LetltB
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tell me scorps, should i just chill? (Page 2)
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Posted by RabbitPosted by GemsRaGalsBestPalPosted by RabbitPosted by GemsRaGalsBestPalPosted by Rabbit
For me, if I've told you I wanted to be exclusive with you
This is SPECIFICALLY the conversation they haven't had..... so why would she expect him to cancel everything after two dates?
Unless I'm reading incorrectly...she mentioned below that he requested that he be her only option.
Go back and RE-READ. She says she's a one person kinda gal. However, in this very thread she's realizing that trying to tie someone down prematurely is cray cray and squeezing the noose around someone only makes them run.
You can require that someone be true to you and lay down whatever that means to you.... but like she ALSO said she's remembered that she's not a spring chicken anymore and can't limit herself to one at a time until there's reason to.
Actually no...she just verified he did ask her this.
And this is EXACTLY the guy feeling I was getting from this whole thread.
Drunk or not...he's trying to make HER stay exclusive to HIM, while he continues his involvement with theses other women.click to expand
we didnt even need 7 pages for this gold piece of advice.
I'm STILL waiting for you to fling shit.... you have ALLLLLL these accusations about me and yet, you've yet to present any evidence that I am anything that you say. If you wanna come by and put me on blast, that's cool with me because I know you're standing on a foundation made of sand.
In other news, I am done playing with you LIB.
I'm have no more desires to derail this thread any further. I am extremely happy to see Wineaux getting some of the advice she came by for in a manner in which she can receive it.
I am sure she's thankful too.....
In other news, I am done playing with you LIB.
I'm have no more desires to derail this thread any further. I am extremely happy to see Wineaux getting some of the advice she came by for in a manner in which she can receive it.
I am sure she's thankful too.....
Posted by GemsRaGalsBestPal
I'm STILL waiting for you to fling shit.... you have ALLLLLL these accusations about me and yet, you've yet to present any evidence that I am anything that you say. If you wanna come by and put me on blast, that's cool with me because I know you're standing on a foundation made of sand.
In other news, I am done playing with you LIB.
I'm have no more desires to derail this thread any further. I am extremely happy to see Wineaux getting some of the advice she came by for in a manner in which she can receive it.
I am sure she's thankful too.....
With my Laredo's on, that would bring you down off your high horse and eye to eye now wouldn't it? Good..it's a start. My foundation is solid, don't you fret none😉
I'm sure most everyone here...but I'll speak for myself, don't give a rats ass how you feel about the manner of advice given to wineaux. Glad to see you finally figured that out.
@LIB - i know you're trying to be direct and wanting to shake me like a rag doll...and i can see how frustrating it can be as you feel as if you're talking to a wall. i think the difference is that i have all of the back story where as you just see what i've put forth.
girl meets boy...boy meets girl...boy makes date...connection is established and further cemented as a week or so passes based on texts, etc. we both discuss our feelings and that we are interested in seeing where this goes. i come here and make one sided impulsive post without really thinking things through.
here's where i can accept responsibility: i accepted the date knowing he was going on a trip and dating another girl. whether or not i can handle it is what remains to be seen. i wasn't expecting much out of a first date or two and i'm sure he wasn't either. he did tell me he wished the timing would have been better, he did tell me he wanted to cancel the trip, he did tell me he wished he hadn't asked her...all validating things. it's not like he's throwing this stuff in my face and being blatant about it. my eyes are open, they just have some rose colored glasses shading their current vision and that i'm not denying.
that's why i like to come here and get this type of quid pro quo. there are all sorts of advice and thoughts and reasons and ideas. it's good to get it out and i'm glad i did because i have a better sense of ME now instead of just what he thinks.
girl meets boy...boy meets girl...boy makes date...connection is established and further cemented as a week or so passes based on texts, etc. we both discuss our feelings and that we are interested in seeing where this goes. i come here and make one sided impulsive post without really thinking things through.
here's where i can accept responsibility: i accepted the date knowing he was going on a trip and dating another girl. whether or not i can handle it is what remains to be seen. i wasn't expecting much out of a first date or two and i'm sure he wasn't either. he did tell me he wished the timing would have been better, he did tell me he wanted to cancel the trip, he did tell me he wished he hadn't asked her...all validating things. it's not like he's throwing this stuff in my face and being blatant about it. my eyes are open, they just have some rose colored glasses shading their current vision and that i'm not denying.
that's why i like to come here and get this type of quid pro quo. there are all sorts of advice and thoughts and reasons and ideas. it's good to get it out and i'm glad i did because i have a better sense of ME now instead of just what he thinks.
