Question about scorpio's silance and darkness!!!??

Cheers to all who had a taste of a scorpio and is still not poisoned to death! man!! what a sign!

Ok, I have a question, but before i ask it, let me explain to u the scenario first so you can give me your insights.

First of all, im a gemini! yes! Not too promising with a scorpio i know, and knew it before i even got involved, didnt mind it and accepted it. But being the curious knowledge loving typical gemini i am, i have to know and understand WHY WHY WHY this or that happened, i cant help it, whether i care or not.

Ok, so i met this scorpio on my birthday party, a friend of mine invited him since he knew no one and was new to the country on vacation visiting family, i was busy celebrating and entertaining all my friends, but ofcourse, who misses the scorpio's killing deep intense look in their eyes?

He was leaving in 3 days, I had high self control, i already figured he was a scorpio, so i was very very careful, i know they manipulate situations to their advantage and would say and do whatever it takes to get what they want. But, being the adventurous curious gemini i am, i dated him twice b4 he left, it was sweat, good conversation, 'good communication', sexy talk, he wud ask me anything about me wanting to know every little detail, etc etc, we kissed a bit it was nice and sweat and caring and undemanding. He moves back to his country, we stay intouch every now and then, i go on with my life ofcourse, he is a very imp. political ambitious man, typical fixed determined passionate scorpio who devotes to his cause to an obsessive level... etc


Ok, so heres the story, I find out that I am going to Germany for a 2 week workshop, he tells me he wud fly to germany from swedan to come see me for a couple of days. I was hesitant a bit, first bcoz i fear his intensity and power, and 2nd bcoz i was kina seeing someone, and i know if i meet him in germany and spend two days together, he will be in total control. Anyways, weeks passed b4 i even went to germany, i stopped seeing the guy i was seeing for diff. reasons, and i was off to go to germany. I was so excited to see him that i even forgot that the main reason i was going to germany was the workshop. I buy expensive dresses and etc etc, buy him a gift, and i cant stop thinking about the weekend wel spend together. For once in my life, i learn to appreciate the fact that life is not counted by the breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.

(continued...) I dont usually have romantic relationships if i know they will be short term. I know thats hard to believe since im a typical gemini, but its true, i like steady and serious. But this scorpio makes me wana appreciate today, and not even wish for a tomorrow.

I arrive in germany, i let him know as we agreed, he was busy travelling the world as usual, we email and text each other for days back and forth, he says he is busy he has a lot of work to catch up with since he is travelling and lotta work is waiting for him in swedan upon his return... etc.

I nagged, in my own way, telling him how bad i wanted to see him, etc, until he tells me he is coming. So heres the the thing, what was supposed to be one f the most spontaneous romantic expensive adventurous weekends ever, turned out to be totally the opposite!!

He hated the fact that he left work to come see me, he hated the fact that he lied to his boss saying he is sick, just to come see a girl!! He was silent, mean, selfish, insensitive, the most bastard being ever. Nothing like the person i have met back in my country.

He never admiited this ofcourse, but i knew it, i think his indifferent harsh dry treatment was part of his 'punishment' to me, because 'i' was the reason he was there feeling bad and disappointed of himself. feeling this way means it made him feel week and inferior to me, thus comes the indifferent selfish boring treatment. we did only what he wanted, he hardly talked at all, we had horrible horrible sex he wud cum fast and get off and not even look at me, walk shamelessly naked around the room.

Now i know scorpio is calm from the outside but raging from the inside, maybe sensitive and is hurting bcoz he is acting this way. I, being the gemini i am, i adapted ad was mutable, i didnt critisize nor object, i was caring and sacrificing and loving. I even made approached him and gave him a 2 hour massage with my hands and mouth, i drove him nuts, what does he do? He gets up suddenly and F****s me in the back in one fast thurst, hurting me like hell and making me scream my lungs out. What do i do? i say its ok and try to make the best of the rest of that dam weekend. Adjusting and understanding.


I dont know what my question is anymore, i talked too much already, i cudve elaborated more, but i dont wana make this boring to any of u, ur comments r welcome peeps 🙂🙂

Oh this isnt boring.. please continue.. LMAO

Yeah, he sounds insane but sounds like a scorpio. They can be very harsh in bed and out the key is push it right back at them. Who cares what they do? Thats what the police are for. Anyway the ones you should really be afraid of are caps.

