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I broke up with my Scorpio, I decided it was the best thing to do. We dated only 3 months, and I think I stuck it out an extra 2 months just because he was so into me and sweet...I think I was trying to like him more than I did.

But towards the end, I was getting increasingly irritated. Our personalities clashed, I was embarrassed around him in public...his whole demeanor annoyed me. Especially his voice (bothered my room mate too). He was a pretty decent guy, he certaintly was heart broken when I told him and was begging to know end. But there were a number of reasons why it ended...1, because I'm not happy should be all i need...but some final straws:

He was very catholic. He was already picking out kids names after a month. His jokes were very sexist and rude. He would put me down and pull the "you're a woman" card, and insult my intelligence. He was way too self obsessed. He came across as an arrogant ass to others. Here is a BIG one; I was a day late on my period...I never have been in 4+ years on pill so I asked him to pull out from then on to be extra safe. He pitched a fit, said things like "maybe I will maybe I won't" joked, "what if 1 drop gets you pregnant? I would laugh". NO sir. Not to mention he would call me inferior and weak...said "bad genes" because I was born a few weeks early! He bragged about being 8 lbs and full term, yet his family had all the health issues. No thanks. It got to the point where I couldn't stand to be around him (really quick). That's why we bickered so much. I feel so much better, and free now!!
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I told him constantly....that he annoyed me all the time. He tried to stop and tone down, but it was just him and it wasnt for me.

I lost it when he thought classic rock was trashy 90s pop songs. See, this is why I usually date 4-14 years older than me...all my friends are that age and older, he was pretty much the youngest one I hung wrong and it showed. He had good qualities, he was very attentive to me. But life is far too short to waste it with someone you aren't fully happy with.


Robyn, what does that mean?
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Posted by Agentgem24
I broke up with my Scorpio, I decided it was the best thing to do. We dated only 3 months, and I think I stuck it out an extra 2 months just because he was so into me and sweet...I think I was trying to like him more than I did.




this is the most honest and genuine thing youve said since you started posting about ol boy. scorps called it from jump street.

you strung him along and he most likely felt that.
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Posted by feby16aqua
Well yes maybe so. Also, usually when people break up they find and remember what the person said and did that bothered them over the course of the relationship. It's like their armor and gives them reinforcement and justification that their decision was the correct one, sometimes.

Do you feel badly that you could have hurt him?



she totally flipped the script.
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I broke up with my Scorpio, I decided it was the best thing to do. We dated only 3 months, and I think I stuck it out an extra 2 months just because he was so into me and sweet...I think I was trying to like him more than I did.




this is the most honest and genuine thing youve said since you started posting about ol boy. scorps called it from jump street.

you strung him along and he most likely felt that.
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which is why he started to not give any fucks about your feelings or pullin out. you didnt respect him, so hes not going to respect you.
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OMG, I'm getting de ja vu just reading this because this is almost exactly how it ended with the scorp I was seeing. 3 mnths in & he also wanted a baby lol.

You'll both be alright, Gem. You two seem to be in different stages in life..ending it was the nicest thing you could ever done for him. That way he'll be free to find the right woman for him & you'll also be free to concentrate on things that are important to you right now.
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Aside from the lack of respect for your body and you as a woman...

Your other reasons are shallow as fuck. Grow up and how about don't date for awhile until you work on this neuroses you've displayed all over the forum. You're incredibly shallow, vain, and need to work on yourself a bit before dragging someone else in and fucking up their emotions.

In this situation, you're as much to blame as he is for his ridiculous view on women- you stuck around when you shouldn't have and that's just purely selfish on your part. Stop playing around with others' feelings. Karma is gonna get you.

You go on about age and preferring to date older men but you're equally as immature and have some growing up to do. You're being a typical female in this age group.
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Posted by Agentgem24
I told him constantly....that he annoyed me all the time. He tried to stop and tone down, but it was just him and it wasnt for me.

