Whats goin on in his brain—

ok, so i went out with this scorpio guy for 6 weeks then he ended it cuz we were 'too different'. then we bumped into each other and started chatting, flirting and then decided to have only a physical thing since he doesn't wnat to be 'tied down'. but now i'm falling in love with him and i'm really not sure what he wants because we talk pretty much every single day. so if he doesn't want to be tied down then why does he keep calling or texing— why cant he just be satisfied with the sex part?
god, can someone explain this to me please?

Drugs.

gem my scorp friend is the same way...he doesnt want to be tied down but yet he calls me all the time and texts me constantly...i hate to say it but he just wants sex. the more he has to pursue it the more he wants it. But this scorp will never get a taste of this....literally speaking

yeah but he's made it clear that its just gonna involve sex. he doesn't even need to call me or text me at all. so that's why i'm confused.

well a lot woman wont accept that fact that its only about sex. Maybe thats why hes preying on you because you do. I mean.... but dont you want more than that?

yeah i sure do and that's why i'm keeping it physical so that there can be atleast some chance for something emotional to build up. i mean we are sort of getting closer to each other each day and it's only natural when you talk to someone every single day. so i'm only hoping he'll get to know me and change his mind.

"and change his mind."

Dont think a scorpio male will settle that easily.

Leo female ....And scorpio male...they will settle down only when exhausted... One with the fantasy of a dream man ...and the other with sexapades.😛

well i too think its kind of like a testing period baut why's he doing that tho? can't he just be honest about this situation and his feelings?

You are watching Oprah too much.

yup this guys totally confused me and i have abolutely no idea what's going on and what he wants(apart from sex) so i just need some help with it. call it desperate but i've never been so confused and have never needed more help. and why don't you just not answer and write such long essays if u got a problem with me askin for help.

well, thanks for the help but i don't need uneccessary rudeness. thank u very much. if u can help then plz u'r most welcome to but if u cant then just .....FFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFK off!!!!

Ladies Ladies...Dont be hostile with each other like we males are.

Gemini Gal...I feel that Ur scorpio dude is in love with U...and thatz profound as well.
Otherwise he wouldnot even have sex with U. For a scorpio...sex is love and love is sex. More vigor he shows in the "act" deeper his emotions are for U, albeit hidden. Dont sulk over that aspect...he may not reveal his softer side ...but at least hez showing the rough side. Hez Ur God...Dont question his actions. Try to keep him pleased all the time with all that "sex" which U have to offer.

Hope this helps.

sex is love and love is sex.....i likkkkkkke that!

"yeah i sure do and that's why i'm keeping it physical so that there can be atleast some chance for something emotional to build up. i mean we are sort of getting closer to each other each day and it's only natural when you talk to someone every single day. so i'm only hoping he'll get to know me and change his mind."


Gemini Gal -

We all know that it's tough to take advice when it isn't necessarily what you want to hear. You feel like everyone is against you and no one understands because they're not in the situation.

So... the best advice i can give you is to for you to work it out on your own. Start by reading this:


Deal with things as they are - not how you want them to be.


As you read that, there may be some resistance in your mind...denial and hope will try to prevent it from sinking in. Read it a few times until you can honestly feel that you can apply it to your own situation; until you feel you can be objective and detached from it.

Once you are there, you will realize that at the end of the day, after all the angst and worry you've been through, all the energy you've expended - the only thing within your control is YOU.

You can choose to accept things as they are, or remove yourself from the situation. Acknowledge and KNOW that you have no control over his thoughts or emotions.

Then ask yourself this:

Do you want to 'hope to be happy', or do you want to actually 'BE happy'?
Do you want someone else to be in control of WHEN you'll be happy?

I've done some soul searching in the last few months, and I've asked myself these very same questions. It's tough to face. Especially tough if you are not ready...and if you let fear control you, your actions, your decisions.

I'm sharing this with you because i found it to be helpful in my own thought process in making some important decisions. i hope you will find it helpful too... good luck 🙂

p.s. I think that once you stop worrying about what he's going to do, and how he's going to feel, how he's going to react - and start focusing on YOU and what YOU can do, you will find it quite a relief. Like a burden has been lifted...liberating!!!

well, gaurav_aries its sure nice to hear someone being a bit more positive about this and thanks for that. and scorp5pt0 thank you very much for the advice and i too think i should really start focusing on myself now.

"Standard-Raising Suggestions
I will not go out with a man who:
(a) Keeps me waiting by the phone
(b) Is not sure he wants to date me
(c) Makes me feel sexually undesirable
(d) Drinks or does drugs to an extent that makes me uncomfortable
(e) Fears talking about our future
(f) Is married"

(g) molests kittens?

errr.....i think he was joking... "Hez Ur God...Dont question his actions."
at least that's what i hope...

LOL @ G...oh the subtle sarcasm..great!