Trust

Hi! I am interested in insight on scorpios. I must admit, it took me awhile to learn to trust scorpios in general after growing up with my sister who is 1 year older. I am aquarius. She was very promiscuous and would steal any guy from any girl. She would drop a guy in the middle of a date, if they went somewhere and she saw another guy she would rather be with. I was very careful never to date former "loves" of hers, but, she would date mine and tell me about it.
Then when I was 17 and she was leaving home, she informed me that she hated me. When I asked her why, she said, "Because people always like you better!"
I am open minded enough to realize that it may have just been a bad natal chart. But, even to this day, I have my guard up around her.
Anyone care to analyze her? Or me?
Thanks.

The reason I am asking is not because I want to have others agree that she was wrong and I was right. It is because I would like to have a compatible relationship with her and find that I do not trust her, even now. There are barriers between us...
Maybe it is just a difference that cannot be resolved...
I try to forgive and forget...
I can forgive. It is the forgetting that I have trouble with..

Hi, Star! I'm so sorry that you've had these problems with your sister. Families are so important (and obviously you know this). I say that maybe you could possibly try to call a truce. Maybe ask her to lunch, or dinner, and talk about the problems. It's possible that now, since she been away, that "things" have calmed down. It also could be that she might not know how to approach you. It could be that she's embarresed about the way she's treated you and doesn't know how to approach you. It's worth a try.

Hi Star,
I could swear that you were talking about my older sister when you wrote this! I am 25 and she is 27-and when we were younger she,too, told me that she hated me:she said that everything came so easily to me and that is why she had tried to destroy everything that I cherished!
Envy, in any form, is a dangerous thing and I dont believe that it is inborn within the zodiac. I tried for many years to convince her that I had to work really hard for the things that I have-but to her it seemed that my luck was always better! I also tried down playing my accomplishments but that din't work either because she would say I didn't tell her because I had pity for her! No matter what I did it only made our relationship worse-so I just stopped trying until one day I got so mad I told her that she could have whatever she wanted if she would just get off her lazy ass and go for it!!! Well-guess what-she finally woke up and smelled the coffee-so to speak-she enrolled in college-is working towards her degree-became a happier person-met a guy-and we now have the relationship that I always wanted!!!
You truly need to hang in there Star-she will come around-and once you realize that the issue is not about you and your relationship but rather her self worth-you will stop personalizing it and it will take the undue strain off of you!
I hope this helped a little!
Take Care and God Bless
Rhonda

Hey thanks Scorpio Girl and Rhonda! I have found that her view of the past is different than mine is Scorpio Girl..the way she tells it, we were "two of a kind" or something like that...I probably didn't address it with her soon enough in our lives...I am now 43 and she is 44. (Funny, but Mr. Gross Gemini Man reminded me of me and my sister...mine would have gladly helped herself!) I suppose I am the aloof Aquarian, but I just felt intimacy needed to have meaning behind it...

Rhonda, I suppose you are right about envy and self-esteem...I sort of knew that she was "looking for love" or that to her "sex meant love" something like that...that would however, indicate a low self-esteem...

I will focus on our present and future relationship and leave the past where it belongs...
Sometimes that is easier said than done...
I am not sure how she would take it if I spoke bluntly with her about it...
My family is great for the most part...but poor at bringing conflict out in the open..
I can do it with my daughter...but somehow fall back into the "old" patterns around my parents and siblings...

Take care and thanks for writing!

Star - I think you're right about just focusing on the present and future, at least for now. If you and your sister can begin a harmonious relationship now and build on that, there'll be time down the road to dicuss the past. On the other hand, some things are better alone. It sounds like the distance between you has been somewhat hurtful, but you don't sound bitter. That's a good thing. If we would just remember to openly show each other how we care, our world would be a better place. We only have one opportunity to tell those we love that we do. Take care - Scorp Girl

Hi! Thanks Scorpio Girl...you do have good insight into others...and, you are right that I have been hurt by my sister but that I do not feel any bitterness...
I practice focusing on the positive as much as possible...but, yet try to be realistic! I agree that if all persons were to try to get along, lend helping hands where needed...peace and harmony could rule!! (I have a tendency towards a "Pollyanna Syndrome"...not often heard of! LOL!)
You Take Care and Thanks for writing me.

Good Grief! If we were all Pollyannas, wouldn't this be a wonderful place to be? Unfortunately, that's not the case. You sound like a wonderful, caring person. I hope all goes well for you. I've enjyed "talking" to you. Hope we can continue.

Star, your sister is jealous and insecure of her own worth as a person. That's why she acted the way she did. By the way, do your parents know about this and did you talk to them about it?