Venus in Scorpio People

Do venus in Scorpios avoid telling the person they like how they feel if the person is not showing any signs of being interested? Do they try to find out if they like them first before making any moves? If so, how would they try to figure out if that person likes them?

We don't try to "find out" if they're interested. We feel it. And nothing is expressed whatsoever if we don't feel it.

I do and always have. It usually has to be completely obvious for me to make a move. Like vixen said, I just lust and obsess from afar (sounds creepy when I write it lol). The thing is, though, I always have to hold back because the urge to "attack" is always there. For me, I usually make a move as I see and feel them do things to get closer to me. For example, this guy I like at first would just start simple conversation or ask me what I was thinking times when he noticed I was quiet and deep in thought. That elevated a bit with a little physical contact and playful banter and teasing. Now he offers to give me a ride home when I need it (today I did and he brought me home). Could it just be him being a nice guy friend? Maybe. I think hes developing feelings, but Id like to throw a few more tests at him first so I know Im not reading too far into things because I like him.

From experience they can come off very intense and straightforward if they're aware the other person has interest (my only reference is a Scorpio sun/Scorip venus). I'd say they make you go through tests before being comfortable enough to make moves, whether it's just verbally being able to click with them or something, they have to be able to feel something worthy.

Fortunately for myself.... I'm a Scorp / Sun - Scorp / Venus, in the past, I had learned to bait women through selective wording a litlle bit to see what and how their responses / body language is first to truly figure out what the interest is..

I don't deal with reejection very well, so I generally try to be aware enough to not set myself up for it.

Posted by Velocity
From experience they can come off very intense and straightforward if they're aware the other person has interest (my only reference is a Scorpio sun/Scorip venus). I'd say they make you go through tests before being comfortable enough to make moves, whether it's just verbally being able to click with them or something, they have to be able to feel something worthy.

Tests, such as..?

For me they have to show interest for me to approach them .. Unless I'm like really really into them I'll make the first move and it won't even be a move just subtle hint or flirting to see their reaction to it . vulnerability not my thing

I've never made a first move that's for sure. maybe it has to do w my self-conscious Virgo moon tendencies, but even if I get the vibe that they are hinting I tell myself I'm exaggerating and also say to myself "well what if I'm wrong, and they stop talking to me altogether and I ruin the friendship". therefore I don't get anything done. this one guy threw hints at me here and there and I SAW them but he would also act aloof and we were friends so I sensed it; however, I didn't want to do anything about it in fear that I was wrong and over analyzing possible innocent gestures/expressions.

I also act very aloof. I definitely show subtle hints like remembering things they like/don't like and then surprise them w those things, but that's about it. from there I just hope they'll do something about it if anything is there. lmao. I'm very cautious

if they are aloof, I am aloof. mixed signals for days. maybe that's why I'm single LOL

Posted by degenerate_ingenue
I've never made a first move that's for sure. maybe it has to do w my self-conscious Virgo moon tendencies, but even if I get the vibe that they are hinting I tell myself I'm exaggerating and also say to myself "well what if I'm wrong, and they stop talking to me altogether and I ruin the friendship". therefore I don't get anything done. this one guy threw hints at me here and there and I SAW them but he would also act aloof and we were friends so I sensed it; however, I didn't want to do anything about it in fear that I was wrong and over analyzing possible innocent gestures/expressions.

I also act very aloof. I definitely show subtle hints like remembering things they like/don't like and then surprise them w those things, but that's about it. from there I just hope they'll do something about it if anything is there. lmao. I'm very cautious

Yeah everything u said but i have virg moon too . I will also think things r innocent and someone will be like wow he's really flirting I'm like hmmm are you sure? Nahhh

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Posted by degenerate_ingenue
I've never made a first move that's for sure. maybe it has to do w my self-conscious Virgo moon tendencies, but even if I get the vibe that they are hinting I tell myself I'm exaggerating and also say to myself "well what if I'm wrong, and they stop talking to me altogether and I ruin the friendship". therefore I don't get anything done. this one guy threw hints at me here and there and I SAW them but he would also act aloof and we were friends so I sensed it; however, I didn't want to do anything about it in fear that I was wrong and over analyzing possible innocent gestures/expressions.

