People scared of me

I get this a lot really... and it's quite annoying, because it makes me scared or nervous aswell

But people always say ''you are just so scary, and pretty blabla, that I can't talk to you"
and they all like ''watch me from afar'', and admitted later that they did that, and was like secretly thinking about me all along, and hoped to see me again, while they all acted like they didn't care when I first was around.

So, how do I kinda... get people not to be so afraid? It makes me feel really weird... bleh

Posted by uhyggeligkjeller
I get this a lot really... and it's quite annoying, because it makes me scared or nervous aswell

But people always say ''you are just so scary, and pretty blabla, that I can't talk to you"
and they all like ''watch me from afar'', and admitted later that they did that, and was like secretly thinking about me all along, and hoped to see me again, while they all acted like they didn't care when I first was around.

So, how do I kinda... get people not to be so afraid? It makes me feel really weird... bleh

Don't complicate things they are just joking 😛

Posted by Mscorp
Why not anyone scared of me 😢.

Maybe they are? x) You just don't know yet.

Smile more

Posted by Nemesis
how do you pronounce your name? maybe it sounds scary...

😛

Posted by Nemesis
how do you pronounce your name? maybe it sounds scary...

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hahahahahah

Posted by Rabbit
Stop eating babies.

Problem solved.

This is good advice. Or you could start hanging around with other baby eaters. It's all about finding people that share your interests really.

This is actually exactly how I felt about a Scorp girl at work. I could see she was nice/sweet to others when they got to know her, was thinking about her all the time wanting to know her, and could even see that she tried to drop her defenses a bit, and definitely was interested in getting to know me. But for some reason, I was still terrified of her. I have never felt that way around another woman and it made me feel really weak and pathetic, so I wound up just really trying to avoid her most of the time.

I've heard that a lot of Scorps get told this often - that they are intimidating. I actually spoke to another girl who worked with her one time and she said the same thing - that she was terrified of her at first, but then got to know her and she turned out to be really sweet, etc.

Maybe its a very strong defensive wall that you put up, not wanting to be vulnerable to people you don't trust, maybe its just an energy some Scorps give off unknowingly, maybe you are just really hot and it makes people incredibly anxious. I have no idea at this point why I reacted that way, but I am still shocked at how unique and physically disorienting it was.

Jeller,

lol. yes people a little bit scared of me as well... this is because we have this strong mystery that
manifest in our face. Not friendly face. Serious and too quiet. lmao. My Bf when I just looked at him when I got mad even If I didn't say anything.. He got nervous.

Been working in company before majority are male employees, when I arrived at work they whispered each other saying give space for her and don't act stupid... that lady is not used to, for BS. lol.

Yes, I think so

I remember when I worked a place with a lot of people, there was me (a girl) and this other scorpio (guy) working there, and I was just in 'awe' the whole time of him, he was just perfectness walking around, and no one but me seemed to care or tell or appreciate. It was like looking at myself, and everyone else were just trolls.

Everytime he'd look at me he shoot like ''heroin'' out of his eyes, making me feel awesome x) It's really hard to explain, but he was just so cool... After he'd look at me I sometimes could forget what I was talking with customers about.
I really miss the time I'd get to spend with him, and I still hope that one day we'll meet again...
Maybe like, people think that about me too, like if I look like that dude in behaviour (because we were very similar), nobody disturbs me either, cause no one would talk to him either, because he almost never said anything.

This is literally me EVERYWHERE. And it's so frustrating because it's really hard to make friends and get close to people. I have to approach them myself.
Sometimes I will put up this to keep people away and sometimes it's an unconscious thing.

I remember recently I'm in a bar with some friends, I sat and suddenly I'm aware that all orbit around me like a planet with its own gravity, two or three men who always always are looking me are watching the scene supported a column, they realize what is happening and I realize that them realize, before one of them came to give me his phone for take a picture with my friends but he just looks at me. Do not want me for a photo ? Well, maybe ever watched my back or run away when pictures time start, all wanting to steal your soul obsessed with the fucking pictures.

I felt like a midwife or a queen with their lackeys so uncomfortable that I retired. Fear, the story of my life, I guess it is this scorpio??s caste system they say, if you can came if you can't not interest me. Sometimes if I approach some of these people who get nervous if they are moving together, headers stick, trembles his voice...at least win fun. I think basically everything Scorpio find a macabre delight in this.

That day I found especially pathetic for my friends, I discovered the scene and as was observed by others, usually is more subtle or maybe I'm not as aware. I felt bad as if my friends were my troupe and is not, I do nothing only they orbit. Is not my ego (TLS) should ever record for posterity, when i??ll old feeding my cat's troupe, hahaha.