I lost it when he thought classic rock was trashy 90s pop songs. See, this is why I usually date 4-14 years older than me...all my friends are that age and older, he was pretty much the youngest one I hung wrong and it showed. He had good qualities, he was very attentive to me. But life is far too short to waste it with someone you aren't fully happy with.


Robyn, what does that mean?

The classic rock comment was a deal breaker? Sure, life is too short to waste with this someone you aren't fully happy with (yet as you stated he has good qualities and very attentive to you) but as you get older and more wiser (you have some time to learn) that all that you say now means nothing once you have found what you're looking for. Going forward, I hope you know there is no perfect guy just like there is no perfect woman.
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Guys, go easy on Gemini girl. I believe she had the best intentions. She TRIED to fall in love and it just didn't work out.



This isn't a Disney movie. Shit doesn't work like that. If you aren't feeling it, you aren't feeling it. Trying to settle for someone purely because they're interested screams issues with self esteem, and our retarded ass society also pushes this mindset.

"WELL HE LIKES YOU. YOU SHOULD GIVE IT A TRY!" No. Just no.
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OMG, I'm getting de ja vu just reading this because this is almost exactly how it ended with the scorp I was seeing. 3 mnths in & he also wanted a baby lol.




Interesting, the scorp guy I'm seeing has an impregnation fantasy but I think it is animalistic and kinda hot. We're not having sex yet though. As long as it's just a fantasy I'm cool with it.

Anyway, being a Gemini seems complicated.
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Maybe it's a scorpio thing then..it was as weird as hell to me though, I found nothing hot about it.
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Posted by feby16aqua
Yeah she's going to take hits because she's been way too vocal and personal about communicating her life on here and people will use it against her.

Truth is, we all have our shit. I've mentioned the OCD and the anxiety, which I think she should be aware of and work on. The issues with obsession over weight, BDD and food are just masks for deeper issues.

This is a good time to work on yourself OP.



Agreed.

She just needs to chill and work on her shit and she'll be good to go back into the dating pool. No need to drag others down because you can't swim right now. The dating pool is infested with types like that, I've noticed.
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Guys, go easy on Gemini girl. I believe she had the best intentions. She TRIED to fall in love and it just didn't work out.



This isn't a Disney movie. Shit doesn't work like that. If you aren't feeling it, you aren't feeling it. Trying to settle for someone purely because they're interested screams issues with self esteem, and our retarded ass society also pushes this mindset.

"WELL HE LIKES YOU. YOU SHOULD GIVE IT A TRY!" No. Just no.



I understand rocky, I agree. But you are an aries. It doesn't work that way with gems. Every romance starts with us as a Disney movies, only to become a horror story soon. Heh.

I only recently learned to say no and be firm and to actually have an opinion and stand for it. But I had to chanel my Leo energy.
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You guys and Libras are fuck ups in dating, I've noticed. When both are immature, good lord, holy terrors. Stringing along, cock teases, fucking around with others' emotions to save face value- all for very selfish reasons. Stay the hell away from the general population until some basic level of maturity is reached. Then you can celebrate a quincinera of sorts- coming of age and becoming a rational human being. Besides, almost everyone loves a good excuse for cake.
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OMG, I'm getting de ja vu just reading this because this is almost exactly how it ended with the scorp I was seeing. 3 mnths in & he also wanted a baby lol.




Interesting, the scorp guy I'm seeing has an impregnation fantasy but I think it is animalistic and kinda hot. We're not having sex yet though. As long as it's just a fantasy I'm cool with it.

Anyway, being a Gemini seems complicated.



So...basically I need a Scorpio. Cool. Erases Taurus from list and moves Scorpio up. Put asterisk next to baby by 35 on list.
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LMAO
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If she didn't like him from get go, she was stringing him along.

I feel bad for the dude.

Agentgem needs to clear her mind though and maybe do some yoga. She's bouncing wall to wall and she did mention some things that are health concerns.