I also act very aloof. I definitely show subtle hints like remembering things they like/don't like and then surprise them w those things, but that's about it. from there I just hope they'll do something about it if anything is there. lmao. I'm very cautious

Yeah everything u said but i have virg moon too . I will also think things r innocent and someone will be like wow he's really flirting I'm like hmmm are you sure? Nahhh

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that is exactly me! lmao. one time one of my guy friends was like "will you two stop flirting" about me and our other friend, and I was like "we're not? I don't think??" Lmao! Literally I think I am slow at taking hints/signals. Then I overthink and down talk whatever is happening so I don't get too excited about something that may not even really be there

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Posted by Velocity
From experience they can come off very intense and straightforward if they're aware the other person has interest (my only reference is a Scorpio sun/Scorip venus). I'd say they make you go through tests before being comfortable enough to make moves, whether it's just verbally being able to click with them or something, they have to be able to feel something worthy.

Tests, such as..?

Tests such as:

Posted by MiketheScorp
Fortunately for myself.... I'm a Scorp / Sun - Scorp / Venus, in the past, I had learned to bait women through selective wording a litlle bit to see what and how their responses / body language is first to truly figure out what the interest is..

I don't deal with reejection very well, so I generally try to be aware enough to not set myself up for it.

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I've been baited through things, he became very predictable so it was easy to pass them haha. But the more I caught onto them, the more he wanted to pursue me. Just saying those who are interested in a Scorpio that are curious if they are as well should take notes of these things. I feel like Scorpio men do it way more than Scorpio women because they're much more guarded and walled.

Ugh, I won't do more than give a few hints if a gentleman has my attention.

If he doesn't respond positively, I will retreat with my broken heart and comfort myself with cat and booze until the next soul mate comes along. Which is fairly quickly.

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Posted by degenerate_ingenue
if they are aloof, I am aloof. mixed signals for days. maybe that's why I'm single LOL

Yes...no Way to live life.... Waiting for that guy that can read your mind despite your mixed signals...that guy doesn't exist. Be proactive

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Very true for both quotes. I am willing to admit if I know it is shared. I suppose my greatest fear is sabotaging a friendship in hopes of a relationship. I am typically friends with people before we start dating. I guess I have this fear that if they do not reciprocate, I will lose them entirely due to the awkward "knowing" of my different feelings towards them (if that makes sense). I do agree. I would like to be more proactive. However, the times I have been I got burned. It was only a couple times. Now I am more dormant. Plus, they were small, shy admittances. Nothing especially remarkable. But I hope to be more assertive. I am just not sure how to do so without making things weird/awkward or ruining said friendship.

Posted by Wynter
Ugh, I won't do more than give a few hints if a gentleman has my attention.

If he doesn't respond positively, I will retreat with my broken heart and comfort myself with cat and booze until the next soul mate comes along. Which is fairly quickly.

Yer one of a kind. 😄

Do you all, as ViScorpio, attach (heavy) sentimental value

to Things?

For instance-- say your favourite aunt gave you a piece of furniture

when you got your first place on your own... and you're entire

home NOW (however many decades later) is furnished with

high end things, but you still have that piece of furniture.

Not because you love it necessarily, but because you love

your aunt... and you just can't part with it.

Posted by Impulsv
Plato I did tell him finally. But reason took so long was due to his mixed signals of hot n cold. I told him I liked him when we got together but love well how can one explain love at first sight at the very start. Yeah last time I saw him I said it " I loved you from the day I saw you n it has been consistent since day one" no expectations of reciprocity just to finally say it n have no regrets.

🙂

Posted by Montgomery
Do you all, as ViScorpio, attach (heavy) sentimental value

to Things?

For instance-- say your favourite aunt gave you a piece of furniture

when you got your first place on your own... and you're entire

home NOW (however many decades later) is furnished with

high end things, but you still have that piece of furniture.

Not because you love it necessarily, but because you love

your aunt... and you just can't part with it.

It depends what it is and the value of it. I loved my grandparents, and I still have the orange tag that I had to stick to my windshield that says "Funeral". It will be my last memory of him, and I never want to forget that he was there for me in the beginning and there for me even in the end. I'm not sure why I decided to keep the funeral tag...I just did. I didn't want to part with it or throw it away. I have everything they ever gave to me in memory of them and their love for me and my love for them.

Posted by Montgomery
Do you all, as ViScorpio, attach (heavy) sentimental value

to Things?

For instance-- say your favourite aunt gave you a piece of furniture

when you got your first place on your own... and you're entire

home NOW (however many decades later) is furnished with

high end things, but you still have that piece of furniture.

Not because you love it necessarily, but because you love

your aunt... and you just can't part with it.

