Scorpio man:Hot & Cold Behaviour...?

What does it mean?Sometimes he shows alot of interest ,want to know all about me,never revealing his plan for future...but want to know each detail about me...and sometime showing very normal interest in me...
These days when i decided to not to reveal much to him...because i dnt know what he feels & what are his plan..what he wants from me...instead of being curious all the time...i opt to be calm..
Now again he is chasing me...
can anyone tell what kind of behavior is it...?

Posted by ladyluck
can anyone tell what kind of behavior is it...?

Welcome to Scorpio 1.01.

*laughs maniacally*

but yeah, I'm with Arielle on this.

Posted by ladyluck
These days when i decided to not to reveal much to him...because i dnt know what he feels & what are his plan..what he wants from me...can anyone tell what kind of behavior is it...?

Funny story about trust..one of the Scorpio close female friends I have.

I trust her off the bat and she seemed to trust me too. Got super super close. One year after we were talking and she goes "I actually started trusting you for real..one month ago?"

"Wut?"
"Yeah. Well tbh I did trust you but not 100% "
"I thought you trusted me!"
"Well I mirrored you so since you were so open and trustworthy, you got that in return"

Still amazed she could verbalize all that 😐

Posted by Arielle83
You aren't being consistent either if your holding back sometimes. Perhaps he's doing the same for the same reason.

Hi...I reveal him my plans...but he did'nt....I m consistent from a long time but seeing his response....he confuses me....in starting he showed his honest commitment....but now i don't know what are his plan...i m not sure if even i reveal him everything ...he 'll tell me what's in this mind....though i asked several times...but this time i told i reacted in a calm way...what can i do if someone do not want to tell..

Posted by GetMisted
What Arielle and LIB said.

He's mirroring you. On one hand, this is good because it shows a genuine interest in you. On the other hand, it's never going to change unless you become more consistent.

What are options to make him reveal...I dnt want him to take due advantage of my plan...

Posted by Damnata
I trusted her off the bat*

damnata....yeah dat is what we both have the issues...."Trust"
we both are sincere but will take more time ....may be we both have trust issues...

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Posted by TwirlingStrawberry
why don't people get this?

it's so easy!

#1 thing with Scorps:

I don't trust you until you trust me.

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Trust is always earned....applicaple to everyone...but i tried a lot for it....by sharing lots of personal experiences & all...i think distance could be one of the issue between us...plus i will feel bad if i will be rejected by him....i dnt know how to start with...when i give my frank honest opinion i get only 1 reply from him...

"🙂"
nothing more than that...how could i know what actually he is thinking & planning if he keeps on giving me this kind of replies....

too much revealing of my plans is not good because he tries to avoid my questions...but want to knw everything about me...

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Posted by TwirlingStrawberry
why don't people get this?

it's so easy!

#1 thing with Scorps:

I don't trust you until you trust me.

Trust is always earned....applicaple to everyone...but i tried a lot for it....by sharing lots of personal experiences & all...i think distance could be one of the issue between us...plus i will feel bad if i will be rejected by him....i dnt know how to start with...when i give my frank honest opinion i get only 1 reply from him...

"🙂"
nothing more than that...how could i know what actually he is thinking & planning if he keeps on giving me this kind of replies....

too much revealing of my plans is not good because he tries to avoid my questions...but want to knw everything about me...

As I read this, my mind automatically went to the Scorp thinking you might have revealed/offered up too much.

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See...we met...and the connection was instant...though we both are looking for long term & Stable relationship.....Not revealed all....but yes to the extent i feel that he should know & same is the case with him...but he is too much secretive..there is always air of mystery even if he reveal something....lol

Posted by Rabbit
As I read this, my mind automatically went to the Scorp thinking you might have revealed/offered up too much.

So now being honest and opening up is bad?

Damned if you do, damned if you don't.

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As I read this, my mind automatically went to the Scorp thinking you might have revealed/offered up too much.

