Scorpio man and his disappearing acts

How am I supposed to handle it when he goes missing. Im a cancer and it makes me feel so unwanted. Were not together. We've been talking for 7 months now. And this is his 3rd time. He usually ignores my text for a week then randomly hits me up. I don't understand really and it makes me feel like he might have some one else more serious. Hes denied having a gf but I just dont understand motives. I told him the first time he did it it hurt my feelings. The 2nd time I got pissed off. Its not like we talk alot or see each other every day. We probably hang out once a week. His venus is in Sagittarius. So I understand he needs his freedom but damn. 1 of his previous relationships ended because he was ignoring his gf so I thought he would be more understanding. I don't think he's just using me for sex because when were together I feel it in the way he looks at me that he likes me alot. Idk if im thinking to much into it but even in sex i feel that connection. And hes told me on a couple occasions. I kind of get the vibes that he's inexperienced with females and relationships. he doesn't show alot of affection besides when we make out which usually leads to sex. I really dont show any either. Hes so intimidating and I've seen him turn down girls touching on him and trying to kiss him. I really want to show him how much I like him but im too scared of rejection. Can some Scorpios please help a cancer girl out—

Hes a scorpio sun. Pieces moon. Capricorn rising. Sagittarius venus and cancer mars.
im a cancer sun. Sagittarius moon. Libra rising. Cancer venus and mars in Taurus

Ha! I never thought of it like that. I had gotten out of a 4 year relationship when we started talking. And your right I am expecting boyfriend commitments from him even though he's not my boyfriend.

Posted by moodycrab712
Were not together. We've been talking for 7 months now.

*sip tea*

Posted by moodycrab712
He usually ignores my text for a week then randomly hits me up.

Randomly or on par with the status of your "thing" ("we're not together"). Especially given this:

Posted by moodycrab712
We probably hang out once a week....which usually leads to sex.

Posted by moodycrab712
1 of his previous relationships ended because he was ignoring his gf so I thought he would be more understanding.

I'm not sure why you thought this would translate into an epiphany for him vs a red flag for you.

Posted by moodycrab712
Idk if im thinking to much into it but even in sex i feel that connection.

That's all you. You can't speak on his "connection" to you.

Posted by moodycrab712
he doesn't show alot of affection besides when we make out which usually leads to sex. I really dont show any either.

*sip tea*

Posted by moodycrab712
I really want to show him how much I like him but im too scared of rejection. Can some Scorpios please help a cancer girl out—

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I think you are showing him how much you like him on a weekly basis. If you want to be exclusive, tell the man you want to be exclusive. Whatever happens, happens. Or....be controlled by your fear of rejection and keep doing what you're doing and continue to get upset. DXP will be here waiting.

Lmao

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Posted by moodycrab712
Were not together. We've been talking for 7 months now.

*sip tea*

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I am literally having tears on my cheeks right now. (do not read into that differently, Scorpio Board)

ahahahahahha.

I think he's using you. I know it's not what you want to hear, but all signs point to that. When I dated a Scorpio, I was kind of delusional in thinking he wasn't using me because of exactly what you described: "when were together I feel it in the way he looks at me that he likes me alot." But he totally was. They have this way of looking right into your soul with such intensity that they make you believe they're in love with you. Sometimes they are...in this case, I doubt it.

If you want something more with him, I would try to see him outside of the bedroom. Ask to go for coffee or something.

I mean, I may be young, but from experience...you do not want an emotionally unavailable man. These exist in all signs, not just Scorpios. He def seems emotionally unavailable, and he's basically doing whatever he wants while you're wondering why he's not doing this, why he doesn't spend more time with you, etc. I agree with what a lot of other people said too; no matter how much you fear rejection, have that always dreaded "What are we?" conversation with him, and from there you can ask him what he's looking for right now.

It isn't exactly "using" if nothing has been established.

Dear Cancer, I think you're confused. You state you're NOT in a relationship but you are having sex with him. This is called "casual sex". You are fuck buddies. He owes you nothing and vice versa. You're willing to have sex with him but are too afraid to see if he's interested in a committed relationship with you? Let that little bit of logic sink in for a minute....

