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Ugh...I have a coworker like that at my current job. She’s a Taurus and a real bully. She doesn’t really like me or anyone for that matter who doesn’t suck up to her. She’s gotten several new girls fired in the past before I ever started working there. She’s super buddy buddy with the supervisor and if she doesn’t like someone or doesn’t feel they are working out she will either bully until they’ve had enough or convince the boss that they have to go. The boss is like her little puppet I swear! All she has to do is pull the supervisors strings and make her do whatever she wants. And what the Taurus wants the Taurus gets. My Pisces coworker actually told me several months ago that she didn’t think I would make it when I first started because I was so passive and too nice. I just didn’t let the Taurus bother me. Now I’m used to her and just try to ignore. I also stand up to her more now. Not sure why she’s so bitter towards everyone. I had another bully Taurus coworker at a previous job I worked. For some reason I seem to clash with Taurus women. Hmmm...🤔

My current Pisces coworker now tells me “you’re not as sweet and innocent as you pretend to be...you’re a little feisty one.” Lol I’m normally so passive and quiet at work....mind my own business. However, within the past year I haven’t been keeping my feelings inside as much as I should. I’ve gotten upset or annoyed a few times and the words just flowed right out of my mouth like I had no control. I think the Taurus bully was the most shocked of all. Some days I just get tired of all the stupid drama. Things that used to not bother me now does. Sigh...
Leo moons shooting off at the mouth is one of my favorite things tbh. Only thing better is Gemini moons shooting off, because there’s a sense of calculated brutality in observation that Gem moons have. Leo moons are just from the gut, normally right and normally so friendly everyone is shocked lol.

So long as y’all arent aiming at me. 😄
Well whenever I shoot off at the mouth I have the whole office cracking up. The first time I was like what the hell are they laughing at— Haven’t they ever seen someone annoyed or pissed off? Afterall, everyone else let’s their frustrations known. Why can’t I dammit!— I guess they just weren’t used to me.....the one always sitting there not making a peep and then all of a sudden I’m letting it all out. Lol

I’ll never forget the first time the Taurus heard it. I had a really irate client that day and as the client was exiting the building I half mumbled “that’s right, get the hell out of here.” The Taurus was like “what did you just say—” Me: “ You heard right, I SAID GET THE HELL OUT!” Taurus was like omg omg omg did y’all hear what she just said??!!! Omg omg omg! I’m like really? Get over it...I wish I could tell you to get the hell out!

Oh and elly I could never aim anything like that at you. For some reason I always feel protective over Cancer moons.











....you are a Cancer Moon right? I’m pretty sure you’ve mentioned it several times....I’m just too lazy to go back and look and I’d feel completely ashamed and embarrassed if you’re not. So even if you aren’t a Cancer Moon can you just pretend that you are for my sake? Mkay thanks...hehe 😁


Lol!! See that’s why I love when Leo moons go off. It’s always entertaining and fun when they let it out. Plus they visibly get so much lighter after. Which I’m envious. My moon can be funny but o stay hot for a while after venting and wanna keep beating a dead horse. I have to talk myself out of it lol.

And yes I am very much a Cancer Moon. 😄 I don’t think I could pretend to be anything else if I tried lol. I love Leo moons so much. They do end up being a little protective over me now that I think of it. The Gemini moons too. It’s weird cause they always treat me so carefully and tenderly in instances I see them light up others. I think it contributes to why I respect and fangirl those moons so much. I really take to people who are adaptive with me emotionally. Probably the only exception was the crab. He was sweet and protective like 85% of the time. But the 15% in which he thought I was stepping on his toes, whoa boy. Lol.


😊 Not sure if I’ve ever told you this, but you’re like this big ball of sunshine. I admire that and aspire to be more like you. I’m more dark and broody a lot of the time. I always enjoy reading your happy posts. Your happiness is infectious!

Sorry for the cheesyness! 😁



Btw...are you feeling any better?


Ha! Cancer moon loves cheese. 😄

And I am dark and broody too. I just keep most of that hidden. It’s hard for me to let it out. My personal relationships take that hit more lol. And if they’re not going well I tend to be extra dark and broody haha. Sometimes I literally leave my house and just drive or eat alone so I can brood without my roommate knowing. 😆 it’s rather silly haha.