So now being honest and opening up is bad?

Damned if you do, damned if you don't.

Depends on what was being revealed...

Would you want to hear about someone's yeast infection, for example?

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It just stands to reason that the Scorpio won't open up first so it falls on the other party to do that. But apparently that isn't good either.

It really sounded funny in my mind.

And I have no problems with yeast infections. I will add that on your bias list next to your severe yetiphobia.

Posted by Rabbit
Responding back with a smiley (to me) means:

1) It's an awkward topic

2) He's busy

3) He doesn't care


I was trying to stay positive :/

Now this I get.

And lol @ staying positive.

I have a weird relationship with that smiley. I usually get it from Taurus peeps and I always interpret it as "bla bla bla..I don't care what you just said/typed. la la la "

lol

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Posted by GetMisted
What Arielle and LIB said.

He's mirroring you. On one hand, this is good because it shows a genuine interest in you. On the other hand, it's never going to change unless you become more consistent.

What are options to make him reveal...I dnt want him to take due advantage of my plan...

What exactly.. Is your "plan"?

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See we both met & had a huge conversation about long term relation & stability...and i told that i m not seeing anyone else...same he said ...he is not seeing others...but then after he told that he will come to my place...& but then he changed....i dnt know the reason for his change...i told him that if he has no serious plan with me...my future plans are to move out of city & not with him in case he is not serious with it....since then we r going through this stupid game!!!....He wants to knows about my plan & i want to know about his...

I m not afraid of commitment even...but i need honest clarification...
And if you talk about rejection...
He told me that he showed his vulnerability but i always supported him....for all...in his bad time..& even then when he changed his plan of coming to my city

Posted by GetMisted
So let me get this straight.. You two haven't dated. Just had a really long conversation. And you're plan is to make a decision on where to live based on this?

your*

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Responding back with a smiley (to me) means:

1) It's an awkward topic

2) He's busy

3) He doesn't care


I was trying to stay positive :/

Now this I get.

And lol @ staying positive.

I have a weird relationship with that smiley. I usually get it from Taurus peeps and I always interpret it as "bla bla bla..I don't care what you just said/typed. la la la "

lol

Don't hate on me for trying to have a better outlook on things.

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See I was thinking about this. When you provide the worst scenario to someone, everything that remains out of that is..good and fluffy and pink.

So maybe it's better to think of the worst scenario in all cases because you'll be pleasantly surprised every time as opposed to horrified when things don't go your way.

It's pretty much why I respect bluntness.

We have dated...& met each other once...but due to his job in other place..we chated online...

Posted by Rabbit
i.e. give them enough to rope to hang themselves with.

this is not a libra mercury issue, it's a scorpio moon thing.

libra mercury will soften the blow. you avoid it all together be it out of kindness or because you don't give a fuck or because you won't enable people...you let them make their choices.

Posted by Rabbit
This makes me ponder how good/bad I would be as a hostage negotiator.

It would depend entirely on the people who are held as hostages IMO.

When I used to read your posts on your other account, it was all full scorp. Now you either mellowed out or playing the libra mercury.

mellowed out = couldn't be bothered anymore.

You know, I see people going round and round with Scorpios on the sex topics..but one thing I love in this sign is the capacity for analysis. Almost rivaling Virgos 😄.

So yeah, it would be interesting to see a Scorpio as a hostage negotiator.

Posted by Rabbit
I'm not smart enough to play up one placement alone. 😐

you CAN do it.

watch me with my aries moon lol.

i don't even seem like a virgo.

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What Arielle and LIB said.

He's mirroring you. On one hand, this is good because it shows a genuine interest in you. On the other hand, it's never going to change unless you become more consistent.

What are options to make him reveal...I dnt want him to take due advantage of my plan...

What exactly.. Is your "plan"?

