temper, temper

Every once in awhile my Scorpion will get real cold and nasty to me. His tone becomes venomous sounding and it leaves me with a small pit in my stomach. It just happened now, and came from nothing predictable.

I'm looking into modular storage and terrarium stand from scratch, and was going to a hardware store with him. He came into the room, asking if I was ready and I said 'in a minute, just let me send an email to you to print' (because why the hell would I go to the hardware store without a list for hardware and wood sizing?). He looked at me real cold and said with a district tone of seething disgust and said 'uh yeah that's real funny, since I'm not gonna do it'.

He's usually not like this at all, and when he is - it just makes no sense to me. I don't become hysterical nor do I have an outburst. I'll match his glare and tell him to remove himself from wherever I am. His Mars and Venus are both in Scorpio I believe. My Venus and Mars are both Virgo. I'm very logical when it comes to love. Sometimes my Scorpion moon and Leo Sun will flare when he does this, but usually I feel the mix of Scorpion and Virgo. Controlled wrath.

I'm starting to have no idea how to react to this, we are full time students, he's almost full time at work, and he stays where I am 2 nights a week. Needless to say, he's wasting time doing this and I'm carefully gaining resentment for it. It's starting to piss me off enough to where I'll ignore him and go to bed alone - and we're doubtfully going to be fine without a fulfilled bedroom life, seeing how we're both on edge until then.

Anyone have a better understanding on where it may be coming from or how I can healthily react to this?

Posted by DazedScorp
Ever heard of a Scorpio period?

hahaha!! that was exactly what i was gonna say when i read it! obviously i actually have them and it's absolute hell in my household, specially as i'm in tune with my aries sun/scorp rising daughter. we just talk at each other through gritted teeth and the slightest disagreement erupts into fireworks pretty quickly. cos it's hormonal though, the next second we'll be hugging eachother tightly and sobbing our apologies, lol...go figures.

but the scorp guys, and guys generally, definitely have some kind of hormonal dip and it makes them cranky and sneering. eww..i always wondered how any man put up with my once monthly happening, takes a saint really.

i should imagine that just as we have 'man flu' (not suggesting they exaggerate you understand)..but you can imagine what a man period is like!!

asshole. tell him to take some ibuprofen for his cramps, lol.

Lol he just sounds annoyed. Like whatever you did (you've probably done it a lot) finally got to him and he's finally showing his disdain for it

We're both very blunt and honest with one another. He's never been anything but direct when something is going on that I've done. I usually have a thick skin with it, but in hindsight (as silly or even something you may relate to) I'm always very 'raw' feeling shortly after/during a full moon. Typically this wouldn't even be second thought of.

We talked in the car and it's alot of stress he's having. He's in his last semester of college and found out he's very close to not graduating and it's from one class. Last day is Friday.

His confidence is just down the toilet right now and I can only help so much. Without all of the variables, I'm rarely talked to that disdainfully. And anyway, as much as I love someone - I wouldn't deal with that on a regular basis. Engaged or not, it's just a waste to make a vow for unhappiness.

r1g0r & exo - pretty sure that hit the nail on the head there. He's pretty regretful over it, and I've got to pay more attention to the quiet tick of his ego blows to help him deal with the impact.

Thanks guys. I'll remember to be less sensitive at times. Any 'talking down to' is a pride hit, and it's so unnerving. I'll try to remind myself that there's a whole douchey world out there to cause it. 😉

And Elle, you referring to my Scorp's chart?

course it wasn't anything you did!! these kind of moods are irrational and it does upset us after cos we don't really get where it came from either. i'm usually ultra moody if i've got something on my mind though at it's generally not related at all to the person i get moody with.

his regret says everything anyway. you'll be fine i'm sure 🙂

You all have helped out a bunch

Posted by DazedScorp

Posted by MoonMan


*About calling Scorps on their shit. Back in my early 20's just finished my apprentiship (4 years on job training with part time college) and the new guy (Scorpio) Was in his 3rd year, we used to go out on field calls togeather sometimes, anyway, he talked a lot of shit, acted like a fuckwit with a bit of a fat ego, so one day I just calmly pulled him up on it and basically told him we'd get along better if he kept it "real" and didn't try to bullshit me.