And yes I am feeling better! For the most part ha. Still got a bit of a cough and can’t walk up the two and a half stories at work yet without coughing and losing breathe lol. But mostly better. 😄 thank you for asking.
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Lol, what a difference context makes.
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Dazed says hi ladies!
Is He there with you? Did you tell him Ands got knocked up??
LOL. nah. I still haven’t talked any of y’all into visiting me yet. Still a dxp meetup virgin.
Yeah.. me too.
I haven’t forgotten about coming to see you. 😄

I’ve just been super broke all winter lol.

Believe it or not, my trip to visit is actually the next item on my budget of things to save for, after I finish saving for moving. You’d be so Virgo proud of me, I made a spreadsheet and everything. LOL.
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!!!! SRSLY — !!!! 🤓🤗😀
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Scorpios usually feel comfortable and familiar to us virgo's, even if there's a bit of awkwardness initially. Just keep being your badass self and I'm sure they'll warm up. Now, whether or not you'll regret it once they start talking is another story all together.

Hmph. Honestly, the Virgos I know are the only folks I've ever felt truly safe with and that's saying a lot given my feelings about trusting others.

You folks are very easy to love.

With the exception of D. Her Ram Moon, pushes her right over that thin line of love and hate.



yes, I know you're lurking......😛

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*💗*
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Dazed says hi ladies!
Is He there with you? Did you tell him Ands got knocked up??
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Dazed says hi ladies!
Tell him "still salty".





...and then give him a hug or something.





I'm more partial to giving the latter, but your Moon can pull off the former.
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Dazed says hi ladies!
Tell him:

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Or that he is missed.
Lol @ the Scorp ladies vs melly’s reaction. 😆

Duly passed along lovelies.
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LOL, the mutable goes straight to the gossip before she remembers he left us.

The fixed ones never forgot. 😛
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Dazed says hi ladies!
Is He there with you? Did you tell him Ands got knocked up??
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Dazed says hi ladies!
Tell him "still salty".





...and then give him a hug or something.





I'm more partial to giving the latter, but your Moon can pull off the former.
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Dazed says hi ladies!
Tell him:

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Or that he is missed.
Lol @ the Scorp ladies vs melly’s reaction. 😆

Duly passed along lovelies.
LOL, the mutable goes straight to the gossip before she remembers he left us.

The fixed ones never forgot. 😛
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This.



Never forgets.
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I'm not sure why it is, but there is this part of me that always needs to fight the urge to purposely add a lot of typos when I'm addressing a Virgo lol.
I noticed this a lot!

Most people but especially Scorpios will immediately correct an error or go "Sorry my phone ugh".

I don't care for spelling errors but I find it so cute.
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No no, Delphi. She wants to add *more* typos when talking to us. 😛
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I'm not sure why it is, but there is this part of me that always needs to fight the urge to purposely add a lot of typos when I'm addressing a Virgo lol.
I noticed this a lot!

Most people but especially Scorpios will immediately correct an error or go "Sorry my phone ugh".

I don't care for spelling errors but I find it so cute.
No no, Delphi. She wants to add *more* typos when talking to us. 😛
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I know, that is just Phoenix being an edgy Scorpio trolling her sister and all Virgos on earth.
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I'm not sure why it is, but there is this part of me that always needs to fight the urge to purposely add a lot of typos when I'm addressing a Virgo lol.
I noticed this a lot!

Most people but especially Scorpios will immediately correct an error or go "Sorry my phone ugh".

I don't care for spelling errors but I find it so cute.
No no, Delphi. She wants to add *more* typos when talking to us. 😛
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🙂 I was going to let it go.

Scorp correcting a Virgo = headache. Virgo correcting a Virgo = amusing.
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*binge watches SAW series....watching Jigsaw....*

Him: You ever think about the type of people that write these kinds of movies?

Scorp: *eating chocolate chip cookies while character get sliced up* No. Why?

Him: I don't know.... I think the FBI should be watching them. They're clearly sick to come up with stuff like this.

Scorp: Or just have colourful imaginations.

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Also, totally unrelated and completely catty, but it annoys me how many awful man buns work at my new job. They all look like awkward generic hipsters and when bored I fantasize about running with scissors, snipping their poorly tied buns off and then running away.

That and none of them know how to give a proper handshake. Since when do so many people limp wrist handshake? Tragic.

Pointless rant over.

Haha, if I didn't have those filters the things I would do and say....

*co worker starts talking about it being cold outside* "Do I look like I live in this god d*mn office? I know how cold it is outside. Let's get on with the meeting already."