See we both met & had a huge conversation about long term relation & stability...and i told that i m not seeing anyone else...same he said ...he is not seeing others...but then after he told that he will come to my place...& but then he changed....i dnt know the reason for his change...i told him that if he has no serious plan with me...my future plans are to move out of city & not with him in case he is not serious with it....since then we r going through this stupid game!!!....He wants to knows about my plan & i want to know about his...

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Maybe your plan is to different from his plan, and he doesn't see a point in trying very hard with you; only to see you leave the city and him in the future.

Posted by GetMisted
Seriously.. Can you two not derail the thread? Jeez

Sorry. It's the internet though?

Rabbit whenever we start talking it feels like you have a fire moon lol.

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What Arielle and LIB said.

He's mirroring you. On one hand, this is good because it shows a genuine interest in you. On the other hand, it's never going to change unless you become more consistent.

What are options to make him reveal...I dnt want him to take due advantage of my plan...

What exactly.. Is your "plan"?

See we both met & had a huge conversation about long term relation & stability...and i told that i m not seeing anyone else...same he said ...he is not seeing others...but then after he told that he will come to my place...& but then he changed....i dnt know the reason for his change...i told him that if he has no serious plan with me...my future plans are to move out of city & not with him in case he is not serious with it....since then we r going through this stupid game!!!....He wants to knows about my plan & i want to know about his...

Maybe your plan is to different from his plan, and he doesn't see a point in trying very hard with you; only to see you leave the city and him in the future.

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yes..there is the point here...I think instead of this hide & Seek game...We need to discuss...because he has something else ...."My point is simple...if he is not serious to take it further let me know...so that i can continue with my plan...or else i m there for him...

Geesh, so many good points here to comment on.
The mirroring... I tell you, I was open with my Scorp and did so because I knew one of us had to. Maybe that's why he was so open with me to start, yet he still withdrew and trying to get him to open up would be the same as if someone was trying to make me open up .... impossible when less evolved.
Fear of commitment, Fear of Love, Fear of being Loved, Fear of Abandonment etc.. I could go on but Fear is what ultimately holds us back. It's life, and a Journey for some and existence for others happy and content to stay right where they are.
Like Rabbit, I frequently prefer to allow those that need to come to terms with what they need to on their own time and in their own way. Those that hang themselves then have not inflicted further damage and those that don't have learned something very valuable about themselves.
Trust and Love to me, are given in "levels"... there are very few people I trust wholeheartedly and without hesitation and to get to that point takes some pretty major maneuverings. Lol

The distance do not matter if two people r real...He met my family last time on Skype...and our parents ...Means his & mine are known to each other....
But everything is about us....his plan & my plan...
These days when i have been less responsive...he is again back to me....
but things are not changing from past two three month as we both are very much stubborn..
dnt know what in his mind?

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Posted by Rabbit
As I read this, my mind automatically went to the Scorp thinking you might have revealed/offered up too much.

So now being honest and opening up is bad?

Damned if you do, damned if you don't.

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Yep. My theory now with dating? I will be me, you be you, and if we still like each other then lets do that. Like each other. Not play games.

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Posted by GetMisted
Seriously.. Can you two not derail the thread? Jeez

Sorry. It's the internet though?

Rabbit whenever we start talking it feels like you have a fire moon lol.

Doesn't mean you shouldn't be accountable for your actions. You of all people (fire moon) knows how hard it can be reading through crap.

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As I said, sorry. Stop summoning me!

I m very open & straight foward person...do you feel that if i reveal my plan...He will reveal his too...or this time also i get a
"🙂"
reply after revealing him & no result...do you think...if i ll be open & frank as usual...he will reveal whatever in his mind...?

Posted by ladyluck
The distance do not matter if two people r real...He met my family last time on Skype...and our parents ...Means his & mine are known to each other....
But everything is about us....his plan & my plan...
These days when i have been less responsive...he is again back to me....
but things are not changing from past two three month as we both are very much stubborn..
dnt know what in his mind?

