Well...I broke up with him (Page 4)

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Posted by MellyMel909
Bobbin' and weavin'... Scuttlin' and side steppin'...

Damn. Must be a mutable sign thing. That Gemini sun with a Cancer Venus must be a bitch.. Don't wanna get too close but wanting the closeness of a man at the same time.. Monkey barring from one relationship to the other so fast that your feet barely have time to bit the ground..

Please, do your fellow sisters a favor and do not date (ESPECIALLY a water sign man!!) until you have a come-to-Jesus sit down with yourself.

Sincerely,

All the women that have to date after you

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hehe, seeing Gem House in this thread cheered me up. 😛

Like no one saw this coming.

Posted by Agentgem24
The majority of my friends are water signs...Mostly Cancer and Pisces but a few Scorpios too. I don't offend them hardly at all, if anything...they tell me I AM too sensitive. My Pisces and Cancer best friend told me I was being too nice to the Scorp I dated when cutting it off. Fish told me to be firm and blunt, Crab told me to be a bitch about it.

This is the interwebz....people shouldn't be so easily offended online. In person, it's far different.

Fuck, you're such a Cancer! I swear. Stop mentioning your family and friends, pets and the neighborhood at each post. Is freaking annoying to just see somebody being so dependent and obsessed about other's opinions all the time. Grow up, girl.
The only Gemini traits you managed to pick are your wrecked nervous system and the talking.
Clear your thoughts, strengthen your principles and leave mommy and daddy alone, for Christ's sake! And also, try to be alone as much as you can, because clinging on your friends' opinions and blabbing will just confuse you even more and hinder you grow as an individual.

God, I hate people that can stand themselves and put themselves out of the crowd!

Posted by Xin
Like no one saw this coming.

I actually hoped that that Scorp will help her mature, but from whatever she said, he wasn't that fabulous either. Just two stupid kids.

*cough*...I enjoy my friends, I ask their opinions because I care, but they are not the final decision in my process. Most likely, I have already made up my mind...I just like input.

I love my family too, I don't need their advice...I like it. No, I don't always listen. My mom comes to me at times.

And I enjoy solo time too; books, my writing, going on a hike and climbing a tree etc...cell phone off. Gawd I miss living in a national park where so much is available to me! Texas kinda sucks.

You will never know what you like if you don't date multiple people....seriously, that is the best advice. I would love to just wait for the perfect guy to step into my life but that doesn't happen unless you are proactive. Many people aren't so lucky to find that one early on in life.

For the record, Scorpio was the only guy I had called a bf in over 18 months...the one before that was of 4 years. Any other guy I was just casually dating and testing the water. If you leave yourself closed off from others, that's where settling happens.

Just because someone dates process of elimination doesn't mean they are immature. I'm not a relationship hopper. That 3 months was a relationship, the 1st in awhile. I'm taking a back seat to anything too serious right now.

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Posted by CluelessCancer
This thread is classic, now she got a new man, bahhahahhahahahahhahahahahahah

Oh to be young and FREE, i loved my 20s...I think we're all just a tad bit jealous she's rotating these guys like clothing. I know i am😉

Once I used to despise people like this, easily dating, easily splitting, no remorse and no regrets. Now I envy them, cause it seems lots better than searching and analyzing for the right/acceptable one and then, if something doesn't work, ever-trying and then suffering.

I'm definitely a screwed Gem. I'm worse than an obsessive/emotional Scorp, I guess. Is nice to have the soul and the heart like butterflies. 🙂

She is able to move on b/c her feelings weren't invested deeply. I was and never have been a jumper, jump in one and into another. lol I have a Cancer friend that is like this, and it always amazed me. I wish I could just get up and go. The only way to really figure out what you like though, is to find what you don't, she realized after a few months vs a year or two.

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My Scorp brother does it, too. Pretty promiscuous this new generation. Consumer people in a consumer society. Being just 24 years old and already went through several fucked-up relationships and then she wonders why she's so screwed.
I dunno, maybe is my oldish Aquarius moon speaking.

Dated: there are some I only went on 1-5 dates with. That 1 Scorpio was the 3 month relationship, a "bf".

And nobody said I sleep with them all or am promiscuous...I have strong morals. I don't with over half the people I date. I like there to be commitment involved, exclusive, and hook ups totally turn me off. Never have, never could do one.