*supervisor wants to set up a meeting to talk about meeting* "Jesus Christ, I think I'd drop from a stroke if you actually made a freaking decision"

*toddler learning to walk down the stairs during rush hour*....."Really?! Maybe if I just tap him with my hip... his mother will catch him."
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*binge watches SAW series....watching Jigsaw....*

Him: You ever think about the type of people that write these kinds of movies?

Scorp: *eating chocolate chip cookies while character get sliced up* No. Why?

Him: I don't know.... I think the FBI should be watching them. They're clearly sick to come up with stuff like this.

Scorp: Or just have colourful imaginations.

Him: Image Not Found
This is extra funny to me, because when I was in film school, horror shorts were my absolute favorite genre to write, direct, act and produce.

Now I hate horror movies overall. I never watch them. Especially horror gore. I’m too sensitive. But to make, they were my absolute favorite lol. I was even cast as a serial killer in two different shorts. 😆 😐
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I would actually love that!

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i will never in my life eat at another Mexican restaurant again. i just got over the worst case of food poisoning. vomiting all night, keeping nothing down. sharp stomach pains. painful retching. two small chicken tacos were the culprits. i should have known better than to eat there; the damn lady couldn't even read me the price of the chicken tacos. if you can't read a simple total, how can you read the sanitation and food safety guidelines? rinky dink ass restaurant. i feel like that was done purposely. like maybe she served me some shit that she left sitting out or mabye dropped on the floor. i feel like just because you are on your way out of here, you shouldnt be trying to take as many people out as you can before you go. that was a personal vendetta on my stomach. i'm not trump, bitch. i didnt say shit about a wall. before ppl start saying i shouldnt bar all Mexican restaurants, let me say this. fuck that. shit is getting real and i don't want to take anymore chances. i'll cook my own food from now on.

i'm gonna stop going to Chinese restaurants too. you never know what people are thinking. what if we go to war with them? all the Chinese here will feel it. and then their personal vendettas on our stomachs will begin. they own a lot of the restaurants; think about it. like it would be personal war here...poisoning the enemy. maybe i'm overthinking shit, but i just got over throwing up all of my internal organs so i wouldn't be surprised if a few brain cells came up too. that shit has me paranoid now. i wont be doing anymore restaurants any time soon.
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...things are building up and becoming anxieties and pressures are mounting into negative mood swings. And I hate when I get to this part.

So I just feel, stuck. 😐
Given where you've posted this, I would kindly point out you're never stuck.

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And as much as I love everyone else, I don’t trust them, or should I say, I don’t feel I know them well enough to trust their insight. Maybe both I guess.

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Hmph. I'll make my point in the form of a question....Do you really need to know someone well to trust their insight? If that was the case therapist would be out of a job, no?

I'm going to guess the issue is you don't trust that these people can hold your "stuff". Someone may surprise you.
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Also, totally unrelated and completely catty, but it annoys me how many awful man buns work at my new job. They all look like awkward generic hipsters and when bored I fantasize about running with scissors, snipping their poorly tied buns off and then running away.

That and none of them know how to give a proper handshake. Since when do so many people limp wrist handshake? Tragic.

Pointless rant over.

Haha, if I didn't have those filters the things I would do and say....

*co worker starts talking about it being cold outside* "Do I look like I live in this god d*mn office? I know how cold it is outside. Let's get on with the meeting already."

*supervisor wants to set up a meeting to talk about meeting* "Jesus Christ, I think I'd drop from a stroke if you actually made a freaking decision"

*toddler learning to walk down the stairs during rush hour*....."Really?! Maybe if I just tap him with my hip... his mother will catch him."
*add giggle at the men being referred to "cockroaches" when someone is having an emotional rant*...



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I have found that I’m very angry at the opposite sex as of late. Every time I come into contact with one of those filthy cockroaches I have the urge to tell them a piece of my mind. My New Years resolution was to stop dating. Took down my online dating profile and everything and I have to say I feel very empowered.

Not sure why I’m so bitter toward them.....well I do, but it’s never been to this extreme. Guess I’ve just finally had enough. Whenever I see someone of the opposite sex I have bad thoughts and want to throw rotten eggs at them. Just thinking about one makes me cringe now and feel disgusted inside.

.....hmm makes me wonder if this is healthy?
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Purging is a good way to healthy. You're good 🙂

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*watching the Oscar Pistorius lifetime movie: "Blade Runner Killer"...geeze what a title lol*

I didn't follow the case, never do. I'm often curious by the "story" behind these crimes though.
If I recall he had almost the same chart as Dazed. That’s all I remember from the case. Mainly cause someone on DXP was mad at Dazed at the time for saying something Leo moonish and made a giant thread about it. Lol
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😆 it's funny how Scorps can get such a rise out of people.