Thank you guys for your comments, i dont know who said that gemini's would rather just blab what happened than get any feedback/advise, its somehow true lol, but that doesnt mean i dont wana hear some feedback, we are all about conversation and mental stimulation and curiosity, so hell ya i read and was interested in what everyone said.

Scorpio_Nympho and ariessun i dont agree with you, i am not worrying about not hearing back from him (which I have, i dont recall saying that i havent) or what wrong i did to turn him off. This is not the case at all, my post was about how mind blowed i am by the fact that he chose to spend a less fun weekend, a weekend HE SUGGESTED NOT I, just because he was feeling bad about himself lying to his boss calling sick?!? What also blew my mind away is that i believe his attitude was as a punishment to ME, i didnt deserve an arm around my waist or shoulder while wer in bed sleeping or watching TV or whatever, everything is about him, what he wants, what he wants to do, him him him, even tho this wasnt the case when we met. It was all selfish, whether that ass raping brutal behavior he has done, or every other behavior in that weekend, it all falls under the same topic, he was selfish! And no, he didnt use any lub, it happened so fast, no fingers, nothing.

Believe it or not guys, but i am OK in general with what happens generally in my life, AS LONG AS I UNDERSTAND WHAT AND WHY IT HAPPENED. So when i was with him, i cud read him, i understood, so i adapted and accepted and stayed the person i am, u know what? I even felt sorry for him, for having all that depth of secrets and self control and hate, which was why i accepetd and adapted, which prob sounds crazy to many of u.

Someone also said that this post makes scorpios sound bad in sex, when theyre known that theyre the best. I agree with the latter, i could tell he is so dam good, his kisses and the touch of his hand, but, like i said, i hardly received any.

Any scorio men in the house? what do u think?

i adjusted because in every relationship, one party had to adapt, and sometimes it has to be me. Plus, dont forget, its only a weekend, its not like im planning to be with him or want to be with him. I knew from day one he is not for me, but i know our mental and physical connection was worth to go see him and meet him in this weekend. If he is going to be an ass? Il adapt and be a sweetheart and make him feel even worse about himself! 😉

lol OMG? Why? elaborate?

Hahaha! This was hilarious!!

sorry that ass part took u by surprise, didnt mean to throw it out there like that but thats exactly how it happened. Hetook me by surprise as well. You're with me in hamburg in a beautiful hotel and room, a weekend we have been arranging for weeks and weeks, we talk about all the places we wana go and see, and what do i get? A lazy selfish nagy whining bastard. And above all that, im amazing to him and i dont nag or complain and i just go along. He doesnt come near me after the first quick sex we had, (correction: 'HE' had), and what do i do? I approach him the next day and massage him while hes working on his laptop, later he cudnt take it anymore he lied down on his tummy on the bed and allowed himself to surrender to me and allow closeness (for his sake i know..), and after a two hour massage, u jump me and hurt me? Its just sickening, not just the act itself, but the fact that it happened after iv been treating him like heaven like he deserved it, after treating him like my all when hes been acting like a prick. THATS whats mind blowing.

BTW, i didnt tell u what happened after that. I almost passed out from the pain, he apologized like a zillion times, but never explained himself, and never came near me that last night, since what happened happened during noon.

Sad to hear about this.
Question to Scorps, what do you expect from someone when you treat them tat way or "punish" them. Is it the power. Are you expecting the perso to stand up to you ... or are you doing it so they will leave you?
What is the motivation behind the dark behavior?

good question babykay, maybe thats what i was really trying to ask/know!!

Posted by leelaa
good question babykay, maybe thats what i was really trying to ask/know!!

My pleasure leelaa. My sensitive Pisces intuition sensed that. 🙂🙂
Plus I wanna know too. 😉 I have dealt with similar tuff behavior from Scopios... very curious.

hmm Pisces! Great match for a scorpio, you know how to adapt with them, plus, pisces unfortunately have low slef esteem and self worth, they are incredibly smart but for some reason, they lack confidence! It always surprised me! Since most of my friends are pisces and incredibly intelligent and charming! A scorpio likes this fact about the pisces, she will always feel inferior to him. Scorpios are exhaustinggggggg! But definitely worth to have atleast once in our lives! lol

Aries is pisces 2nd best match right?

http://songsdomain.tripod.com/scorpioshadow1/page1.html<BR>

Read this. It describes the Scorpio shadow well.

thanks Ginger! il check it out!