Posted by Agentgem24
You will never know what you like if you don't date multiple people....seriously, that is the best advice. I would love to just wait for the perfect guy to step into my life but that doesn't happen unless you are proactive. Many people aren't so lucky to find that one early on in life.

For the record, Scorpio was the only guy I had called a bf in over 18 months...the one before that was of 4 years. Any other guy I was just casually dating and testing the water. If you leave yourself closed off from others, that's where settling happens.

Just because someone dates process of elimination doesn't mean they are immature. I'm not a relationship hopper. That 3 months was a relationship, the 1st in awhile. I'm taking a back seat to anything too serious right now.

I don;t know hon, but I started thinking about having a relationship around your age; before that I was incredibly lost and deep in going to school and doing my reading for seminars and classes. I perceived sex and the troubles that flow from relationships exclusively for grown-ups and myself as too mush of a kid to plunge in that messy business. Many young fellows enter relationships just because everyone does it, not because they have biological and emotional urges.

Jesus....stfu! I was with my Leo ex for 4 YEARS. That ended only because he stopped investing in the relationship and nothing changed for a year. I'm young, you date to see if there is anyone worth while. Maybe just 1 date, maybe 3...

It's not like I'm going around banging all of these guys and I have a new bf every week...please.

Also, none of my relationships were fucked up. Leo was a good one despite the reasons it ended, the passion just fell out and we were different people.

Scorpio was a case of incompatibility and because he was so nice and sweet, I tried to find feelings that werent there. We've all been guilty of this. We all have dated someone then woke up one day and said "WTF am I doing"

I don't want to be in a relationship again until I have a solid foundation with that person before hand, know without a doubt I like them, and am ready to take the plunge. Wait months if I have to so I can observe and hang out with them as a friend

Oh and trust me, I do NOT like dating around. It sucks, awkward first dates...the putting so much effort...I'm burnt out. I don't like it.

I would much rather meet someone and have them be the one. Sometimes you have to date many before you find that one...

I just haven't found them yet. I thought I had, I thought we would get married...but things end for a reason. It was a good relationship and I learned from it however.

It's hard to put that kind if pressure on people. I have friends that are 33-37 and have never been married, no kids, and their longest relationship is 4-6 years. Does that mean there is something wrong with them? Then they say "baggage" if god forbid you have been married and have a kid...but you are equally as judged if you don't, what?

I also know people that focused entirely on themselves and career and didn't get a bf until 29. NOTHING wrong with that.

Posted by IrresistableScorp
7 Scorpios She has dated 7 Scorpios.

Girl I haven't dated that many people total in the past 20 years. Lol. I usually date and we end up long term. Can't stand dating around. Oh god no.

She's 24 and dated a leo for 4 years. How can a person meet and date that many of one single sign in such a short window of time? Selecting them form a website or something?

Online dating....everyone is doing it now. And I dated or people before him too.

My mom is 53, was in 2 marriages and went the longest time without dating after. Now she got sucked into the online dating and is going crazy.

She cut it off after 2 months after her last because he was too controlling and it felt like a chore.

Both my mom and dad said when I told them what happened, "NEXT"

Step mom says men are like shoes and you have to keep trying them to find which fits the best.

Posted by ellessque
I can't believe I'm saying this but I think some are being rather harsh on her.

She is 24 years old....seems to have her head on straight....and navigating through the dating world like everyone else.

One thing I have noticed, is the OP seems much level-headed when NOT in a relationship......she was very neurotic when she was in one....which could be the reason for the demise, not so much on the partner.

Perhaps figuring out how to get that same solace when partnered up might help? You seem more relaxed and comfortable with your feelings, definitely a lot less intellectualizing going on right now.

You are right. When I was with my Leo, I felt completed and at ease. Became more independent in the relationship. With anyone else? Espec Scorp, it brings out the crazy and nervous in me. I need someone that I DON'T feel that with...that I can just be at ease and free flowing. I feel free.

Another thing....my expectations and qualifications are very high. Scorpio looked great on paper but that connection was missing.

