What to do now..?

Oh boy, where do I start..

So the scorpio I like had a party last night and me and my bff went. I noticed he wasn't really talking to me much....and idk, we both just weren't talking to each other in general. I tend to mirror people and I got that vibe from him like there was this communication wall.
Anywho my gem friend comes into town and stops by the party and I go with him. At this point I'm intoxicated and the scorpio is doing his own thing with my bff's bf (playing beer pong or something) so I just leave and when I get there I freak out because I want to be with the scorpio. I know, I'm a very conflicted person. So I'm texting, trying to get a ride back, and the gem gets mad and starts yelling at me. Telling this stuff that really hurts to the point where I was crying, and then confesses he loves me...This is the second time in a small span of time that someone has confessed to me. And then he wants to have sex with me like old times. And all the while I'm over here missing my scorpio. I'm texting him and tell him I'm crying and he feels bad but he's drunk also and at some guys house that he wandered off to. So I decide to confess to the scorpio that I really really like him. There is no real response to this, but I text him in the morning and he wants to know what happened so I give him the down-low on what went on with the gem.

So now I'm confused as to whether or not this scorpio still likes me or if somethings up that caused him to lose interest, but still care about what was happening to me. Ugh I feel like an idiot typing up these things. I also feel so vulnerable telling him I liked him. Idk what that's gonna do in the long run

My 2 cents..

Is the scorpio already a friend also? I wouldn't give a damn what happened if someone told me they liked me and I wasnt interested in them, unless they were also already a friend, in which case I would still care, but distance myself. I think that the fact he's interested in what happened is a good sign.

^^ Yeah we've been friends for a few months now. It's just recently I've come to him with some emotional stuff (bff issues and whatnot). Right now I just trying to feel out the situation.
Was going to ask him what the deal was with him ignoring me at the party...what do you think?

True. I don't think he even noticed me leave with him tho. I mean he knows now that I hung out with him, but there really wasn't any reaction to that.
I msged him about being so aloof/ignoring me/whatever and he said he was just mingling and that at some point he did play a card game with me and some other people. To which I just said nvm.

Caring type? what him or me?

True, not just a friend. He's done this before tho and then wanted to hang with me later. We do part our ways at parties yes, neither of us trying to find "fresh meat" because I hang with my bff and he hangs with bff's bf. I guess he did make an effort to play card games with us and now that I think of we did talk a little. I think the whole thing with the gem coming to the party made me anxious and worried because both me and the gem were drunk and kinda just fell into what we used to be in the past which worries me because I don't want the scorpio to see that when I'm not sober and obvious am acting stupid. Mostly I'm annoyed with myself. I'm just glad I didn't do anything with the gem that night so I can say I can hold back when I like someone else

Yeah, guess it takes me typing or talking it out to really see what the problem is here. Ugh, I feel like I should just stay single for a while till I get my stuff together

hmm, ive never discussed other men when i was with my scorp. they re insanely jealous. nope. ive seen the way he looks at men if theyre talking to me. i dare wouldnt tell him about a guy who i waa having emotional problems with.

He knows him and I are just friends. I don't think I've ever seen him display any kind of jealousy besides nothing that I was talking to my bff's ex (who's apparently gay -.-) but he didn't comment on my friend yelling at me. I only got a response when I inquired about him being aloof. I'm not saying there isn't jealousy there. Him being a scorpio lends itself to jealousy, but I've yet to see it come out. Probably because his moon is in cancer. Which I hate. Freakin just tell me what's on your mind >.< Like for realz

^^ He wasn't yelling at me because he wasn't getting sex. He was upset because it was his time to spend with me. I was really drunk so I can't remember the whole conversation tho.

I was fully aware of what the gem wanted. The reason why I went with him as oppose to staying with the love interest is because the gem was only going to be down for a night and then head back home which is hours away. That was the first time that night I'd be able to see him and I told myself we'd hang together. Of course I knew what he wanted, but even he admitted he didn't think we'd do anything. I'd told him months before about this guy and that even tho there wasn't a relationship attached I wasn't going to screw the gem.
So really I think the only problem here was me getting into one of those drunken stupors and freaking out because I wanted to be around the scorp but chose the gem. Thinking about it in the long run tho, sober me wanted to be with the gem because it was the only time I could hang with him. Whereas the scorpio lives here and was up to his own agenda.

If I was really that weak I would have slept with the gem, but I didn't. I kept my ground, even with how drunk I was. Of course I need improvement. There will be bad drunken mistakes. Fortunately I didn't have one that night, just a confliction with where I wanted to be for a split second, which is probably what really hurt/got the gem yelling.

^^ You know it may seem like I want a guy to fuck me up, but if I had I would have just gone in for the kill and had sex with the gem. I wanted to hang out with him because we are good friends and I would have felt bad not seeing him if he was in town because we'd been talking about us hanging out since months ago. And yes he did know that if I still had feelings for this scorp at the time he wouldn't have sex. That's why I went with him because I wanted to hang out with him and he knew full well I wasn't going to break what I had said. He even told me so when we got back, but he left it open to sex, which I sad no of course.
When I say I wasn't weak I don't mean I would be drunk, I meant weak as in I don't have a backbone to say no. I was very much so drunk at that point, but was still able to say no. I never use other guys as an excuse to fuck up another relationship or something that could go good for me. If theres a fuck up it's all on me and always has been on me.
I hope that clears things up as I think you misread me.

heh, that's fine "arsehole" or not, I wanna make sure everyone is clear on how the story went so I get good advice

Posted by pigeonpie
Yeah, might have been a bit harsh, but it's sounds like you're set to go now you've cleared things up. full steam ahead, charge 🙂

Thanks. I think I'm gonna retreat for a bit. I still don't know how scorpio feels and I don't want to push him so I'm going to disappear to see if I messed up or not. It really hurts me, but I can't do anything at this point...that I know of

He doesn't like flattery

@ the first post; he never did lose interest he just got a bit defensive too see where do you stand 🙂 are you willing to chase him or be chased

I see...Well I don't mind chasing, but I'd rather not do it to the point where I seem desperate. I mean I guess I did well in texting him the day after the party, but we haven't talked since. Which really isn't any different than any other weak.
At the very least I want to remain his friend so of course I will take on the challenge of chasing