Scorpios: How far does your revenge go?

A bit confused about a situation concerning my best friend and the mother of his child. Both are in their early twenties and their baby is fairly young, about two and a half.
The story is pretty long which is to be exspected because it spans over a couple years. I will try to make it as simple as possible! I really wants some of you scorps take on this.

They both made the mistake of getting preganant very early on in the relationship. They didnt know each other well but they thought they were in love when in my opinion they were really just still in what most call the "honey moon period". So they decided to keep their baby. The scorp (female) was known to get around and pretty soon they broke up during her pregnancy (her choice) after this high time faded. She seemed to have moved on pretty quickly. She had a few casual boyfriends during their break up period (still pregnant at this time) which is why it baffled me when everytime my mate moved on with another she'd come back around with hells fury behind her chasing the girl away. It was as if she wanted him with no one while she had her side bits. Granted she always got what she wanted from me mate. He loved her a lot despite the craziness. He was still there for her during the pregnancy giving her whatever she asked for while she picked him up and dropped him as she pleased. Every girl she chased away she was successful in doing so because he let her.....then things changed when he met the girl he is with now . He met her before she had the baby and ms. Scorp just could not shake him from this girl. I think she was the first girl my mate actually loved since breaking it off from the scorp.

Happy ending right? Wrong. All hell truely broke loose for A LONG TIME. Im talking over a year. The scorp would not give up without a fight. In the beginning she was still on a very high pedastal and my mate was stuck with a split heart. He went back and forth from his new love to his potential family. The scorp manipulated him in every way she possibly could. After a while my mate decided that he had to try to make it work with the mother of his child at least on last time for babys sake if no one elses. He broke not only the other girls heart, but his own because he couldnt truely be happy with his heart in two places. It led to lots of drama. Lots of accusations from ms scorp. Lots of cheating. And Lots of break up periods.

Then the break up periods were over. Ms. Scorp found a new guy shortly after the baby was born. My mate was single for a little bit as i told him he should be and then he met up with his other love again.

They have been together ever since which has been close to three years now if you count when they FIRST met one another (remember he met her before the 2 and a half year old was born).

NOW (nearing the end i promise mates!) this girl has been the only girl he has been with since they got back together while miss scorp has had numerous "bfs" and flings. In the beginning she tried manipulating him again but more so to get back at the girl he is with now in my opinion. At first she would used their baby by trying to get him to babysit (at her house) more and more. Then out of no where.. Nothing. These past couple months she has stopped returning his phone calls completely when he asks to see his son. Is she angry that her plans didnt work this time? To make it worst she flipping the story telling everyone she hasnt heard from him making her self look like "such a strong single mom" to anyone who dares to listen to her sob stories.

The reason why this baffles me now is because these past couple of months my mates scorp SEEMS to have matured tremendously. She IS and HAS always been great mom, just drama filled. But now.... No more schemes, no more lies from her, no more fake messages she supposedly got from his current girl friend and no more harassing their phones. She barely speaks to my mate now after these past seven months and she never asks him for a dime. She doesnt even mention him or his gf like before. ( she used to blast the situation on ms and fb ) Now it would seem that this working mom has gotten over it and matured correct? So then why is she not letting him see his son? Is this all part of her ultiimate revenge?he has always been a wonderful father and never a danger to his baby so it just seems weird to me that someone who is now "so mature and so over it" could be so petty with her lies about her babys father. It would be one thing if he wasa shit dad. But hes not. The little white lies she tells about why her son hasnt seen his father makes me think she hasnt matured at all but just hopes he comes begging for her back like he would have in the past. Thats why i ask you scorps: How far does your revenge go? Could a mother really put on a fasade and keep a father from his two and a half year old son just in the name of her spite and

Pride? Or is it something else?

Posted by beccy
when it comes to revenge, there is no end.

thats my experience. and i think she is hurt... still hurt. no matter what facade she puts up.
it hurts her like shit, that she can't manipulate him back.
its all about control, you know?
of course its revenge. she wants him to suffer like she did.

well, my opinion.

Thats what i am thinking . But i wanted to maybe give her the benefit of the doubt instead of just automatically assuming that. But sadly, thats what all the facts are pointing to. I mean why else would she be doing the shady things shes doing. Shes not operating like a strong women who is completely over the situation. But damn... How long can she keep this up? Its been a while now. It is sad that she is hurt. But my sympathy does not go far for her because she has not been an entire SAINT.

Posted by everevolvingepithet
Does he know if the kid is actually his, seeing as she was a slut at the time ?

That was a problem I had at first too and believe me i had a terrible time mentioning it to him. All doubts desolved tho after the baby was born. Hes a spitting image of his father he looks just like him. Thats not ENTIRELY fool proof but.... He loves the kid so much if i even mentioned a dna test he might kill me. Lol

Posted by beccy
when it comes to revenge, there is no end.

thats my experience. and i think she is hurt... still hurt. no matter what facade she puts up.
it hurts her like shit, that she can't manipulate him back.
its all about control, you know?
of course its revenge. she wants him to suffer like she did.

well, my opinion.

well said Beccy.

your story is exactly why people get court orders to see their kids. do you have this type of thing in your country? if so, i would suggest he get a lawyer and file some paperwork, including a dna test.

