Hot water freezes faster than cold water? But yeah I guess
Scorpio men and their exes?
Posted by LuckyLibra979Ok. Well that's what I assumed too, that scoprios wouldn't hold onto their exes, ESPECIALLY if the ex cheated on them. But I ask this question because I have suspicions that my scorpio husband is still, I don't even know? Something just doesn't feel right with it, about this one ex he has.
I know ALOT of Scorpios too so I'm not just trolling
Posted by KoniuchaYou would still hold onto an ex even when you get into a serious relationship/marriage with someone else? Isn't that a little unfair to new person?
I not a man, but as a female Scorpio, yes.
Posted by KoniuchaOh oh yeah my misunderstanding, I'm sorry. Okay, thanks for your answer.
Your question was, do scorpios ever get over their ex, and I answered yes.
Posted by LuckyLibra979Yeah, I understand and all I want is to get other's experiences and other scoprios opinions about that, maybe also tell a little about my story and see what people think about it. Hm wow. Yeah I get that.Posted by dobrev8628Posted by LuckyLibra979Ok. Well that's what I assumed too, that scoprios wouldn't hold onto their exes, ESPECIALLY if the ex cheated on them. But I ask this question because I have suspicions that my scorpio husband is still, I don't even know? Something just doesn't feel right with it, about this one ex he has.
I know ALOT of Scorpios too so I'm not just trolling
O, sorry about that well I don't want to tel you what your husband is or isn't doing because you know him best but I can give an example
Well, I know they, for the most part, have had long standing affairs that spread over years. They had the same mistress for a llllloooonnnggg time. One of the Scorpios was my exes father, so it was already a bit awkward and to top it off, he opened up about to me. Married his high school sweetheart and still had a mistress for a llllloooonnnnggg time (4-8 years)
Each person is different of course and I don't wish this on you just giving you some serious insight.click to expand
Well, I know my scorpio husband isn't even in contact with her and hasn't been for a couple years, but I just found out he lied to me about some important things about her and I just think that if he never wanted to tell me he could've been honest with me and said so rather than leading me on about it. Just feel like he's still hurt about her or something, he's short and vague every time she comes up in conversation.
Posted by KoniuchaMe too! I have cancer sun and moon. Yeah, I've never really held onto exes at all, only for a reasonable time that it takes to get over any relationship, but I've never still had feelings for more than a couple months after it ended.
We are all different. I am very Cancery, so I do tend to cling longer. But eventually, one its done, its over.
Posted by ImpulsvOk, no I don't mind telling. It's kind of a long story but I'll do my best to make it as short as possible. He was with this ex for just under 4 years, then she cheated and left him, then he immediately go into a relationship with another girl, she turned out to be abusive and they married and then got divorced about 2 months later because she also cheated on him and got pregnant with the other guy. So he told me that he talked to his ex of 4 years when he married the other girl and he said that the ex of 4 years wanted him back but he rejected her. Then what he lied about was that he actually didn't reject her and after things completely ended with the girl he married, like right after she cheated and left him, he was talking to the ex of 4 years for a couple of months again and from what I know they were pretty much "together". I also think that back before he married the other girl and was with the ex, the ex got pregnant and had a miscarriage.
What did he lie about the ex
I mean I would keep thing to myself that don't affect the new relationship
If u don't mind telling us so we can better guage if harmless
Just the fact that he would lie about continuing things with the ex of 4 years after things with the other girl ended, like he went back to her? He told me that he had married the other girl to get back at the ex of 4 years because of how she cheated on him.
I'm sorry if this is really confusing but if you need me to re explain it I will.
Well the thing is, is that he didn't tell me about the stuff that I found out, I found it out on my own because I've always felt like he's lied to me about it. Everyone assumes that the girl he married that he cared about her and loved her, he said he never did and it does upset me that people think that because it kind of hurts to have someone who was married before when I didn't have that kind of past.
If he's still hurting doesn't that mean that he's still not over the relationship? Like he's missing what he's lost?
Yeah and I've been through way worse than he has and I'm lying to him about anything or still having strings attached to people in my past. Seriously, I've been through much worse.
I meant to say I'm NOT lying.
If he's still hurting doesn't that mean that he's still not over the relationship? Like he's missing what he's lost?
Yeah and I've been through way worse than he has and I'm lying to him about anything or still having strings attached to people in my past. Seriously, I've been through much worse.