I just want to ask this because no one did until now.

Is this a different culture? Like asian, indian etc?

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Posted by ladyluck
The distance do not matter if two people r real...He met my family last time on Skype...and our parents ...Means his & mine are known to each other....
But everything is about us....his plan & my plan...
These days when i have been less responsive...he is again back to me....
but things are not changing from past two three month as we both are very much stubborn..
dnt know what in his mind?

I just want to ask this because no one did until now.

Is this a different culture? Like asian, indian etc?

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Yes ,We both are Indians and from same culture

It's nice there are Virgos on this world. Now this topic absolutely makes sense.

Posted by ladyluck
I m very open & straight foward person...do you feel that if i reveal my plan...He will reveal his too...or this time also i get a
"🙂"
reply after revealing him & no result...do you think...if i ll be open & frank as usual...he will reveal whatever in his mind...?

In My Experience .... I knew I had to let him go several months before I actually succeeded. This was after realizing that he had changed and after I had attempted to allay his fears. The bummer of it really is that it becomes about ego. The beauty of the beginning gets further and further in time yet we continue to refer back to that time knowing the potential that exists within them and the relationship. No matter what he thinks, what's really important here, right now, is how this relationship is making you feel right now. Once you realize that you need to love and respect you, then he will no longer have a bearing. You cannot make anyone do anything. Besides, what if you did? Then you would have to question his sincerity within the relationship.
I truly believe that what's meant to be will be. That is the only thought I refer back to and find peace in. In the meantime, if it is not him then he has not taken anymore from me. If it is him then he will return to me as a whole and evolved Man... shedding his man-boy, his ego, and his games. That, to me, is far more worthwhile. Just My point of view OP, and one that may not say what you want to hear.

Not completely....because we met first like each other....told each other what are our plans...We both were comfortable & felt connected & contacted each other online then parents are involved in it..now i dnt know what happen he has a change in his plans of coming & meeting me again...

i dnt know...what's going on...& he is not even ready to leave me completely...contacting me when i try to stay away from him...either he wants me to do anything that he wants....cnt say...or sometime i feel he is seeing someone though he denied it completely...& told that i m last indian girl whom he is looking for marriage...

Posted by ladyluck
Not completely....because we met first like each other....told each other what are our plans...We both were comfortable & felt connected & contacted each other online then parents are involved in it..now i dnt know what happen he has a change in his plans of coming & meeting me again...

i dnt know...what's going on...& he is not even ready to leave me completely...contacting me when i try to stay away from him...either he wants me to do anything that he wants....cnt say...or sometime i feel he is seeing someone though he denied it completely...& told that i m last indian girl whom he is looking for marriage...

Have you been intimate? If you don't mind me asking?

Posted by Rabbit
fwiw I don't believe Scorpios are equipped for LDRs/internet relationships.

I think we require the entire experience of the other person to truly connect and devote ourselves.

I'm sure there are other signs that can take a more casual approach. But not us.

Or it could just be me.

Nope, it's not just you. All 5 senses... and that just cannot be accomplished over the internet.

All 5 senses.... and then some, I should say. Lol

Posted by Rabbit
fwiw I don't believe Scorpios are equipped for LDRs/internet relationships.

I think we require the entire experience of the other person to truly connect and devote ourselves.

I'm sure there are other signs that can take a more casual approach. But not us.

Or it could just be me.

I tried a long distance relationship. It failed horribly.

Good Morning IS 🙂
The old double standard...

Posted by Rabbit
fwiw I don't believe Scorpios are equipped for LDRs/internet relationships.

I think we require the entire experience of the other person to truly connect and devote ourselves.

I'm sure there are other signs that can take a more casual approach. But not us.

Or it could just be me.

+1

Nope. Not in my experience.