Not quite. I never get attached to a meaningful object anywhere near as much as I do the person who gifted that object. But Ive also never had to deal with devestating loss. Ive parted with people who made me feel like they ripped my heart out and took it with them, but theyre all people Ive talked to since then and Ive gotten over that initial hurt. They also all made me vow to try not to get so attacthed to anyone again but it seems I cant help it. Im devoted by nature.

I get attached to things... Some are small, some are not so small, but I do have a hard time letting go.

I still have the names and old phone numbers in my phone from very dear friends and few family members that have passed away. Every once in a while, scrolling through my phone, I'll look at some of those and old memories will come flooding back.

Posted by degenerate_ingenue

Posted by Montgomery
Do you all, as ViScorpio, attach (heavy) sentimental value

to Things?

For instance-- say your favourite aunt gave you a piece of furniture

when you got your first place on your own... and you're entire

home NOW (however many decades later) is furnished with

high end things, but you still have that piece of furniture.

Not because you love it necessarily, but because you love

your aunt... and you just can't part with it.

It depends what it is and the value of it. I loved my grandparents, and I still have the orange tag that I had to stick to my windshield that says "Funeral". It will be my last memory of him, and I never want to forget that he was there for me in the beginning and there for me even in the end. I'm not sure why I decided to keep the funeral tag...I just did. I didn't want to part with it or throw it away. I have everything they ever gave to me in memory of them and their love for me and my love for them.

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This is what I was talking about... thank you, degen-ingenue 🙂

what i LOVE is the unspoken possessiveness. but i have spoken to one of my close relatives about his boyfriend who has a Scorpio venus (although with air sun and air moon) and he complains that he's not possessive enough and says to my relative that being possessive and jealous is not a good trait. But when i tell him how nice it feels to be possessed and have an unspoken possessive man, my relative wishes deeply that his SO would care/love so much.
so it depends alot on other placements with Scorpio venus.
i noticed my sister with 8th house venus is very possessive, but then she has a taurus moon (taurus is possessive too)

Posted by RainDancer
I have a couple things that fall under this category.

A hideous magnet that was my grandma's, and an angel knick knack from my mom. I'm more sentimental than I'd ever let on to someone. I play the stone cold, " your shit can burn" face but then secretly keep it .... Sounds stupid typing it.

My mom gave me this... I really love it.
There is a whole slew of specific angels for everything.

This one is mine. "The Angel of the Heart."

My ViS/Sag Sun mom has one of those. 🙂

And she's sentimental like that, too.

Posted by RainDancer
What about you, Monty?? You have your aunt's hammydown couch still — 🙂

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I'm ViVirgo-- but yeah, on some things I'm like that.

Not a couch, but anything my dad gave me as a kid and my gramma's (srsly badass)

London Fog trench coats-- that woman had impeccable taste (Scorp).

Also... my mother has this curio I can't stand, and I feel certain that I will have it till the day I die.

🙂

Posted by magma
Everything is a test in a way, yet I never had any structured or strategized tests that I recall. I saw a bumper sticker once that read: "I'm not shy, I'm just examining my prey." Sounds kind of ViS to me, lol. I never thought of people as prey but my "testing" was definitely like examining (observing), passively but yet pretty intensely. I didn't take action unless I saw that interest was high, as in obvious and tangible. My entourage is small but sweet, and forever.

I don't attach "heavy" sentimental value to things.

Not "yet."

Posted by thefierybull
Do venus in Scorpios avoid telling the person they like how they feel if the person is not showing any signs of being interested? Do they try to find out if they like them first before making any moves? If so, how would they try to figure out if that person likes them?

In my experience, they express interest by holding on and trying to get "in" there by different means until they're finally IN there. lol My Saggie bestie did this with a guy for TWO YEARS. There was an immediate attraction that they both admitted to, but the more he got to know her, the less she fit his mold of an ideal wife. So they went back and forth, but when he would go cold, she wouldn't abandon the mission. She even changed her religion for that guy. That piece was KIND of weird, but anyways...she became a gamer this one time when he went cold and she knew he liked to play a particular game. He was actually in another country with his parents attempting to find him a mate and she baited him into getting back involved with her simply by staying up all hours of the time (due to time difference) playing this damn game with him. She enjoyed EVERY SINGLE MINUTE of it. smh lol So, I guess if the interest is genuine, they just don't give up. The Sun Cap/Venus in Scorp dude is texting me right now and we've been off/on for five years. We're off and I've completely avoided seeing him, because I'm in a relationship...still new, but in a relationship no less. He just keeps texting me about one or twice a week to say hello. It's cordial and nice, he's respectful so...I'm like...cool. So I would say from my experience and observation, Venus in Scorp is relentless. LMBO!!!! I'm a Pisces sun/Venus in Cap so I don't have that energy in my chart. Just wanted to make it clear that my input is based on how it feels on the recipient end and watching a Venus in Scorp hunt a love interest down.