I meant to say I'm NOT lying.
Posted by ImpulsvBut if he's still hurt doesn't that mean he's still not over the relationship? Like he's hurt over what could have been but didn't happen?
@Luckylib we are Warriors in LOVe
Op Despite that if u sense something it might be the wound n not the ex. I don't think he's reminiscing at all but the wounds are deep .
Posted by LuckyLibra979He has a leo moon too!Posted by Impulsv
@Luckylib we are Warriors in LOVe
Op Despite that if u sense something it might be the wound n not the ex. I don't think he's reminiscing at all but the wounds are deep .
I agree and this might be the first time he's had enough peace to disect everything
I'm not a Scorpio but I have my Venus and mercury in Scorpio and a Leo moon square Pluto so I understand the impact that wounds have. And when you're already reeling you'll accidentally stumble upon more hurt. Kind of piles up before it releases. You may be the first person he's been comfortable enough to tell the whole story to. I've held back details from ppl b/c I wasn't comfortable sharing it. My ex of 4 years got pregnant by another dude too so I feel where he's coming from. Her coming back to him probably opened more wounds and he may have did it to bring closure to them.
I agree with @impulsiv this may be the first time he's been able to open up completely about it, so yea don't let it scare you let him let it out, all of it so he can heal. He has you, that's 10 times better than what he's used to dealing with so yea don't let it scare you, let him continue to release it(it will be a slow process as he let its out piece by piece)but its the only way he'll be able to healclick to expand
Posted by LuckyLibra979He also has venus and mercury inn scorpio too!Posted by Impulsv
@Luckylib we are Warriors in LOVe
Op Despite that if u sense something it might be the wound n not the ex. I don't think he's reminiscing at all but the wounds are deep .
I agree and this might be the first time he's had enough peace to disect everything
I'm not a Scorpio but I have my Venus and mercury in Scorpio and a Leo moon square Pluto so I understand the impact that wounds have. And when you're already reeling you'll accidentally stumble upon more hurt. Kind of piles up before it releases. You may be the first person he's been comfortable enough to tell the whole story to. I've held back details from ppl b/c I wasn't comfortable sharing it. My ex of 4 years got pregnant by another dude too so I feel where he's coming from. Her coming back to him probably opened more wounds and he may have did it to bring closure to them.
I agree with @impulsiv this may be the first time he's been able to open up completely about it, so yea don't let it scare you let him let it out, all of it so he can heal. He has you, that's 10 times better than what he's used to dealing with so yea don't let it scare you, let him continue to release it(it will be a slow process as he let its out piece by piece)but its the only way he'll be able to healclick to expand
Posted by ImpulsvWell you could be right because he has told me that his past was full of mistakes and it was disaster I just don't like how he led me on about certain things.
Mm could be to save face of his major errors
Mean don't wa t to present weak n that was a period of his life when he was at his lowest
Posted by LuckyLibra979This is true. The scorp I'm with now never mentions his ex. I don't think he even likes her tbh. He just says he's upgraded in every sense of the word.
Does it really?
All the Scorpios I know never mention their exes honestly. They do have that one that probably introduced them to their own intensity but for the most Part I never Heard them get caught up on ppl they've written off
Posted by ImpulsvHm ok ok.Yes I know, I understand but it's just I've been throuhg much worse betrayals that weren't so long ago, his were a long time ago, and I am not still as attached to them so it's hard for me to understnd why he would be.Posted by dobrev8628Posted by ImpulsvBut if he's still hurt doesn't that mean he's still not over the relationship? Like he's hurt over what could have been but didn't happen?
@Luckylib we are Warriors in LOVe
Op Despite that if u sense something it might be the wound n not the ex. I don't think he's reminiscing at all but the wounds are deep .
No hurt over the betrayal!!! How things went down nothing to do with what ifs
Can u not see what he went through. That's a lot of pain!click to expand
Posted by ImpulsvWhat my thinking is like, is that he's always telling me that I'm the only person he has ever loved and that he has never known love until he met me and that his past was full of mistakes and that he never ever cared about or loved his ex of 4 years which I have a hunch that maybe he can't even imagine or think back to how he did feel about her only because of the process of how she cheated and all the pain he went through and how he's with me now. Also because he said that he had rejected her when she wanted him back and I found out he lied to me about it, he didn't reject her, he actually got back with her and I don't know exactly how things ended between them yet. I'm waiting for the right moment to confront him about everything.Posted by dobrev8628N how did he lead u on??Posted by ImpulsvWell you could be right because he has told me that his past was full of mistakes and it was disaster I just don't like how he led me on about certain things.