I have to be extra strict because my career though too. They will want to know everything about the person I'm with and if it's a bad record or doesn't match up then I don't get to live my dream

When I was interviewing they called all my friends and asked if I drank, partied and had a bf. did an 8 week long background check, polygraph etc

Not really, it's called being young. There aren't as many quality men as there used to be back in the day and I have high expectations.

My grandpa was a rocket scientist for NASA and retired at 36, he owned an intensional company. He has extremely strict qualifications for me and same for my mom, she has high expectations.

I'm not giving anything away that would go against a clearance. Not to mention I've seen some government employees post some shady things on Facebook etc. I try to keep it pretty clean. I mean my life...it's pretty innocent. I've never touched a drug, never touched a cig, never even been drunk. I've led a pretty clean and normal life.

I never did that whole, "I'm young, lets party! Yolo!" All my friends are older and I enjoy more cultured things. I've known my career path since I was 16 so I've lived my life very disciplined.

Posted by MellyMel909
What did you, your family, and your friends all eat for breakfast this morning? That seems to be the only thing left that we don't know.

Seriously though - don't you want to work for the FBI? Aren't you the least bit worried about divulging all your personal information/pictures/life experiences/past partners/etc. on some random, unsecure website? Isn't the FBI's M.O. the exact opposite of that....?

Seems borderline troll to me.

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Posted by ellessque
...I think some are being rather harsh on her.

Agreed. We were all young once, and it's hard not to do some damage in relationships as we are still figuring out who we are and what we need ourselves.

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Thank you...

You are seriously weird. Not in the funny, charming way. In the "you need to seek help" way. A lot of this is beyond you being "young." I'm not saying this to be mean, I mean it in all seriousness. You get down to the bottom of this crap, I'm sure you'll be able to handle things like this in dating much better.

You worry far too much about what family and friends think, despite your fake ass claim. It's why you have body image issues. It's why you have constantly referred back to them way too many times in this thread. You are worried way too much about what others think, in typical shallow, air sign fashion. You will never, ever be happy if you continue on like this, and because of that all your relationships will fail.

Again, stop freaking dating for awhile and get your shit together. Dating and screwing around with guys isn't going to solve your problems.



Also, I have no idea what the hell your Grandpa working for NASA has to do with any of this bullshit.

Lol you're kind of a bitch.

But anyways, I am taking this time to work on myself and focus on the things that count. Not looking for a relationship. Honestly in my experience, it was when I was NOT looking, that I found the best guys. Vs feeling like I needed a guy, the online dating thing, all of that. Maybe in awhile I'll pick up online dating again, maybe. But not anytime soon.

I have my own stuff I need to focus on. I'm enjoying spending time with my friends and actually enjoying solo time. I do really feel much calmer when I'm not in a relationship. It's like someone said here, they noticed the change. I would just need to figure out how to incorporate that when I get into a relationship.

All in good time. For now, I'm keeping myself busy with my school, working over time, friends, my fitness and nutrition(makes a huge difference) solo time, and I think I'm going to get back into my whiting...that was a huge outlet for me when I was hardcore into it, I didn't even think of guys! I have my poems I throw out every now and then, but I have 3 unfinished books. That could keep me busy! Also have been getting more into my music, collaborating with other musicians and have been delving into philosophy and other interesting topics like such.

I will never be comfortable loving someone, until I feel good in my own skin and love myself.

I appreciate everyone who has offered advice here, even if critical and borderline bitchy...I will take it as constructive criticism. You still took the time to write it all out, so thanks 🙂

No, I was saying Rocky was being rude. Calling me fucked up etc, a little much.

IS, you have offered good advice. I take your opinions and words to heart. And despite Rockys sharp tongue, there is also some truth and wisdom in there.

Lol true...tough love I guess 😉 but I guess she wouldn't take the time to write if she didn't care somewhat. I may sound harsh on people, but I don't waste my words if I don't care. Not worth it.

I wonder if she's an Aries lol

Hah! Nailed it🙂

She has that fire. Two of my best friends are Pisces and Cancer. Both are Aries rising. Pisces has Aries moon and Cancer has aqua.

Both are hard on me and display the same tough love aspect. Especially Pisces! We are great friends, but she still intimidates me. She says I was her at my age and she wants to help me work on myself and she won't sugar coat or hold my hand like my mom. I have the highest respect for her.

well gotdamn....