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Do venus in Scorpios avoid telling the person they like how they feel if the person is not showing any signs of being interested? Do they try to find out if they like them first before making any moves? If so, how would they try to figure out if that person likes them?

In my experience, they express interest by holding on and trying to get "in" there by different means until they're finally IN there. lol My Saggie bestie did this with a guy for TWO YEARS. There was an immediate attraction that they both admitted to, but the more he got to know her, the less she fit his mold of an ideal wife. So they went back and forth, but when he would go cold, she wouldn't abandon the mission. She even changed her religion for that guy. That piece was KIND of weird, but anyways...she became a gamer this one time when he went cold and she knew he liked to play a particular game. He was actually in another country with his parents attempting to find him a mate and she baited him into getting back involved with her simply by staying up all hours of the time (due to time difference) playing this damn game with him. She enjoyed EVERY SINGLE MINUTE of it. smh lol So, I guess if the interest is genuine, they just don't give up. The Sun Cap/Venus in Scorp dude is texting me right now and we've been off/on for five years. We're off and I've completely avoided seeing him, because I'm in a relationship...still new, but in a relationship no less. He just keeps texting me about one or twice a week to say hello. It's cordial and nice, he's respectful so...I'm like...cool. So I would say from my experience and observation, Venus in Scorp is relentless. LMBO!!!! I'm a Pisces sun/Venus in Cap so I don't have that energy in my chart. Just wanted to make it clear that my input is based on how it feels on the recipient end and watching a Venus in Scorp hunt a love interest down.

Shit.
Hahah

We still don't care. We wan t what we want and we keep holding on like damned fools, trying to make it seem inobvious

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Man...she almost had dude too! I swear to heaven if things don't work out between me and my Scorp and I ever give up on finding the ideal mate...I can totally see myself marrying the Cap just to seal that door. lol ha ha ha ha

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Do venus in Scorpios avoid telling the person they like how they feel if the person is not showing any signs of being interested? Do they try to find out if they like them first before making any moves? If so, how would they try to figure out if that person likes them?

In my experience, they express interest by holding on and trying to get "in" there by different means until they're finally IN there. lol My Saggie bestie did this with a guy for TWO YEARS. There was an immediate attraction that they both admitted to, but the more he got to know her, the less she fit his mold of an ideal wife. So they went back and forth, but when he would go cold, she wouldn't abandon the mission. She even changed her religion for that guy. That piece was KIND of weird, but anyways...she became a gamer this one time when he went cold and she knew he liked to play a particular game. He was actually in another country with his parents attempting to find him a mate and she baited him into getting back involved with her simply by staying up all hours of the time (due to time difference) playing this damn game with him. She enjoyed EVERY SINGLE MINUTE of it. smh lol

Shit.
Hahah

We still don't care. We wan t what we want and we keep holding on like damned fools, trying to make it seem inobvious

Man...she almost had dude too! I swear to heaven if things don't work out between me and my Scorp and I ever give up on finding the ideal mate...I can totally see myself marrying the Cap just to seal that door. lol ha ha ha ha

I laughed out loud!!!

I am tour biggest fan in that regard.

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I do have a particular kind of humor. This guy at work comes to my desk and is thumbing through magazines, talking about..."I need something to read. It's lunchtime." I looked up at him with a blank stare, pointed at my desk and said..."Well...I have a stack of post it notes right here and some mail that needs to be opened." We both fell out laughing. lol

Posted by thefierybull
Do venus in Scorpios avoid telling the person they like how they feel if the person is not showing any signs of being interested? Do they try to find out if they like them first before making any moves? If so, how would they try to figure out if that person likes them?

Yes and yes to the first 2 questions. How do I know if the person likes me? With all my serious relationships (husband included), I didn't have to do anything. It wasn't difficult to see. They showed it or made a move first. But if the person doesn't show it at all, and I'm interested in them, I would send telepathic signals through my scorpio rising stare, then quickly look away when he turned to look. I was about 19 when I first tried that out. I didn't even know what I was doing, but it worked. By the end of the class, he asked me out 😄

As far as keeping things of sentimental value, yes I do. I have boxes of things from my schooldays that remind me of my close friends. I would find it hard to throw some things out although they're rotting or fraying :/ ... is that a scorpio venus thing? I always thought I inherited it from my hoarder dad.