Mm could be to save face of his major errors
Mean don't wa t to present weak n that was a period of his life when he was at his lowest
Curious on your thought process.
Because he didn't disclose it all ?
I'm going to be honest it feel like u don't understand the pain he's been through
Maybe cuz ur to worried about a ghost of an ex.
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Posted by thinktoomuchI totally get that now, I can understand and see how he would feel that now :/ it still just hurts me how it seems like he would rather die or eat dog crap than be honest with me.
Not a man, and even though I love (some of) them, I don´t understand them.
But as a scorpio woman: maybe he ied or held this information from you, because it was infact yes very painful to him. He is probably ashamed of how he went back with the first ex, after she cheated on him, and he is DEF. ashamed of how much power she had over him, such power that he married somebody else just to get back at her! (which is pretty insane)
I don´t think he is wanting to start anything with her or still have romantic feelings towards her, but yes, HURT feelings. And that hurt can linger forever. It is hard to deal with stuff like this, when there is no real way of fixing it. I find myself doing the same thing. It is destructive yes. I have kept some things from my past to myself for a long time, because I was simply ashamed to tell a new interest, how badly I had let myself get treated. I was also afraid to tell that person, because I thought he would think, that I still had romantic feelings for this person from my past. The feelings are not romantic, they are hurt and about power. It is not nice to look back at yourself, when you were far out there, out of selfcontrol and behaving in such a destructive manor. It´s hard to accept. I think that´s why he kept these things for you for such a long time.
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It's like he literally would do anything in his power just to keep the truth about it hidden which is hurtful when I believe, and from what I understand and according ti him he believes also that we should be open and honest in a marriage with each other.
It does scare me a little though because I have thought about how he might have loved her more than he'll ever love me especially if he did all of those thing just because of her. That's not what I want at all, I want a fulfilling marriage not one where he is like 70% in and 30% somewhere else just because he's still hurting over an ex or things that happened with her when I'm 100% in, kind of hurts when it's not reciprocated and the only choice I have left is to distance myself from him if that is the case and if he won't be honest with me. It's just how I feel and I don't feel great about compromising anything for any kind of feeling he has for an ex because I've been through much worse betrayals then he has that were more recent than his and I'm no still attached to them at all.
Posted by thinktoomuchI think you're spot on, a lot of websites that I've looked at about cancer-scorpio relationships mention that their pride can become an issue if they both don't put in effort to get rid of their ego when necessary in the relationship.Posted by dobrev8628Remember, I am a woman, and a special one at that, as nobody ever agrees with me on love things. But:Posted by thinktoomuchI totally get that now, I can understand and see how he would feel that now :/ it still just hurts me how it seems like he would rather die or eat dog crap than be honest with me.
Not a man, and even though I love (some of) them, I don´t understand them.
But as a scorpio woman: maybe he ied or held this information from you, because it was infact yes very painful to him. He is probably ashamed of how he went back with the first ex, after she cheated on him, and he is DEF. ashamed of how much power she had over him, such power that he married somebody else just to get back at her! (which is pretty insane)
I don´t think he is wanting to start anything with her or still have romantic feelings towards her, but yes, HURT feelings. And that hurt can linger forever. It is hard to deal with stuff like this, when there is no real way of fixing it. I find myself doing the same thing. It is destructive yes. I have kept some things from my past to myself for a long time, because I was simply ashamed to tell a new interest, how badly I had let myself get treated. I was also afraid to tell that person, because I thought he would think, that I still had romantic feelings for this person from my past. The feelings are not romantic, they are hurt and about power. It is not nice to look back at yourself, when you were far out there, out of selfcontrol and behaving in such a destructive manor. It´s hard to accept. I think that´s why he kept these things for you for such a long time.
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I would keep things from a person, because I was afraid, he would think less of me.