If you're going to have casual sex with someone then you have to be mature enough to both have an agreement that it is what it is, no strings attached and occasionally you might need to regroup and make sure you're both on the same page still. If you're going to be in a committed relationship with someone then you need to be mature enough to have an open and honest discussion about it and your feelings and make sure you're both on the same page about it.

It really is that simple.

Posted by Andalusia
It isn't exactly "using" if nothing has been established.

Good point.

Posted by moodycrab712
Ha! I never thought of it like that. I had gotten out of a 4 year relationship when we started talking. And your right I am expecting boyfriend commitments from him even though he's not my boyfriend.

Girl delete this thread and sit down somewhere.

Posted by Bells93
you do not want an emotionally unavailable man..

I wish people would stop throwing this scenario around. Also "commitment phobic"

Most men aren't commitment phobic or emotionally unavailable. You are just not *IT*

I swear women would go to great lengths only to swipe the guilt of making bad choices off their shoulders.

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Posted by Bells93
you do not want an emotionally unavailable man..

I wish people would stop throwing this scenario around. Also "commitment phobic"

Most men aren't commitment phobic or emotionally unavailable. You are just not *IT*

I swear women would go to great lengths only to swipe the guilt of making bad choices off their shoulders.

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This is sense at its finest.
Good job Virgo. 😉

Thank you Crabette. 🙂

That statement irks me like crazy.

Nothing against you Bells.

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Posted by Bells93
you do not want an emotionally unavailable man..

I wish people would stop throwing this scenario around. Also "commitment phobic"

Most men aren't commitment phobic or emotionally unavailable. You are just not *IT*

I swear women would go to great lengths only to swipe the guilt of making bad choices off their shoulders.

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True, but seeing as she mentioned he behaved similarly with his ex, and he was committed to her, I think that he could be emotionally unavailable lol.

Posted by Damnata
Thank you Crabette. 🙂

That statement irks me like crazy.

Nothing against you Bells.

Oh I know, no harm done. Human behaviour interests, makes for interesting conversation. Your statements made me rethink my take on my Scorpio ex lol.

You also need to keep in mind that people actually make a choice to be committed to someone.

It bears no impact on your value as their partner. They just chose not to go there with you.

I always said, when you fall for someone, you actually pick that person out of 6 billion people. It's an immense amount of expectations placed on a human being. You need to squash that and see where it takes you.

Earth signs have the obsession with certainty. We need to stop doing that so we can truly experience life and people.

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Posted by Bells93
you do not want an emotionally unavailable man..

I wish people would stop throwing this scenario around. Also "commitment phobic"

Most men aren't commitment phobic or emotionally unavailable. You are just not *IT*

I swear women would go to great lengths only to swipe the guilt of making bad choices off their shoulders.

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wow, me 2x agree with you!

it sucks, and girlfriends gather around to soothe /pamper the one that didn't get chosen. we always need doses of reality check.

Women think they are nurturing but they push you further into delusion.

When my Cap ex cheated..

Cancer gf (well intentioned and caring) "Girl, maybe you can take him back? It happened once, you are engaged to him..why break it off over one mistake?"

Virgo "Fuck outta here!"

I love her but..no.

Posted by Damnata
You also need to keep in mind that people actually make a choice to be committed to someone.

It bears no impact on your value as their partner. They just chose not to go there with you.

I always said, when you fall for someone, you actually pick that person out of 6 billion people. It's an immense amount of expectations placed on a human being. You need to squash that and see where it takes you.

Earth signs have the obsession with certainty. We need to stop doing that so we can truly experience life and people.

"It bears no impact on your value as their partner." Amen girl, amen.

"Earth signs have the obsession with certainty." This is my life in a nutshell... I always need to have a plan in place, every person in my life has their place.

Posted by Damnata
Women think they are nurturing but they push you further into delusion.

I struggle with this all the time..that fine line between being nurturing and being a slave of sorts lol.