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Posted by ladyluck
Not completely....because we met first like each other....told each other what are our plans...We both were comfortable & felt connected & contacted each other online then parents are involved in it..now i dnt know what happen he has a change in his plans of coming & meeting me again...

i dnt know...what's going on...& he is not even ready to leave me completely...contacting me when i try to stay away from him...either he wants me to do anything that he wants....cnt say...or sometime i feel he is seeing someone though he denied it completely...& told that i m last indian girl whom he is looking for marriage...

Have you been intimate? If you don't mind me asking?

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no...not till now..

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Posted by FixedWater
Good Morning IS 🙂
The old double standard...

Most scorps are really just lovable pains in the arse. 😄

Good Morning Fixed! love your av??_you look FAB...

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We are such loveable Pains in the Arse! Us girls are just so much cuter when we are, and smell much better than those stinky boys. HeHe
Thankyou for the compliment IS, is that you in your Avi?

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All 5 senses.... and then some, I should say. Lol

Truth be told...she's a Virgo Sun/Gem Moon...sometimes I wish I were deaf 😛

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Lol... she sounds positively delightful. 🙂

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Posted by ladyluck
Not completely....because we met first like each other....told each other what are our plans...We both were comfortable & felt connected & contacted each other online then parents are involved in it..now i dnt know what happen he has a change in his plans of coming & meeting me again...

i dnt know...what's going on...& he is not even ready to leave me completely...contacting me when i try to stay away from him...either he wants me to do anything that he wants....cnt say...or sometime i feel he is seeing someone though he denied it completely...& told that i m last indian girl whom he is looking for marriage...

Have you been intimate? If you don't mind me asking?

no...not till now..

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So you had a date and then continued your relationship through emails, and texting or Skype. Then had another date and were intimate during that date? Did I follow that right?

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Good Morning IS 🙂
The old double standard...

Most scorps are really just lovable pains in the arse. 😄

Good Morning Fixed! love your av??_you look FAB...

We are such loveable Pains in the Arse! Us girls are just so much cuter when we are, and smell much better than those stinky boys. HeHe
Thankyou for the compliment IS, is that you in your Avi?

Noo.. a famous Scorp: Hedy Lamarr..

Ive posted pics before??_maybe I'll do another one one of these days...

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She reminds me of someone, but not sure who since I have never heard of Hedy Lamarr before (you know I will need to google her now. Lol)
You should post one of you, it is nice to put a face to a name. 🙂

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All 5 senses.... and then some, I should say. Lol

Truth be told...she's a Virgo Sun/Gem Moon...sometimes I wish I were deaf 😛

Lol... she sounds positively delightful. 🙂

Oh she's awesome. 🙂

However, even with her Libra Merc, she often likes to talk more than I do.

Both her and my Gem son couldn't get straight to the point of anything if they tried 😐

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I have a Gem Son too... Scorpio daughter and a Gemini Son. Scorp daughter has always ruled even when he is wayyyyyy bigger than her. Lmao. He has a large Tattoo on his shoulder depicting how he is walking her through the bad place hand in hand. I pity the dudes that try to date her since he is a very "solid" guy. .... oh geesh, I just rambled about my kidlets. Lol

I think that's awesome that you both share that and getting straight to the point is hard to do, and take, for some. Now you have me thinking if this has been something of an issue for my son, and hey? His Dad is a Virgo..... hmmmmmmmmm....... processing now.

Posted by Rabbit
fwiw I don't believe Scorpios are equipped for LDRs/internet relationships.

I think we require the entire experience of the other person to truly connect and devote ourselves.

I'm sure there are other signs that can take a more casual approach. But not us.

Or it could just be me.

+1 It comes second to an occasional fuck buddy and NOT a relationship. Society (and the sheep) will try to dictate it's ok, but then you have to look at society real close to see that most of them are quite pathetically desperate and will do anything to say the words..... i'm in a relationship. No you aren't. Pick which one is the bread winner and make a damn decision to move. Anything short of that..you are in the fuck buddy category which is MEANINGLESS and 99.9% of the time does NOT work.