.... But if I were you, I would probably feel the same. It´s one of those situations where your pride and his pride really get in each others way.click to expand
Posted by dobrev8628I actually really think you're spot on now because other things that he has told me about he did tell me that he was afraid that I would think negatively of him..Posted by thinktoomuchI think you're spot on, a lot of websites that I've looked at about cancer-scorpio relationships mention that their pride can become an issue if they both don't put in effort to get rid of their ego when necessary in the relationship.Posted by dobrev8628Remember, I am a woman, and a special one at that, as nobody ever agrees with me on love things. But:Posted by thinktoomuchI totally get that now, I can understand and see how he would feel that now :/ it still just hurts me how it seems like he would rather die or eat dog crap than be honest with me.
Not a man, and even though I love (some of) them, I don´t understand them.
But as a scorpio woman: maybe he ied or held this information from you, because it was infact yes very painful to him. He is probably ashamed of how he went back with the first ex, after she cheated on him, and he is DEF. ashamed of how much power she had over him, such power that he married somebody else just to get back at her! (which is pretty insane)
I don´t think he is wanting to start anything with her or still have romantic feelings towards her, but yes, HURT feelings. And that hurt can linger forever. It is hard to deal with stuff like this, when there is no real way of fixing it. I find myself doing the same thing. It is destructive yes. I have kept some things from my past to myself for a long time, because I was simply ashamed to tell a new interest, how badly I had let myself get treated. I was also afraid to tell that person, because I thought he would think, that I still had romantic feelings for this person from my past. The feelings are not romantic, they are hurt and about power. It is not nice to look back at yourself, when you were far out there, out of selfcontrol and behaving in such a destructive manor. It´s hard to accept. I think that´s why he kept these things for you for such a long time.
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I would keep things from a person, because I was afraid, he would think less of me.
.... But if I were you, I would probably feel the same. It´s one of those situations where your pride and his pride really get in each others way.click to expand
Ask yourself just one question...
WHO IS HE WITH..
and then drop the rest of the past nonsense.
WHO IS HE WITH..
and then drop the rest of the past nonsense.
Posted by thinktoomuchYes I'm a cancer. Well of course it's because it's just an ex, our marriage wouldn't be so happy if he isn't 100% into it just because of some ex. Yeah and I've been through worse betrayal than he has ever been through and I've done worse things than him and I' have nothing to hide because I don't have feelings for anyone in my past.
Oh you a cancer? Well cancer and scorpio can entangle themselves in all sorts of mistrust and anger towards each other and especially - in My experience - misunderstand each other and judge. Maybe being use to knowing what most people think/feel works as a disadvantage here, because both these signs are certain, they got the 411 on what's REALLY going on behind the cancer sidestepping or the scorpio pokerface.
But really, sometimes some things just scar us for life. That's just how it is. It's just because it's an ex, you're thinking like this. If it was something horrible from his child hood, you would feel very different about it.
But true to communicate about this stuff, so it wont kill the relationship.
Posted by LadyOfRebirthI've gotten the same exact feeling about him, seriously, it makes me feel like I'm really delusional or either he's the really delusional one.Posted by dobrev8628I have a feeling he might be deceiving himself in how he truly feels about his long term ex. Because she humiliated and hurt him. Leo moon on top of that Scorpio must be very keen to save face.
It's like he literally would do anything in his power just to keep the truth about it hidden which is hurtful when I believe, and from what I understand and according ti him he believes also that we should be open and honest in a marriage with each other.
But then again I'm not very well versed in Scorpio lingo so don't take my word for it.click to expand
Posted by Lala1393You sound like you're trolling.Posted by dobrev8628We never get over our exes. No
Do scorpios ever really get over their ex? Would they get into a really serious relationship and marriage with someone else even if they aren't over their ex because they know that it'll never work out so they have no choice but to move on?
But yeah we can move on to someone else and get serious with them. We're hoes like that.click to expand
Posted by Vixen2I get that and I can see the cutting out his heart part in him to be true but he says he never really cared about them or loved them, so if that's true how could he be so hurt and angry by what they did? Unless he was more un-evolved and immature back then which it really seems like it...
Nope...the Scorp got over his ex's . He said it took him a while and had to go to the depths of hell to fight the pain but they both betrayed him in an emotional way which made it easy to hate them, go through the pain, cut them out of his heart like a diseased cancer, heal and move on. Never spoke of them, and when he had to, only referred to them as: the taurus or the cancer.