Posted by wineauxisback
@LIB - i know you're trying to be direct and wanting to shake me like a rag doll...and i can see how frustrating it can be as you feel as if you're talking to a wall. i think the difference is that i have all of the back story where as you just see what i've put forth.
girl meets boy...boy meets girl...boy makes date...connection is established and further cemented as a week or so passes based on texts, etc. we both discuss our feelings and that we are interested in seeing where this goes. i come here and make one sided impulsive post without really thinking things through.
here's where i can accept responsibility: i accepted the date knowing he was going on a trip and dating another girl. whether or not i can handle it is what remains to be seen. i wasn't expecting much out of a first date or two and i'm sure he wasn't either. he did tell me he wished the timing would have been better, he did tell me he wanted to cancel the trip, he did tell me he wished he hadn't asked her...all validating things. it's not like he's throwing this stuff in my face and being blatant about it. my eyes are open, they just have some rose colored glasses shading their current vision and that i'm not denying.
that's why i like to come here and get this type of quid pro quo. there are all sorts of advice and thoughts and reasons and ideas. it's good to get it out and i'm glad i did because i have a better sense of ME now instead of just what he thinks.
smfh After all of this you STILL don't get it whether you take the rose colored glasses off or not. You'll confirm that on your own.
FFS. The OP asked for a Scorp's opinion and she got it. I don't see the need to go back and forth with others that aren't Scorpios that don't like the opinion or how it was delivered. Especially, when your motives and issues are as transparent as f*ck. As you were....
ng to address you because this is your thread.
Posted by wineauxisback
@phoenixrising - trip 1 & trip 2 were planned months ago, had the timing been different then i may not have even had to pose this query. and i am super selfish and want exclusivity, because i am afterall, a gem...but itstooearlytoexpectit. we are still in the getting to know one another phase...i wrote what was coming out of my head rather than what my rationale should be thinking.
Posted by wineauxisback
*smfh* oh, and in regards to the overdone dinner...i pride myself on my cooking and entertaining. i'm like martha fucking stewart and i've bragged so much that he wants me to put my money where my mouth is. so in true gem style , i'm going to go above and beyond to make my point. and please, if you know where i can score some of that 'slow down' shit you speak of, PLEASE, fortheloveofgod, tell me. i'm #desperate.
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A person can only respond to what you write here, not what is or isn't in your head or what the two of you are privy too, right? So my response was based on what you posted and asked about. Simple. You wanted to know if you should be worried about this or let it go. I suggested you slow it down to ensure that his level of commitment matches your own--after all you want exclusivity, no? Based on what you posted, you came off as though you were pushing too hard for a spot that he was auditioning a few woman for. If I and a few other Scorps could see that, do you not think he can as well and is probably gitty as f*ck about?
You claim you know you shouldn't expect it, but here you are asking (him)for it. You claim you know one shouldn't expect that one simply drop everything just because they met someone new, yet you made a point of sharing that with us as well as how much it bothered you. I didn't realize you were simply talking out of your a** like this was your personal journal--I thought you were providing us with information regarding your feelings to see if they were 1) reasonable and 2) something you should invest in given his actions to provide you with feedback. After all, that is what you asked is it not? "should I just chill"?
When you feel something and say something different, Scorps see it and this doesn't sit well with a Scorp. We look for partners that are consistent and when you say one thing (I want exclusivity) and say/do something else "I don't want to know what you do with another woman" you are setting the stage for whether or not he will take you seriously.
Right or wrong, like it or don't, it is what it is. If your own words do not demonstrate that you either know what you want and that you are serious about where this is going, a Scorp will not take it/you seriously. Period.
So again, don't get so worked up over a man when his actions (because we are action oriented, not talkers) do not demonstrate he is serious. That's all I'm going to address. As for the rest of your sarcastic bullsh*t, we're good ma.
Right or wrong, like it or don't, it is what it is. If your own words do not demonstrate that you either know what you want and that you are serious about where this is going, a Scorp will not take it/you seriously. Period.
So again, don't get so worked up over a man when his actions (because we are action oriented, not talkers) do not demonstrate he is serious. That's all I'm going to address. As for the rest of your sarcastic bullsh*t, we're good ma.