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I just realized I still have my damn Christmas tree up. 😮😱😟. Shame shame shame!!!! My mother would kill me if she knew! I need to get on that! I’m such a procrastinator....sigh.











Couldn’t I just throw a sheet over it? Wouldn’t that suffice! 🤔 Gosh I’m so lazy!!

My Christmas tree is still up. Meh. It will come down when I'm ready.



Or not feeling so lazy.

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Yeah I thought about it before I posted lol. But I knew you guys wouldn’t bug me about sharing or accuse me of posting for attention. Thinking out loud about how/where i can think out loud lol. And also it’s the type of thing I literally have to say it, can’t just write or type it out. Idk. It’s weird to describe.

Someone may surprise me, your right. These are the softest gooey vulnerabilities and insecurities though. The ones where I’m bawling about two minutes in talking. The type of insecurities that I know are illogical and just insecure, but that persist and they hurt just to stumble words out because I feel so stupid saying them. It normally takes me years to get there with people. (Shoulda seen my struggle to find a therapist. Should be a reality TV show about Scorpios therapist shopping. 😆)

But I feel more overwhelmed not saying them. And I know the more I keep it in, the bigger they get and lead to an inevitable snap and/or shut down over something stupid. It’s been mounting so much I’ve rarely gone out and avoid drinking for the last month, because alcohol really fuels that lose of control lol.

I also lost three close confidants last year as well, so I think that plays into not wanting to open up. I don’t regret leaving those friendships behind. But tbh, I feel quite fixed sign-y right now where the thought of building something new feels utterly exhausting and unappealing. With that being said, and the fact my strongest confident are on the DL list, I wonder if maybe there’s some way I can press through on my own and I just can’t see it, because I’ve always been so used to airing stuff out with someone to bounce thoughts off of.

🙂 Well first off, reading this oddly reminded me of an episode of Grey's Anatomy.

I can relate to the exhaustion and the lack of appeal of not wanting to sign up for that road to building something with others. Again.

Nice thing is more than likely you won't have to look. The right person(s) will just patiently be there and something about their ability to just "be still" with you will make it feels safe to build something new. Again.

It won't feel hard and actually feel quite effortless. Strangely so. You may question it and/or resist it. Try not to.
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Yeah I thought about it before I posted lol. But I knew you guys wouldn’t bug me about sharing or accuse me of posting for attention. Thinking out loud about how/where i can think out loud lol. And also it’s the type of thing I literally have to say it, can’t just write or type it out. Idk. It’s weird to describe.

Someone may surprise me, your right. These are the softest gooey vulnerabilities and insecurities though. The ones where I’m bawling about two minutes in talking. The type of insecurities that I know are illogical and just insecure, but that persist and they hurt just to stumble words out because I feel so stupid saying them. It normally takes me years to get there with people. (Shoulda seen my struggle to find a therapist. Should be a reality TV show about Scorpios therapist shopping. 😆)

But I feel more overwhelmed not saying them. And I know the more I keep it in, the bigger they get and lead to an inevitable snap and/or shut down over something stupid. It’s been mounting so much I’ve rarely gone out and avoid drinking for the last month, because alcohol really fuels that lose of control lol.

I also lost three close confidants last year as well, so I think that plays into not wanting to open up. I don’t regret leaving those friendships behind. But tbh, I feel quite fixed sign-y right now where the thought of building something new feels utterly exhausting and unappealing. With that being said, and the fact my strongest confident are on the DL list, I wonder if maybe there’s some way I can press through on my own and I just can’t see it, because I’ve always been so used to airing stuff out with someone to bounce thoughts off of.

🙂 Well first off, reading this oddly reminded me of an episode of Grey's Anatomy.


Which episode? I used to be a grays superfan. I fell off he show once mcdreamy died honestly. That was a show that helped me through some really hard times so I figured I could make it through bad seasons in return. 😆 mcdreamys death broke that contract tho lol.

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I've been binge watching every episode from the beginning since last month. Watching here and there, especially when I'm sick. Watching it when I'm PMSing is the worst though.

It helped me process some things as well. I fell off before McDreamy died. I just couldn't connect with the new cast. They actually irritate me as they come off like whiny twits tbh.