Posted by TaurusLovesScorpio
This is actually exactly how I felt about a Scorp girl at work. I could see she was nice/sweet to others when they got to know her, was thinking about her all the time wanting to know her, and could even see that she tried to drop her defenses a bit, and definitely was interested in getting to know me. But for some reason, I was still terrified of her. I have never felt that way around another woman and it made me feel really weak and pathetic, so I wound up just really trying to avoid her most of the time.

I've heard that a lot of Scorps get told this often - that they are intimidating. I actually spoke to another girl who worked with her one time and she said the same thing - that she was terrified of her at first, but then got to know her and she turned out to be really sweet, etc.

Maybe its a very strong defensive wall that you put up, not wanting to be vulnerable to people you don't trust, maybe its just an energy some Scorps give off unknowingly, maybe you are just really hot and it makes people incredibly anxious. I have no idea at this point why I reacted that way, but I am still shocked at how unique and physically disorienting it was.

I do not know but in my case with all the Scorpio's in my chart I can feel the heat physically, see to typical heat-waves in air many times, it's like a fire causes an ice shelf or something. Maybe I'm not a planet I'm the fucking Antarctica.

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Posted by Impulsv
I'm not very approachable. I suspect it's my cap rising though

I have the same issue...cap rising as well.

I feel I have to work n be extra nice to make them feel comfortable. Women specially lol

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I have no problems dealing with them but striving also by lowering the level and I have good friends in all age ranges but the majority (and I hate to say this but it's true) are so boring and stupid disney-princesses that do not interest me at all, I prefer to boot molars without anesthesia to participate in its "egregoro-troupe", I guess them smell this, bitches.
Men are not much better but at least you can talk more freely and naturally without being judged, are usually more fun.

Posted by TeaMint


I do not know but in my case with all the Scorpio's in my chart I can feel the heat physically, see to typical heat-waves in air many times, it's like a fire causes an ice shelf or something. Maybe I'm not a planet I'm the fucking Antarctica.

Well, as much as people may be drawn to you, when they see how huge your ego is, it will repel them.

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Posted by Rabbit

Posted by Impulsv
I'm not very approachable. I suspect it's my cap rising though

I have the same issue...cap rising as well.

I feel I have to work n be extra nice to make them feel comfortable. Women specially lol

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Have cap rising also. Been told I come off as serious, intimidating, disinterested/aloof....Really, I'm just not all that comfortable in crowds and trying to control my body so I don't convey that.

Posted by uhyggeligkjeller
"you are just so scary, and pretty blabla, that I can't talk to you"

and they all like ''watch me from afar'',

and admitted later that they did that, and was like secretly thinking about me all along, and hoped to

see me again...

Posted by TaurusLovesScorpio

Posted by TeaMint


I do not know but in my case with all the Scorpio's in my chart I can feel the heat physically, see to typical heat-waves in air many times, it's like a fire causes an ice shelf or something. Maybe I'm not a planet I'm the fucking Antarctica.

Well, as much as people may be drawn to you, when they see how huge your ego is, it will repel them.

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No shit.

+1

Again I say the truth and someone confused with ego ... We have to match us down and drool, yeah, yeah, hee hee hee. World First, stop the presses!

Then I break the rules of social etiquette because I give a shit, if I wanted to be a politician I would go fucking Congress, dammit.

So I just started college this week. Already I get these weird looks... I just don't know how to interpret them. I tried to be extra friendly towards the people that made conversation with me out of nowhere but they do not look me in the eye when I talk and it pisses me off. But I am really trying hard.
My mother told me I look like I am going to yell at someone, or punch somebody, and asked if I was angry... I said, "No, it's just my face."

The OP

^ Pretending to seek advice, secretly hoping everyone will internally "ooh and ahh" about how heartstoppingly stunning she must be! ^

My sister always comment my "scary" stare specially when i'm concentrating on something or looking directly into her eyes.. She even decided to take a picture of me while i was focused on a tv documentary to show me that she's not exagerating. And yes, she was right, i was scary lol

Anyway, you shouldn't be affected by that. I think it could be a good filter to keep away from you weak people who don't even dare to know you deeply.

Posted by TaurusLovesScorpio
This is actually exactly how I felt about a Scorp girl at work. I could see she was nice/sweet to others when they got to know her, was thinking about her all the time wanting to know her, and could even see that she tried to drop her defenses a bit, and definitely was interested in getting to know me. But for some reason, I was still terrified of her. I have never felt that way around another woman and it made me feel really weak and pathetic, so I wound up just really trying to avoid her most of the time.

