine with an open relationship as long as my partner is honest about it, what he/she is doing."
"I need honesty to feel safe/comfortable."
So, in these examples (and they are not limited to just these 4, I just can't think of all of them now) honesty is more about being able to have choice (or personal control of your future) within the relationship, and not the virtue of honesty in itself. If you need complete honesty have you ever asked yourself why that is?
What say you?
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I sometimes have difficulty communicating what is in my head as I process it. Now worries 🙂
Posted by ArkansassyPosted by PhoenixRisingNot sure I fully understand what you're asking..
A None Thread Worthy Question for you Scorps:
Have you ever used the idea of honesty within your relationships as a means of controlling the outcome of the relationship?
I'll attempt to explain what is rattling around in my head based on a conversation I had recently with a Scorpio---well more she was talking and I was doing my listening thing 😄. When I say, using honesty as a means of control, I am not suggesting that honesty is not an important value to have. More specifically, do you think the need for complete honesty within a relationship could be something that is used to control your position within a relationship (e.g. determines if you'll stay or leave).
This comes from the recent conversation I had, observations and comments I've heard Scorps say or written on the dxp boards:
"I can accept almost anything as long as I know what is going on."
"I can handle almost anything about my partner as long as she/he is honest about what is going on."
"I am fine with an open relationship as long as my partner is honest about it, what he/she is doing."
"I need honesty to feel safe/comfortable."
So, in these examples (and they are not limited to just these 4, I just can't think of all of them now) honesty is more about being able to have choice (or personal control of your future) within the relationship, and not the virtue of honesty in itself. If you need complete honesty have you ever asked yourself why that is?
What say you?
However, I will say that I can use honesty as a manipulation tactic. As in.. I tell the truth 99% of the time so that when I do tell a lie 1% of the time, I can get away with it.click to expand
#MafiaVet
Get away with it...how so? As in, "well he's usually honest, so why would I doubt him now"?
The question was directed more to our expectations of others. Do you need a partner to be completely honest to feel comfortable, safe (or fill in the blank) and if so, why do you think that is?
Posted by UnwordingPosted by PhoenixRisingI agree a 100% .
A None Thread Worthy Question for you Scorps:
Have you ever used the idea of honesty within your relationships as a means of controlling the outcome of the relationship?
I'll attempt to explain what is rattling around in my head based on a conversation I had recently with a Scorpio---well more she was talking and I was doing my listening thing 😄. When I say, using honesty as a means of control, I am not suggesting that honesty is not an important value to have. More specifically, do you think the need for complete honesty within a relationship could be something that is used to control your position within a relationship (e.g. determines if you'll stay or leave).
This comes from the recent conversation I had, observations and comments I've heard Scorps say or written on the dxp boards:
"I can accept almost anything as long as I know what is going on."
"I can handle almost anything about my partner as long as she/he is honest about what is going on."
"I am fine with an open relationship as long as my partner is honest about it, what he/she is doing."
"I need honesty to feel safe/comfortable."
So, in these examples (and they are not limited to just these 4, I just can't think of all of them now) honesty is more about being able to have choice (or personal control of your future) within the relationship, and not the virtue of honesty in itself. If you need complete honesty have you ever asked yourself why that is?
What say you?
And the worst offenders (based on what I've seen) aren't even romantic partners.
It's moms. lolclick to expand
Hmph. Okay, I had to read this over a few times. If I am understanding you correctly, I think you mean moms using it to control their kids?
What about yourself? Have you requested/expected honesty from your partner within a relationship, and if so why do you think that was necessary for you?
It's an off the wall theory. The particular situation sparking the thought behind my question may be nothing more than....boredom and need to makes sense of the ramblings of a scared person.
Posted by Ellygant
Personally I always want complete honesty....
Why do you think that is?
Posted by Ellygant
But I have never verbalized that desire in/to any relationship because I’ve been afraid I’d have to reciprocate. And I know that articulation when it counts is one of my most difficult struggles.
So instead I just don’t ask for it, wish they could read my mind and then end up brooding a little too much lolclick to expand
Hmph. I am reading this in a way you may not have intended, so forgive me. You desire complete honesty, and assume the other person would want that as well?
I am actually surprised how many people have told me that actually don't want complete honesty in their relationship. Others have stated that it's simply not possible (e.g. "everyone lies"). However after close observation the people making the last statement are simply projecting their dishonest nature onto others, so I take what they say with a grain of salt--but there is truth in their position. I tend to hear that mainly from Gems, Sag, (male) Crabs and Caps.
The Leebs I know are unique in the sense that their understanding of being honest changes based on the circumstances. They expect and provide a little more or less at any given time as long as it doesn't rock the boat and serves their agenda. It's hard to call them "dishonest" folks unless you apply black and white principles to them, and they are far from black and white thinkers.
Lol ^^that last bit reminds me of BusyEyes epic Leebs Are Fake rant on the Leeb board a few years ago.
I guess I should answer my own question. Yes, I would like complete honesty in the beginning, however as the relationship progresses I only require it when if it applies to my partner's feelings, desires and fears as those things have the ability to change the course of the relationship. If he really went to a strip club to help his friends forget about an ex and wasn't working late like he told me, I really don't care and won't make a big deal out of it when I find out.
If he went to said strip club to spend time with a female dancer he is developing feelings for, I would feel a sense of betrayal.
If he went to said strip club to spend time with a female dancer he is developing feelings for, I would feel a sense of betrayal.
Posted by ArkansassyPosted by PhoenixRisingI think it's an unrealistic expectation for me to think they will be completely honest, when I can't even be completely honest with myself.Posted by ArkansassyPosted by PhoenixRisingNot sure I fully understand what you're asking..
A None Thread Worthy Question for you Scorps:
Have you ever used the idea of honesty within your relationships as a means of controlling the outcome of the relationship?
I'll attempt to explain what is rattling around in my head based on a conversation I had recently with a Scorpio---well more she was talking and I was doing my listening thing 😄. When I say, using honesty as a means of control, I am not suggesting that honesty is not an important value to have. More specifically, do you think the need for complete honesty within a relationship could be something that is used to control your position within a relationship (e.g. determines if you'll stay or leave).
This comes from the recent conversation I had, observations and comments I've heard Scorps say or written on the dxp boards:
"I can accept almost anything as long as I know what is going on."
"I can handle almost anything about my partner as long as she/he is honest about what is going on."
"I am fine with an open relationship as long as my partner is honest about it, what he/she is doing."
"I need honesty to feel safe/comfortable."
So, in these examples (and they are not limited to just these 4, I just can't think of all of them now) honesty is more about being able to have choice (or personal control of your future) within the relationship, and not the virtue of honesty in itself. If you need complete honesty have you ever asked yourself why that is?
What say you?
However, I will say that I can use honesty as a manipulation tactic. As in.. I tell the truth 99% of the time so that when I do tell a lie 1% of the time, I can get away with it.
#MafiaVet
Get away with it...how so? As in, "well he's usually honest, so why would I doubt him now"?
The question was directed more to our expectations of others. Do you need a partner to be completely honest to feel comfortable, safe (or fill in the blank) and if so, why do you think that is?
The older I get, the more I understand that everyone has a reason for not being honest, and it usually lay with their own insecurities. Over thinking what someone else might think of you if you tell the truth.
A lie wouldn't hurt me near as much.. as not being able to communicate as to why you felt you had to lie in the first place.click to expand
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The shitty Cap I briefly "dated" keeps coming into my work with his girlfriend.
And he just got fired from his job, so she paid.
God he fucking sucks.
And he just got fired from his job, so she paid.
God he fucking sucks.
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