Posted by LetltBSomeone can be with someone and still have feelings for someone else, it happens, that's not what I want. I want what I want in marriage and if someone is leading me on, that's a betrayal. Not that that is what's going on in my situation, that's just where I stand and what I think.
Ask yourself just one question...
WHO IS HE WITH..
and then drop the rest of the past nonsense.
Posted by ImpulsvI will. Just because it seems good doesn't mean I should settle for less if less is what I'm getting. Others might be happy with being with someone who isn't as committed as they are but I'm not. When someone lies once, it's hard to believe anything they say. I don't want to tear my marriage apart, thank you. My wants and needs matter, how I feel matters and I get to the bottom of things so I CAN move on, if I never get to the bottom, I can't trust or move on. That's just how I am just like how many scorpios have their own ways. Well you said that last sentence as if I'm taking him for granted, I'll assure you I'm not.
Ok so what do u want to do about it. The past is the past I'm sure u have had the discussion n he's told u no
N u don't believe him.
Ur ego wants to keep score on how loves more then the other, who suffered more n how u have moved on n they haven't. Respect the difference people heal n move on different. But if u want to tear ur marriage up for that go at it. I'll take ur scorp because if he loved that way with the bad one imagine how good with the right one.
Posted by dobrev8628And you just might not know what it's like to talk to someone who really seems like they're lying. When you have a gut feeling and you know something's not right or the story doesn't add up. When they are short, vague, and get irritated when the subject comes up. It happens. Knowing the truth is what I deserve and I just won't take anything less, because like I said, being with someone who isn't 100% in the marriage just because of an ex or doesn't love me as much as I love them, isn't right and won't make me happy. I'm not saying that's what going on in my situation at all, that's just where I stand on it.Posted by ImpulsvI will. Just because it seems good doesn't mean I should settle for less if less is what I'm getting. Others might be happy with being with someone who isn't as committed as they are but I'm not. When someone lies once, it's hard to believe anything they say. I don't want to tear my marriage apart, thank you. My wants and needs matter, how I feel matters and I get to the bottom of things so I CAN move on, if I never get to the bottom, I can't trust or move on. That's just how I am just like how many scorpios have their own ways. Well you said that last sentence as if I'm taking him for granted, I'll assure you I'm not.
Ok so what do u want to do about it. The past is the past I'm sure u have had the discussion n he's told u no
N u don't believe him.
Ur ego wants to keep score on how loves more then the other, who suffered more n how u have moved on n they haven't. Respect the difference people heal n move on different. But if u want to tear ur marriage up for that go at it. I'll take ur scorp because if he loved that way with the bad one imagine how good with the right one.
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Posted by ImpulsvYou're talking about how much he loved "the bad one" and besides, he said he never, never loved or cared about "the bad one". Would you believe that?
Ok so what do u want to do about it. The past is the past I'm sure u have had the discussion n he's told u no
N u don't believe him.
Ur ego wants to keep score on how loves more then the other, who suffered more n how u have moved on n they haven't. Respect the difference people heal n move on different. But if u want to tear ur marriage up for that go at it. I'll take ur scorp because if he loved that way with the bad one imagine how good with the right one.
Posted by dobrev8628I have to go back to ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^this quote because it's clear WHO is bringing her up in conversation, WHO is fixated on something from years ago and WHO will fuck up the present status of a marriage. The fact that you feel you need to "confront" him on something so trivial speaks volumes. Either you are very insecure in this marriage or bored and can't SEE that he chose YOU.
Well, I know my scorpio husband isn't even in contact with her and hasn't been for a couple years, but I just found out he lied to me about some important things about her and I just think that if he never wanted to tell me he could've been honest with me and said so rather than leading me on about it. Just feel like he's still hurt about her or something, he's short and vague every time she comes up in conversation.
Instead, you choose to ASSUME and let me just say, if you keep bringing up a painful moment to any Scorp and then ACCUSE them of being as low as the person who hurt them....honey you are going to be in for a surprise. You need to drop it, grow up and realize he chose you. If that's not good enough, move the hell on and leave him alone.
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Ofcours, misquoted.... Sigh..