I've heard that a lot of Scorps get told this often - that they are intimidating. I actually spoke to another girl who worked with her one time and she said the same thing - that she was terrified of her at first, but then got to know her and she turned out to be really sweet, etc.

Maybe its a very strong defensive wall that you put up, not wanting to be vulnerable to people you don't trust, maybe its just an energy some Scorps give off unknowingly, maybe you are just really hot and it makes people incredibly anxious. I have no idea at this point why I reacted that way, but I am still shocked at how unique and physically disorienting it was.

I can always remember your story whith that scorp girl at work. It was perfectly matching with my story with a taurus man. Any news about this from your side? For me, almost one year and i can't really get over this.

(cont.)

So, yeah, I basically can't drink or the emotions overwhelm me, still have vivid dreams of her, and I occasionally find myself hit with a wave of love, acting insane - talking to her in my head telling her I love her. I have struggled MAJORLY with old addictions to cope. I now refuse to destroy myself over it though and that style of coping is stopping slowly but surely. The last time I checked her FB, I had a really positive experience. I saw her doing WELL and not self-destructing - she was happy with family, making jokes, in a positive place. I felt HAPPY for her, and almost healed myself in some way. When I felt she was self-destructing I felt responsible in a way and just really sad for her. That's huge bc this obsessive crush brought out a really childish and spiritually/emotionally immature side to me that I didn't even know existed, where in all the game-playing, it used to hurt to see her doing well.

So I've mainly learned that I'm a crazy, seriously capable of obsession, etc. Right now I think I'm in a good spot though. I *think* I've figured out a trick. I've given up the attempt to evict her from my mind/heart. She's not going anywhere. She can stay as long as she likes. I don't need to feel guilty for loving a person, and for *me* it wasn't about a bunch of sexual stuff anyway, but about feeling like I actually loved this person's soul. I know somehow that I'm going to see this person again, eventually, this life or the next. And you just don't have to *act* on desires or longings for people. When I was a child, before puberty, I would have a deep crush, and never act on it. A beautiful young girl might occupy my thoughts for years. I could tap into those thoughts and just enjoy the fantasies of connecting, playing the same scenarios over and over, varying them, and it was totally a positive experience. I can do that now in just the same way. The more I accept and practice that, the less I obsess. Try it.

part 1, which didn't post, was...

No, I am not over it either. Not even close. I'm doing better in that I'm not coming home overwhelmed by the energy drain from sitting around her, not obsessing to the point of being incapable of concentrating or being present with my SO or daughter, etc. Long story short, she got a promotion, and she moved floors at my job. She didn't show up for weeks, back near my desk. I was SURE she would pop back up even after she left, hover a bit, maintain some connection, etc. 2 weeks go by, so my ego is hurt bad during the 2nd, I figure she is over it and I try to force myself to move on. By end of week 2, I felt really strong. Then she pops up, hawking me once again. Apparently she had been on vacay. I'm still upset like a child and I pretend not to see her.

THEN (this is insane), they move my division, and I'm sitting next to her on a totally different floor of my building by that next Monday. Right next to her again! First day, I run into her multiple times, ignore her each time. I'm still hurt, and just stuck in this mode of "I'm trying to get over this person completely now. No contact." Second day, she walks into the caf when I'm in there. She literally followed me. I went to leave, she'd go to leave, so I'd walk back IN and grab an OJ (which I didn't need), just to get away, then she'd follow me back in. It ended up with her right in back of me in line, at checkout, me completely ignoring. That was it...I felt good, strong, doing the right thing. Totally regretted it 3 days later. That was the last straw for her and she has stonewalled me since (months). She got a boob job, posts pics of her partying all over her FB, and works from home 99% of the time. I try not to stalk her FB but cave every few weeks and spend the next day depressed.

Tls, why not just talk to her? 😢
I'm sorry you are going through such a tough time....

Posted by Infinite8
TLS... wow, the saga continues. Nice to get an update 🙂 Tell me, if you have never spoken to her, how did you manage to get her birthchart and facebook profile (are you FB friends?)? So curious...

I had an odd occurrence last month too. Didn't think much of it, but starting to think twice about it. It so happens that my friend (cousin of my so-called TF Taurus) sent me a private message on facebook without be-befriending me first. I was so happy to hear from her, but her main concern with the message was to know if I was married or single. I told her and sent her a friend request. She never accepted, never responded back but read the message. All she wanted from me was to know if I were married. Dare I think it had anything to do with him?!?! I don't know, but I do know they are inseparable.