Whoops that one doesn't work. Try this one...

http://songsdomain.tripod.com/scorpioshadow1/index.html

wowow Gingerscorp that is insane reading!

"And here is one of Scorpio's greatest blind spots. He can be downright fanatical in his views about people and life. And this fanaticism can, in the wrong place and at the wrong time, spur him into some pretty unpleasant actions based on biased or distorted judgment. "

"It isn't the vindictiveness in these classical situations that is really the problem. Although we're taught that it's un-Christian, a little honest revenge is often healthier than the outward show of acquiescence and the inner, repressed anger that spews out through indirect channels that so many of us call being 'good'. Besides, sometimes it does a world of good for someone to get back what he's just dished out; it might stop him from doing it again. What's really wrong here is that Scorpio never gives the other person the benefit of the doubt. The opinion is already formed, prepackaged like frozen vegetables, ready to be trotted out and tacked onto the offender regardless of whether it's true or not, and without knowing the facts of the situation. Water signs are uncomfortable with facts. Facts confuse the issue, which for water is primarily how it feels, not what really happened. Scorpio's shadow side completely ignores the other person's viewpoint."

OMG so scary and so true.

So is there a way to appeal to his emotions rather than to his mind to help him feel what we on the other end feel? Can we appease the scorp with emotion—
Obviously Gemini ur an air sign... u can try to talk and reason.. but that wouldnt work on such a man right?

lol its accurate reading indeed!

True geminies talk and reason can help a bit, but the problem is that scorpios are very intense and FIXED DETERMINED people, its very hard to break thru them, lke the reading said, if they formed an opinion about something or something, there is no turning back. The worse part is, if u try to talk reason with them, they wont show u any signs of approval or disagreement, so u dont know how to 'continue' the argument, since theyre very secretive and hardly 'talk' or 'commute'!

Truth harsh and brutal is what appeases a Scorpio. That is what they are looking for all the time. We want to know the good the bad and the ugly.
Personally I can put myself in others shoes and know what they are feeling. Sometimes it makes me feel bad but even that doesn't mean I'll budge. I have to CARE about what they are going through. If I don't I shrug it off.

Also remember that we can be very black and white. Once we decide on something we rarely go back on our word... to the point of being extream about it. Nothing.........nothing will make us change our mind.

That site is very good at describing Scorpio. If you have the time give the whole thing a read through.

Thank you ginger. What about what babykay asked tho? The way that scorpio was when we met for that weekend? What was the behaviour he wud like to receive in return? Me to adapt or to stand up to him and criticize his coldness and silence?

Personally, I decided to just adapt, whats the point to complain and nag? As long as i cud read him and understand and sympathize with him, knowing he feels bad he left work and lied to his boss for me, i felt sorry for him and accepeted things as they are.

But i have a question!! Since scorpios r very sexual, and i knowwwwwwwww he wanted me, why was he so distant sexually? Cant a scorpio approach a woman when he is feeling pretty bad? He wudnt say no when i approached him, i already explained how it happened in my earlier posts, but my question is, why not even an arm around me b4 going to bed, or while im sleeping on his shoulder while watching TV?!

sorry of this sounds silly 😛

I'm gonna be honest but that guy just sounded like a straight up asshole trying to get laid. Hence his cold treatment.
I will say though that had you stood up to him and TOLD him that he was an asshole you would have grabbed his attention alittle more.

But other then that he was just someone you really shouldn't ever speak to again. He sounds like an arrogant sadistic prick. Nobody deserves that treatment.

You didn't force him to do anything and he placed the blame on you. He's the type that nothing is EVER his fault. Nah... you don't want that type.

NIB are you saying your kinda like a Scorp? 😉 LOL

I knew you'd LOVE hearing that. 😛

NOrmalisboring, i thought it was wierd as well, ur right we both flew to meet each other, later realized fantasy and romantic planning cannot always be reality and as successful as we imagined they would be. Timing matters, and the timing was wrong for him, thus the consequences 😢

Im confused! How is his treatment and attitude show that he wanted to get laid!!? I dont get it?!?!

I did tell him on the first day that hes been acting selfish and hes not fun to be with, he was hurt. I told him that hes here now and we might as well just try to make the best of it. He said he is trying his best, and hes sorry if this isnt enough. While we said our goodbyes 2 days later, he said thank u for being wonderful and making 'me' feel comfortable, any other woman would've freaked out. And thats true!