It was the episode where this guy had a brain tumor on his frontal lobe and his affect was impaired. For example, he was laughing at the oddest places..."I can't see. I'm blind 😆...I only have 2 weeks to live? 😆...". I think it was your lols. We all read with our own filters I suppose and was reading your post one way then you would add an lol and it threw me lol.

I hope you're not offended.
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I feel like I have a Scorp radar like nobody’s business nowadays.

Last two weeks at work there’s a soux chef that’s setting off Scorpio alarms. He was quiet at first but now he seems comfortable with the kitchen team and is super sarcastic with them all the time. Prone to having a baby like outburst but fairly self aware after the fact. A little boastful about his sexual pursuits as well. And the ringer, is that the last two weeks he’s been eyeballing the fuck outta me but has never actually spoken a word to me. Till yesterday. When he tried to talk to me three different times.

Elly: *walks to get linens*

Suspected Scorpio: *standing there shifty and doesn’t say anything at first just watches me*

...

S.S: What was your name again?

Elly: *pauses and looks up, slowly looks at him* Well considering I’ve never told you, it’d be surprising if you knew.

S.S: Actually I saw your name tag from the other day. *smug face*

Elly: *stares and says nothing*

S.S: At least give me a letter. First letter.

Elly: *stares*

S.S: come on one letter. Does it start with B?

Elly: E.

S.S. nooo. No it doesn’t. I don’t believe you. *smiles*

Elly: Ok. *walks away*



❤.....

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I'm trying to learn how to open up. Problem is, the various things on my mind have the potential of hurting the person I would share it with.

My desires mean "nothing". They are fleeting, passing thoughts that consume my being for a period of time. Some periods are longer than others, but they will pass and then completely leave my thoughts as if they never existed.

But if I share them, they become the other person's thoughts for much longer. In some cases, attaches to their insecurities and then a mere thought becomes a problem. A discussion. An argument. A wall.

So, I'm trying to learn how to open up. Trying to lower my walls without building new ones.



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Sigh...when will my coworkers learn I don’t like talking about my love life or lack thereof?

My Pisces cowerker was talking about her brother in law to Taurus coworker. She tells her how she tried setting me up with him. Ok, first of all this is a man who the Pisces talks badly about all the time and says things like “what woman would want him?” “He is unemployed and has no common sense.” So gee thanks! Why the hell would I want him if you talk so negatively about him? According to the Pisces, the last girlfriend he had had a stroke after having sex with him and then died several days later from complications. They joke around saying the sex with him killed her. Ummm yeah, I’d like to live thank you very much.

The Taurus asks me “you won’t at least even meet him?” Then she proceeds with asking if I’m even looking for someone to date? When was the last date I went on? Etc. Omg it’s none of her damn business!! I told her I’m just not looking right now....not interested....period. Pisces chimes in by saying “oh she’s just had some bad experiences.” Why is it that married people always seem to think single people must be unhappy and wanting to find someone? I mean are they really that miserable with their marriages that they want to set single people up so they can be as miserable as they are? Misery does love company right? Taurus then asks me if I want to have kids? Oh gee thanks for reminding me that my clock is ticking very loudly as well! I do want kids eventually, but I’m not gonna just settle for any guy just to have a kid.

Smh 😡......I guess this is what happens when you work with a bunch of nosy ass women!



Lol.
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So I've decided to write a relationship memoir 😈. Real names will not be used, unless....naw real names won't be used. I have a code.

Once finished I plan to just leave it somewhere and see what happens. If it gets published online, published in print, collects dust or my future kids find it and cringe in judgment...meh I don't care.

It's time to purge.

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As I try to search for a thread on our board you come to realize how much crap people post on here. Jesus. Within a few months:

30 "He blinked at me, is he in love?" type threads

10 "Scorps ain't sh*t, so I'm gonna hang out on the board for a week to tell you" type threads

7 "I'm too cool to be a Scorp, but I'm gonna disguise my coolness by pretending I hate being a Scorp" type threads

20 "I don't know what the hell you're talking about, why is this sh*t on the board?" type threads

2 "HALLLLLLP. My 'Scorp' is so hard to figure out....he's a Leeb Sun, Ram Moon, Leeb Merc, Crab Mars, Virgo Venus, Scorp Saturn" type threads

Non crap threads

5 "Let's mock Scorps" type threads (thanks Fisky)

1 "Let's mock Scorp groupies" type threads (thank Elle)

5 "Let's DXP and chill" type threads

5 informative threads.....

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PhoenixRising
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Posted by Ellygant
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I'm trying to learn how to open up. Problem is, the various things on my mind have the potential of hurting the person I would share it with.