But anywho, to the OP: seems like you´re very upset atm. I don´t knwo what to tell you, try to talk to your man, the one who did in fact really commit to you by marrying you, and figure things out. You´re feeling very very insecure right now and almost vindictive it sounds, I recognize myself and what you´ve written, about how you feel, and ofcours: if you feel dissatisfied with your marriage, and it can´t be worked out, then parting is the best thing. But maybe also your emotions right now are getting the best of you, so cool down a little and talk to your husband!
I don´t have any actual exes, as I haven´t been in a real grown up relationship ever. My "ex" from my teens, I can easily hang out with him now and be thankful, that I am not his girlfriend and just have a laugh.
Another guy, who made a huge impact in my life - I saw him some years ago after not seing him for a very long time. He was horrible to me, and when I saw him that day, he was acting very belitting towards me, still putting his hand on my thigh. He showed no remorse or no understanding of how horrible he had been to me, so to this day I still think he is a douche. Do I still have romantic feelings towards him? Hells no😄
Next guy who made a huge impact was a felow scorpio. Last time I met him, I felt so disgusted by his behaviour throughout time and the fact, that he too never understood how much he hurt me (possibly he understood but did not have the balls to take responsibility for it). He tried to say hello to me twice and talk (and probably, like always would try to get me into bed with him), but I turned away. Do I still have romantic feelings towards him? No way. Am I still effected by the whole thing? Yes. It was the most humiliating time of my life with this person, and the fac that he does not won up to anything is what keeps making it bad.
The last guy is a cancer guy. So much shit went down with him, and I still think about everything - a lot! I know I´m not ready to meet someoe new, regardless of how much I want to. Do I still have romantic feelings towards him? ..... I mean, I am very attracted to him, but he too lacks in taking responsibility for screwing things up, and so I feel hurt and sometimes humiliated. So I could say: well, if he changed or admitted to his faults, I could concider dating him again. But that´s with me knowing that he will never do so! Ever. ...But I did date him and fell in love with him and had silly, romantic fantasies about a future with him. And I did all those things while still caryying around hurt from the past, that I never really told him about. Hurt and romantic feelings are not to be confused. So just ask your man about it, talk. And also try to explain how you feel about the whole thing. Focus on building the bond between you stronger, instead of
Thinktoomuch: Ok so first of all no Im not very upset right now. Just neutral about it but I still have my opinions and I stand where I stand. Second, I'm not vindictive right now either. Third, my only purpose for being on this post is to get others opinions on certain things and thei insights and experiences, not a whole lecture on my marriage which I can handle. Not to be rude but fyi I have talked to my husband and it's really no one's business if I have or not. I've talked about this issue on here and what I thought about it, I only wanted others insights, experiences and opinions on what they think, NOT a lecture on how to handle my marriage because I'm perfectly capable of doing that.
It has very little to do with insecurity I'll tell you that. And parting in my marriage will never happen so that's not the case here. Just things that I'd like closure, to get to the bottom of and know the truth.
If I sounded rude I'm sorry those aren't my intentions but I'm already getting irritated with how some people on here think it's alright to give me a lecture on my marriage just because I'm opening up about a few issues.
There isn't a problem here that I need anyone to solve or anyone to give me a solution for. Like I said, I just wanted to know what other people think, their experiences and insights, when other people take a look at things they usually can catch something that the original person overlooked or offer new insights that open up their mind.
And I have talked, many times to him. That gut feeling that I'm never getting the truth is still there and I just wanna know why I have that feeling.
It has very little to do with insecurity I'll tell you that. And parting in my marriage will never happen so that's not the case here. Just things that I'd like closure, to get to the bottom of and know the truth.
If I sounded rude I'm sorry those aren't my intentions but I'm already getting irritated with how some people on here think it's alright to give me a lecture on my marriage just because I'm opening up about a few issues.
There isn't a problem here that I need anyone to solve or anyone to give me a solution for. Like I said, I just wanted to know what other people think, their experiences and insights, when other people take a look at things they usually can catch something that the original person overlooked or offer new insights that open up their mind.
And I have talked, many times to him. That gut feeling that I'm never getting the truth is still there and I just wanna know why I have that feeling.
My Scorp will tell you yes.
We broke up 4 years ago but have remained close friends although on and off over those years. He has had a couple relationships all the while telling me he wants to be with me and still loves me. Even just right before Christmas I had dinner with him and was expecting just friendly catching up, but no...he tells me he keeps getting into relationships with people he knows it won't work out with because he doesn't want to find someone else.