But I thought she said she did like him. She was smitten with him, no? He is the reason she came to the board.



Smitten doesn't mean she liked him. Stringing him along for extra two months* when she wasnt feeling it for 3 months.

It happens, but I think the main concerns are mental and emotional health here. She's unhappy single or taken with a decent guy.
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How was this guy decent? If a guy is talking about baby names after a month, run for the freaking hills! Also the misogyny and sexism is a total character flaw as well.

You know if a woman started picking out baby names a month in, the guy would drop her so fast. Women are no exception and should be doing the same thing. He's equally emotionally stunted as well. It comes with the age group. Everyone is still working on getting their shit together. It's why dating in the early 20s is so terrifying and damaging to many.
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OMG, I'm getting de ja vu just reading this because this is almost exactly how it ended with the scorp I was seeing. 3 mnths in & he also wanted a baby lol.




Interesting, the scorp guy I'm seeing has an impregnation fantasy but I think it is animalistic and kinda hot. We're not having sex yet though. As long as it's just a fantasy I'm cool with it.

Anyway, being a Gemini seems complicated.



So...basically I need a Scorpio. Cool. Erases Taurus from list and moves Scorpio up. Put asterisk next to baby by 35 on list.



The Impregnation fantasy thing is more a cancer thing, I believe.
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moon/mars in synastry
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Guys, go easy on Gemini girl. I believe she had the best intentions. She TRIED to fall in love and it just didn't work out.



This isn't a Disney movie. Shit doesn't work like that. If you aren't feeling it, you aren't feeling it. Trying to settle for someone purely because they're interested screams issues with self esteem, and our retarded ass society also pushes this mindset.

"WELL HE LIKES YOU. YOU SHOULD GIVE IT A TRY!" No. Just no.



I understand rocky, I agree. But you are an aries. It doesn't work that way with gems. Every romance starts with us as a Disney movies, only to become a horror story soon. Heh.

I only recently learned to say no and be firm and to actually have an opinion and stand for it. But I had to chanel my Leo energy.



You guys and Libras are fuck ups in dating, I've noticed. When both are immature, good lord, holy terrors. Stringing along, cock teases, fucking around with others' emotions to save face value- all for very selfish reasons. Stay the hell away from the general population until some basic level of maturity is reached. Then you can celebrate a quincinera of sorts- coming of age and becoming a rational human being. Besides, almost everyone loves a good excuse for cake.
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pretty much
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I broke up with my Scorpio, I decided it was the best thing to do. We dated only 3 months, and I think I stuck it out an extra 2 months just because he was so into me and sweet...I think I was trying to like him more than I did.




this is the most honest and genuine thing youve said since you started posting about ol boy. scorps called it from jump street.

you strung him along and he most likely felt that.
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This. *sip tea*
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I broke up with my Scorpio, I decided it was the best thing to do. We dated only 3 months, and I think I stuck it out an extra 2 months just because he was so into me and sweet...I think I was trying to like him more than I did.




this is the most honest and genuine thing youve said since you started posting about ol boy. scorps called it from jump street.

you strung him along and he most likely felt that.
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1+.
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OMG, I'm getting de ja vu just reading this because this is almost exactly how it ended with the scorp I was seeing. 3 mnths in & he also wanted a baby lol.




Interesting, the scorp guy I'm seeing has an impregnation fantasy but I think it is animalistic and kinda hot. We're not having sex yet though. As long as it's just a fantasy I'm cool with it.

Anyway, being a Gemini seems complicated.



So...basically I need a Scorpio. Cool. Erases Taurus from list and moves Scorpio up. Put asterisk next to baby by 35 on list.



The Impregnation fantasy thing is more a cancer thing, I believe.



moon/mars in synastry



His mars is only .30 degrees into Sagittarius, so it's kind of a Sag/Scorpio cusp. If we consider it a Scorpio mars it would conjunct my scorp moon. Anyway, thanks for that bit of insight!
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yep 🙂 i have it and this fool is always talking bout making babies.
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I'd like to hear HIS side of the story.