So, I'm trying to learn how to open up. Trying to lower my walls without building new ones.






*love*

And to paraphrase a really smart lady I know, with the right person and the right time, it’ll just flow. And hopefully you won’t fight it... too much. 🙂
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Hmph. Why would I listen to her?

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Posted by MysteriousDreamer
Well I did go to the shelter today and came home with something unexpected. I have been doing a lot of thinking and as much as I want a puppy, I’m at work 8-9 hours everyday five days a week and have no one who could let the dog out and such while I’m gone. So it would not be an ideal situation for a puppy right now. Perhaps in the future....

However, this goofy guy is Chester! He’s 6 years old and very affectionate. Jumped right in my lap! I already love him to death!! ❤️

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Posted by MysteriousDreamer
Well I did go to the shelter today and came home with something unexpected. I have been doing a lot of thinking and as much as I want a puppy, I’m at work 8-9 hours everyday five days a week and have no one who could let the dog out and such while I’m gone. So it would not be an ideal situation for a puppy right now. Perhaps in the future....

However, this goofy guy is Chester! He’s 6 years old and very affectionate. Jumped right in my lap! I already love him to death!! ❤️

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Every Scorpio should have a cat called Lucipurr.

Chester will do though.
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I need guidance. And neutral feedback.

Backstory: I work at an upscale, James Beard nominated restaurant as the private events coordinator/manager/accounting person.. idk what my official job title is, but I do all those things.

The bartender called out sick today, so I texted one of the servers that was scheduled to see if he could bartend tonight instead. Transcript, with time stamps, is as follows:

ME @ 12:56 PM: "Hey (insert server name), is there any way you could bartend tonight instead of serve? (Bartender) is at the doctor and doesn't think he'll be able to come in tonight."

SERVER @ 12:58 PM: "Sure, but that means I won't be able to help reset the dining room... just a heads up."

ME @ 13:03 PM: "Okay that's fine."

SERVER @ 13:07 PM: "Of course that's fine, I can't set up the bar and the dining room. I wasn't negotiating, it was just a situation I thought y'all might overlook. Our bar is a lot to set up."

ME @13:12 PM: "No one was asking you to do both, (insert server name)."

SERVER @ 13:35 PM: "If you want me to bar tend for you, please don't respond to me with attitude like this. It's already a job I do not want to do. Your answer "that's fine" implies you're making a concession. And while that may not have been your intention, that's how it reads in a text."

I wanted to dick punch him but am settling for writing him up. My sister thinks that's harsh.

I know some of you are managers. What say you
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Andalusia
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Posted by Arkansassy
Posted by Andalusia
I need guidance. And neutral feedback.

Backstory: I work at an upscale, James Beard nominated restaurant as the private events coordinator/manager/accounting person.. idk what my official job title is, but I do all those things.

The bartender called out sick today, so I texted one of the servers that was scheduled to see if he could bartend tonight instead. Transcript, with time stamps, is as follows:

ME @ 12:56 PM: "Hey (insert server name), is there any way you could bartend tonight instead of serve? (Bartender) is at the doctor and doesn't think he'll be able to come in tonight."

SERVER @ 12:58 PM: "Sure, but that means I won't be able to help reset the dining room... just a heads up."

ME @ 13:03 PM: "Okay that's fine."

SERVER @ 13:07 PM: "Of course that's fine, I can't set up the bar and the dining room. I wasn't negotiating, it was just a situation I thought y'all might overlook. Our bar is a lot to set up."

ME @13:12 PM: "No one was asking you to do both, (insert server name)."

SERVER @ 13:35 PM: "If you want me to bar tend for you, please don't respond to me with attitude like this. It's already a job I do not want to do. Your answer "that's fine" implies you're making a concession. And while that may not have been your intention, that's how it reads in a text."

I wanted to dick punch him but am settling for writing him up. My sister thinks that's harsh.

I know some of you are managers. What say you
Write him up and cut his/her shifts for a pay period.

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Yeah, that's what I'm thinking. I'm for sure writing him up. I'll have to get approval to cut his shifts though.

He's never been written up before, that I'm aware of at least, so that alone will probably piss him off. Lol 😈
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Andalusia
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Posted by Ellygant
Posted by Andalusia
I need guidance. And neutral feedback.

Backstory: I work at an upscale, James Beard nominated restaurant as the private events coordinator/manager/accounting person.. idk what my official job title is, but I do all those things.