Well, her FB is all public, but it actually doesn't have her birth info. This is what actually got me back into Astrology. I hadn't read Astro books since college, but here I am having this insane connection with this person, and I had heard about the Scorpio staring thing so that was probably my first clue. I just went to the bookstore and started reading on Sun Sign characteristics, and Taurus compatibility with the other signs. As soon as I read the first entry on Scorpio and Taurus/Scorpio, I knew 100% she was a Scorpio, and I was blown away by how much of her behavior and the magnetism I was feeling, was explained. To this day, I think that is one of the things that impressed me the most. I had no evidence other than her behavior, yet I was completely sure, for 8 months she was a Scorp. Psycho that I am, I bought a scorpion paperweight and put it on my desk like a piece of stationery Voodoo. I got confirmation in Nov when I checked her FB and she had a ton of posts on/about her b-day.

LOL @ your TF putting the feelers out...Your Leo Moon knows its true, even if it isn't! hahahahahha....

Posted by heartlocket
Tls, why not just talk to her? 😢
I'm sorry you are going through such a tough time....

There's no chance any longer, really. Its not that bad; I've just learned to live with it. I'm curious to see if it will just go on forever. I will try to be kind if I see her ever again, but all I see now is the back of her head when she's in the office for a couple of hours a week. She's on her way to a meeting and she apparently only comes in for that. I don't work with her, have no biz talking to her, she probably hates me, etc. She lives in my same town, goes to my same gym, and works in the same building at the same co., yet I don't see her at all now.

Before I couldn't get away from her. The superstitious side of me tells me that there was such a strong mutual desire on both our parts that kept us connecting in the oddest most synchronized ways before, and that no longer occurs bc is dead at least for one of us. If it was meant to be, it would've happened. Its better this way, as there's no longer any guilt or inner conflict on my part. I'm sure she will find someone more suited to her. Obviously, fear got the best of me in this, and she can't respect that, and fear gets the best of me a lot in life. I always felt she was out of my league and I still feel that, and I'm ok with that. That's a reality sometimes. I know she will find someone super confident, strong, etc.

Posted by Infinite8

hahahaha... never can trust that silly Leo moon!! Ok, that's all I needed to hear to put me back in check 😉 It was most likely NOTHING. Hahahahaha

LOL, I don't know. I would definitely interpret that as an attempt on his part. Just because we're fated to think everyone loves us, doesn't mean they don't. hahahaha....

LOL! You love it. Sorry, didn't mean to let the cat out of its cage. Its funny though....I do definitely try to hide the Moon, but there are also people in my life that *only* see that (namely those that I think can actually tolerate it)....poor folks...

@TLS : wow all this pain and you never wanted to give her a chance to be in your life? "Stonewalling" you may be good for you to turn definetly this page. I'm afraid that your avoidance behavior was the irreversible point to her and that she's in the rising process now. Anyway, all this is good for your girlfriend. If my memory is good, satying loyal to your gf was always your aim goal.
Of course sometimes i feel myself talking to him. But this never helps me to get over this. In fact, i don't want to forget him because he is such a beautiful sad memory. I'm now starting to think about a scorp guy, I'm not sure if i would tell him about this story if he never asks me.
Another thing, happy pics or jokes are not relevant at all. I'm not into social networks but i made a lot of happy pics all this year and no one can think how deeply sad i feel when thinking about him.

OMG I can't believe that i will never see him again in this life 😢

@TLS : wow all this pain and you never wanted to give her a chance to be in your life?

>>>I did. We both had our chances and both got very close, but were either too proud, or too scared to actually touch.

"Stonewalling" you may be good for you to turn definetly this page.

>>>I agree. And I did it first. She needed it as well.

I'm afraid that your avoidance behavior was the irreversible point to her and that she's in the rising process now. Anyway, all this is good for your girlfriend. If my memory is good, satying loyal to your gf was always your aim goal.

>>>Yes, to all of this. Her being a triple Scorp (w/Venus in Scorp), I doubt it would have ever been cool to connect with me and have me stay with my SO. And I just wouldn't ever leave my SO. Bad timing.

Of course sometimes i feel myself talking to him. But this never helps me to get over this. In fact, i don't want to forget him because he is such a beautiful sad memory.

>>>>It used to only hurt me to remember also. But lately I've just been able to savor it in a totally positive way. I really do believe you can keep someone in your heart, w/o having to possess them physically now.

Another thing, happy pics or jokes are not relevant at all. I'm not into social networks but i made a lot of happy pics all this year and no one can think how deeply sad i feel when thinking about him.

