Tinky says this one's for the girls......

Ok....now that I am back on...this is
Tinkerbell.....

Fire and Ice, I don't have a good feeling about this one. I know what it is like to be drawn like a magnet to a charming guy under the sign of Scorpio. It started out over the phone on business, sexy business, and, little by little, he crawled into my life. When Lon would walk into the room, I was so enchanted that I would get into a trans like state and hyper-ventilate!! I wanted to have him the moment I saw him. It is what they call "dangerous love." They love controlling your emotions; that is the ultimate high for most Scorps. He was good in bed and could last literally for hours (found out later he was on the little blue pill..and I thought it was me who was turning him on!!)Medicinally induced arousal to screw around on your wife...now that is what I call pathetic! It must have made him feel powerful...those four hour long erections to enable him to sow his seeds around town. 😢
Do you know what a degrading revelation that was for me? Even this person's desire wasn't real!

Please be very careful. Men can be great predators and we females are often too nice, forgiving and make excuses for them. This is a learned pattern...usually from our mothers.

I read this great book that has given me so much insight not only with relationships concerning the opposite sex but relationships in general. It is the book entitled, "Why Men Love B-TCHES" ..how to go from doormat to dreamgirl. Please read it. It teaches women how to be pro-active in relationships and remain "sweet as a Georgia peach," and properly act so not to enable a dysfunctional relationship to develop where we can be used and abused.

Also, do not mistake possesiveness for love....it is always a control thing for Scorps....especially when it comes to their children. Lonnie had a daughter when he was 16 that he never saw because of a break up...the mom moved away with the baby(gee I wonder why?)....therefore, he marries(marrige #4) this baby momma while screwing around so he doesn't have to pay support and fight for custody he says!??!?!?!. Now that's true love..YEEEE HAWWW!! (sorry...that's the southener coming out in me!! 🙂 Ultimately, money is Scorp's true love. Keep a crisp perspective on the situation...always.

Also, make sure you watch for what I call "The red flags of infidelity". Haley Barry and I have compared notes. My God in heaven....when players play, they play well. Only those with great will power and vision can stop it. It's an ego/power game. It is incredible to what lengths they will go to. Lonnie would come over from Canada on business and, come to find out, he had several women he was seeing along with me while "making business calls". This, while living with a woman he got pregnant. He is 39 years old and very self centered and immature. Insurance adjusters, window installers, salesmen, construction workers, they all have access and excuses to go into these women's homes, but, are they all really working? And don't think because he has a cell phone that you will really know where he is. He lied so much to Laurie.....I am so ashamed...I can't believe I was a part of that. He kept telling me that "he wasn't sure about staying with her" and I had this sad little hope that he would come to his senses and move out. I feel really bad about it now. Somedays, I feel like calling and telling her but he would probably just say that I was crazy or fabricating the whole thing. Since this has become routine, I am sure he would have all of his usual alibies lined up. Wives do not have a clue...no matter how pretty or how domestic or caring, or how many kids.....such men compartmentize and rationalize that this is an ok thing; they deserve it. They will buy their wives everything and act so caring and screw around on them as soon as they are out of site. How many of us will get HPV, HIV, or God knows what else as long as women play stupid about thi

Welcome back, Sipsy-Tink 🙂

So sorry to hear of your trials with a certain male Scorp. I am however, glad to hear that you realized what was going on and took your precious self out of that situation. I can just imagine what a wild emotional rollercoaster of a ride that was for you. You came out stronger and wiser for it and NO man will ever get away with that behaviour again, will they?

Tinky, I think many of us women have gone through something like that and you are correct, they can "smell" a vulnerable woman 10 miles away. Pity on them when that woman wises up and plays back their game at them. I wonder how these men have good emotional respectable lives, how can they look at themselves in the mirror each morning? As you say, they don't think or realize what they are doing (hard to believe, but probably true).

I have read the book that you mention and YES - it is a great and informative book...a must read by all accounts.

I am proud of you Tinky for honoring yourself and putting your needs first and moving on. He was a lesson and you learned...life can only get better for you 🙂

Thanks for sharing your story with us...hopefully the "red flags" will help someone else...

I have days when I feel like calling her, but I am a true believer in KARMA and know that everyone's bill comes due..so he may be partying in his bald head right now but the future isn't so bright for this one. She must be desperate or ignorant to live with someone like that. You would have to know something is up. Although, he probably screws around in the states so not to get caught and she just thinks he is doing his job....yeah...he sure is keeping busy, Laurie.
-Tink

Hey tinkey....ya know something? The truth is ALWAYS revealed and it will be revealed in the right time. What is the upmost of importance here is YOU...doesn't really matter what his life turns out to be...what matters is your life and are you happy.

I heard a story from a friend a couple of weeks ago - she met this woman who was married for 14 yrs. no kids. Her husband makes in the upper millions. If we were to look at this situation we would think - wow, cool - they must be having the time of their lives!!!! Well, unfortunately they are not - they are going thru a divorce. Yes, he had all that money but was not truly happy...he went out and used his money for sex...came home and gave his wife a "gift" that she will keep forever.

It is so important to find a man who is happy with himself as it is for a man to find a woman who is happy with herself.

Hugging Teddy Bears is safe....😉