The last one lived very far, was going through a divorce and has 2 kids. The one before that seemed great to me, but Scorp is still stuck on me. I don't quite understand it, and he periodically goes through phases where he tells me he can't be my friend which I understand, but he eventually comes around because we really do have a great friendship, I just hate that he is inhibiting himself from having a healthy romantic relationship elsewhere because of whatever old feelings he's harboring for me. He's painted an illusion of me that no one else can fill...even I didn't fill it.
Poor Scorp. Those waters run deep.
We broke up 4 years ago but have remained close friends although on and off over those years. He has had a couple relationships all the while telling me he wants to be with me and still loves me. Even just right before Christmas I had dinner with him and was expecting just friendly catching up, but no...he tells me he keeps getting into relationships with people he knows it won't work out with because he doesn't want to find someone else.
The last one lived very far, was going through a divorce and has 2 kids. The one before that seemed great to me, but Scorp is still stuck on me. I don't quite understand it, and he periodically goes through phases where he tells me he can't be my friend which I understand, but he eventually comes around because we really do have a great friendship, I just hate that he is inhibiting himself from having a healthy romantic relationship elsewhere because of whatever old feelings he's harboring for me. He's painted an illusion of me that no one else can fill...even I didn't fill it.
Poor Scorp. Those waters run deep.
Posted by LetltBWell that's how you see it but when I'm lied to more than once about something, it's hard to believe anything else that person says. Neither of those actually, I just want to know the truth. It's not trivial if in the past she was someone who he was going to propose to, marry, and could've been living in the same house that I am living in with him, not so trivial when the things he told her are similar to things he's told me. Not so trivial when it's almost like he led me on.Posted by dobrev8628I have to go back to ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^this quote because it's clear WHO is bringing her up in conversation, WHO is fixated on something from years ago and WHO will fuck up the present status of a marriage. The fact that you feel you need to "confront" him on something so trivial speaks volumes. Either you are very insecure in this marriage or bored and can't SEE that he chose YOU.
Well, I know my scorpio husband isn't even in contact with her and hasn't been for a couple years, but I just found out he lied to me about some important things about her and I just think that if he never wanted to tell me he could've been honest with me and said so rather than leading me on about it. Just feel like he's still hurt about her or something, he's short and vague every time she comes up in conversation.
Instead, you choose to ASSUME and let me just say, if you keep bringing up a painful moment to any Scorp and then ACCUSE them of being as low as the person who hurt them....honey you are going to be in for a surprise. You need to drop it, grow up and realize he chose you. If that's not good enough, move the hell on and leave him alone.click to expand
How am I assuming when I am only thinking about all of the possibilities yet I still know that I don't know the truth? Really? I never accused him, I've only asked. What I need to do is get the fuck off this post where people are starting to get too damn serious about this issue and lecture me about my marriage when they only know one aspect and one story about it.
Don't tell me what to do, alright. If you wanted to give advice, have some fucking manners about it. My feelings, thoughts and needs and wants matter, fucked up for you to tell me in other words to drop it just because.
Leave him alone? Lol, he's my husband and you know nothing really about our marriage. How about you leave me alone? You're comment isn't that useful to me, while it may have some truth, you're more of an annoyance than help.
His feelings for his ex are none of your business. He married you and will have to manage them himself. Has he cheated on you? Does he sneak love notes to his ex? Does he bring her up all the time? Does he compare you to his ex in conversation. Why are you trying to control this man's mind?
He has an ex that he is managing his emotions about. He chose you to marry. Does he not provide for you?
It sounds like you are every insecure. You should try to get to the bottom of that. LIB is 100% correct. You came to Scorpios for advice. Don't expect to be validated here. It won't happen.
He has an ex that he is managing his emotions about. He chose you to marry. Does he not provide for you?
It sounds like you are every insecure. You should try to get to the bottom of that. LIB is 100% correct. You came to Scorpios for advice. Don't expect to be validated here. It won't happen.
To LetitB:
Well that's how you see it but when I'm lied to more than once about something, it's hard to believe anything else that person says. Neither of those actually, I just want to know the truth. It's not trivial if in the past she was someone who he was going to propose to, marry, and could've been living in the same house that I am living in with him, not so trivial when the things he told her are similar to things he's told me. Not so trivial when it's almost like he led me on.