After that he changed and seemed to respect me or something, been good friends ever since (25 years)
We did some crazy stuff togeather as young blokes but we had each other's back, he's married now to a Taurus girl (artist)

It takes that sometimes. Especially at his age. Irl, I've never had someone call me on my bullshit, yet I learned to eliminate that massive ego, by getting myself in to some huge trouble of my own.

It's not that I was bullshitting others... but more so that I was bullshitting myself.

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i used to be guilty of bullshitting myself too and got called out for that on numerous occasions, mostly work related. i used to be convinced i was better than i was although usually managed to wing it so it seemed that way. it's stressful and destructive bullshitting yourself cos you're always trying to reach for things that are just out of your grasp which leads to disappointment.

moonman: i have been convinced for years that i made up 'fuckwit'. patting myself on the back for it even. did i subliminally hear an aussie saying this word at some stage? is it common there? couldn't patent it cos it's two existing swords just shoved together but i could probably still find an angle to sue. the jew blood is strong in this one, lol.

sorry. unusually strong weed.

LMAO @ hilarious comments + memes.

Maybe sometimes we think Scorpios are being upfront with us, but in actuality they are hiding more than you think. Like the others said, it seems like he was annoyed. As a Leo, if you get too hurt, or feed him the attention (fighting match/ or crying session) he wants, he'll just think you are nuts - and then proceed to tell everyone how nuts you are to feed his ego.

So the Virgo "f- it" approach is a much better way to deal with things.

two existing words.

Uh I'm not sure anyone has mastered the art of meditation enough to be able to fully control all their "emotions" without the use of prescription drugs.

$ hit so that's how my partner has been tracking me on the intrawebs! :S

How about the two of you grow the fuck up and take this bullshit elsewhere?

I had asked for advice. Not two pages of petty bickering. There's a point where one of you needs to man up, show some class and respect others enough to act older than 13 and get over it.

C'mon, this is just getting out of fucking hand. It's not even entertaining.

And if anyone infers that my fiance has a 'problem' or 'psychologically unstable', just know that I've trained in jujitsu and tae kwon do for 12 years. I'll show you unstable. Nobody says anything remotely degrading about him with me knowing about it.

It's pear, dammit! And HIS woman - aw hell no don't even start that 😛

It was actually painted before us dating. It's a good color for calm nature and positivism! I'm going for bright tiger lilly next 😉

Posted by sweat.lioness
$ hit so that's how my partner has been tracking me on the intrawebs! :S

Your partner tracks your internet use?

Posted by DazedScorp

Posted by sheathedclaws
It's pear, dammit! And HIS woman - aw hell no don't even start that 😛

It was actually painted before us dating. It's a good color for calm nature and positivism! I'm going for bright tiger lilly next 😉

You know, it's funny. Not only do you remind me of my roommate, damn near exactly... But you and your scorp remind me of both her and our scorp roommate who are engaged.

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You're living with engaged people?

You sound like the asexual third wheel on a tricycle of awkward unions.

To be honest though, he's emotional while I'm logical.

I become offended but remain calm. He's the youngest, which I really think adds to that. I'm the oldest/only, having shared families growing up.

We both balance between talking and being alone. We've known each other for 14 years. It's not anything new or unexpected. 🙂

That's healthy sounding; good for you 🙂

@Dazed and Troll; I thought emotions were part of human nature, and like natural catastrophes are not meant to be controlled. -_-

sheathedclaws; He's been making a lot of strange comments lately, about "forums", and pinpointing specific things (when I hadn't previously mentioned anything to him), he's also a geek and has the ability to look at people's desktops somehow through the intrawebs.

Posted by sweat.lioness
@Dazed and Troll; I thought emotions were part of human nature, and like natural catastrophes are not meant to be controlled. -_-

sheathedclaws; He's been making a lot of strange comments lately, about "forums", and pinpointing specific things (when I hadn't previously mentioned anything to him), he's also a geek and has the ability to look at people's desktops somehow through the intrawebs.

Do yourself a favor and drop that Scorpion like an exterminator.

^^ That's the good 'ole virgo-an philosophy. Say your piece and then actually say peace.


Here is a vid;

Don't know how to post it correctly 😱

(p.s. I have vacation daysssss!)