You all are right. That would be the best thing for us to do. I cant stand to see this go on any longer. Im just dazed at the whole situation i guess. There are some truely disgusting ppl out there mates, but i know not all you scorps are that crazy lol

i was also thinking that i feel bad for the people trying to date a scorpio when their still "attached" in some way to someone else. its like a lost cause. she continues to hurt him because she still loves him in some way. why would a scorpio bother hurting someone they didnt give 2 shits about?

i also feel bad for the girls who got in the scorpio girls way. i pity the fool!

Posted by DMV
i was also thinking that i feel bad for the people trying to date a scorpio when their still "attached" in some way to someone else. its like a lost cause. she continues to hurt him because she still loves him in some way. why would a scorpio bother hurting someone they didnt give 2 shits about?

i also feel bad for the girls who got in the scorpio girls way. i pity the fool!

Yes that is quite true. Kind of hard to really decipher with you scorps sometimes because your so good a putting the non chalant airs out there. I question if she really ever loved my mate at all sometimes. But she seems quite unstable unless she is in some kind of romantic relationship. They never last long with her and almost always end drama filled.

As far for me mates girl, so far she has held her own and quite well. The scorp absolutely hated (or hates) her. Did everything in her power to discredit her. But now, as i said before she completely ignores them both.

Posted by elihope69
interesting. seems like she may have found a replacement dad and feels like the kid doesnt need his real dad. maybe her new guy doesnt want her to take him to his real dads? or maybe shes a bitch and is doing it for spite? hard to say. but she seems bitter and doesnt want to see her ex happy. and she knows it makes him upset not seeing his son. its a shame cuz its always the kids that suffer...

If that were indeed the case then that means she has found many many replacement dads in the past few years. She has never been with the same guy for more then a few months and as of now she is single and probably on the prowl for her next love fling. So no I dont believe that the replacement dad theory is it. Honestly if that were the case it would be a lot better then the thought of her doing it out of spite plus that child is being exposed to too many different way figures too early on.

TheBlueMoon, what is your friend sign?

Posted by lnana04
TheBlueMoon, what is your friend sign?

Me mate is a leeb like me.

Posted by justmeh



I don`t do revenge
I MOVE THE HELL ON.
For someone to seek revenge on another person is sending the message that that said person still effects their life.
I truely believe that the only revenge is moving on in ur life and making a success of it and being happy.
Leave the rest to karma

Could that be it then? She makes it all look so good I find myself wondering "what if its not revenge?" What if she simply just moved on and decided to take the boy with her. THATS how she makes it seem. Shes sometimes sugary sweet whenever he asks to see the baby, then when its time to pick the little lad up theres no return of the phone calls or texts messages. Othertimes theres no acknowledgement at all. But theres never any open hostility that she shows. Least not on the surface.

I'm no Scorp but my revenge can go far and deep.

I have Pluto/Saturn/Sun. I have persistence and if I don't manage to let go, that person is doomed. I don't waste revenge on anyone, just those who have hurt me for perceivingly unforgivable ways. My Libran mixture confers a (warped?) sense of justice/equilibrium that if I don't see the universe giving them their due, I will step up the game.

Posted by TheBlueMoon

Posted by lnana04
TheBlueMoon, what is your friend sign?

Me mate is a leeb like me.

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I don't know why people call Libras "Leeb". That's one of the worst terms I have ever seen. Sound like a draggy whine. I prefer "Lib" (for women's lib - libras are feminists, even the males), or Liebe, which speaks for itself.

Posted by spica
I'm no Scorp but my revenge can go far and deep.

I have Pluto/Saturn/Sun. I have persistence and if I don't manage to let go, that person is doomed. I don't waste revenge on anyone, just those who have hurt me for perceivingly unforgivable ways. My Libran mixture confers a (warped?) sense of justice/equilibrium that if I don't see the universe giving them their due, I will step up the game.

You have pluto saturn sun in what?

Libra

Posted by beccy
of course she wants him to come back and beg for another chance.
its all about control and hurt pride..!

to say it with eminems words: BLEED BITCH, BLEED!'

😄

Yes, I agree. Scorpios are prideful people and will never admit when they are hurt.

Honestly, the best revenge is success or none at all. When you seek revenge it show you still care for the person to want to hurt them.

Man, revenge NEVER brings pleasure. It is one of those things that can never be satisfied.

AND as you pat yourself on the back for whatever havoc you wrecked a little voice in your head will point out the obvious: that you've lost a little bit of dignity and respect FOR YOURSELF -

"Haha, they didn't see it coming... But did I actually have to do all THAT to get at them?"

Karma brings pleasure.

To go about your day in the highest of spirits and then get told by a friend that someone who did you wrong many years ago is dying of end-stage AIDS now?

Best feeling ever.

Walk away. Revenge, if obvious, will not only make the victim lose even more respect for you, but will make YOU lose respect for you.

I have pride. And for someone to know that I've directed so much negative energy at them is a pride crusher.

Let 'em win now. They will die of end-stage AIDS later 🙂

That's the thing about life: wicked people stay on a certain path throughout their lives.

And at the end of that path ALWAYS lies their demise.

Very few wicked people remain prosperous. Their impules won't let 'em and sooner or later they are found out for what they are and cast out...

...or die from end-stage AIDS.

By default the people who hurt you will get their just deserts simply because it's in their nature to self-destruct.

And to hear about their self destruction is just TOPS!

Oh, and, uh, I'm an aquarius.

Also, your friend needs to grow some balls because that bitch may end up ruining his kid's life on the way to ruining hers.

YOU need to grow some balls and tell him this stuff.