How am I assuming when I am only thinking about all of the possibilities yet I still know that I don't know the truth? Really? I never accused him, I've only asked. What I need to do is get the fuck off this post where people are starting to get too damn serious about this issue and lecture me about my marriage when they only know one aspect and one story about it.
Don't tell me what to do, alright. If you wanted to give advice, have some fucking manners about it. My feelings, thoughts and needs and wants matter, fucked up for you to tell me in other words to drop it just because.
Leave him alone? Lol, he's my husband and you know nothing really about our marriage. How about you leave me alone? You're comment isn't that useful to me, while it may have some truth, you're more of an annoyance than help.
Well that's how you see it but when I'm lied to more than once about something, it's hard to believe anything else that person says. Neither of those actually, I just want to know the truth. It's not trivial if in the past she was someone who he was going to propose to, marry, and could've been living in the same house that I am living in with him, not so trivial when the things he told her are similar to things he's told me. Not so trivial when it's almost like he led me on.
How am I assuming when I am only thinking about all of the possibilities yet I still know that I don't know the truth? Really? I never accused him, I've only asked. What I need to do is get the fuck off this post where people are starting to get too damn serious about this issue and lecture me about my marriage when they only know one aspect and one story about it.
Don't tell me what to do, alright. If you wanted to give advice, have some fucking manners about it. My feelings, thoughts and needs and wants matter, fucked up for you to tell me in other words to drop it just because.
Leave him alone? Lol, he's my husband and you know nothing really about our marriage. How about you leave me alone? You're comment isn't that useful to me, while it may have some truth, you're more of an annoyance than help.
First of all it's rude to DELETE THE ORIGNIAL POST and deceitful to do so. Unhide it if you want to be taken seriously by those who come in here.
Secondly...as a loaded Scorpio, if my spouse brought up a very painful past that ripped my heart into pieces, the LAST thing I want to hear from someone years later is that I'm a "liar". He didn't LIE to you, he buried his past and most likely wants to keep it there. You however, with your insecurities suddenly want to resurrect his ugly past to satisfy those insecurities you are now feeling. The point is...HE MARRIED YOU. You even state on page one that he's told you that you are the only person he's known what love means or something to that affect. Yet you feel calling him a liar is going to make you feel better?
I said it earlier...ANYONE who brings up something painful from my past and tries to make me feel as bad as the person who was deceitful...I'm gone. So..yea, you may stick around to whine about your doubts, but it doesn't mean he will. Rethink what you have before you started to question it and ask yourself if a marriage is worth the trouble you are about to bring to the marriage. Why is it so important for you to bring up an ex girlfriend from years ago who cheated on him and got pregnant doing so? Why are you so hell bent on fucking up your marriage that was just fine until you "heard" something about the past that you had nothing to do with?
Makes no sense and it sounds like something a 16 year old would fret about.
Secondly...as a loaded Scorpio, if my spouse brought up a very painful past that ripped my heart into pieces, the LAST thing I want to hear from someone years later is that I'm a "liar". He didn't LIE to you, he buried his past and most likely wants to keep it there. You however, with your insecurities suddenly want to resurrect his ugly past to satisfy those insecurities you are now feeling. The point is...HE MARRIED YOU. You even state on page one that he's told you that you are the only person he's known what love means or something to that affect. Yet you feel calling him a liar is going to make you feel better?
I said it earlier...ANYONE who brings up something painful from my past and tries to make me feel as bad as the person who was deceitful...I'm gone. So..yea, you may stick around to whine about your doubts, but it doesn't mean he will. Rethink what you have before you started to question it and ask yourself if a marriage is worth the trouble you are about to bring to the marriage. Why is it so important for you to bring up an ex girlfriend from years ago who cheated on him and got pregnant doing so? Why are you so hell bent on fucking up your marriage that was just fine until you "heard" something about the past that you had nothing to do with?
Makes no sense and it sounds like something a 16 year old would fret about.
Posted by dobrev8628What my thinking is like, is that he's always telling me that I'm the only person he has ever loved and that he has never known love until he met meExcuse me...not page one, page three.
I'll include this from your Scorpio venus thread too..
Posted by dobrev8628 I have a scorpio husband who has venus in scorpio conjunct pluto and he's told me that when he met me he just knew that I was "the one" and the person he wanted to be with, spend his life with and marry.,
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