^^^ My reaction to being randomly called a "forum whore". O_O (what do you know— or rather how?? =reaction)

another vid
"Treat me Good" Julie London -->

"just like me"="w4ore"

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Posted by sheathedclaws
We both balance between talking and being alone. We've known each other for 14 years. It's not anything new or unexpected. 🙂

That's good to hear. I think Leo W/Scorp M is a great couple actually. There just has to be a great amount of give and take for it to work out.

If you've known him this long, have you noticed a change in his demeanor over the years?

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He's opened up a bit. Quiet, shy boy. Definitely a Mama's boy. She's a Cancer. He's always held few friendships but for many years and hasn't ever given up on a friend on his terms. Always valued family over all. Grew up in a multigenerational home like me. In middle school and high school we drifted apart. Somehow, despite my fuchsia hair and pot cloud throughout high school - he never saw me. I'm also 5 feet, so.. ha. He was just a quiet kid that was always loud around friends. Had a basis of understanding without speaking with them - played sports together. He dropped out of high school since his Cancer mom never pushed him to go. He's opened up after working and college, moreso work. He's never given the amount of credit he deserves at work though 😢

^^ Super cute 😄

Just typical problems one encounters while in food industry. Panera.

We're both stressed between school and work/clinic.

I'd be lying when saying we're not handling it as well as we can though.

The Event

He came into the room, asking if I was ready and I said 'in a minute, just let me send an email to you to print' (because why the hell would I go to the hardware store without a list for hardware and wood sizing?). He looked at me real cold and said with a district tone of seething disgust and said 'uh yeah that's real funny, since I'm not gonna do it'.

The Problem

I'm looking into modular storage and terrarium stand

This indicates this was for you only and he was doing you a favor
and was ready to go do you a favor and you delayed him ( even for a second ).

You made him wait for your email to be sent.
You assumed he would print it on your command.
This also would require him to start up his computer and print it out
which would cause further delay.

Had you told him about the list and how it would save time & hassle
and then ASKED him IF he could PLEASE print it out before you go
AND done so well before he had intended to go out the door
so he can PLAN to start up the puter or at least be aware that he must )

... he probably would have been happy to HELP YOU / DO THAT FOR YOU.

The way you put it was an UNEXPECTED SURPRISE ( unwelcomed! ) that
screwed up his mind ... and it sounded like a COMMAND.

This may not make sense to you ... but ... that is not important.
What is important is that you understand that that was the problem
and you need to try to anticipate and overcome these issues
or you can expect them to plague you
until the day he simply does not come home
and makes you hate him so bad you leave him
( because that way he does not need to be the one who makes the choice )

Review:
Play helpless & needy for the things you'd prefer to order him to do
and your success rate will be far higher. ( Note I don't promise 100% )

Apologize when you delay or detour him in any way.

Example: At breakfast ( not when he was wanting to go out the door ):

I hope you'll be proud of me - I did some research and am making up
a list of ( whatever ) to be speed up the shopping process and be sure
the right thing is purchased but I need your help...

I'm sorry that I might not get it done until right before we leave
but if you could please print it for me I'd really appreciate it.
Can you do that for me?

No matter what you ask for this way, you'll have a far greater chance
of getting it from the typical Scorpio. You have the choice.

Here's his chart. Kinda 😉


Sun Scorpio
Moon Scorpio
Mercury Sagittarius
Venus Virgo
Mars Scorpio
Jupiter Virgo
Saturn Aquarius
Uranus Capricorn
Neptune Capricorn
Pluto Scorpio
Midheaven Cancer
Lilith Capricorn
Asc node Capricorn

Ascendant Libra
II Scorpio
III Sagittarius
IV Capricorn
V Aquarius
VI Pisces
VII Aries
VIII Taurus
IX Gemini
XI Leo
XII Virgo

I didn't write word for word what I was saying, and this is a project we're both doing.

Play helpless and needy? No. That's not who he fell in love with and he abhors that type of personality anyway. More importantly, I'm not sacrificing who I am for a second to act like a damsel in need. Not for any man, nor lover. End of story.

We talk about it when we have a chance to.

Lmao, I know - right? 😛

^^ Good attitude ::thumbs up::

Before you get stubborn and refuse to "stoop" to the level I suggest,
understand that a scorpio ( or any other sign ) is like a remote-controlled airplane.

There are a certain set of controls that need to be used in sequence
in order to get the unit to go where you want without crashing.
Of course, it also takes some practice and there may be a few crashes
while you first start and later when you try more difficult maneuvers
and learn the refined, experienced touch on the controls.