The bartender called out sick today, so I texted one of the servers that was scheduled to see if he could bartend tonight instead. Transcript, with time stamps, is as follows:

ME @ 12:56 PM: "Hey (insert server name), is there any way you could bartend tonight instead of serve? (Bartender) is at the doctor and doesn't think he'll be able to come in tonight."

SERVER @ 12:58 PM: "Sure, but that means I won't be able to help reset the dining room... just a heads up."

ME @ 13:03 PM: "Okay that's fine."

SERVER @ 13:07 PM: "Of course that's fine, I can't set up the bar and the dining room. I wasn't negotiating, it was just a situation I thought y'all might overlook. Our bar is a lot to set up."

ME @13:12 PM: "No one was asking you to do both, (insert server name)."

SERVER @ 13:35 PM: "If you want me to bar tend for you, please don't respond to me with attitude like this. It's already a job I do not want to do. Your answer "that's fine" implies you're making a concession. And while that may not have been your intention, that's how it reads in a text."

I wanted to dick punch him but am settling for writing him up. My sister thinks that's harsh.

I know some of you are managers. What say you
I’m not a manager but I am a server. And he’s being a little bitch. And pulling some power play bullshit. Server are like toddlers, we have a tendency to run around with our ass on our shoulders sometimes. You know this.

Writing him up is an acceptable. Not harsh at all.
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I didn't think it was too harsh either. But I've never had to do it before so I got nervous and started second guessing myself, lol.
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Andalusia
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Posted by Ellygant
Posted by Andalusia
Posted by Ellygant
Posted by Andalusia
I need guidance. And neutral feedback.

Backstory: I work at an upscale, James Beard nominated restaurant as the private events coordinator/manager/accounting person.. idk what my official job title is, but I do all those things.

The bartender called out sick today, so I texted one of the servers that was scheduled to see if he could bartend tonight instead. Transcript, with time stamps, is as follows:

ME @ 12:56 PM: "Hey (insert server name), is there any way you could bartend tonight instead of serve? (Bartender) is at the doctor and doesn't think he'll be able to come in tonight."

SERVER @ 12:58 PM: "Sure, but that means I won't be able to help reset the dining room... just a heads up."

ME @ 13:03 PM: "Okay that's fine."

SERVER @ 13:07 PM: "Of course that's fine, I can't set up the bar and the dining room. I wasn't negotiating, it was just a situation I thought y'all might overlook. Our bar is a lot to set up."

ME @13:12 PM: "No one was asking you to do both, (insert server name)."

SERVER @ 13:35 PM: "If you want me to bar tend for you, please don't respond to me with attitude like this. It's already a job I do not want to do. Your answer "that's fine" implies you're making a concession. And while that may not have been your intention, that's how it reads in a text."

I wanted to dick punch him but am settling for writing him up. My sister thinks that's harsh.

I know some of you are managers. What say you
I’m not a manager but I am a server. And he’s being a little bitch. And pulling some power play bullshit. Server are like toddlers, we have a tendency to run around with our ass on our shoulders sometimes. You know this.

Writing him up is an acceptable. Not harsh at all.
I didn't think it was too harsh either. But I've never had to do it before so I got nervous and started second guessing myself, lol.
Don’t. You know a restaurant runs on tight and tenelus respect. You’re fairly new in the position correct? This guy was getting mouthy and seeing if you could stand up to it.

In my experience, particuarly if you’re promoted within a store, there’s always a handful that struggle with your newfound authority.
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True.. true...

So wise, elly! Thank you for your input my dear 😚
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Posted by Andalusia
I need guidance. And neutral feedback.

Backstory: I work at an upscale, James Beard nominated restaurant as the private events coordinator/manager/accounting person.. idk what my official job title is, but I do all those things.

The bartender called out sick today, so I texted one of the servers that was scheduled to see if he could bartend tonight instead. Transcript, with time stamps, is as follows:

ME @ 12:56 PM: "Hey (insert server name), is there any way you could bartend tonight instead of serve? (Bartender) is at the doctor and doesn't think he'll be able to come in tonight."

SERVER @ 12:58 PM: "Sure, but that means I won't be able to help reset the dining room... just a heads up."

ME @ 13:03 PM: "Okay that's fine."

SERVER @ 13:07 PM: "Of course that's fine, I can't set up the bar and the dining room. I wasn't negotiating, it was just a situation I thought y'all might overlook. Our bar is a lot to set up."

ME @13:12 PM: "No one was asking you to do both, (insert server name)."

