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What are your thought about sex ? 🙂

Do you think lust is bad ? How do you use/ enjoy your sexuality ?

How often do you think of sex ? Does your sex life define you ?


I've been thinking about my sexuality a lot lately. I realized that I put maybe too much importance in my sex life. Not that I do much about it.

With my boyfriends, if my lust for them is no longer there, I find it hard o go on. Again, not that I do much about it. I don't want to sleep with the whole world just to fing those I'm compatible with.

Wow guys, I feel similar to you both because I also think that I should stop thinking about sex and men for a while.

Darkfire- You probably have that something that makes women go crazy. I fell in love with a guy like that once. I don't think that you're boring, nobody is boring. But some men are somehow great at sex. I can't imagine it being a curse as long as you fall in love with a girl and have a serious relationship..

I can say from my observations that the happiest, most successful people I see don't care about sex that much.

Sleeping with a bunch of girls/guys always sound like fun, but someone eventually falls in love and ends up broken hearted.

Darkfire, don't be so hard on yourself. If you know you have some flaws that you think make you an asshole, or something, then work on that. As for dating and finding someone who loves you for YOU, don't put sex into the equation for a while and get to know each other without that. Then it's just icing on the cake once you've found the one who loves you for who you are.

Posted by DarkFire
Sex via lust is a curse. I had to cut myself off from sex, which in turn cut me off from all women.

Every women I've ever dated has been enamored by me. Let me add it's not really me, it's the sex. I guess it turns out I do a really really good job. The problem with that is they fall in love with my sex, not me.

It makes them create an illusion to where I can say, do, or acted any way I want. They think because my sex is good, then I am good personality wise which isn't true in my opinion.

I'm a jealous control freak and suck at dating in my own opinion. The only thing I'm good at is sex, which is a curse because truly I want someone to love me for me.

for this same reason, ive chosen to no longer have sex outside a monogamous committed relationship.

Its a bit jarring right now, but I know I made the right decision.

I agree, access to sex is making it boring.

Sex is an interesting topic that I find myself thinking about often. I agree that things like Tinder and media in general have corrupted what should be a beautiful experience and turned it into something superficial and disgusting.

As for me, I feel that I need a real connection to have sex. I went for many years celibate. I was broken hearted by my first girlfriend (also my fianc? for 6 years) and I went crazy. She was my first and she hurt me. I struck out against woman to try and be a guy that didn't care. I slept with 14 girls in a little over a month. What I found was that this did nothing, but make me feel cheap and sad. This taught me that I wasn't mad at my ex and I wasn't mad at women in general. I was mad at myself. I was ripping myself apart. Almost like a punishment. I became celibate again and now I've met my current girlfriend. We've been together for a year and half and everything feels right especially the sex. Often times I worry that I might feel it deeper than her though.

Sex can be used as a tool for pleasure and love. It should be used to express yourself to your partner. To join yourself in a physical and spiritual way that can only be achieved through sex. Society has made people believe that it should all be about pleasure. Pleasing yourself to be happy. How selfish. In love, it becomes more.

There's two sides to this, though. As water signs we do feel it deeper, we DO want and crave that union of the soul through sex. Not all of the signs feel it that way, though. Some really are fine with sex for sex's sake. That's fine, too, for them. When it becomes a problem is when a couple isn't completely honest about what they want and need. If one is putting on an act, the person who wants a deep connection will end up adrift and lost, jaded and hurt.

Shru, I think that you ended up feeling cheap with your 14 girls in a month spree because you know that it was being done for the wrong reasons, and it wasn't being true to your own needs.

It's a balancing act that everyone has to face: be true to yourself, and know yourself, and if you have a partner, be honest and open with eachother.

Posted by MoonArtist
There's two sides to this, though. As water signs we do feel it deeper, we DO want and crave that union of the soul through sex. Not all of the signs feel it that way, though. Some really are fine with sex for sex's sake. That's fine, too, for them. When it becomes a problem is when a couple isn't completely honest about what they want and need. If one is putting on an act, the person who wants a deep connection will end up adrift and lost, jaded and hurt.

Shru, I think that you ended up feeling cheap with your 14 girls in a month spree because you know that it was being done for the wrong reasons, and it wasn't being true to your own needs.

It's a balancing act that everyone has to face: be true to yourself, and know yourself, and if you have a partner, be honest and open with eachother.

I agree. I hated myself for that period in my life. There are times I think about it and I still become disappointed in myself. But, I've learned. I value myself and others more.

14 in one month way exceeds my lifetime to date total. I feel like a virgin in comparison. 😛

Well closer to a month and a half. It's something that has torn me apart. I felt like I had completely lost control of my life. If I could take it all back I would in a heart beat.

You can't take it back, though, so learn a ton from it about yourself and move forward with a better and brighter intent. We all make mistakes for not so great reasons.

It must be all those movies I watched in the 90s as a kid that made me think having sex with no strings attached was supposed to be so much fun and the modern thing to do. Something an independent, strong woman would do.

Do you think we have all been a little brainwashed by the media ?

Of course it's great to be free and do whatever we want, but maybe we would be a little more careful with our hearts if it weren't for all the songs, movies, porn etc.