>>>>I hear ya. I do think there's an element of portraying happiness. But some of the recent stuff, and the communication, seems genuine.

OMG I can't believe that i will never see him again in this life

>>>>See if talking to the Scorp helps a bit. I know my Scorp crushes ex was a Scorp, and this was apparently a very significant relationship for her.

I agree, I get told this a lot too.. I'm not a scary person but I get told I'm not approachable which is weird.. I'm usually just doing my own thing or in my own bubble which might be one of the reasons lol..

awww. TLS.. nice story.

Posted by starlover
TLS sounds like a mighty strong karmic r.ship there....did you ever think of doing some work around severing the ties which could go back to many lifetimes...i am coming out of a similar thing...haven't seen the guy now for over a year...we were kind of obsessed with each other..not healthy. I am now feeling so much happier and free and don't intend to bring him back into my life

I was with a shaman healer, also some of my friends are therapists so i got to learn the same story from all of them. Past life ties are extremely difficult to deal with but with the right help,can be dissolved which gives both people more freedom and a healthier life


x*x

Interesting you say this. I was told by a psychic I had also felt the same way I do now in a past life; stuck with sadness and melancholy with love. She even thought I was a famous romantic poet who killed herself from sadness. I have to say she likely correct as I have felt a similar feeling and I tend to write poetry when I am feeling depressed. Of course there is no proof here but still, I am a believer in past lives. I'm always wondering how we would know if we dealt with the same person in a past life that we are dealing with now.

Thanks, Starlover... I've always been interested in stuff like this.

Posted by Infinite8
Sorry... Got cut off.

If ever you decide to share your poetry, I'd love to read it!!

What a beautiful talent you have! Never give it up 🙂

Thanks! I tend to keep it to myself, but I don't mind sharing here, being anonymous and all... lol

starlover (sorry for the length),

I went to a Reiki healer to do the cord-cutting. Seemed to help, but it all came flooding back when our eyes would meet. I do agree on past lives. Firstly, I accept them based on what I've read/seen of the past life regression therapy, studies on children who have vivid memories of a prior life/death, and testimony from people who have had Near Death Experiences. I was actually heavily biased against reincarnation, but have changed my views. I think the evidence is strong.

Several things tell me its past-life related. 1. When we first locked eyes, the most powerful emotions hit me all at once; they were completely foreign, and the dominant impression was that this person is *mine* in some sense. I felt a HUGE saddening sense of loss that she was not with me, and ought to be. 2. The dreams are different than any other dreams. They are more than deja vu; they are like memories. One in particular had us at a banquet in in this huge castle-like mansion, several hundred yrs ago. Two family tables in the center and I had to choose which family (the Scorp's or my current Sag's) I would join with that night; this told both families which I'd marry. I KNEW the personality of every member of her family in the dream, what they thought of her, how badly they needed to keep her happy for their to be peace in the family, how her sister was advocating for me to marry her, how strained her relationship was with her dad (he had given up on her as he couldn't control her), how I was the only person that kept her calm, and mostly when our eyes met. Something about the link through our eyes allowed her to soften, and forgive - whatever the offense. I choose her in the dream and my Sag's family was so upset. 3. Every psychic I have called has said its a past-life link and we were married. I suspect most psychics say this about any crush, and I think psychics can be very inaccurate (though they surely knew some things they shouldn't). BUT, like heartlocket, one could tell me what our lives were like, how I met her bc I was a painter and did work for her wealthy family. I thought that was interesting because I paint and draw now, have been really good since birth w/no formal training, and I literally go into depression when I cannot do this. It is the only thing that keeps me happy. 4. We have North Node conj. South Node, which is supposedly a major indicator of a karmic/past-life connection.

If it continues to haunt me, the next step is regression therapy. Past life issues seem to carry over and be embedded in the subconscious, so its probably most effective to be deal with at that level directly.

i8 - I had all her info but the birth time from online, so I did a noon chart, to get an average of where the planets would be on that day. I suspect that's what most of the Astrotheme profiles are based on.

I'm a Pisces/Aries cusp girl, but an astrologer told me I'm more scorpio than anything since I was born at less than 1 degree scorpio rising with pluto in scorpio in the 8th house. I get this intimidation shit a ton, but usually after people get close to me and find out I'm a ham.

Thing is, I think we tend to figure people out right away, and people don't like that. They think you're judging them or seeing all the things they, (as all us people ) work so hard to hide. I don't know about other scorps, but I don't use these powers for evil. I'm not judging anyone, but I do see you and know what you're all about pretty quickly, and even though I may not judge, comment, or even care... I am watching.

LMBO!...we totally are(——__??).