1+.

I'd also like to hear what made him enter a 'relationship' with her and stay for over a month.


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her ex scorp is a venus in capricorn, if he stayed, he was really into her and LOYAL or he felt it was his duty to stay and see it to the end. Since they were only 3 months in, he was surely into her.

sucks 2. He would been her ROCK.

venus in cancer needs alot of affection and hugs, to be loved. thats not how venus in caps love. were tangible. which is why she had cold feet because he probably wasnt as forthcoming with affection which can raise doubt in our partners.
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I'd like to hear HIS side of the story.



1+.

I'd also like to hear what made him enter a 'relationship' with her and stay for over a month.




her ex scorp is a venus in capricorn, if he stayed, he was really into her and LOYAL or he felt it was his duty to stay and see it to the end. Since they were only 3 months in, he was surely into her.

sucks 2. He would been her ROCK.

venus in cancer needs alot of affection and hugs, to be loved. thats not how venus in caps love. were tangible. which is why she had cold feet because he probably wasnt as forthcoming with affection which can raise doubt in our partners.



+1

she broke his heart.



Awwwh no! That makes me wonder about the Cappy Venus I dated earlier this year... I ended things cause I thought he had changed his mind about wanting to date me, but perhaps me and my Venus in Leo overreacted 😢
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chances are yes, you pulled out too quick, but a lesson we cap venus have to learn is to be more forthcoming with our feelings earlier.
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I worked for a small production company that was owned by a couple, the wife was a Scorpio and the husband a gemini. They have kids together and have been together 8 years when I met them. I've met others like this on a professional level.

A Gemini buddy of mines is also married to a Scorpio woman and they have two girls together. I would have ended up with a Scorpio if the timing was right but the ones have been with always want kids and I wasn't ready for that at the time.

The only Gemini and Scorpio unions that don't work are the ones that come to the Scorpio board for advice.??

I think it's the power of of "suggestion" that becomes a self fulfilling prophecy because when you all give your advice, you say it with such confidence that it makes the receiver think you've considered every possible avenue, so they abandon their good judgement.

The real crime here is others acting like they know your duty in life better than you do, just because of your sign.??

But I am learning that water Gemini's are a whole different pedigree.



i can see that.
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Well damn! That sucks cause I really liked him. Although, in my case, he WAS forthcoming in the beginning. Expressed a lot of affection, both verbally and physically. But then he went from communicating with me everyday and wanting to see me twice a week to no contact - either initiating or responding - for over a week. Consistency is big with me, so I just assumed he lost interest and ended up sending a "well this was fun while it lasted" type text.

^^^^^^^ I think once they get comfortable, they are just working (cap) towards a future, I think that is how they show affection. I could be wrong, but that's just logical for me. He was looking forward....maybe too much. Usually if a cap venus isn't interested....they don't even bother pursuing, no efforts go wasted. Eye is always on the prize.



He was also younger than me.. Only 19 about to turn 20.. So maybe that played into it as well?
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age did play f factor. venus in caps fail at relationships until after their saturn return...
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What in the literal fuck!!

Seriously, why so many replies?

I did like him, don't get me wrong. I wasnt stringing him on or leading him on intentionally. He was sweet to me and seemed very into me, I liked him and wanted to give it a try. I always complimented him on his patience etc. it just got to the point where I really couldn't be around him, I felt at odds and irritated. I apologized for snapping but I couldn't help it. My Taurus room mate thought he was an "okay guy" but not for me...he said, "that man is NOT smart. He just thinks he is" my Leo best friend thought he was genuine when she met him. Cancer best friend thought he was ok at first...then got really annoyed. My Pisces best friend HATED him.