Sometimes the controls fail too, or the batteries are low
but - generally they will work with predictable results.

To say "Well, I'm just not going to do it that way" will result in
a crash when you want him to do what you want.

Helpless, needy, apologetic, appreciative. So easy - unless you can't play weak.

It's not like I'm oblivious to Scorpios. I'm not a Sun, but I have a Scorpio Moon and heavy dose of Scorpio in my chart. This is a man who is faithful and loving, and completely head over feet with me. I'm not worried about anything. We had a misunderstanding, no need to act like I'm not obviously doing SOMETHING right.

Lmao, give you my fiance? 😛

And him and I always say please and thank you 😉

Ohhhhhhhh.

Posted by DazedScorp

Nor should you.

What male scorp, def one with a Scorp moon and mars... Wants a weak woman?




She does not need to be weak in general.
She does not even need to be weak with him all the time.

But when she wants something done, she must understand
that the question for us is

WHO IS MASTER? ( Cuz there can only be ONE. But the true master dictates
without the other knowing. )

But - OP can do what she wants - and you will read all her threads for the next 2 years where she
- slowly reaches the conclusion that it ain't gonna work
- goes into a great depression
- finally leaves - for another guy who is really a dirtbag and she's way to good for him
but her insecurity forbids her to be alone - meanwhile the scorpio either becomes a nutbar
and police are involved - or worse - he completely disappears from her for months and she
eventually leaves the board - and comes back 4 months later when the scorpio is seen with
another girl who she's always hated - or worse, a good friend of hers...blah blah blah

At the moment, she has a choice.

PS. ( She never told us whether or not the list got printed. )

This is us a year and a few months back. Change the boob size, hair color, and change his facial hair and it's the same now. This was just before we were engaged (few hours later just before midnight and the New Year!).

Posted by sheathedclaws
This is a man who is faithful and loving, and completely head over feet with me.

Don't confuse that with compliant.

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Posted by DazedScorp

Nor should you.

What male scorp, def one with a Scorp moon and mars... Wants a weak woman?

She does not need to be weak in general.
She does not even need to be weak with him all the time.

But when she wants something done, she must understand
that the question for us is

WHO IS MASTER? ( Cuz there can only be ONE. But the true master dictates
without the other knowing. )

But - OP can do what she wants - and you will read all her threads for the next 2 years where she
- slowly reaches the conclusion that it ain't gonna work
- goes into a great depression
- finally leaves - for another guy who is really a dirtbag and she's way to good for him
but her insecurity forbids her to be alone.





You're an idiot. The last thing I am is insecure. You need to get your head out of your ass.

Posted by sheathedclaws
This is us a year and a few months back. Change the boob size, hair color, and change his facial hair and it's the same now. ...

So what color is his hair and how big are his boobs now?

( lol - Sorry, I could not resist the opportunity to pounce on your sentence construction. )

And OP? Sweetheart, this isn't /b/. 🙂

I think your picture is just so irresistibly adorable. 🙂 Bless you guys. Viva la romance! 🙂

How about doing whatever you feel in your heart is honest?

Thank you sweetie! And I've been doing just that (and that's also what us lionesses do best!) 😉

Posted by sheathedclaws


You're an idiot. The last thing I am is insecure. You need to get your head out of your ass.

Ok, I'm convinced, because "insecure girls" never react like this ^^
with their claws out in defense to an accusation of insecurity.


Enjoy the time you have with the Scorpio and how he adores you.
You KNOW you are way out of his league looks-wise and due that
you actually believe you are in control...have a right to that
control ... and so ... you get a little pi55y when he doesn't comply.

You believe you are The Queen Bee and that YOU have HIM pu55y-whipped
but you will eventually find out what's what and who has who
wrapped around their finger.

It's unfortunate that you cannot see the truth
and are deluded by your own sense of control.

It is even more unfortunate that you had someone put an instruction manual
in front of you and though you could just throw it away without consequence.

When strangers call me an idiot ( and many do ) I usually just smile,
agree, and pretend I am nothing more. I have no problem with it.

actually if she were insecure, I'm pretty sure she'd reply with the opposite...i.e. (You think so? Omgosh you are so right. Maybe I should play the victim and play strange manipulative head games to get what I want. I am so the hopeless helpless female. Halp!)