SERVER @ 13:35 PM: "If you want me to bar tend for you, please don't respond to me with attitude like this. It's already a job I do not want to do. Your answer "that's fine" implies you're making a concession. And while that may not have been your intention, that's how it reads in a text."

I wanted to dick punch him but am settling for writing him up. My sister thinks that's harsh.

I know some of you are managers. What say you
Melly, write him up.

That would not be harsh, you were quite obviously being efficient and appropriate in your responses. You were being concise and to the point as a manager should. He pushed a situation beyond what it was, it was an outright act of disrespect for you and your position. He needs to be put in his place, not because you are pulling the power card on him. It simply shows him, that we all need to respect each other, if we are to work together in a team in one establishment.

If given possible, and if you deem fit for the work environment you are in. You may wish to speak with him, to see why he reacted the way he did to see if there was a misunderstanding on his part as well (at least to demonstrate you do care about the individuals of said team, not to mistake caring for a doormat, which is why you need to write the report anyways).

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We more often than not, already know what we want.

We simply ignore it, because often what we want is the most difficult path to walk down.

We do not follow our intuition, rather let the white noise in our head, the fears, the doubts, etc. overshadow the things that we know we want and know we need to do.

Another lesson of 2018, never neglect oneself enough to ignore what I already know.

Instead, to pursue it, even if it is difficult, and the consequences severe or the costs runs high. Letting everything else cloud what we will eventually do, is simply stalling and a waste of our own time and resources.
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Mutable vs Fixed Moons

Gem Moon: so Patrick Brown resigned yesterday

Leo Moon: Oh yeah?! I was going to vote for him.

Gem Moon: 😐 Yeah, I'm sorry we can't be friends anymore.

Leo Moon: Yeah, most of my friends say that....

*proceed to have a discussion about party platforms and tax policy*

Gem Moon: I completely understand, my only point is the money has to come from somewhere. I believe.....

Leo Moon: I don't see where you're coming from. I don't see how.....

Gem Moon: *listens....* Yup, like I said I get where you're saying and I don't disagree. Perhaps you could stretch your mind a bit. My point was....

Leo Moon: *starts looking up tax laws in different countries*

Gem Moon: *Okay, you're not listening. You just want to make your point. Mentally moves on....*

Leo Moon: *proceeds to prove point*

Gem Moon: Um hmmm.....*driving, thinking about work that has to be accomplished today*

*20 minutes pass*

Leo Moon: *continues to look up taxes in different countries* Columbia is 73% . Could you imagine if you had to give over 73% of your earnings?

Gem Moon: I'd probably just buy the government off with my drug money......

Leo Moon: 😆 ....you've moved on.

Gem Moon: I have indeed.

Yeah, this is why I just can't with fixed moons. Lol.
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Mutable vs Fixed Moons

Gem Moon: so Patrick Brown resigned yesterday

Leo Moon: Oh yeah?! I was going to vote for him.

Gem Moon: 😐 Yeah, I'm sorry we can't be friends anymore.

Leo Moon: Yeah, most of my friends say that....

*proceed to have a discussion about party platforms and tax policy*

Gem Moon: I completely understand, my only point is the money has to come from somewhere. I believe.....

Leo Moon: I don't see where you're coming from. I don't see how.....

Gem Moon: *listens....* Yup, like I said I get where you're saying and I don't disagree. Perhaps you could stretch your mind a bit. My point was....

Leo Moon: *starts looking up tax laws in different countries*

Gem Moon: *Okay, you're not listening. You just want to make your point. Mentally moves on....*

Leo Moon: *proceeds to prove point*

Gem Moon: Um hmmm.....*driving, thinking about work that has to be accomplished today*

*20 minutes pass*

Leo Moon: *continues to look up taxes in different countries* Columbia is 73% . Could you imagine if you had to give over 73% of your earnings?

Gem Moon: I'd probably just buy the government off with my drug money......

Leo Moon: 😆 ....you've moved on.

Gem Moon: I have indeed.

Yeah, this is why I just can't with fixed moons. Lol.
This is why I love / hate Twin Lunars. 😆
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PhoenixRising
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It wasn't really the lack of having an open mind vs the lack of willingness to even listen to my point as he was more focused on proving his. I mean he was looking up stuff to prove his point before I could get 5 words out of my mouth.

He was free to have his opinion and even stand firmly behind it. I actually dig that. "Shutting down" a conversation (passively or otherwise) because you've already made up your mind....

Leaves me mentally limp d*cked when people do that.