I really do feel bad. He told me he really did love me and was going to tell me he loved me after his cruise...I told him when he went on it to lessen the blow...I was trying to be as nice as possible. Pisces friend says no time for little boys, (she is very much like me and could not stand his mannerisms) and my cancer friend says I was being too nice and I had to be blunt. He was begging, said he would drop his female best friend for me and he was an idiot for saying all those stupid jokes and not respecting my body and he was being a selfish ass and to PLEASE come back to him and he needed to see me. Pisces friend, "ew no...I know what type of man that is, a begger. Pathetic. Don't you dare go see him to talk, be an adult, grow some balls, and cut it off dry"

Told gem best male friend he wanted to see me to say good bye and he goes, "Dude, RUN!"

Both Pisces females found him very rude and insensitive and total dude bro. Even the kids I nannied (10 and 12) met him and said, "does he say, -the situation has arrived- when he walks in a room?" In reference to jersey shore.

Very few of my friends actually liked him. And honestly, he seemed like the perfect bf and I WANTED to like him more really hard....I tried! Until I just couldn't. I hate hurting ppl (hello, libra moon and cancer venus/mars) he said I changed him and made him a better person and even ppl at work (his work) told me thank you because since me he wasnt such a self absorbed ass. It made me feel good, I felt guilty for having those leaving thoughts and wanted to try and make it work...for him. But in the end I realized I was sacrificing my own happiness and I couldn't do it, I was having too much issues in the beginning. Deep down I KNEW, but I wanted to make it work.
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(Cut off)

He's a good guy despite his flaws...and he will find a girl that loves him for everything he is and isn't and he will treat her wonderful, like he did me despite the issues...it's just not me. I told him that he will find someone great and to just please let me go. It broke my heart to hear him beg but I couldn't give in, I would just be swimming circles again.

I hope he will be ok. I'm sure he will...I felt so bad, but I had to be strong. Oh and the classic rock thing was obviously a joke, I wouldn't break up over that. It was just another sign that showed me how different we were is all.
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What in the literal fuck!!

Seriously, why so many replies?

I did like him, don't get me wrong. I wasnt stringing him on or leading him on intentionally. He was sweet to me and seemed very into me, I liked him and wanted to give it a try. I always complimented him on his patience etc. it just got to the point where I really couldn't be around him, I felt at odds and irritated. I apologized for snapping but I couldn't help it. My Taurus room mate thought he was an "okay guy" but not for me...he said, "that man is NOT smart. He just thinks he is" my Leo best friend thought he was genuine when she met him. Cancer best friend thought he was ok at first...then got really annoyed. My Pisces best friend HATED him.

I really do feel bad. He told me he really did love me and was going to tell me he loved me after his cruise...I told him when he went on it to lessen the blow...I was trying to be as nice as possible. Pisces friend says no time for little boys, (she is very much like me and could not stand his mannerisms) and my cancer friend says I was being too nice and I had to be blunt. He was begging, said he would drop his female best friend for me and he was an idiot for saying all those stupid jokes and not respecting my body and he was being a selfish ass and to PLEASE come back to him and he needed to see me. Pisces friend, "ew no...I know what type of man that is, a begger. Pathetic. Don't you dare go see him to talk, be an adult, grow some balls, and cut it off dry"

Told gem best male friend he wanted to see me to say good bye and he goes, "Dude, RUN!"

Both Pisces females found him very rude and insensitive and total dude bro. Even the kids I nannied (10 and 12) met him and said, "does he say, -the situation has arrived- when he walks in a room?" In reference to jersey shore.

Very few of my friends actually liked him. And honestly, he seemed like the perfect bf and I WANTED to like him more really hard....I tried! Until I just couldn't. I hate hurting ppl (hello, libra moon and cancer venus/mars) he said I changed him and made him a better person and even ppl at work (his work) told me thank you because since me he wasnt such a self absorbed ass. It made me feel good, I felt guilty for having those leaving thoughts and wanted to try and make it work...for him. But in the end I realized I was sacrificing my own happiness and I couldn't do it, I w
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