And to be clear, this is what I read as you stating you wanted exclusivity:
Posted by wineauxisback
we decided that we needed to see one another again before xmas as the intensity was just building before his next trip (for the family xmas) so we had yet another date. again, it was lovely. here's where my quandry comes in. after xmas as in tomorrow, he leaves on yet another trip that includes someone he's currently DATING. this, again, was planned prior to me, however, this is a one bed date for 2 nights/3 days. i told him i'm a one person on the boiler plate kind of girl...
PLEASE STOP USING THE WORDS "WE" "OUR" "US"....
Do NOT assume you speak for ME, because you do not! Thank you.
Do NOT assume you speak for ME, because you do not! Thank you.
Posted by PhoenixRising
FFS. The OP asked for a Scorp's opinion and she got it. I don't see the need to go back and forth with others that aren't Scorpios that don't like the opinion or how it was delivered. Especially, when your motives and issues are as transparent as f*ck. As you were....
Posted by PhoenixRising
I'm only going to address you because this is your thread.
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Now isn't that what you just did—...I am going to ask kindly, and with all due respect, please do not try and dictate what I have to say to others here and refrain from putting me into your Scorpio "we", "our" and "us" boat. Thank you.
Posted by PhoenixRising
When you feel something and say something different, Scorps see it and this doesn't sit well with a Scorp. We look for partners that are consistent and when you say one thing (I want exclusivity) and say/do something else "I don't want to know what you do with another woman" you are setting the stage for whether or not he will take you seriously.
Right or wrong, like it or don't, it is what it is. If your own words do not demonstrate that you either know what you want and that you are serious about where this is going, a Scorp will not take it/you seriously. Period.
So again, don't get so worked up over a man when his actions (because we are action oriented, not talkers) do not demonstrate he is serious. That's all I'm going to address. As for the rest of your sarcastic bullsh*t, we're good ma.
thanks for the insight and my plan is to immediately dial it down and pull back. i needed a good swift kick in the ass. i get caught up in the moment of things like a child on christmas morning. and i wasn't being sarcastic 😢 i really would like to find a chillthefuckoutbutton.
Posted by blisss
I don't understand why non-scorps were even responding to your post. It was clearly addressed to this board for some insight of the mind of the Scorpio. Anyhow, I say take it slow and don't become too attached(emotionally involved) to avoid getting hurt. I don't know enough about this Scorpio man to form a proper opinion of him...but don't let him take advantage of the whole situation. Have fun...keep your feelings neutral for now and ask questions about where he's headed in this. I.E. "Do you see us becoming exclusive?" Anyhow best of luck to you!
BINGO. love this response. thanks blissssss!
Posted by LetltBPosted by PhoenixRising
FFS. The OP asked for a Scorp's opinion and she got it. I don't see the need to go back and forth with others that aren't Scorpios that don't like the opinion or how it was delivered. Especially, when your motives and issues are as transparent as f*ck. As you were....
Posted by PhoenixRising
I'm only going to address you because this is your thread.
Now isn't that what you just did—...I am going to ask kindly, and with all due respect, please do not try and dictate what I have to say to others here and refrain from putting me into your Scorpio "we", "our" and "us" boat. Thank you.click to expand
LIB, you seem to misunderstand me when I made the first post. I was responding to the very generalized statements being made, particularly the one calling everyone, namely the Scorpio "trolls" for giving feedback to a question that was asked on the Scorpio board. When I wrote "I don't see the need to go back and forth with others that aren't Scorpios" I was "speaking"for myself in response to that post which was clearly about something else other than answering the OP. It happens quite a lot around here, I'm sure you have noticed. My posts following (after reading through the thread) was directed to the OP and only to the OP since after all, that is what the tread was about, her question.
Dictating when, why and how others decide to express themselves is not my style , however it seems to be yours, which I find interesting given that in the same sentence where you ask me not to dictate what you have to say, you do the very same thing. So with all due respect, I will kindly reply that it will be a cold day in hell when I let anyone tell me how I can express myself. If I choose to use the words "we", "us" or otherwise, to express my thoughts I will. The person receiving my feedback can take from it what they will. You are more than welcome to come along after and put a disclaimer if you'd like.
@Phoenix...apologies of misunderstanding your intent. Regarding the rest duly noted. (Disclaiming is second nature and not a problem for me at all.)😉
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